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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | So please skip this if you don't want to see it....
I know there are quite a few women on here or many on here know someone who went through a miscarriage.
Question, just how long does it take for your body to be physically normal afterwards? Normal as is no pain etc?
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| This is Also tmi.. After I had my son I have never really been without pain in some way during intercourse with hubby. So I wish I could give you a hug but I also have never miscarried.
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | Thistle2011 - 2014-02-02 9:08 PM This is Also tmi.. After I had my son I have never really been without pain in some way during intercourse with hubby. So I wish I could give you a hug but I also have never miscarried.
That is part of the problem. Not the only one, but a big deal. Just the idea of being intimate right now makes me cringe and naseous..... |
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| missroselee - 2014-02-02 8:13 PM
Thistle2011 - 2014-02-02 9:08 PM This is Also tmi.. After I had my son I have never really been without pain in some way during intercourse with hubby. So I wish I could give you a hug but I also have never miscarried.
That is part of the problem. Not the only one, but a big deal. Just the idea of being intimate right now makes me cringe and naseous.....
Maybe try talking to your ob..my mom went 22 years with pain and weakness down there due to some unknown complications to a couple really simple procedures and never opened her mouth. Well she had basically reconstructive surgery and she feels completely normal again after all these years. After I have this baby I will give two years time then I'm going to talk to the same lady my mom went to if I still don't feel "normal". ..it has been over 3 years since I have been trully in the mood without being afraid. No one should have to feel that way. |
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Location: Where Governor's make the liscense plates | I know tilted uterus' can cause pain as my mom said intercourse was never comfortable for her and that's what she had and she also had multiple miscarriages before me. |
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Location: Florida.. | Whiskey_Girl - 2014-02-02 10:16 PM I can relate. If you learn to relax (which is very difficult!) it's not as bad. When you tense up fearing the pain it makes it ten times worse. Lubricants are very much your friend.
I agree..which pain can make you tense so its very hard to do that. tilted uterus will cause pain to. .. lubricate helps alot and also positions.. so you are in charge.. (sorry tmi but truth) |
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| missroselee - 2014-02-02 8:13 PM
Thistle2011 - 2014-02-02 9:08 PM This is Also tmi.. After I had my son I have never really been without pain in some way during intercourse with hubby. So I wish I could give you a hug but I also have never miscarried.
That is part of the problem. Not the only one, but a big deal. Just the idea of being intimate right now makes me cringe and naseous.....
Have you had an ultrasound post miscarriage?
Endometriosis can be very painful
Poly cystic ovarian syndrome is very painful. My girlfriend had this and dreaded having sex with her husband. |
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| My mom died of ovarian cancer @ 50. Fast fwd i was in my twenties the doc said since your thin we should be able to palpate and feel problems a lie. In my late 30's started having lower ab pain told doc was not concerned got a second opinion did a trans vag. ultra sound had fibroids seheduled a hystrectomy. When the doc came to see me after surgery he told me he told me i killed his back casue he scraped and scraped as i had the worst case of endometretious that he had ever sceem and had a endometretial cyst in addition to the fibriod tumors. The doctor told me i should have been screaming imasked him what good would it have done. Moral of story iyou hurt go to the doc and if they dont listen go,to another, and another.
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| I have had four miscarriages and my middle son was stillborn. I can honestly say I was back to normal in about a month after my miscarriages and after my stillbirth it only took about six weeks before I felt normal and had no pain. I'm not sure how long it has been for you but if your past a month from your miscarriage and still having pain I would see a doctor. If your doctor doesn't listen find another one who will. Go see a specialist if you need to. No one could figure out why I kept losing babies so I kept looking till I found a perinatologist who wanted to help me. I was diagnosed with a blood clotting disorder that affected me during pregnancy and caused clots to form in the placenta. With my next pregnancy I had to take heparin shots (blood thinner) and I had a successful pregnancy and got my son who is eight now. My suggestion is find a specialist who will listen to you. Don't take it will get better for an answer.
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | cheryl makofka - 2014-02-02 10:32 PM
missroselee - 2014-02-02 8:13 PM
Thistle2011 - 2014-02-02 9:08 PM This is Also tmi.. After I had my son I have never really been without pain in some way during intercourse with hubby. So I wish I could give you a hug but I also have never miscarried.
That is part of the problem. Not the only one, but a big deal. Just the idea of being intimate right now makes me cringe and naseous.....
