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| Im trying to give away an 18 year old gelding on FB. I stated everything in the ad, as to why I was rehoming him. I got attacked because I was giving him away after having him his whole life. Im a stay at home mom and he is a pasture ornament. When I worked 4 months ago, that was ok. But since we have moved I can't find a job and so my hubby is paying for everything. Life happened. And suddenly Im the bad person. Sorry, had to vent. |
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| Don't let them get to you. I have seen that happen many times - people just don't understand that situations change and sometimes we have to give up our animals for their sake. Ignore them, they don't know you or your situation. If you feel the need to explain, go ahead but you don't owe them anything. |
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Location: Eastern OH but my heart is in WV | ShiningSRanch - 2014-01-17 11:29 AM
Im trying to give away an 18 year old gelding on FB. I stated everything in the ad, as to why I was rehoming him. I got attacked because I was giving him away after having him his whole life. Im a stay at home mom and he is a pasture ornament. When I worked 4 months ago, that was ok. But since we have moved I can't find a job and so my hubby is paying for everything. Life happened. And suddenly Im the bad person. Sorry, had to vent.
It sounds like to me that you are trying to do the right thing for the horse and your family. I am sure this is not an easy decision for you but a needed one. People who do not own horses, DON'T understand the money and time needed to properly care for even a "pasture" pet. Many hugs to you and I hope you find him a good home! |
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| So sorry you are going through this! I feel your pain..
I have a 16 yr old horse that I have had since the day he was born, owned his momma til she passed at 23. He has had many health issues over the course of his life (surgeries etc, and as well is a big boy (17.3) with an attitude. I have tried to rehome on several occasions each time he comes back. My parents farm is for sale, and I no longer will have a place to bring him home to when he "gets sent back cause he didn't work out". If I am not able to rehome him by the spring I will be putting him down. Knowledgeable horse people reactions to this are " you have done everything you can for him and it is a responsible decision" others respond with " how can you kill this animal"...my answer is if I don't give him a humane end he WILL end up in a kill pen. I love my horses to no end but at some point you have to make a decision no matter how much it hurts your heart. |
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| Some people just don't get it, and they never will. I wouldn't worry about it. They showed their colors. |
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Location: 100 miles from Nowhere, AR | People who would attack you for trying to do right by an animal obviously have no clue. What are you supposed to do? Let your family go without so he can eat? |
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Location: Beggs, OK | Tell them to please save him then.... People are ridiculous when it comes to sentimentality over common sense. If they are so worried about his well being tell them to come pick him up. |
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Location: Midwest | No kidding
I'd rather see someone give a horse away to someone who is able to care for it than a horse going hungry. I don't know why someone would attack you for that... that is just redic |
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| Great thing about FB, you can unfriend them!!! Good for you for trying find your horse a new home. Way too often I see people refuse to do what is right and their animals suffer in their hardships. I know it's not an easy decision! |
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Location: Great NW | yep - you can unfriend those that attack you. You have to do what is best for your Family. Sounds like you have tried. Some people just do not understand the cost involved with horses. |
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Location: Oregon | In this economy it's more humane to put an old or crippled horse down than to give a horse away. Especially if the horse is unrideable. Otherwise it can end up on a truck to Mexico. |
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| ChasethisAmigo - 2014-01-17 12:13 PM
So sorry you are going through this! I feel your pain..
I have a 16 yr old horse that I have had since the day he was born, owned his momma til she passed at 23. He has had many health issues over the course of his life (surgeries etc, and as well is a big boy (17.3) with an attitude. I have tried to rehome on several occasions each time he comes back. My parents farm is for sale, and I no longer will have a place to bring him home to when he "gets sent back cause he didn't work out". If I am not able to rehome him by the spring I will be putting him down. Knowledgeable horse people reactions to this are " you have done everything you can for him and it is a responsible decision" others respond with " how can you kill this animal"...my answer is if I don't give him a humane end he WILL end up in a kill pen. I love my horses to no end but at some point you have to make a decision no matter how much it hurts your heart.
