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Southtxponygirl
Reg. Nov 2006
Posted 2019-01-22 8:11 PM (#7419858 - in reply to #7419732)
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This is really a sad thread  
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whoapony07
Reg. Sep 2017
Posted 2019-01-22 8:20 PM (#7419861 - in reply to #7419732)
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Gosh this has been on my mind a lot here lately also. We've have had 3 deaths in our family since October this past year. I really need to sit down and figure it out. I told my husband, ( which he isn't horsey but he knows enough and helps with them) my old mares 29 & 28 I would want them put down because I just don't want them wasting away in some field, if he isn't able to or want to take care of them. Although the 28 yr old pony I am trying to find a home for right now, just the people that have shown interest in her I don't think would do right by her...that's a whole nother story. But my daughter's horse I would hope that my husband and sister n law, and niece would help her with her horse. and mine I would want them to sell unless a family member would want her. I haven't even thought about my dogs... but it has really been on my mind a lot. Wished I was rich and could just have them set up somewhere for the rest of their lives...
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1DSoon
Reg. May 2009
Posted 2019-01-22 8:28 PM (#7419863 - in reply to #7419849)
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jake16 - 2019-01-22 8:13 PM

Frodo - 2019-01-22 7:55 PM

Remember the movie "Who Will Love My Children" about a woman dying of cancer worrying about who would raise her kids.  This post made me think of that. 

My best friend died of cancer at 555 am yesterday morning.She has three girls ages 21,16,and 12. She also has a beautiful bay dressage horse named Tango.She told me last Wednesday that she needed to get him back to his previous person.His previous person said she would like him back if he ever needs a home.Contacted her today,she doesn't want him back :((( My friend thought she knew for sure where he would be going.Now he is up for sale,and who knows where he will end up.:*(((

it's easy to make promises.

Hard to keep them
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Southtxponygirl
Reg. Nov 2006
Posted 2019-01-22 8:32 PM (#7419864 - in reply to #7419863)
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1DSoon - 2019-01-22 8:28 PM
jake16 - 2019-01-22 8:13 PM
Frodo - 2019-01-22 7:55 PM Remember the movie "Who Will Love My Children" about a woman dying of cancer worrying about who would raise her kids.  This post made me think of that. 
My best friend died of cancer at 555 am yesterday morning.She has three girls ages 21,16,and 12. She also has a beautiful bay dressage horse named Tango.She told me last Wednesday that she needed to get him back to his previous person.His previous person said she would like him back if he ever needs a home.Contacted her today,she doesn't want him back :((( My friend thought she knew for sure where he would be going.Now he is up for sale,and who knows where he will end up.:*(((
it's easy to make promises. Hard to keep them

So true  
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Southtxponygirl
Reg. Nov 2006
Posted 2019-01-22 8:39 PM (#7419869 - in reply to #7419732)
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I'm so lucky my husband and boys are animal lovers  
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Chandler's Mom
Reg. Jan 2015
Posted 2019-01-23 12:59 AM (#7419883 - in reply to #7419869)
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Southtxponygirl - 2019-01-22 8:39 PM

I'm so lucky my husband and boys are animal lovers  

I feel blessed too that C would make arrangements--he knows how much my animals mean to me. (Momma would take on my dogs, but she is scared of horses and really doesn't know for sure which end a bridle goes on if that tells you how bad it is!!)
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rostymom
Reg. Aug 2005
Posted 2019-01-23 9:47 AM (#7419914 - in reply to #7419858)
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I did not mean for this to be SAD...  I just want us to be ready and for our animals to be taken care of by people who are willing and able to do so.   I am sorry for making anybody sad..   
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geronabean
Reg. Sep 2003
Posted 2019-01-23 9:48 AM (#7419915 - in reply to #7419732)
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I'm gonna have some super excited friends when I die. They are getting my horses and my tack. They just don't know it (so they don't kill me for their inheritance).
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Kay-DRacing.
Reg. Jun 2009
Posted 2019-01-23 10:03 AM (#7419921 - in reply to #7419732)
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It sure makes you think! I had never thought of if something happened to me, if my non horsey SO would keep my boys or not. I'm only 26 so I asked my SO to give my horses to one of my best friends if something were to ever happen to me. He said that he would learn to take care of them though which made me smile but if he needed help or could no longer care for them properly, he needed to give them to her. He's one of those that went to work today to google "how often do you worm a horse" and "how often should horses hooves be trimmed"  LOL.
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cranky B4 10am
Reg. Dec 2009
Posted 2019-01-23 10:35 AM (#7419926 - in reply to #7419732)
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Eventhough it is a sad and hard topic, it sure is something to think about. It's a necessary evil. So Rostymom, don't feel bad about broaching it!
I hope to stick around another 20-25 years so hopefully we won't have to think about this for a very long time, but as we all know, anything can happen.... 
The hubster loves them eventhough he is not a real horsey person. But he helps when needed with feeding, watering and such, so I know he would try to keep them and take care of them.
We don't have kids together, so if something would happen to both of us I want them to go to friends of us. They can either keep them, or if they wouldn't be in a position to keep them find good homes for them. We are not rich, but some money will be set aside to take care of them for a while so they could find a solution and not hurt financially because of it. 


