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Location: Idaho | Ok I would really like some thoughts or experiences on this subject. I am 8 weeks pregnant with our first and I'm excited, scared, overwhelmed, happy, nervous, and on top of all this I have a head cold that is going to keep me up all night so I can worry about thing like this. Anyways I'm all set for my first check up next week with my OBGYN. I've had a few thoughts on looking into a midwife, but I'm having trouble finding first hand information. All I read is how bad hospitals are and this or that. I do realize this isn't for everyone, but I like to have as much control and information as I can. Thank you! | |
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Location: Dubach, LA | You get your butt to the hospital and don't let them talk you into any of that rooming in crap. Make 'em keep the baby in the nursery. You'll need your rest. Also, avail yourself of all the luxuries of modern medicine.
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Location: Texas | I would never even think of having one at home. Not to scare you but if anything were to go wrong you have all of the medical personal to help you or your baby. I am a little partial as I used to work in the hospital and had to go to all high risk deliveries and would never chance my safety or my baby's safety. IMHO congrats on the news! | |
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| I would never do a home birth. My labor couldn't have been done at home. My son was 5 weeks early for one, he stopped breathing after he came out. There were several special care nurses waiting on him so they got him breathing again. Before he was out my blood pressure dropped to low, yes to low. They had to give me a shot to raise it. I had to be on oxygen for a bit. They had to give me a shot to stop contractions before this because my son was getting stressed out in there, hi heart rate going to high. He was able to be born and be healthy thanks to all the medical help waiting to help him. I was not a high risk pregnancy and was expected to make it full term until I randomly went to the hospital for pain at 32 weeks and found out I was starting to dialate and almost thinned out. Then had him at 35 weeks. My point, you never know what's going to happen. I'd rather be surrounded by medicine and plenty of knowledgable doctors/nurses just in case. | |
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Location: Tennessee | I had an absolutely AMAZING experience at the hospital that I went to in Nashville, TN. Obviously you aren't able to deliver there, but not ALL hospitals are bad. I suggest doing your research. Come up with a list of questions you want to ask, and go take a tour of the L&D at a few different hospitals in your area. And ask questions!
My plans changed drastically once I went into labor, I had planned on having a natural birth and blah blah blah. Well I made it to 8 cm and decided the epidural was a good GREAT idea! It was nice being able to make that decision, I can't imagine being at home or somewhere else and not being able to get an epidural if you felt like you needed it.
Always remember do what feels right to you and makes you happy, plus keep in consideration the best interest in your baby. Pregnancy is AMAZING and seeing that baby for the first time is INDESCRIBABLE! Enjoy every second of it.....it will FLY by!
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Location: LaBelle, Florida | CanCan - 2014-03-22 2:14 AM You get your butt to the hospital and don't let them talk you into any of that rooming in crap. Make 'em keep the baby in the nursery. You'll need your rest. Also, avail yourself of all the luxuries of modern medicine.
Love,
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Location: 100 miles from Nowhere, AR | I love the idea of homebirth, but it's a calculated risk. You can compromise with a birthing center, which is usually close to a hospital, or do what I did with my second. My first was induced with an epidural and I HATED the experience. When I got pregnant again, I decided to go a completely different direction: drug free with a doula in the hospital.
I met with my doula (she was a L and D nurse btw) every time I had a dr appt, and we went over educational stuff, what I wanted the birth to be, how to get what I wanted, what was normal labor, what could go wrong and how to handle it, teaching my husband how to help support me in my labor... She had me read lots of books--I'll look and find the names if you want. Those books were great, one was written by a midwife, the other by a LD nurse who believed in low interventions. She was with my hubby and me all through the labor and delivery, coaching, supporting, sneaking me food and drink when I wanted it. After a 12 hour labor, I delivered on a birthing stool with my dr kneeling in the floor to catch the baby. It was the most beautiful, empowering, wonderful thing I've ever done. Yes, it hurt, but not nearly as bad as the first one because I had the tools to handle it and wasn't scared to death.
I roomed-in both my babies and have no regret about it. I felt better with them there, was a nervous wreck when they were out of my sight, and IMO babies do better with as much skin to skin contact and holding as possible in the beginning. But everyone is different, you do it your way. Do what feels right to YOU and don't let someone else tell you what's best. | |
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Location: 100 miles from Nowhere, AR | kasaj2000 - 2014-03-22 6:40 AM CanCan - 2014-03-22 2:14 AM You get your butt to the hospital and don't let them talk you into any of that rooming in crap. Make 'em keep the baby in the nursery. You'll need your rest. Also, avail yourself of all the luxuries of modern medicine.
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Location: North Dakota | I would never deliver at home! My bladder split with my third, if I had been at home I would have bled to death. They pumped me full of so much blood and medicine. They really thought I was going to need a second surgery. Anything can happen, if you are at a hospital they can help you immediately! You can still do a natural drug free birth just do it in the hospital! | |
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| In Alberta we have midwives that deliver in some hospitals, they also deliver at people's home.