Have you had an ultrasound post miscarriage?
Endometriosis can be very painful
Poly cystic ovarian syndrome is very painful. My girlfriend had this and dreaded having sex with her husband.
No. They haven't done anything. Last doctor told me it was heart burn and to take a Zante and not call her again. This isn't just pain during intamacy. It gets so bad during the day sometimes that I can't even stand up straight. It hurts to lay certain ways, sit certain ways, and I get so hot at night I'm sleeping with ice packs |
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| missroselee - 2014-02-03 7:16 AM
cheryl makofka - 2014-02-02 10:32 PM
missroselee - 2014-02-02 8:13 PM
Thistle2011 - 2014-02-02 9:08 PM This is Also tmi.. After I had my son I have never really been without pain in some way during intercourse with hubby. So I wish I could give you a hug but I also have never miscarried.
That is part of the problem. Not the only one, but a big deal. Just the idea of being intimate right now makes me cringe and naseous.....
Have you had an ultrasound post miscarriage?
Endometriosis can be very painful
Poly cystic ovarian syndrome is very painful. My girlfriend had this and dreaded having sex with her husband. No. They haven't done anything. Last doctor told me it was heart burn and to take a Zante and not call her again. This isn't just pain during intamacy. It gets so bad during the day sometimes that I can't even stand up straight. It hurts to lay certain ways, sit certain ways, and I get so hot at night I'm sleeping with ice packs
That is how my friends was, not always a constant pain but sometimes a stabbing pain that would drop her to her knees.
People with pcos also have a harder time conceiving google it and see if some of the symptoms listed you are experiencing. |
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| missroselee - 2014-02-03 7:16 AM
cheryl makofka - 2014-02-02 10:32 PM
missroselee - 2014-02-02 8:13 PM
Thistle2011 - 2014-02-02 9:08 PM This is Also tmi.. After I had my son I have never really been without pain in some way during intercourse with hubby. So I wish I could give you a hug but I also have never miscarried.
That is part of the problem. Not the only one, but a big deal. Just the idea of being intimate right now makes me cringe and naseous.....
Have you had an ultrasound post miscarriage?
Endometriosis can be very painful
Poly cystic ovarian syndrome is very painful. My girlfriend had this and dreaded having sex with her husband. No. They haven't done anything. Last doctor told me it was heart burn and to take a Zante and not call her again. This isn't just pain during intamacy. It gets so bad during the day sometimes that I can't even stand up straight. It hurts to lay certain ways, sit certain ways, and I get so hot at night I'm sleeping with ice packs
You need to see another doctor and as for the doctor that told you not to bother her again, you ought to complain, especially if she is part of a practice group or hospital.
ETA: maybe you just aren't ready … physically and emotionally. miscarriage is hard.
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | I've been trying to see a specialist but the primary care won't refer me because she said they won't do anything. Apparently tricare west doesn't care about healthcare as much as south. I'm supposed to see an on post doc but that's not until the 13th. |
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Location: lexington KY | Your pain sounds so much like my endometriosis. Mine was so bad at times I had to crawl to the bathroom to take a HOT HOT bath, because that is all that helped me. I spent so many years in pain and I have a high pain tolerance. One thing to remember it so breathe through it. Deep breaths and staying relaxed helps. I finally had laproscopic surgery and it helped some, but BC helps me more than anything. I hope you get some relief and can find the problem.
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Location: Southwest Minnesota | missroselee - 2014-02-03 12:56 PM I've been trying to see a specialist but the primary care won't refer me because she said they won't do anything. Apparently tricare west doesn't care about healthcare as much as south. I'm supposed to see an on post doc but that's not until the 13th.
Find a new primary care. One that will refer you. It is your choice, your primary care is not paying for it so what difference does it make to her if you go see a specialist? I would love to be your advocate. Give me that primary care dr's # and I will give her a little "come to Jesus" talk. We have a doc at our hospital that is a real jackwagon and thinks that MD stands for Medical Deity. I assure you it does not. Maybe they went to the same school... I have never had a miscarriage, but I don't think you should be having this much pain. |
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | polorunner - 2014-02-03 2:22 PM Your pain sounds so much like my endometriosis. Mine was so bad at times I had to crawl to the bathroom to take a HOT HOT bath, because that is all that helped me. I spent so many years in pain and I have a high pain tolerance. One thing to remember it so breathe through it. Deep breaths and staying relaxed helps. I finally had laproscopic surgery and it helped some, but BC helps me more than anything. I hope you get some relief and can find the problem.
endometreosis is one of the main reasons I stayed on BC for 15 years. That and if I got a menstrual cycle, I would get so sick that it put me in the hospital twice as a teenager. And pills were never an option, it always had to be something non oral. Anything oral made me vomit excessively. I chose to get off BC because I started having other negative side affects from it including bleeding stomach ulcers. Getting no periods was awesome, but I couldn't deal with the ulcers anymore.
