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Location: Central Iowa | My husband and I are expecting our 2nd son on May 19th. I will be 28 when I have him. It took us a lot to decide to have another child but since we are both only children we thought we had better. We both agree that we DO NOT want any more kids. I have always decided I would just get my tubes tied when they are in there for my second C section and be done with it. I keep having these horrible dreams that what if something happens to both of my kids when I am in my early 30s and I cant have any more, would I regret getting them tied! So my question to all you ladies are what are some NON perm. birth control options you are using and what do you like or don't like about them.
Clams, Tubes Tied, Cervix inserts . . . . . .
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Location: Central Iowa | I am kind of scared of the IUD thing. I know several people who had to have emergency surgery to have them removed because they went through their wall and was floating in space! And they were not as active people like us who ride horses everyday and are a little harder on our bodies!! |
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Location: South MS | I am on my 2nd Mirena - love it - I dont have a period anymore and they change out every 5 years
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Location: Do I hear Banjos? | I use the Seasonale. It's a daily pill...but it restricts your period to once every three months...or...one per season (Winter, Spring, Summer, Fall). It has worked great for me for years. |
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Location: Bandera, TX | I'm on my third Mirena - love it. |
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Location: Silex Missouri | Don't they have one that is good for 7 years? |
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Location: Cap'n Joan Rotgut.....alberta | willyturnit - 2014-01-29 9:40 AM Don't they have one that is good for 7 years?
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Location: Oklahoma | I have the implanon. It's been approved for 3 years, but studies have looked at it for 5 years. I'm on my second round and love it. It's a small implant on the inside of your upper arm. |
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| I think you need to talk to your doctor about your options. And personally - it's too difficult to play the "what if" game in my head. What "if" something happened? You won't be able to replace your kids. You can have others yet but they won't be replaced (not trying to be condescending here either). Have your husband get snipped and save some uh - well you know, for down the road. My sister in law had her tubes tied after her second child and she has no regrets. Good luck with whatever you decide. And congrats on your new baby!! |
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| mruggles - 2014-01-28 9:42 AM
willyturnit - 2014-01-29 9:40 AM Don't they have one that is good for 7 years?
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Location: If I ever get back to Oklahoma..... | I'm 35 and expecting our second son. Repeat c-section on 2/6. I signed the consent form to have my tubes tied this morning. Doc kept trying to talk me out of it, and I still have a little bit of doubt, but I'm pretty sure I will go ahead and go through with it. I think two boys will be plenty for us to handle; but I know my husband would love to have a girl... Guess we will see next week!  |
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Location: Chehalis, Washington | We have friends that have had there husbands snipped.. which I beleive is reversable if you ever did choose to have another child. Its the healthiest option out there. |
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Location: The Oklahoma plains. | ropinbuzz - 2014-01-28 10:32 AM I am kind of scared of the IUD thing. I know several people who had to have emergency surgery to have them removed because they went through their wall and was floating in space! And they were not as active people like us who ride horses everyday and are a little harder on our bodies!!
IUD is the number on form of BC in China. But I do understand your hesitation although I dont know of anyone personally that has had an issue. I wanted one but since I had not had any children they would not allow me to get one. |
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Location: Kansas | Mirena....very uncomfortable when put in place but worth it in the long run.....5 years of not having to worry about taking a pill LOL |
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Location: SW North Dakota | TurnLane - 2014-01-28 10:48 AM
ropinbuzz - 2014-01-28 10:32 AM I am kind of scared of the IUD thing. I know several people who had to have emergency surgery to have them removed because they went through their wall and was floating in space! And they were not as active people like us who ride horses everyday and are a little harder on our bodies!!
IUD is the number on form of BC in China. But I do understand your hesitation although I dont know of anyone personally that has had an issue. I wanted one but since I had not had any children they would not allow me to get one.
Have you talked to your doctor recently or was that a while back? I don't have any kids and I just got my first one put in around the beginning of October. I know they use to not do it but I think they are starting to now. Might be worth looking back into it. :) |
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Location: north dakota | willyturnit - 2014-01-28 10:40 AM
Don't they have one that is good for 7 years?