As a nurse who has worked labor and delivery with both midwife and doctor. The midwife deliveries have had less complications, less tears, and better post partum care (IMO). The mothers also enjoyed their labor and birthing experience moreso with the midwife versus doctor.
I suggest if you are interested, look to see if there are any midwife birthing centres close to the hospital. See if any of your friends who live close to the hospital who would allow you to deliver in their house.
If you do go midwife go for the water birth, most women experience less pain this way.
I would keep your OBGYN just in case you have complications such as PIH, gestational diabetes, etc.
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Location: The South | Three 4 Luck - 2014-03-22 7:00 AM
I love the idea of homebirth, but it's a calculated risk. You can compromise with a birthing center, which is usually close to a hospital, or do what I did with my second. My first was induced with an epidural and I HATED the experience. When I got pregnant again, I decided to go a completely different direction: drug free with a doula in the hospital.
I met with my doula (she was a L and D nurse btw) every time I had a dr appt, and we went over educational stuff, what I wanted the birth to be, how to get what I wanted, what was normal labor, what could go wrong and how to handle it, teaching my husband how to help support me in my labor... She had me read lots of books--I'll look and find the names if you want. Those books were great, one was written by a midwife, the other by a LD nurse who believed in low interventions. She was with my hubby and me all through the labor and delivery, coaching, supporting, sneaking me food and drink when I wanted it. After a 12 hour labor, I delivered on a birthing stool with my dr kneeling in the floor to catch the baby. It was the most beautiful, empowering, wonderful thing I've ever done. Yes, it hurt, but not nearly as bad as the first one because I had the tools to handle it and wasn't scared to death.
I roomed-in both my babies and have no regret about it. I felt better with them there, was a nervous wreck when they were out of my sight, and IMO babies do better with as much skin to skin contact and holding as possible in the beginning. But everyone is different, you do it your way. Do what feels right to YOU and don't let someone else tell you what's best.
One of my college friends posted a lot on Facebook about how awesome her doula was. She said "the doula was worth the moolah" lol. OP I can't give you any opinions on anything because I don't have kiddos but I wish you the best of luck with your pregnancy and delivery! | |
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| I would never consider delivering at home because there are so many things that could go wrong and require immediate medical intervention. Usually when things go wrong, you don't have time to load up in the car and drive to the hospital. I can't imagine losing my baby due to something that could have been prevented. And what if something happened to me and my husband and children lost me.
I delivered in a birthing center that is next to the hospital. There was a labor and delivery room, and then we were moved to a different room where we stayed until it was time to go home. Our babies stayed in the room with us, but the nurses were more than happy to take our little ones to allow us to get some rest.
My biggest piece of advice is to be comfortable with your doctor and facility, and have a plan of what you'd like to happen but be willing to deviate from this plan if necessary. I love my doctor and felt comfortable with him. My nurses were great, and I loved the facility (went on a tour of it before delivery). I had a plan of how I'd like things to go, but when things changed with my delivery I had to be willing to change these plans.
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Location: When you hit the middle of nowhere .. Keep driving | I don't have kids and no experience in this decision, but have several friends that have had kids. Two recently had complications that could have killed them if they weren't in the hospital. 1 retained a portion of her placenta and needed surgery... the other almost bled out, crashed and needed a blood transfusion. I dont want to scare you but I wouldn't do home delivery now. That's just the moms too... Babies are a lot more fragile with a lot more risks.
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Location: Idaho | Three 4 Luck - 2014-03-22 7:00 AM
I love the idea of homebirth, but it's a calculated risk. You can compromise with a birthing center, which is usually close to a hospital, or do what I did with my second. My first was induced with an epidural and I HATED the experience. When I got pregnant again, I decided to go a completely different direction: drug free with a doula in the hospital.
I met with my doula (she was a L and D nurse btw) every time I had a dr appt, and we went over educational stuff, what I wanted the birth to be, how to get what I wanted, what was normal labor, what could go wrong and how to handle it, teaching my husband how to help support me in my labor... She had me read lots of books--I'll look and find the names if you want. Those books were great, one was written by a midwife, the other by a LD nurse who believed in low interventions. She was with my hubby and me all through the labor and delivery, coaching, supporting, sneaking me food and drink when I wanted it. After a 12 hour labor, I delivered on a birthing stool with my dr kneeling in the floor to catch the baby. It was the most beautiful, empowering, wonderful thing I've ever done. Yes, it hurt, but not nearly as bad as the first one because I had the tools to handle it and wasn't scared to death.
I roomed-in both my babies and have no regret about it. I felt better with them there, was a nervous wreck when they were out of my sight, and IMO babies do better with as much skin to skin contact and holding as possible in the beginning. But everyone is different, you do it your way. Do what feels right to YOU and don't let someone else tell you what's best.