I think you are doing the right thing in this situation! (and so is the OP) |
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Location: Florida.. | slowrunnin - 2014-01-17 2:44 PM ChasethisAmigo - 2014-01-17 12:13 PM So sorry you are going through this! I feel your pain.. I have a 16 yr old horse that I have had since the day he was born, owned his momma til she passed at 23. He has had many health issues over the course of his life (surgeries etc, and as well is a big boy (17.3) with an attitude. I have tried to rehome on several occasions each time he comes back. My parents farm is for sale, and I no longer will have a place to bring him home to when he "gets sent back cause he didn't work out". If I am not able to rehome him by the spring I will be putting him down. Knowledgeable horse people reactions to this are " you have done everything you can for him and it is a responsible decision" others respond with " how can you kill this animal"...my answer is if I don't give him a humane end he WILL end up in a kill pen. I love my horses to no end but at some point you have to make a decision no matter how much it hurts your heart. I think you are doing the right thing in this situation! (and so is the OP )
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Location: Deep in the heart of Texas. | ShiningSRanch - 2014-01-17 11:29 AM
Im trying to give away an 18 year old gelding on FB. I stated everything in the ad, as to why I was rehoming him. I got attacked because I was giving him away after having him his whole life. Im a stay at home mom and he is a pasture ornament. When I worked 4 months ago, that was ok. But since we have moved I can't find a job and so my hubby is paying for everything. Life happened. And suddenly Im the bad person. Sorry, had to vent.
If he is rideable you could always see if there is a therapeutic riding center in the area and donate him to the riding center for people with disabilitys. |
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Location: Kansas | What buttheads....you want me to smack them around for you? |
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Location: North Dakota | Lots of people like to attack others to make themselves feel "bigger" or more important. I hope you find your horse a good home. |
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Location: Kansas (but Great Lakes member since 1978) | I know you personally and know you're a GREAT GAL with a VERY SOFT HEART. What you are doing is very hard for you I know but it's also a great thing…. I've known you of years and you only want to do what is best for your horse. If I had room for your baby I'd take him in a minute but you know my circumstances too. Anyone that attacks you in any way is an idiot and you just need to "blow them off" and don't let it get to you. Those of us that know you love you very much and don't want you to let anyone that isn't worth your time to make you feel bad. Bless you for wanting to give your horse a good retirement home and **** those that try to hurt you.
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Location: Broxton, Ga | I would personally tell them when they start paying your bills.........to mind there own business when it comes to decisions you have to make concerning money.............and if they want you to keep him.....tell them X amount what it will take...........and please pay one month in advance.......... |
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Location: Never in one place long | crapshooter - 2014-01-17 1:39 PM
In this economy it's more humane to put an old or crippled horse down than to give a horse away. Especially if the horse is unrideable. Otherwise it can end up on a truck to Mexico.
Yes, you have to be very careful who the horse goes to. Make sure you follow up to so he doesn't end up at a slaughter house :( Glad you are trying to find him a good home. |
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| Thanks everyone for your thoughts. Makes me feel better. I have actually thought about having him put down, but even that is expensive! |
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Location: Oregon | Maybe they weren't so much being mean as stating the obvious. If he's not useful at all you are running a huge risk of him ending up in a bad situation if you give him away. I understand you can't afford to keep him anymore and that's sad but you still have to consider what could happen to him in the future and make the right decision for the horse and your family. |
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Location: Florida.. | if you can find a retirement home that would be awesome.. id be leary to give away to just anyone.. im sorry but with all the bad people out there.. you nver know what will happen and the last years of the horses life you want to be good.. if you cant find a place then id consider putting down:) good luck. |
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| Bibliafarm - 2014-01-17 6:17 PM if you can find a retirement home that would be awesome.. id be leary to give away to just anyone.. im sorry but with all the bad people out there.. you nver know what will happen and the last years of the horses life you want to be good.. if you cant find a place then id consider putting down:) good luck.