Para Gard is the cooper IUD that was good for 8 years or so. I had terrible long periods that were heavy on this. I had it for 5 years or so and it never got better. Quite a few people I talked to with this IUD had the same problem. |
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Location: WYOMING | hoofs_in_motion - 2014-01-28 12:51 PM Mirena....very uncomfortable when put in place but worth it in the long run.....5 years of not having to worry about taking a pill LOL
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Location: Texas | ndcowgirl - 2014-01-28 11:57 AM willyturnit - 2014-01-28 10:40 AM Don't they have one that is good for 7 years? Para Gard is the cooper IUD that was good for 8 years or so. I had terrible long periods that were heavy on this. I had it for 5 years or so and it never got better. Quite a few people I talked to with this IUD had the same problem.
It's 10 years. No hormones. Mine aren't terrible but I still have them and with the Mirena, they're supposed to go away. I'm talking to my dr about switching at my next appt.
That being said, I would recommend it times a million. Just like you, I'm totally freaked about the thought of not being to have more children even though I don't want anymore. I'm only 30! I figured by the time the 10 years are up (I've had it 4 years), I'll be in a better place about it and *maybe* my husband will grow a pair to snip (he's scared and doesn't care who knows!). |
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Location: Texas | I am scheduled for my first c-section (second kiddo) on Feb. 14. I am 36 and share some of your concerns. For me though, my age and potential for pregnancy and labor to cause another stroke, I have signed the papers to due the tubal ligation. It was actually brought up by my doctor since I can't be on any form of birth control and hubby freaked when I mentioned him getting snipped.
I am not a good pregnant lady. I don't enjoy the process, just the outcome. Hubby and I are good with two kids. Having lost a sibling, I know that a child can never be replaced. So that, to me, isn't a reason to keep my tubes intact. |
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Location: North Dakota | You are too young to have your tubes tied ! Take a birth control pill! I had a Mirena and kept getting infections in my uterus and it had to be removed. I had mood swings and felt like I ALWAYS had PMS!!!! I had never suffered from any hormonal issues until I had a Mirena put in!!! Once you hit your mid thirties you can make the decision to have your tubes tied! My dad had himself snipped after my parents had me BUT my mother decided she wanted another child when I was in middle school and actually left my dad for another man. Her and the new husband had a child within a year of getting together. I know that if he could have had children she would not have left!! Pills are a better option because you can switch brands until you find a pill that suits your hormonal levels best!!!!! |
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| I'm on my 4th year with my Paraguard Copper T. It's the BEST!! My periods were pretty heavy the first year. This year, they're not anything out of normal, and they last two days tops. I LOVE no hormones! I do notice cramping more than I did without, but nothing a Midol doesn't handle. Insertion wasn't the most fun, but totally, totally worth it! When it's time to take this one out, I'm getting another one put in. |
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| I have Implanon and have had it almost two years. I personally love it! I had some spotting in the beginning but it soon went away and now I'm almost completely period free. On the rare times I get it, it's more like spotting and lasts around two days. Getting it put in didn't hurt at all, and I'm only assuming the removal can't be that bad haha. |
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Location: SE Louisiana | HotbearLVR - 2014-01-28 10:33 AM
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I guess you missed the Paul Harvey (Rest of the Story) that day.. She got tied.. He got snipped... They had another kid anyway...
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Location: North Dakota | I have been on the depo shot for 11 years now! It is awesome! No monthly to worry about, don't have to worry about getting pregnant, no more cramps! Just get a shot in the hip 4 times a year! If I remember to take advil before my appt, not even sore! |
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| I took the pill for about ten years. HATED it. Ended up with melasma (hormone caused dark spots) on my face, emotional, weight gain, and no periods at all. Never again.
Oh yes. Almost forgot: Concieved my first two beautiful kids while on the pill. First one was antibiotics, second was time zone change.
After baby number two I got smart and got a para guard copper IUD. Loved it. No hormones, nothing to think about,no prescription refills, no doctor visits, no weight gain, no dark spots. My periods went from two days to four, and eventually back to two. Used it for five years. Took it out and conceived baby number three a little over a year later. Put it back in for almost four years. Took it out to have baby number four and no joke - conceived within two weeks.
I'd get another but hubby is done. Snip time for him. The para guard is the next most effective birth control to sterilization (statistically). |
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| blyellowrose - 2014-01-28 8:19 PM
I have been on the depo shot for 11 years now! It is awesome! No monthly to worry about, don't have to worry about getting pregnant, no more cramps! Just get a shot in the hip 4 times a year! If I remember to take advil before my appt, not even sore!
Have you gotten off the depo in that 11 years? I have been on the depo for about 9 but was told every few years I need to get off it for a few months and let my body regulate.
I also love the depo, i dont get my monthly friend and its a 15 min appointment every 3 months.