This is what I was hoping to hear. I'm fully aware of the things that could, will and do go wrong. If I do go this way it will be at a birthing center close to the hospital. What I am concerned with is the drugs used and what effect they have on my body and my baby and how rush rush so many people I've talked to said their experience ended up being. One thing that so far I can't disproved is the U.S has the highest rate of maturity death and the highest rate of c sections Of any other county. As silly as this sounds, I want to enjoy this.... every part of it. Of course if I'm high risk thing will change from there...thank you everyone!
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| CanCan - 2014-03-22 1:14 AM
You get your butt to the hospital and don't let them talk you into any of that rooming in crap. Make 'em keep the baby in the nursery. You'll need your rest. Also, avail yourself of all the luxuries of modern medicine.
Love,
Mother of 3
I disagree, the research shows better milk let down, less incidence of post partum depression with rooming in.
This is your child, you choose to have said child, the child becomes your responsibility when you choose to carry child to term, it is not the nurses responsibility to care for your child for the first few days.
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Location: Texas | Congratulations!
SO i too am 14 weeks pregnant with my first live child (one previous miscarriage) and freaked out. First settle down, you have LONG time to decide on your birth plan as I have figured out. Secondly do your research. I have gone to two doctors, and one birthing center.
I wouldn't want to have my first at home because lets face it. This is going to be hard and I WILL want to quit half way through and most people live a lot farther from a hospital.
I am about to leave my doctor and transfer all my care to a midwife at a birthing center. They are 5 minutes from a hospital where there are more midwives, doctors, and care in case of an emergency.
I personally hate doctors. They are pushy and dont listen to what you want and they try to plan your labor and birth, I.E. inducing when it isnt necessary forceps all that jazz. Yes there are times when those things are needed and I am fully prepared to accept that I may need those things. But if i dont Im not going to. They just induced my cousin and her baby was tiny and early because they were off on her due date. I want a drug free labor and birth. I want to do a water birth. They dont allow that in a hospital with a DR.
There are hospitals with midwives if you want to go more natural. Or go the medicated way. It what makes YOU feel more comfortable. I am not comfortable with some hospital taking my baby away to a nursery and bottle feeding it when I clearly have said I only want to breastfeed. I am not comfortable with laying on my back spread eagle with a doctor and 5 nurses around me. I am not comfortable with staying in a hospital for days when a birthing center sends you home the same day.
Yes im a little bit of a hippy lol but Im okay with that. I like using herbel remedies, allowing nature to take it course and let your body do whats necessary. Birthing centers you are allowed to get up and move around. THey monitor your baby and you just like in a hospital. Your allowed to eat and drink, and there is only one midwife and maybe an intern. (Remember this is with my birthing center) After the birth you get to eat a meal, they teach you how to breastfeed if thats what you want to do and then you get a warm herbal bath for you and baby and then you get to go home. Oh you have to go potty as well before they let you leave.
My mom had two hospital birth and one at a birthing center (me). I have to say a midwife is well trained. I wasnt breathing and had no heartbeat when I was born and she knew what to do. They have alternative ways to stop a hemorrhage and know when to act and get your butt to a hospital.
Please do what your most comfortable with. Some women want 20 people around them and pictures and cameras and a all that. Some want it to just be her and hubby. I am the latter. People tell me Im crazy for not wanting to be in a hospital with an epidural and its unsafe and blah blah blah. But its what Im most comfortable with, and after all im the only one doing any of the work so my opinion is the only one that matters lol!
Good luck and enjoy it!
ETA google and youtube is going to be your best friend.
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| My babies are 23 months and 7 months and I had them both in the hospital. I was induced with my first one, but had I been more assure of what my body could do, I would have let her show up when she wanted. With the second one I labored at home and when the contractions got to be more than I could stand we went to the hospital. Baby boy was in a hurry had him 45 minutes later. All natural, asking for drugs the entire time but he was in too big of hurry. I will say I recovered from his birth much faster and felt better. Glad both were in the hospital.
My advice is to be in control of your decisions. Research what you want and don't want. But that being said realize no matter how planned you are things pop up and a different plan must be used. If you are determined low risk hire a midwife but I would still have the baby at the hospital. The hospital is more prepared for emergencies.
I roomed in with my babies to help my milk come in. Lots of skin to skin. But they still have to take the baby for test, so rest then. No shame in sending them to the nursery for a little while.
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | I have 2 boys, and I say go to the hospital to be on the safe side. For the babys sake anyways, you just never know what can go wrong. | |
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| The idea of having your child at home seems nice, but if there's complications you really don't want that stress/risk. After taking my OB class for nursing and learning all the things that can happen... its not something I would even consider. Congrats tho!!!!
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Location: Idaho | Alicat0909 - 2014-03-22 10:34 AM
Congratulations!
SO i too am 14 weeks pregnant with my first live child (one previous miscarriage) and freaked out. First settle down, you have LONG time to decide on your birth plan as I have figured out. Secondly do your research. I have gone to two doctors, and one birthing center.
