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Speedy Buckeye Girl - 2019-11-12 1:02 AM
NateRacer...you are one of the few I remember on here from years back...first off hugs, secondly...my advice which may or may not be good lol!
take the winter off. Take the time to really decide what you love the most. A) Idea of running the 1-D? Or B) just having fun with friends pulling a 3-D or 4-D check here and there? There is no wrong answer, other than you regretting A or B (or C, D...etc)
Just because this filly didn’t pan out does not mean you have to give up your dream. Up until this year, the absolute most expensive, supposed 1-D colt prospect I’ve ever bought, was a total nightmare and I got scammed by the previous trainer. I did think the same things as you!! But I decided one bad apple can’t ruin the orchard. So I made one last ditch effort...bought another colt (after saving for 3 very long years)...so far a complete 180...and only time will tell. But for me I knew I couldn’t quit after I took the time to really, really analyze the situation. But on the other hand, if I’d decided to stick with my 3-D, limited time left, horse...there’d been no shame in that. The most important thing is knowing what makes u happy. My hubby supports me in many ways, but if I gave up horses he’d be thrilled lol...so I get you there too. It’s your life, your passion, you will make the best choice for you. But I don’t believe at all you’re ready to throw in the towel for good...you’d never posted here if that was the case ??
I'd say that's probably a truthful observation.
Update from the buyer yesterday though. He told me she's one of the toughest horses he's had, but he thinks after some good long wet saddle blankets (that was my issue giving her!) she'll turn into a great little horse. He absolutely loves her.
That makes me feel that I wasn't incompetent. lol It was more a matter of time not working for the two of us.
I keep looking at horses, so I'd say the bug is still active. Just has to be right.
I just sold a little filly like yours, she was quite the challenge (purchased her as a long 3yo that had never been touched, had SO many quirks) and I ended up putting a nice start on her but we just did not click. I had her for almost 2 years and finally had to throw in the towel. I felt horrible that I couldn't get her past some of her quirks, and I *usually* am never one to back down with horses, but something about her just unsettled me and I found myself avoiding working with her. We sold her to a woman that gave her a job, rides her in the mountains and packs on her, puts miles and miles of wet saddle blankets on her, and she is flourishing! When we loaded her up to leave our house, I was bawling- I felt like such a failure, I had never given up on a horse before, but I knew I needed to cut my losses before she had more time to sit and regress. She needed to go somewhere where she would be used and not just be the pasture pet she was turning into. I felt such a sense of relief when I heard she was doing well at her new home, and it absolutely eased any shame I had for selling her.
I am like you, always keeping my eyes peeled, and because we sold her we were able to jump on a great opportunity with a different mare that fits me and our program (and herd) perfectly.
Not every horse will fit every person, and that is okay. Don't beat yourself up because she wasn't the right filly for you- look at how often our "dream horse/man/woman/etc." ends up not being what we want and sometimes the next one in line is our perfect match. |
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