classicpotatochip - 2015-03-31 4:40 PM Just hang in there. I'm not ever going to lie to you and blow smoke and say you'll meet "the one". Maybe you won't. But I'm betting that eventually you're going to bump into one that you don't have to chase down, that opens doors, that is nice to you, that you really like, that doesn't let you down, and that makes you commit despite yourself. The ones that show up with all their baggage shining for the world to see, that admit to being a human and making ridiculous mistakes. Go with the guy that admits to, and owns his mess. I promise you probably will be spooked, because it's real. If you're not terrified the whole time, you're a) probably not mature enough for a relationship anyway, or b) not really in it with the real deal. The real deal is somebody that really really is firing on all 12 for you, and you just can't seem to figure out how to send him packing, because he won't go, and he's doing everything right. I think women get caught in this trap of figuring out how to make them stay. Why don't you figure out how to get rid of them? You hold that door open wide enough into "get lost loser" space, the good ones are going to be holding on for dear life and be the last ones standing. I really don't care how old my guy is, I would have kept a younger guy if he'd gone out of his way to be a man like my husband does at 10 years older than me. Boys are a blast, and they can be a boy their whole life. Learn to decipher what a man is, and date those. A guy can be a man when he's 20, it all just depends on who he really is.
And a man can be a boy at 50, lol. All depends on the individual.
My relationship worked well, I married my highschool sweetheart, stayed Married had a baby, I graduated from college and he had several affairs, divorce after 6 years. Had a short fling with a doctor I idolized, one of those relationships that you are friends forever. he died from a pulmonary embolus. Then a divorced man, older than me by twenty years and 6 days, I never meant for it to turn into a thing. But I really liked him, he gave me stability that I needed, like a rock, I adored him. 18 years with him, he was killed in an accident in 2002. I know apart of me died with him. It is sad, I wish I could find another relationship, but being single is so much easier.. I have not dated in 3 years. Some guys were threatened by the age, told jokes, and loud whispers (looks like he robbed the cradle) we just ignored them, he flew an airplane and I rode horses, I lived in the country and he had a condo. Sure we planned on marriage 3 times but were so frightened of the implied chains that came with it, I still get nauseous thinking about it. We played tennis, skied together, and I did neither one of those before my relationship. Go for it but make sure he is a good person, you can get caught in the older man maturity trap lol
My goodness this thread is almost 8 years old, crazy how these old threads are getting bumped up..
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