I wouldn't want to have my first at home because lets face it. This is going to be hard and I WILL want to quit half way through and most people live a lot farther from a hospital.
I am about to leave my doctor and transfer all my care to a midwife at a birthing center. They are 5 minutes from a hospital where there are more midwives, doctors, and care in case of an emergency.
I personally hate doctors. They are pushy and dont listen to what you want and they try to plan your labor and birth, I.E. inducing when it isnt necessary forceps all that jazz. Yes there are times when those things are needed and I am fully prepared to accept that I may need those things. But if i dont Im not going to. They just induced my cousin and her baby was tiny and early because they were off on her due date. I want a drug free labor and birth. I want to do a water birth. They dont allow that in a hospital with a DR.
There are hospitals with midwives if you want to go more natural. Or go the medicated way. It what makes YOU feel more comfortable. I am not comfortable with some hospital taking my baby away to a nursery and bottle feeding it when I clearly have said I only want to breastfeed. I am not comfortable with laying on my back spread eagle with a doctor and 5 nurses around me. I am not comfortable with staying in a hospital for days when a birthing center sends you home the same day.
Yes im a little bit of a hippy lol but Im okay with that. I like using herbel remedies, allowing nature to take it course and let your body do whats necessary. Birthing centers you are allowed to get up and move around. THey monitor your baby and you just like in a hospital. Your allowed to eat and drink, and there is only one midwife and maybe an intern. (Remember this is with my birthing center) After the birth you get to eat a meal, they teach you how to breastfeed if thats what you want to do and then you get a warm herbal bath for you and baby and then you get to go home. Oh you have to go potty as well before they let you leave.
My mom had two hospital birth and one at a birthing center (me). I have to say a midwife is well trained. I wasnt breathing and had no heartbeat when I was born and she knew what to do. They have alternative ways to stop a hemorrhage and know when to act and get your butt to a hospital.
Please do what your most comfortable with. Some women want 20 people around them and pictures and cameras and a all that. Some want it to just be her and hubby. I am the latter. People tell me Im crazy for not wanting to be in a hospital with an epidural and its unsafe and blah blah blah. But its what Im most comfortable with, and after all im the only one doing any of the work so my opinion is the only one that matters lol!
Good luck and enjoy it!
ETA google and youtube is going to be your best friend.
Thank you and congrats to you as well! Also thank you for wrighting down what I wanted to say! I'm a control freak and a big part of the management team on a large organic dairy. I research things to death and I'm good at sorting out the extremes. Those mamma cows are my life I feel responsible for everything we give them and how they are cared for. This is the same responsibility I feel now with my body and the baby growing inside. I feel the more correct information I gather now will help me make better decisions when the time comes! :) | |
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Location: Arkansas | You have to do whatever feels right to you.
Both mine were born in a hospital. I toyed with the idea of home birth but decided it was too risky. My first was a drug free water birth. Everything went perfect. Hurt but nothing unbearable. The worst part was how exhausted I was after. I slept the next two days. So tired I barely held my daughter.
For my second I had an epidural. I was rested and it was so easy. I got to enjoy him.
The drug free delivery was empowering but I know I'm tough and I don't need to prove it to myself again. I would rather be rested to enjoy it. I also roomed in with both. Didn't want someone else messing with my babies more necessary! :) | |
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| 22Tango - 2014-03-22 5:27 PM You have to do whatever feels right to you. Both mine were born in a hospital. I toyed with the idea of home birth but decided it was too risky. My first was a drug free water birth. Everything went perfect. Hurt but nothing unbearable. The worst part was how exhausted I was after. I slept the next two days. So tired I barely held my daughter. For my second I had an epidural. I was rested and it was so easy. I got to enjoy him. The drug free delivery was empowering but I know I'm tough and I don't need to prove it to myself again. I would rather be rested to enjoy it. I also roomed in with both. Didn't want someone else messing with my babies more necessary! :)
I want to make sure I follow here..... the water birth was at a hospital? I didn't know they did water births at a hospital. I am imagining the movie I saw where the baby was born in a kiddy pool in the living room with a bunch of women in the room..... I can't remember the name of the movie, but maybe Jennifer Lopez was in it...or Jennifer Aniston. | |
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | Before you get way ahead of yourself, seeing that you have 9 months :).....Write down all the reasons why you want a home birth, the concerns you have with a hospital, and take them with you to your doctor. I assure you that if you have a good doctor he/she will have heard this concerns dozens of times and may have some answers to ease your mind.