 
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stayceem
Reg. May 2007
Posted 2019-01-23 11:07 AM (#7419933 - in reply to #7419732)
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My niece and I are very close and she knows how to feed. We also have a family that I grew up with that would help my niece and my sister/her family. As morbid as it sounds they would likely move into my place in the event something happened to me. I have a portion of my life insurance dedicated to my one gelding to care for him the rest of his life. The other horse has been "assigned" to a friend, I call her the God Mother. We have a verbal agreement that she would take her until my niece was ready for her or if they couldn't afford her.
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cindyt
Reg. Dec 2003
Posted 2019-01-23 2:31 PM (#7419971 - in reply to #7419732)
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I have mine in my will...  and you can take some of your health insurance money to help with expenses.... 
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cindyt
Reg. Dec 2003
Posted 2019-01-23 2:33 PM (#7419973 - in reply to #7419915)
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geronabean - 2019-01-23 9:48 AM I'm gonna have some super excited friends when I die. They are getting my horses and my tack. They just don't know it (so they don't kill me for their inheritance).

and there we have it lol... me too... 
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Nita
Reg. Apr 2012
Posted 2019-01-23 2:34 PM (#7419974 - in reply to #7419732)
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Believe me, it can happen to anyone at any time.
I can’t begin to tell you the number of people i’ve had to deliver that horrible news to, often expecting their family member when they heard the car door because they were expected home any minute. It’s devastating for the survivors and i’m sure that, in the hectic days following a death, they would very much appreciate having your wishes in writing. If for no other reason, just so they don’t have another thing to worry about.
I’m glad I saw this thread. It is a great reminder that I need to put something in writing. We have talked about it, but my husband is worse at this than he is at taking care of my animals. I know he would just give them to whoever could get there first to pick them up and I wouldn’t want my horses out there without papers and a suitable home!
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run n rate
Reg. Feb 2007
Posted 2019-01-23 3:54 PM (#7419987 - in reply to #7419732)
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Actually , my fiance and I have had this conversation. He knows I would come back to haunt him if he were to give any of them to a small list of people. The gelding is a lifer with us, so he would keep him and just watch him eat grass and soak up sunshine. The mares we have a plan for, just hope the two friends that are on that short list accept the "package", LOL!!!
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Chandler's Mom
Reg. Jan 2015
Posted 2019-01-23 7:06 PM (#7420000 - in reply to #7419921)
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Kay-DRacing. - 2019-01-23 10:03 AM

It sure makes you think! I had never thought of if something happened to me, if my non horsey SO would keep my boys or not. I'm only 26 so I asked my SO to give my horses to one of my best friends if something were to ever happen to me. He said that he would learn to take care of them though which made me smile but if he needed help or could no longer care for them properly, he needed to give them to her. He's one of those that went to work today to google "how often do you worm a horse" and "how often should horses hooves be trimmed"  LOL.

My dear, hang on to that man, he's a good one!!
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SaritaStorm
Reg. Jun 2011
Posted 2019-01-24 11:58 AM (#7420050 - in reply to #7419732)
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 You could set up a trust for the horses and fund it through some of your life insurance proceeds.
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r_beau
Reg. Apr 2010
Posted 2019-01-24 12:24 PM (#7420055 - in reply to #7419732)
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rostymom - 2019-01-22 8:39 AM  Kinda of a scary topic.   But I have been putting some thought to what would happen to my horses if something was to happen to me??

I have a non horse husband who could care less wouldn't have a clue to even know where to buy my feed from, let alone how much to feed.   My step kids would care less. 

Has anybody set up some sort off account to help with expenses and left a specific person (whom they trust) resposible??  

Thank for any input!!

Have a Blessed Day !!!

If you don't already have a will, this is why you should. For special things like this, spell out what is to be done with the horses.

It's highly worth to meet with an attorney or lawyer and have these sort of things figured out.

On that note, you should have a living will too. (So healthcare providers know what your wishes are, for example, if you are in a vegatiative state.)

Also not a bad idea to have life insurance, to help the spouse you leave behind and/or any kids (as well as who gets what).



 
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Delta Cowgirl
Reg. Apr 2005
Posted 2019-01-24 12:24 PM (#7420056 - in reply to #7419732)
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Please remember that unless you do something legally (a Will, a Trust), your wishes may not be granted -- just writing down what you want will not guarantee it.
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Kay-DRacing.
Reg. Jun 2009
Posted 2019-01-24 12:30 PM (#7420061 - in reply to #7420000)
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Chandler's Mom - 2019-01-23 7:06 PM
Kay-DRacing. - 2019-01-23 10:03 AM It sure makes you think! I had never thought of if something happened to me, if my non horsey SO would keep my boys or not. I'm only 26 so I asked my SO to give my horses to one of my best friends if something were to ever happen to me. He said that he would learn to take care of them though which made me smile but if he needed help or could no longer care for them properly, he needed to give them to her. He's one of those that went to work today to google "how often do you worm a horse" and "how often should horses hooves be trimmed"  LOL.
My dear, hang on to that man, he's a good one!!

I have been so incredibly lucky to find a man like him! He's a lifer for sure
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