I've heard horror stories about the IUD and then other people who swear by them. For me, the risks outweigh the benefits. |
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| Doesn't depo wreck your reproductive system if you stay on it longer than 3 years? I was on it and could not control my weight gain. I also felt moody and overreactive a LOT! I really love the no hormone Paraguard. Lost 30 lbs in 6 months after stopping and felt mentally better 30 days after stopping. It wasn't my cup of tea. |
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Location: Deep South | ropinbuzz - 2014-01-28 10:32 AM I am kind of scared of the IUD thing. I know several people who had to have emergency surgery to have them removed because they went through their wall and was floating in space! And they were not as active people like us who ride horses everyday and are a little harder on our bodies!!
This happened to my cousin and she now has another beautiful baby girl.
My BFF also has it, and I've heard nothing but complaints from her about it ever since she got it. I have no idea why she won't just tell her doctor to try something else.
I have Nexplanon and LOVE it! It's the implant in your arm, good for 3 years, they say after the first several months periods stop altogether, I'm just not to that point yet. Insertion was such a piece of cake. Literally less painful than like a flu or steroid shot you get when you're sick. |
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Location: relocated to Texas | jackismacki - 2014-01-29 10:31 AM We have friends that have had there husbands snipped.. which I beleive is reversable if you ever did choose to have another child. Its the healthiest option out there.
This. I know he doesn't want to do it, but it would be the easiest and healthiest thing for both of you. You can save some sperm and store it just in case you decide you want to have another one. I wouldn't mind you having more, LOL
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Location: Washington | I have the Para Guard (?) the IUD that's good for 10 years. I'll have is for 3 years this summer. I wouldn't say I love it but there is no hassle. My periods have one day that are HORRIBLE but I put up with that one day for the convenience of the rest of the month. It's actually changed the last couple months. I don't have that one horrible, heavy day but now it last 8 days...... I don't get along with any of the hormones in any of the other forms of BC the 10 year IUD has no hormones.
We don't plan on anymore but we're in our mid twenties so I doubt any doc would even let me get my tubes tied. |
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Location: Bastrop, Texas | Hollywood's Fan - 2014-01-29 10:00 AM jackismacki - 2014-01-29 10:31 AM We have friends that have had there husbands snipped.. which I beleive is reversable if you ever did choose to have another child. Its the healthiest option out there. This. I know he doesn't want to do it, but it would be the easiest and healthiest thing for both of you. You can save some sperm and store it just in case you decide you want to have another one. I wouldn't mind you having more, LOL
Tell Paden to "man up".
I agree with Carol. Better yet, just have another......kinda like a "spare" munchkin. Wade is so dang cute, you can't have too many of them. |
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Location: Always on call..... | I have a Mirena and that's the number one long term birth control I recommend to my patients as well.
IUD's are the most effective forms of birth control aside from permanent sterilization or abstinence. Please DO consider vascetomy and tubal ligation to be permanent - I see too many people say "oh its reversible if we want". Those are often NOT reversible and if they can be it is very expensive. If you are at all considering another child do not go that route.
I've write lengthy posts on here before about the pros and cons of various birth controls, so I won't bore anyone with them again. But keep in mind ALL birth control options have risks and benefits. Ten women will have 10 different outcomes with the same form of birth control - everyone responds to the hormones differently. I would speak to your doctor, since they know your GYN history.
The two forms of birth control that I consistently get the most negative feedback from patients are Depo shots (lots of weight gain and heavier bleeding) and the Implanon (heavier bleeding).
The one big pro to both IUD's and Implanon's is that they are both quick to insert and can be easily removed if you don't like their effect on you. An IUD is more painful to put in - but it only takes a couple of minutes to insert. The Implanon is more uncomfortable to remove - have to numb up the arm, make an incision and pull it out. The recommendations on both devices are to leave in for at least 6 months until you get full hormone effect before having them removed if you don't like it.
As a patient I LOVE my Mirena IUD. No periods, some occassional cramping. I don't have to worry about birth control for 5 years. The IUD is up inside the uterus, not the vagina, so it does not effect your partner during intercourse. There is a small, < 1% chance of perforating the uterus with the device. That is mostly related to the skill of the person putting it in. |
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Location: Home....Smiling M Farms | blyellowrose - 2014-01-28 8:19 PM I have been on the depo shot for 11 years now! It is awesome! No monthly to worry about, don't have to worry about getting pregnant, no more cramps! Just get a shot in the hip 4 times a year! If I remember to take advil before my appt, not even sore!
