Jazz's Girl - 2020-05-21 8:42 AM

WOW. I am so thankful for the hauling partners I've had. Now I've had some doozies but for the most part, Ive been blessed with great people.

The WORST one by far was someone who I thought was a "friend". Turned out to be a backstabbing USER. We hauled regularly for about 5 months. We would alternate whose rig we took. Sometimes it was hers, other times it was ours. I never asked her for fuel $ but always offered to pay when she hauled. She usually turned it down. So I would buy her dinner. The WORST thing about hauling with her was the attitude. If she had a bad run, forget a pleasant drive home. And get ready to feel like crap if you had a good one.... It was toxic and I see that now. But I was new to the area and didnt know anyone. She called me one night and told me I had 1 week to get my horses off her property. When I asked why, not paying for fuel was one of the reasons she gave. Along with not paying board. But the kicker, I offered money EVERY MONTH that she refused. I paid 1/2 of the water bill even though my horses drank out of the pond more than anything. My husband cut her 20 acre pasture several times and never even asked for fuel money or reimbursement AND her kid had my small bp trailer with her at college 3 hrs away. I thought I was going above and beyond. Guess not. In the end I am alot better off without her.

I will usually haul with anyone who has room. My horse is easy. I cannot stand clutter so I keep things cleaned up. I had 2 friends that I hauled with regularly when we lived back home. Both loved me cuz I am a morning person and would have horses taken care of before they got up. We just meshed and worked well together. I miss them!!!!
Theres 1 person up here that I enjoy hauling with. We get along and our horses get along.

Just be up front with the friend about everything. Dont let anything fester or it will ruin the friendship. If at the end of the day you really dont enjoy hauling with her, tell her it isnt going to work out. You may lose a friend though....