Also, you can tour some hospitals before you choose them for giving birth, some, but not all. Biggest thing is open communication not only with your doctor but with your spouse/SO and which ever family members you want there during delivery. YOU can choose which drugs they can or can't give you, you can choose how many ppl to have there, and so forth. You will have a certain amount of control. | |
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Location: Texas | sodapop - 2014-03-22 6:40 PM
22Tango - 2014-03-22 5:27 PM You have to do whatever feels right to you. Both mine were born in a hospital. I toyed with the idea of home birth but decided it was too risky. My first was a drug free water birth. Everything went perfect. Hurt but nothing unbearable. The worst part was how exhausted I was after. I slept the next two days. So tired I barely held my daughter. For my second I had an epidural. I was rested and it was so easy. I got to enjoy him. The drug free delivery was empowering but I know I'm tough and I don't need to prove it to myself again. I would rather be rested to enjoy it. I also roomed in with both. Didn't want someone else messing with my babies more necessary! :)
I want to make sure I follow here..... the water birth was at a hospital? I didn't know they did water births at a hospital. I am imagining the movie I saw where the baby was born in a kiddy pool in the living room with a bunch of women in the room..... I can't remember the name of the movie, but maybe Jennifer Lopez was in it...or Jennifer Aniston.
Wow I didn't know they allowed to birth in the water at a hospital. Ours only lets you labor in the water. | |
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Location: 100 miles from Nowhere, AR | 22Tango - 2014-03-22 5:27 PM
You have to do whatever feels right to you.
Both mine were born in a hospital. I toyed with the idea of home birth but decided it was too risky. My first was a drug free water birth. Everything went perfect. Hurt but nothing unbearable. The worst part was how exhausted I was after. I slept the next two days. So tired I barely held my daughter.
For my second I had an epidural. I was rested and it was so easy. I got to enjoy him.
The drug free delivery was empowering but I know I'm tough and I don't need to prove it to myself again. I would rather be rested to enjoy it. I also roomed in with both. Didn't want someone else messing with my babies more necessary! :)
My experience was the opposite. I felt awesome after my drug free birth and was hardly sore after. The first one, I lost a ton of blood and hurt for a month. I hated delivering leaned back with my legs hiked up like you have to with an epi. Hated it. | |
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| I think it is up to you. But I would have died with our first even if they would have an ambulance in the drive way, instead of being in the hospital. Our second son would have most likely not been ok if we weren't in the hospital with a well trained staff her he was born. There a lot of hospitals that will give you your wishes in delivery but they are there if something goes wrong. I did both with no drugs and had 22 stitches with the first, and none with the second. Good luck
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Location: Stephenville, TX | sodapop - 2014-03-22 6:40 PM 22Tango - 2014-03-22 5:27 PM You have to do whatever feels right to you. Both mine were born in a hospital. I toyed with the idea of home birth but decided it was too risky. My first was a drug free water birth. Everything went perfect. Hurt but nothing unbearable. The worst part was how exhausted I was after. I slept the next two days. So tired I barely held my daughter. For my second I had an epidural. I was rested and it was so easy. I got to enjoy him. The drug free delivery was empowering but I know I'm tough and I don't need to prove it to myself again. I would rather be rested to enjoy it. I also roomed in with both. Didn't want someone else messing with my babies more necessary! :) I want to make sure I follow here..... the water birth was at a hospital? I didn't know they did water births at a hospital. I am imagining the movie I saw where the baby was born in a kiddy pool in the living room with a bunch of women in the room..... I can't remember the name of the movie, but maybe Jennifer Lopez was in it...or Jennifer Aniston.
Jennifer Lopez in The Back Up Plan..."you're my focal point".
That's all I can contribute to this thread besides a big congrats to the OP!
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Location: Oklahoma | kasaj2000 - 2014-03-22 6:40 AM
CanCan - 2014-03-22 2:14 AM You get your butt to the hospital and don't let them talk you into any of that rooming in crap. Make 'em keep the baby in the nursery. You'll need your rest. Also, avail yourself of all the luxuries of modern medicine.
Love,
Mother of 3
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Ditto! My daughter and I both wouldn't have made it had we had a home delivery. God gave doctors the knowledge to know what to do, when. I had an emergency C-section 6 months ago yesterday...I'll never regret trying to be "superwoman" and have that girl on my own. I had a happy, healthy baby with the technology of modern medicine...gimme the drugs and take care of me and that baby!! | |
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Location: Texas | I guess I missed why you don't want to deliver at the hospital?
Having a baby "at home" is trendy now. Just like not getting your kids vaccinated. People do things like this because it's seemingly the earthy/organic option and it blows my mind.
No offense but if you were REALLY a control freak, the unknowns that are inherent with pregnancy would make you choose to birth in a hospital hands down. 1. You have absolutely no idea how your delivery will go. I HATED not knowing how my body would handle the process. Would it be 2 hours? 24 hours? Will there be an issue and end up a c-section? 2. you have NO idea how your baby will be. Perfectly healthy (probably)? Minor issues? Major issues?
I'm a prep for the worst kind of person. As out of control as I felt (simply due to the entire process of bringing a child into this world), knowing I had all my bases covered made me feel as good as it was going to get.
And again, i have no idea why people have problems with hospitals.