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Location: Baden, PA | I am with ya there. Most folks (non horse folks) have no clue how much it takes to have a horse. Hopefully ya find that boy a good home, I totally understand where you are coming from. |
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| It would probably be kinder to put him down. I gave a mare away a few years ago in return for the lady giving the foal the mare was carrying back to me. The foal was starved, she starved the mare and I had to pay to get her back...............
I fed the mare a little over a year and had to put her down because she just did not recover. That experience made me decide that in the future, I would put them down before I put them in a situation that might go south. If you do find a home, I hope it is a good one.
You are not the bad guy for wanting to do right by your horse by giving it away, but this day and time it is hard to be assured they will be cared for properly. |
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Location: The edge of no where | I'm not attacking you.
Giving away an old guy as a pasture ornament has a HUGE chance of not being in his best interest. If he were mine, I would put him down before I would give him away. The horse market is terrible right now, he doesn't have a use... what makes you think they won't get tired of feeding a horse they can't use? It is expensive to put one down, but I look at that as the responsibility that I took on when I bought/raised the horse. |
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Location: Florida.. | MS2011 - 2014-01-18 11:13 PM I'm not attacking you. Giving away an old guy as a pasture ornament has a HUGE chance of not being in his best interest. If he were mine, I would put him down before I would give him away. The horse market is terrible right now, he doesn't have a use... what makes you think they won't get tired of feeding a horse they can't use? It is expensive to put one down, but I look at that as the responsibility that I took on when I bought/raised the horse.
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| I understand where you're coming from and as much as it hurts me to even think about putting down one of my babies, I kind of see where people are coming from. I sold my horse to a "good home" for a really really low price because I thought I couldn't handle too many horses and college and it wasn't fair to not do anything with them..well the woman ended up not wanting her because "she picked on her other horse". My horse isn't like that and it was because she had been looking for horses and found something she liked better about a week after she had her. SHE came and had picked her up but when she declared she didn't want her, she did it while I was 3 hours away for college and she threatened to take her to the market if I didn't come get her and give her money back. I will never trust just anyone again. Afterwards I also let her pasture at a family friend's while we were moving and they also made up some BS excuse as to why they didn't want her there and said they could sell her to someone was interested. Needless to say...she will NEVER leave our farm and I won't get rid of any animals unless I really really know where they're going but from here on out I don't think I will. So with all that being said, if you can't find somewhere you're ABSOLUTELY sure about where he's going it might be a better alternative to put him down. Prayers because all of this is probably difficult <3 |
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Location: Slipping down the slope of old age. Boo hoo. | rodeomom3 - 2014-01-17 6:58 PM
Bibliafarm - 2014-01-17 6:17 PM if you can find a retirement home that would be awesome.. id be leary to give away to just anyone.. im sorry but with all the bad people out there.. you nver know what will happen and the last years of the horses life you want to be good.. if you cant find a place then id consider putting down:) good luck.
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Location: N Texas | ChasethisAmigo - 2014-01-17 12:13 PM So sorry you are going through this! I feel your pain.. I have a 16 yr old horse that I have had since the day he was born, owned his momma til she passed at 23. He has had many health issues over the course of his life (surgeries etc, and as well is a big boy (17.3) with an attitude. I have tried to rehome on several occasions each time he comes back. My parents farm is for sale, and I no longer will have a place to bring him home to when he "gets sent back cause he didn't work out". If I am not able to rehome him by the spring I will be putting him down. Knowledgeable horse people reactions to this are " you have done everything you can for him and it is a responsible decision" others respond with " how can you kill this animal"...my answer is if I don't give him a humane end he WILL end up in a kill pen. I love my horses to no end but at some point you have to make a decision no matter how much it hurts your heart.
Ding ding ding! There's a big difference between horse people who know sometimes things happen and we have to let a horse go, versus so-called animal lovers/activists who put animals on the same level as humans and live in fantasy land where owning animals is always rainbows and butterflies. I can't stand the people who will jump down your throat about what YOU need to do with YOUR animal, but are never willing to put their money where their mouth is. |
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| We have talked and have come to the conclusion that I can keep Snickles! |
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Getting Attacked on a FB page.