It was hell coming off. Hubby tried forcing me to go the the ER several times because of the pain, but I just dealt with it until it got a little better. I do not ever want to go back on BC because life is so much better without the ulcers.
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Location: Nebraska | I had the same experience as the others as far as endometriosis. I had an exploratory surgery in Nov of 2012 that yielded no positive results. He did find a spot that he thought was endometriosis but it was in a tricky spot so he couldn't biopsy it. I spent 6 years hopping from doctor to doctor trying to get one to listen to me. He also recommended to me to go on the Paleo diet and gave me a pill called Linzess (it's an IBS-C pill) but since doing all of that, I have been pain free for a year! It's amazing! I'm also taking a BC pill 365 days a year. I started having a horrible reaction during the week off every 3 months so he told me to stay on it.
I have Tricare West, but I just have the standard. My doctor took it no problem. I also have BCBS and Tricare is the only one that covers my Linzess pill. Are you coming up here for the BRF? Maybe you can get in to see him then. He's extremely easy to talk to and actually cares. |
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Location: lexington KY | missroselee - 2014-02-03 3:16 PM
polorunner - 2014-02-03 2:22 PM Your pain sounds so much like my endometriosis. Mine was so bad at times I had to crawl to the bathroom to take a HOT HOT bath, because that is all that helped me. I spent so many years in pain and I have a high pain tolerance. One thing to remember it so breathe through it. Deep breaths and staying relaxed helps. I finally had laproscopic surgery and it helped some, but BC helps me more than anything. I hope you get some relief and can find the problem.
endometreosis is one of the main reasons I stayed on BC for 15 years. That and if I got a menstrual cycle, I would get so sick that it put me in the hospital twice as a teenager. And pills were never an option, it always had to be something non oral. Anything oral made me vomit excessively. I chose to get off BC because I started having other negative side affects from it including bleeding stomach ulcers. Getting no periods was awesome, but I couldn't deal with the ulcers anymore.
It was hell coming off. Hubby tried forcing me to go the the ER several times because of the pain, but I just dealt with it until it got a little better. I do not ever want to go back on BC because life is so much better without the ulcers.
Gosh, I so hate that you are going through that. Hopefully you can find something that can help you. Have you ever had the surgery? I recently went off the pill as well and I am hoping I can stay off. I have talked to a few girls that try to help it with nutrition. Some say Paleo really works, which I have been doing for about 8 months. I am anxious to see how things go, now that I am off BC. |
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Location: In the Hills of Texas | You need to find a different doctor asap. I went through some miscarriages and then got endometriosis. I was 30 years old and I had one doctor tell me my pain was in my head. Well it wasn't. I went to 3 doctors before one actually listened to me. Besides the Endo..my uterus was flipped over some ligaments and was the reason sometimes I saw stars.
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | Thank you guys. I do see another new doctor on the 13th. I have tried the whole "it's all in my head". I know I'm stressed with work so I have started working out as much as I can, watch less TV, eat a whole lot better, and am teaching some fitness classes and helping fellow military spouses at the gym. And no matter how much I ignore it, it's always there :( I can't even imagine trying to ride. The last time wasn't so bad as I was having a good day but I have no desire to get back to riding full time. |
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | Just thought I would update for those who were following and concerned.
Saw the new doctor today and all I can say is thank God for good people. Surgery on march 7th to remove a very damaged ovary and burn endometriosis, remove cysts, and try to find the source of fluid buildup. He is hoping the other ovary is ok. But he was surprised it hadn't been diagnosed and dealt with prior and that I just dealt with the pain. Apparently the left ovary is twisted and completely adhered to the uterine wall, probably a result of long time endometriosis. He was positive and great, saying this was perfectly treatable and that I didn't have to deal with pain, that I have options. Could it affect ever having kids, sure, but rot now I can't fathom the idea of kids when I am miserable. On top of dealing with severe back pain again.
