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I hate (ok, strongly dislike) my mother in law...
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aggiejudger
Posted 2009-11-04 9:54 AM (#4463316 - in reply to #4460765)
Subject: RE: I hate (ok, strongly dislike) my mother in law...


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Location: Stuck in a chair, wishing it was a saddle.		I'll add in my experience. When my son was born, I didn't want anyone else but hubby in the room. I also told hubby that I wanted my mom to come stay with me first before my MIL. I realize now this hurt her feelings. I didn't want it to. That's just how I felt. I called my MIL that Tuesday about 1:30 p.m. to tell her I was being induced the following morning and had to be to the hospital at 5:30 a.m. She booked a flight to be there by 10 a.m. the next day. I was furious.

However after she got there, she stayed till we left the hospital then flew out as my mom flew in that Friday. Now I am glad she came. She is one of those women who has a huge heart. She is pretty simple and I don't do simple well.

My change of heart about her coming was due to a change in my attitude. Being there for the birth of her first grandchild meant the world to her. And I wouldn't take that away from her for anything.

I'm sorry you're mad that your in-laws didn't make it. When I changed my attitude, I realized that I communicate a lot better with my own mom. I think that's natural. Now, I am trying to include my MIL a lot more. If I let my mom know something about my son (he's her first grandchild also), I make sure I let my MIL know too.

I know some MILs are major PIA. But in my case, it was also my attitude. No, it's not perfect but I am working on it. This has also helped my relationship with my husband.

I know it's hard. But don't take it personally. They may have felt you didn't want them there and wanted privacy for awhile. Who knows.
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2burkeboys
Posted 2009-11-04 10:36 AM (#4463413 - in reply to #4461884)
Subject: RE: I hate (ok, strongly dislike) my mother in law...



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Location: SD		While it would be ideal if we all, in-laws and out-laws could get along and enjoy each other, it doesn't always work out that way.  My MIL falls all over the other DIL, cleans her house, cooks for her, does her laundry, picks up her kids every day after school, etc. I get squat. I don't care. I can take care of myself. MIL and FIL are the ones missing out on having a close relationship with my kids, though. But, when there's time to have some work done, it's my boys that do it, not the other kids.
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ratherBrunnin
Posted 2009-11-04 10:51 AM (#4463456 - in reply to #4460765)
Subject: RE: I hate (ok, strongly dislike) my mother in law...



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Location: WHERE I WANT TO BE		 sorry you are upset by all of this. you know, i tend to agree that they have their own lives and have raised their kids, altho the birth of your child is a HUGE thing to you and your family, you cannot give others your priorities. it can be very hard to get along with in-laws, but do remember..blood is thicker than water. i do my best to get on with mine and they are wonderful people, we have had our relatives on hubby's side screw us out of $$$ and a business failed too, ruining our credit based on that little edeavor, i still see and talk to them , we see them at holidays and if they come to visit. forgiveness is what i was taught, and what God wants me to cultivate in my heart...not always an easy thing. my husband putting up with that is more his that theirs ,he has to LET THEM you know? i think the best thing you can do, is live your life, love your baby, find joy in these things, try not to take what they do or do not do as a personal affront to you. JMO
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hwh
Posted 2009-11-04 11:29 AM (#4463568 - in reply to #4460765)
Subject: RE: I hate (ok, strongly dislike) my mother in law...



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Location: Haslet, Texas		I have always had a great relationship with my Inlaws.  As a matter of fact they take more "time" to see my kids than my parents do, they come see them at sports etc...That's Ok because my parents were the same way with us kids when we were home.  They were to busy working to come see us play sports.  We all did the horse thing together though.

Anyways, We all live close together and have these wonderful extended family holidays, b-days etc...My sisters Inlaws, our parents and My Inlaws all get together all the time.  It's great.
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