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Location: Central TX | my niece just turned 17 years old. When she was 14 she was diagnosed with an extreme eating disorder and became really skinny. She has been in treatment for 3.5 years and it has taken away so much of her life that she deserves. She is unable to go to school because of it (dropped out in grade 9 and is now in grade 12) lost friends, unable to go to barrel races/rodeos...truly lost so much of her child hood and it makes my heart hurt. I saw her yesterday and she was about 40 pounds heavier than she should be. I saw the hurt in her eyes and a look of pure depression no one ever wants to see on their families faces. I walked by the kitchen while all of the family was gathered around in the living room and she was sneaking a whole bunch of chocolates out of the pantry and stuffing her face and then returned to her bedroom. I talked to her mother (my sister) and she has been going thru an extreme bout of binge eating disorder (uncontrollable eating) and has put on about 60 pounds in the last 7 months. She is suicidal and has been on watch for a couple of months now because she has not been able to take the weight off. She refuses to leave her room because she is so ashamed and she is not even able to participate in homeschool.. she should be in grade 12 but she has barely started work from grade 11. This was once a vibrant young woman who had all of the support behind her to make the national finals rodeo at 18 and now im not so sure she will see her 18th birthday. I cried for hours because when i think about my problems, they are nothing compared to what some people go thru... I know this is really long but i just can't help but be devastated about this. If you could spare a prayer for a beautiful young woman who has gone thru so much this year.. I would appreciate and im sure my sister (who has gone thru hell having to watch her only daughter go thru this is) would appreciate it too... Thankyou |
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| This brought tears to my eyes...I wish she could realize, although she may be slightly overweight because she has an eating problem, that it doesn't define who she is, and that she can lose the weight with dedication and support from her family like you all have been giving her. She needs to realize how truly valuable her life and herself is <3 Everyone has bumps in the road and it's not the end, she can do it!!!! I'm praying for her and you all that she gets through it and that you all are comforted in the process  |
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Location: SD | She doesn't have an eating problem; she has an emotional problem. Prayers she gets the help she needs. Perhaps a new therapist is in order. |
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Location: Central TX | 2burkeboys - 2013-12-08 8:18 PM
She doesn't have an eating problem; she has an emotional problem. Prayers she gets the help she needs. Perhaps a new therapist is in order.
she does have an eating disorder. no one who binges/purges and starves themselves down to 90 pounds at 5'5 doesnt have an eating problem. yes im sure she has emotional problems too. |
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Location: Exactly where I am supposed to be | This truly breaks my heart.................I cried and then felt selfish for crying, SOOOO many prayers to you and your family and this special young lady who I pray realizes that God has made her perfect, and life is sooooooo worth living that there is so much out there for her ..........an ENTIRE world and future that is no ones but her own...........so much pressure is put on woman to look a certain way..........but I wish they would realize that sometimes you have to walk away from the mirror .....it doesn't define what God placed within you............its not who you are, I will pray for this young woman always in hopes she beats
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PHILIPPIANS 4:13 I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHO STRENGTHENS ME
Stay strong
You are not lost
Come on and fix your eyes ahead
There's a new dawn to light our day, our day
You've gotta stay strong
You and I run
For the prize that lies ahead
We've come too far to lose our way, our way
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Location: Central TX | God Is My Light - 2013-12-08 8:31 PM
This truly breaks my heart.................I cried and then felt selfish for crying, SOOOO many prayers to you and your family and this special young lady who I pray realizes that God has made her perfect, and life is sooooooo worth living that there is so much out there for her ..........an ENTIRE world and future that is no ones but her own...........so much pressure is put on woman to look a certain way..........but I wish they would realize that sometimes you have to walk away from the mirror .....it doesn't define what God placed within you............its not who you are, I will pray for this young woman always in hopes she beats this.
your comment made me cry. Thank you so much for praying for my family. |
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Location: Exactly where I am supposed to be | brrlrcrtx44 - 2013-12-08 8:33 PM
God Is My Light - 2013-12-08 8:31 PM
This truly breaks my heart.................I cried and then felt selfish for crying, SOOOO many prayers to you and your family and this special young lady who I pray realizes that God has made her perfect, and life is sooooooo worth living that there is so much out there for her ..........an ENTIRE world and future that is no ones but her own...........so much pressure is put on woman to look a certain way..........but I wish they would realize that sometimes you have to walk away from the mirror .....it doesn't define what God placed within you............its not who you are, I will pray for this young woman always in hopes she beats this.
your comment made me cry. Thank you so much for praying for my family.