He also said I have a tilted uterus but that it should not actually interfere with pregnancy. He said most of my issues will be fertility, not actually carrying to full term. He also feels the miscarraige was going to happen no matter what and the problems I have now did not directly cause it. |
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Location: 100 miles from Nowhere, AR | I'm so glad you found help!! Healing prayers sent your way.. Btw, I have a tilted uterus and had zero pregnancy issues related to that. |
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Location: Sperry, OK | Glad to hear good news! Now go slap that other doctor upside the head!
ETA -- BTW I have an aunt with only one ovary, she has 8 kids!
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | Three 4 Luck - 2014-02-13 1:37 PM I'm so glad you found help!! Healing prayers sent your way.. Btw, I have a tilted uterus and had zero pregnancy issues related to that.
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Location: Riding Crackhead. | Three 4 Luck - 2014-02-13 12:37 PM I'm so glad you found help!! Healing prayers sent your way.. Btw, I have a tilted uterus and had zero pregnancy issues related to that.
I'm so happy you got a 2nd opinion! I'm sorry you have to have surgery but getting rid of the pain will be a God send.
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Location: Arkansas | I deal with a lot of pain since having children. I have been sent all over trying to find the answers so I understand the relief you must now feel. I am so glad for you that you have been blessed with an answer. God is good! |
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | Thank you guys. It gave me piece of mind knowing there was a reason for the pain and that somebody finally would not only listen but also actually offer a plan. He did say I am a candidate for any permanent procedures that I want. He even offered to do them now. I can honestly say today there's no way I want to try to have a child but that in the condition I'm in, it's not a good time to make a decision. So I asked him for treatment and at least a year of "normalcy" before asking me again. Of course a lot can happen between now and then but it feels good to have a doctor actually ask questions and understand me. |
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | Esther - 2014-02-13 2:05 PM I deal with a lot of pain since having children. I have been sent all over trying to find the answers so I understand the relief you must now feel. I am so glad for you that you have been blessed with an answer. God is good!
I will pray that you can find answers too. I wish there were more doctors like this one. He's a young doctor too. Can't be older then me. I used to be nervous using a male GYN but in all reality, I've had way more problems with the females. This one seemed so much more understanding of not only the pain and the mental part, but also how it has affected the intamacy with my husband. He assured me we would be having "rockstar sex" again before too long.....and yes those were his words :) |
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Location: So. California | So happy for you that you found some answers!! No kidding it wasn't in your head (that doctor needs to be knocked upside the head for even saying that!!) Thank you for sharing your story here, it may have helped someone else in need. Maybe a push for another opinion or a dose of courage to tell their doctor how much pain they are in. Good luck with your surgery and sending a prayers your way!! |
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | Anniemae - 2014-02-13 2:29 PM So happy for you that you found some answers!! No kidding it wasn't in your head (that doctor needs to be knocked upside the head for even saying that!!) Thank you for sharing your story here, it may have helped someone else in need. Maybe a push for another opinion or a dose of courage to tell their doctor how much pain they are in. Good luck with your surgery and sending a prayers your way!!
Thank you, and yes, I wanted to share this no matter how personal so that maybe other people going through something similar may feel encouraged. Trust me I've gotten a few concerning phone calls from friends who never even knew I was pregnant let alone miscarried. I kept it quiet for a while. They have all been greatly supportive |
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Location: Quinlan, TX | missroselee - 2014-02-13 12:23 PM Esther - 2014-02-13 2:05 PM I deal with a lot of pain since having children. I have been sent all over trying to find the answers so I understand the relief you must now feel. I am so glad for you that you have been blessed with an answer. God is good! I will pray that you can find answers too. I wish there were more doctors like this one. He's a young doctor too. Can't be older then me. I used to be nervous using a male GYN but in all reality, I've had way more problems with the females. This one seemed so much more understanding of not only the pain and the mental part, but also how it has affected the intamacy with my husband. He assured me we would be having "rockstar sex" again before too long.....and yes those were his words :)
I dealt with severe pain after my children as well. My last son was born Jan 21, 2004, had my tubes tied in March 2004. Had a Hysterectomy Oct 4, 2012. Pain was still there. Ended up going in for exploratory and had to take my right ovary out. No more pain!! Apparently when my tubes were cut the right one reacted like a rubber band and retracted up around my ovary. No way to see it unless they opened me up. I have pictures of both ovaries during the surgery and I cant believe the difference.