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| Running Roan - 2014-03-23 7:53 PM sodapop - 2014-03-22 6:40 PM 22Tango - 2014-03-22 5:27 PM You have to do whatever feels right to you. Both mine were born in a hospital. I toyed with the idea of home birth but decided it was too risky. My first was a drug free water birth. Everything went perfect. Hurt but nothing unbearable. The worst part was how exhausted I was after. I slept the next two days. So tired I barely held my daughter. For my second I had an epidural. I was rested and it was so easy. I got to enjoy him. The drug free delivery was empowering but I know I'm tough and I don't need to prove it to myself again. I would rather be rested to enjoy it. I also roomed in with both. Didn't want someone else messing with my babies more necessary! :) I want to make sure I follow here..... the water birth was at a hospital? I didn't know they did water births at a hospital. I am imagining the movie I saw where the baby was born in a kiddy pool in the living room with a bunch of women in the room..... I can't remember the name of the movie, but maybe Jennifer Lopez was in it...or Jennifer Aniston.
That's all I can contribute to this thread besides a big congrats to the OP!
This is exactly what I think of when I think of home births or water deliveries.
Congrats to the OP!! I'm 13 weeks today. I know for sure I will deliver in a hospital with drugs if I can. I'm too far from a good hospital and hearing some stories of what some women have gone through just makes me want to be in a hospital with the best medical treatment available to myself and the baby. I don't care if there's one or several medical professionals in my room when I deliver, either way it's going to be awkward. I think deliver is the biggest part I'm most scared of...pain and I'm so modest I can't imagine all that's going to be going on down there. Anyway, congrats and good luck with your decision. | |
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Location: Near San Antonio, TX | bocephus's mama - 2014-03-24 8:26 AM I guess I missed why you don't want to deliver at the hospital?
Having a baby "at home" is trendy now. Just like not getting your kids vaccinated. People do things like this because it's seemingly the earthy/organic option and it blows my mind.
No offense but if you were REALLY a control freak, the unknowns that are inherent with pregnancy would make you choose to birth in a hospital hands down. 1. You have absolutely no idea how your delivery will go. I HATED not knowing how my body would handle the process. Would it be 2 hours? 24 hours? Will there be an issue and end up a c-section? 2. you have NO idea how your baby will be. Perfectly healthy (probably)? Minor issues? Major issues?
I'm a prep for the worst kind of person. As out of control as I felt (simply due to the entire process of bringing a child into this world), knowing I had all my bases covered made me feel as good as it was going to get.
And again, i have no idea why people have problems with hospitals.
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| For my third, I went to a practice with a dr & 2 midwives, and was a birthing center. I could have chosen to have my baby there if I had not had 2 prior C-Sections. I also had the option to hire either midwife to act as a doula if I wanted to. I had a drug free birth in the hospital, but mostly labored at home. Laboring at home gives you a lot of freedom, even if you give birth in the hospital. I was able to get in the tub a few times, went out to lunch, walked around the field, and wasn't hooked up to all the monitors. We went to the hospital when the contractions got closer together & more painful. It does hurt, but it is doable.
I didn’t tell anyone I planned to go drug free except my husband because I didn’t want to hear the horror stories about how it would be too hard, and I wouldn’t be able to do it. I was at the hospital for about 2.5 hours before the baby arrived. I also didn’t do any of the pain management techniques (Lamaze, Bradley, Hypno-babies). I read up on them, and none seemed to be right for me, so I just figured millions of women have done this before me, I can do it too. I know a few people who really liked Bradley, and my Dr suggested the hypnobabies, so those may be something that would work for you.
I also chose to have my babies with me in the room, as I agree nursing goes better when there is lots of skin to skin contact. You can google skin to skin and kangaroo care for info on that. I also just wanted to look at them, and touch them –even with number 3! I think if I had a dozen it would be the same.
In the end, you know you. Do what makes you feel comfortable, and don’t beat yourself up if things don’t go exactly the way you planned. Don’t let other people talk you out of what you feel is right, and carry that over into being a parent.
Congrats!!
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Location: FL | From the perspective of a current nursing student, there are far too may risks involved with home-birth, and even the most ideal pregnancy can end in a traumatic birth process. In fact, while I was doing my OB clinicals, one of the patients that we had was a mother being brought in from a home-birth. Mom had hemorrhaged and apparently baby had been in bad shape for some time, but it all went undetected until it was nearly too late. That could have easily been avoided. In a hospital setting, nurses and doctors could have intervened far sooner thanks to the monitoring devices we have available to us.
You can have your cake and eat it too. MANY hospitals will allow you to have as close to the 'granola', home-birth experience as possible while still affording yourself the safety of being under the watchful eye of trained nurses and doctors with access to medical supplies. I will admit, I thought I was going to be one of those 'super-moms' who does everything as natural as possible. I had an uncomplicated pregnancy and was ready to rock this whole child birth thing. WRONG. I'll spare you the gory details but had I not been in a hospital, my daughter and I both would be dead.