Stay strong God is with you and your family |
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| My niece had an eating disorder and almost died. She is my brother's daughter. I had a drug abuse counselor tell me that WITHOUT EXCEPTION this was brought on by sexual abuse. Her grandfather and my brother were the only two males she was around on a regular basis. I could not imagine that either had ever touched her. Long story short, a 78 year old man that was a neighbor HAD molested her and 5 other girls in the neighborhood. One of those was her sister. That old piece of chit was arrested and let out on bail and killed himself. I never would have believed this because they live in a very upscale neighborhood.
Someone needs to analyze her situation and see who might be molesting her. That is a tough secret that a young lady has to keep. I think you will find that is the root of her problem.
Many prayers for you, her and her family. Please get SOMEONE to look into this. I have will keep you in my prayers that you do follow through. |
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Location: Central TX | I know for a fact she is not being molested... My sister is a single mom and there are no men living in the house and she does not go out of moms site. |
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| brrlrcrtx44 - 2013-12-08 9:41 PM
I know for a fact she is not being molested... My sister is a single mom and there are no men living in the house and she does not go out of moms site.
I thought the same thing. |
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Location: Central TX | I'm sorry. I know this is what you feel but she has been in ED treatment for 3+ years by some of the best ED doctors in the country and none of them have ever mentioned a thing about molestation. It is simply the wiring in her brain.. |
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Location: Florida | Oh man, does this break my heart. Prayers! |
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Location: Texas | brrlrcrtx44 - 2013-12-08 8:22 PM 2burkeboys - 2013-12-08 8:18 PM She doesn't have an eating problem; she has an emotional problem. Prayers she gets the help she needs. Perhaps a new therapist is in order. she does have an eating disorder. no one who binges/purges and starves themselves down to 90 pounds at 5'5 doesnt have an eating problem. yes im sure she has emotional problems too.
I don't think 2burkeboys was trying to lessen the issue. However, eating disorders are typically a symptom of a bigger problem. Whether it's self-esteem issues, emotional issues, some sort of abuse, etc. The causes are many. The thing with eating disorders though is that they are typically a way for girls to control something.
You can't force someone with an eating disorder to just stop. It's more than about food. There is an underlying issue that needs counseling or similar help.
I think that is what 2burkeboys was trying to say. And I'm not saying she is being molested or anything to that degree. It could be that someone made a comment about her body/weight and she magnified the issue beyond her control.
If she is suicidal, she definitely needs counseling or therapy. I lost my brother and an uncle to suicide. She needs professional help. |
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| We've had some issues with our daughter as wel ......... it is emotionally draining to say the least. Happy to say, she is doing really well now. She was thin, but it was more of a phoebia problem that she was going to be sick ...so didnt' want to eat. I highly suggest Christian counseling.......we did that, and it was very beneficial. Other things that can help are very simple , and may seem silly, but truly help. One, being magnesium supplement ~ it settles down anxiety, and too much "thinking"......the other being a multi vitamin, and lastly, a lamp that imitates natural sunlight. All these affect the digestive system, depression and general well being. Praying for your neice today ~ God is not only our Creator, but also our Healer. Feel welcome to pm me if you want |
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Location: Central TX | I could not be more thankful and blessed with all of the continued support I have continued to get on here from y'all. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for praying for my family. Each post is being read and means the world... God bless you beautiful ladies!! |
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Location: That part of Texas | brrlrcrtx44 - 2013-12-08 9:48 PM I'm sorry. I know this is what you feel but she has been in ED treatment for 3+ years by some of the best ED doctors in the country and none of them have ever mentioned a thing about molestation. It is simply the wiring in her brain..
I'm sorry she is having to go through this and your family also. You might want to look at a website/forum called Something Fishy (link posted below) for some online support and to have a place to talk to others about these issues. I know this board helped me conquer some of my ED issues (no, I was not molested either) so that they aren't such a big part of my life anymore. I hope it brings you the same kind of comfort.
http://www.something-fishy.org/sitemap.php |
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Could use some help/prayers...OT