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Location: In the Hills of Texas | missroselee - 2014-02-13 1:19 PM Thank you guys. It gave me piece of mind knowing there was a reason for the pain and that somebody finally would not only listen but also actually offer a plan. He did say I am a candidate for any permanent procedures that I want. He even offered to do them now. I can honestly say today there's no way I want to try to have a child but that in the condition I'm in, it's not a good time to make a decision. So I asked him for treatment and at least a year of "normalcy" before asking me again. Of course a lot can happen between now and then but it feels good to have a doctor actually ask questions and understand me.
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | Thank you guys. Even know nothing was done today and its a few weeks until surgery, and of course treatment afterwards, it's kind of wierd, but it's like I can almost relax again. Because now I know what needs done and I know that it includes common procedures. And just feeling like I can trust a doctor to listen and do what needs to done is a huge thing. Especially after the last few experiences......I hate feeling helpless..... |
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Location: Here | missroselee - 2014-02-13 8:10 PM Thank you guys. Even know nothing was done today and its a few weeks until surgery, and of course treatment afterwards, it's kind of wierd, but it's like I can almost relax again. Because now I know what needs done and I know that it includes common procedures. And just feeling like I can trust a doctor to listen and do what needs to done is a huge thing. Especially after the last few experiences......I hate feeling helpless.....
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Location: Where it is too cold, SD | I'm so happy to hear you got answers! And a solution!!! I have had to deal with bone head doctors over the past few years and nothing is worse than trusting your body and sometimes LIFE with a so called educated individual that has no heart or passion for us - the people that pay them to help us.
I really would like for you to make sure you inform the doctor that told you nothing was wrong and not to call back - inform them they were wrong!
Good luck with your surgery!!! I will pray everything goes well and that you can still have children some day in life! Love n hugs headed your way! |
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Location: Memphis, TN | So glad you got answers. I'm not sure why but it seems that GYNs tend to dismiss things quite a bit. My mom kept bringing up her issues to her GYN and he kept brushing it off as "normal" female issues. Like you she had such severe pain she could barely function some days. She even went to the ER one day because it was so bad and got sent home with a bladder infection diagnosis. She kept being told it was all normal so she tried to push through it. She has diabetes so she sees several different doctors and while at her gastro doctor one day she told him how bad things were. The gastro doctor was the one who told her to go straight to the ER and he called ahead and told them he wanted her thoroughly looked over. They came up with a twisted ovary and sent her to surgery that same night. When they opened her up her abdomen was filled with puss and infection. What they had just diagnosed as a twisted ovary was actually a grapefruit sized abscess on her ovary that had ruptured and was leaking infection into her body. Her GYN was actually nervous to even talk to her after doing the surgery because he knew he had dismissed it. She asked him if he believed her now. She ended up being a week in the hospital as they had to thoroughly clean her around her intestines and inside her abdomen and then keep her on a high strength antibiotic to make sure the infection didn't take over. If her gastro doctor hadn't pushed her to go back to the ER her problem would have turned deadly.
Long story short, listen to your body. If you think something is not right don't let someone tell you it's in your head. Keep pushing just like missroselee did.
Prayers that you are well on your way to healing.
A side note on fluid build up. I've had ovarian cysts rupture that filled me up with quite a bit of fluid. My last one I had rupture over a holiday and didn't get in to my doctor until 4 days later. The us tech called the doctor in to show him how much fluid I had and they were both shocked. If you have several cysts they could be rupturing and causing the fluid which is normal but very painful as our bodies get very irritated by the fluid. |
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | barrelracin85 - 2014-02-14 7:52 AM So glad you got answers. I'm not sure why but it seems that GYNs tend to dismiss things quite a bit. My mom kept bringing up her issues to her GYN and he kept brushing it off as "normal" female issues. Like you she had such severe pain she could barely function some days. She even went to the ER one day because it was so bad and got sent home with a bladder infection diagnosis. She kept being told it was all normal so she tried to push through it. She has diabetes so she sees several different doctors and while at her gastro doctor one day she told him how bad things were. The gastro doctor was the one who told her to go straight to the ER and he called ahead and told them he wanted her thoroughly looked over. They came up with a twisted ovary and sent her to surgery that same night. When they opened her up her abdomen was filled with puss and infection. What they had just diagnosed as a twisted ovary was actually a grapefruit sized abscess on her ovary that had ruptured and was leaking infection into her body. Her GYN was actually nervous to even talk to her after doing the surgery because he knew he had dismissed it. She asked him if he believed her now. She ended up being a week in the hospital as they had to thoroughly clean her around her intestines and inside her abdomen and then keep her on a high strength antibiotic to make sure the infection didn't take over. If her gastro doctor hadn't pushed her to go back to the ER her problem would have turned deadly. Long story short, listen to your body. If you think something is not right don't let someone tell you it's in your head. Keep pushing just like missroselee did. Prayers that you are well on your way to healing. A side note on fluid build up. I've had ovarian cysts rupture that filled me up with quite a bit of fluid. My last one I had rupture over a holiday and didn't get in to my doctor until 4 days later. The us tech called the doctor in to show him how much fluid I had and they were both shocked. If you have several cysts they could be rupturing and causing the fluid which is normal but very painful as our bodies get very irritated by the fluid.