Find a facility and a physician who is willing to work with you and what you want for your pregnancy/birth process. You can relax in a jacuzzi, roll around on a birthing ball, whatever. But you also need to be aware that at any given time, you will need to let the powers that be interceed in case of emergency and the best place to be in that event is in a hospital. You owe it to yourself and your baby. | |
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| Any mom having difficulties I think would advise being in a hospital. I do understand the romance behind the idea of home birth, but one small flaw in the process and things can go downhill very, very fast.
My advise is to check out both your doctor and facilities thoroughly. Make sure you are comfortable with both. Most doctors have admitting priviledges at more than one hospital or birthing center.
My bad experience had everything to do with a poor doc and antiquitated hospital. I so wanted to change facilities. And seriously, my anesthesiologist was watching a Broncos game while inserting the needle into my spine. I wonder if that had anything to do with me crashing (bp 40/0) when they put the meds in?? Yet another reason I don't agree with Catholic Charities -- they send the women giving up their babies for adoption to the cheapest, dirtiest hospitals possible.
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Location: Choctaw, OK | I so wish I could go back and have both of mine at home, naturally. If I do ever have another I plan a home birth with a midwife. If you are healthy and able I say definatley look into it more! Read the Birth Book by Dr Sears. So much GREAT info! I am also pro delaying cord clamping, delaying the first bath, extended breastfeeding, immediate skin to skin contact after birth (no being whisked away) and anti vaccine. | |
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Location: FL | RoughstockKennel - 2014-03-24 12:18 PM
I so wish I could go back and have both of mine at home, naturally. If I do ever have another I plan a home birth with a midwife. If you are healthy and able I say definatley look into it more! Read the Birth Book by Dr Sears. So much GREAT info! I am also pro delaying cord clamping, delaying the first bath, extended breastfeeding, immediate skin to skin contact after birth (no being whisked away) and anti vaccine.
I totally respect anyone who feels this way, and honestly, it makes my heart happy to see parents who believe in doing things the natural way in regards to skin to skin and breastfeeding. So many good things to be said about that. I just encourage you to be at least at a birthing center, if not at a hospital.
I worry so much about parents who think ''Oh well, I'm healthy, this baby is healthy and everything should be fine". I was one of them. I did the research, read the books, learned all there was to learn about natural child birth. I had a fantastic pregnancy and a healthy baby, totally ready to do things the good 'ol fashioned way. Within a second things went south quickly. I crashed twice, my daughter, 3 times. Family was shoved out in the hallway and codes were being called. It was not pretty. And I was supposed to have been an ideal candidate for natural birth.
Now, I know that everyone has a different story, and many, many people have beautiful home birth experiences. I envy them! But I have seen both sides, as a patient and a student nurse. Please choose wisely and allow yourself to have the best of both worlds. | |
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| RoughstockKennel - 2014-03-24 1:18 PM I so wish I could go back and have both of mine at home, naturally. If I do ever have another I plan a home birth with a midwife. If you are healthy and able I say definatley look into it more! Read the Birth Book by Dr Sears. So much GREAT info! I am also pro delaying cord clamping, delaying the first bath, extended breastfeeding, immediate skin to skin contact after birth (no being whisked away) and anti vaccine.
I had mine in a hospital, and had all of this - it doesn't have to be a bad experience at a hospital, you just have to really do you homework.
I caught my baby, laid her on my chest, the nurse did a quick exam while she was laying on my chest, and the dr & nurse left the room.
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| RoughstockKennel - 2014-03-24 12:18 PM
I so wish I could go back and have both of mine at home, naturally. If I do ever have another I plan a home birth with a midwife. If you are healthy and able I say definatley look into it more! Read the Birth Book by Dr Sears. So much GREAT info! I am also pro delaying cord clamping, delaying the first bath, extended breastfeeding, immediate skin to skin contact after birth (no being whisked away) and anti vaccine.
Sorry my like went to dislike.
I am glad women are feeling empowered to have the choice midwife or doctor.
Midwives also have tools and instruments to measure fetal heart rate, and they also have the experience to identify if things are going wrong.
To the person who wants drugs while delivering. Please read up on drug use during labor and delivery, as the drugs you do take negatively impact your child in some way.
I am not saying no to all drugs, but don't make the decision without reading the literature first.
Iv narcotics cause initial problems with the child, and also affect the sucking reflex. One thinks the doctors can give narcan to reverse the effects, but narcan has a very short half life, so the baby can still have complications after the narcan administration.
Epidurals also have a negative impact on the child as well, the research has proven epidurals negatively impact the sucking reflex for up to 30 days post partum.
C section the research is also showing reduces the woman's life by 5 years.
General anesthetic give in c sections can actually cause the heart to stop in the child post delivery.
The point is not to scare anyone, but do your research make the decision with your eyes wide open.