Have you ever taken time off the shot? Just being concerned here, my sister was on the shot for about 8 years I think, give or take a few. She didn't take any breaks from it and she's paying the price now. :( She didn't have a period the entire time she was on it. When she got married, she decided to go off of it. It'll be 2 years in March that she's been off of it and she's had maybe 3 periods since then. Her dr told her it was from being on the shot so long, her hormones are waaaaaaaaaaaay out of wack. He's hoping with time, she will level out, but said that it's possible that she won't be able to have children. |
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Location: North Dakota | If you are SURE you don't want any more kids, have your husband "snipped". To my understanding, doing that is more "for sure". I have heard of whoopsie's happening when you tie tubes. I'm not a medical doc, so don't take my word for it. ;-)
And if something happens to one of your kids and you end up wanting another one, there are hundreds and thousands of children in this world who need adopting into a safe home. That is always an option too. |
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | Take it from someone living every day with the consequences of long term Depo.....don't do it. Take breaks or find another method. I had the implanon as well, my last form of BC and it was a great thing. At this point I refuse to ever be in BC again because of all the ill effects. |
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Location: North Dakota | stayceem - 2014-01-28 10:07 PM blyellowrose - 2014-01-28 8:19 PM I have been on the depo shot for 11 years now! It is awesome! No monthly to worry about, don't have to worry about getting pregnant, no more cramps! Just get a shot in the hip 4 times a year! If I remember to take advil before my appt, not even sore! Have you gotten off the depo in that 11 years? I have been on the depo for about 9 but was told every few years I need to get off it for a few months and let my body regulate. I also love the depo, i dont get my monthly friend and its a 15 min appointment every 3 months. I've heard horror stories about the IUD and then other people who swear by them. For me, the risks outweigh the benefits.
sorry I didn't see your question earlier - no I have not gone off the depo at all. |
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Location: North Dakota | classicpotatochip - 2014-01-29 7:40 AM Doesn't depo wreck your reproductive system if you stay on it longer than 3 years? I was on it and could not control my weight gain. I also felt moody and overreactive a LOT! I really love the no hormone Paraguard. Lost 30 lbs in 6 months after stopping and felt mentally better 30 days after stopping. It wasn't my cup of tea.
I never got any weight gain from being on the depo, but everybody's body is different. I think I remember my doctor telling me the Depo also helps prevent cervical cancer. |
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Location: MS | I was on the depo shot for 30 years...was great for me...helped my monster headaches....stopped the cramps and Dr Jeckell/Mr. Hyde syndrome...and best of all, no period. |
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Location: PNW | I'm pregnant with my second (due in August); I will be 23 when Eggbert is born and will be having my second c-section. I will also be having the tubal ligation done at that time. My husband and I have talked a lot about this. Due to high-risk conditions (Pre-E/HELLP), it wouldn't be very safe or easy for me to go through another pregnancy. So I'm taking it off the table.
If we ever decide that we NEED to have another child we will either A: adopt, or B: use a surrogate.
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Location: Florida | I wondered this as well... My friend had the Mirena and liked it, and I have another friend with Nuva Ring- anyone try that? My lovely husband won't be getting snipped lol, but I don't want my tunes tied either, although we really want to wait a while after this one! At least 3-4 years. So I am looking into options for long term bc too! |
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| Leo - 2014-01-30 12:30 PM blyellowrose - 2014-01-28 8:19 PM I have been on the depo shot for 11 years now! It is awesome! No monthly to worry about, don't have to worry about getting pregnant, no more cramps! Just get a shot in the hip 4 times a year! If I remember to take advil before my appt, not even sore! Have you ever taken time off the shot? Just being concerned here, my sister was on the shot for about 8 years I think, give or take a few. She didn't take any breaks from it and she's paying the price now. :( She didn't have a period the entire time she was on it. When she got married, she decided to go off of it. It'll be 2 years in March that she's been off of it and she's had maybe 3 periods since then. Her dr told her it was from being on the shot so long, her hormones are waaaaaaaaaaaay out of wack. He's hoping with time, she will level out, but said that it's possible that she won't be able to have children.
I had been on the depo shot for 15 years. Went off of it and got regular periods after about 6 months. I stayed off of it for about a year, and hated having my "monthly time" So I went back on and have been back on it now for 3 more years. I love that I dont have to deal with periods ever!! But then I have 3 kids and when I had my last, which was c section I wanted my tubes tied and my dr wouldnt do it. I knew I was done!! Kinda makes me angry that I am having to pay for birth control now!! |
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