So glad she is ok! That's scary though.
I have considered discussing this with the "other" doctor, but she's already got a very poor reputation in the area not only with civilians, but with the military and with other doctors. Right now I just want to concentrate on taking care of all the issues :) |
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Location: Arkansas | chrissyfouse - 2014-02-13 3:37 PM missroselee - 2014-02-13 12:23 PM Esther - 2014-02-13 2:05 PM I deal with a lot of pain since having children. I have been sent all over trying to find the answers so I understand the relief you must now feel. I am so glad for you that you have been blessed with an answer. God is good! I will pray that you can find answers too. I wish there were more doctors like this one. He's a young doctor too. Can't be older then me. I used to be nervous using a male GYN but in all reality, I've had way more problems with the females. This one seemed so much more understanding of not only the pain and the mental part, but also how it has affected the intamacy with my husband. He assured me we would be having "rockstar sex" again before too long.....and yes those were his words :)
"Rockstar sex".....thats awesome!!
My GYN sent me to a urologist believing that was where most of my pain came from was around my bladders. SEVERAL vists, MRIs, Ultrasounds later and it was not my bladder or kidneys. The urologist was very thorough. Any exams that I have had, the doctors know upon examination that I hurt because I will just about come off of the table. They just have not found the cause or source of the pain. I worry about my husband because I feel like me saying "I hurt" so many times makes him feel rejected. He never doubts me but I get upset about it. I don't believe this is normal. Both of your stories give me hope and I am so happy for you both to have been or going to be healed and have relief! |
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Location: North Dakota | I kept having pains and my GYNO kept blowing me off, he even suggested that I start taking anti-depressants. I went to a different DR. and it ended up being urinary tract damage. My urine would run back up in my bladder and cause inflamation and the pain was my bladder being irritated. I had surgery to fix it. Imagine if I listned to the first DR, I would have ended up with permanent damage or worse. |
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Location: Arkansas | angelica - 2014-02-14 10:33 AM I kept having pains and my GYNO kept blowing me off, he even suggested that I start taking anti-depressants. I went to a different DR. and it ended up being urinary tract damage. My urine would run back up in my bladder and cause inflamation and the pain was my bladder being irritated. I had surgery to fix it. Imagine if I listned to the first DR, I would have ended up with permanent damage or worse.
That is what my Gyno and Urologist thought was the problem originally with me. Now, we are back to square one. A second opininon is a good thing! |
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | Esther - 2014-02-14 9:37 AM chrissyfouse - 2014-02-13 3:37 PM missroselee - 2014-02-13 12:23 PM Esther - 2014-02-13 2:05 PM I deal with a lot of pain since having children. I have been sent all over trying to find the answers so I understand the relief you must now feel. I am so glad for you that you have been blessed with an answer. God is good! I will pray that you can find answers too. I wish there were more doctors like this one. He's a young doctor too. Can't be older then me. I used to be nervous using a male GYN but in all reality, I've had way more problems with the females. This one seemed so much more understanding of not only the pain and the mental part, but also how it has affected the intamacy with my husband. He assured me we would be having "rockstar sex" again before too long.....and yes those were his words :)
"Rockstar sex".....thats awesome!!
Don't back down if you are still having pain. It the GYN you are seeing now won't listen demand he either does or sends you elsewhere. This pain for me actually started two years ago as a mild pain and was diagnosed several times as diverticulitis. But no treatments for that worked and I blew it off becuase I was tired of dealing with it. This time around it took four doctors until I got it done. |
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