I just retread you are anti vaccine, this I do disagree with you as the only way small pox was eradicated world wide was vaccination.
Due to anti vaccinationers in Alberta we have had 2 measles outbreaks within the last 6 months.
All deadly diseases are one flight away, one classroom away, one table away. Tetanus will never be eradicated as it lives in the soil, people still die every year from the disease.
I could go on and on, but to the people who refuse vaccines are not only putting their children at risk but all immunosupressed, cancer fighters and survivors.
IMHO if people who don't vaccinate cause a death of someone who cannot receive the vaccine should be charged with murder.
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Location: Texas | Before this turns into a total debate and everything is lost.
OP A good thing to read was The Business of Being Born by Ricki Lake
I havent had the chance to get it yet but it has come highly recommended. My best friend had her baby in a hospital with drugs. She said she wished she would have read that first because she would have done everything differently.
Not sure what she meant exactly but I cant wait to read it.
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Location: PNW | bocephus's mama - 2014-03-24 8:26 AM
I guess I missed why you don't want to deliver at the hospital?
Having a baby "at home" is trendy now. Just like not getting your kids vaccinated. People do things like this because it's seemingly the earthy/organic option and it blows my mind.
No offense but if you were REALLY a control freak, the unknowns that are inherent with pregnancy would make you choose to birth in a hospital hands down. 1. You have absolutely no idea how your delivery will go. I HATED not knowing how my body would handle the process. Would it be 2 hours? 24 hours? Will there be an issue and end up a c-section? 2. you have NO idea how your baby will be. Perfectly healthy (probably)? Minor issues? Major issues?
I'm a prep for the worst kind of person. As out of control as I felt (simply due to the entire process of bringing a child into this world), knowing I had all my bases covered made me feel as good as it was going to get.
And again, i have no idea why people have problems with hospitals.
This. Especially the bit about people wanting to be earthy and organic.
Also, your info that the US has a high rate of C-sections - is also tied to the fact that we have a lot of inductions too.
I went into my first pregnancy with plans of a drug-free natural birth whenever my son was ready. Ha.
At 28 weeks he went into total heart failure (HR of 300+ and hydropic)we were rushed three hours by ambulance to a hospital that could handle the situation. I spent the rest of my pregnancy on hospital bed rest, my son got several IM shots of heart medication (yes, in utero, through my belly), I was kept on essentially lethal doses of the same medication to make sure enough went through the placenta to keep his heart rate down. He was born at 36 weeks, 3 days via cesarean.
I thank God every day for a healthy heart that allowed me to be medicated like that, for guiding the doctors responsible for our care, and for THAT HOSPITAL - where he spent two weeks in the NICU after he was born while his doctors got his medications dialed in.
We were HOURS away from losing our son at 28 weeks. He's here, he's PERFECTLY healthy and wild - just like an 18 month old should be.
The important thing is getting your baby here safely - your way of doing that: hospital, home, drugs, no drugs, vaginal, cesarean, in a tub, on a bed, standing on your head, whatever - DOES NOT DEFINE YOU AS A WOMAN OR AS A MOTHER. AND DONT LET ANYONE TELL YOU OTHERWISE.
I'm 18 weeks with my second, and we will be delivering at that same hospital, three hours from home, via a repeat cesarean. After two months in the L&D ICU and then two weeks in the NICU... There is a MUCH longer list of life-threatening "what-ifs" than most people realize. Talk to your doctor AND the L&D department about your birth plan. They will try their best! Heck, I got to listen to Dave Stamey songs during my cesarean - the only part of my birth plan that WAS salvageable.
Yes, women in Africa and South America give birth at home - BUT THIS IS AMERICA - Take advantage of our science and all the blessings it has made possible for so many families. | |
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Location: PNW | cheryl makofka - 2014-03-24 4:33 PM
RoughstockKennel - 2014-03-24 12:18 PM
I so wish I could go back and have both of mine at home, naturally. If I do ever have another I plan a home birth with a midwife. If you are healthy and able I say definatley look into it more! Read the Birth Book by Dr Sears. So much GREAT info! I am also pro delaying cord clamping, delaying the first bath, extended breastfeeding, immediate skin to skin contact after birth (no being whisked away) and anti vaccine.
Sorry my like went to dislike.
I am glad women are feeling empowered to have the choice midwife or doctor.
Midwives also have tools and instruments to measure fetal heart rate, and they also have the experience to identify if things are going wrong.
To the person who wants drugs while delivering. Please read up on drug use during labor and delivery, as the drugs you do take negatively impact your child in some way.
I am not saying no to all drugs, but don't make the decision without reading the literature first.
Iv narcotics cause initial problems with the child, and also affect the sucking reflex. One thinks the doctors can give narcan to reverse the effects, but narcan has a very short half life, so the baby can still have complications after the narcan administration.
Epidurals also have a negative impact on the child as well, the research has proven epidurals negatively impact the sucking reflex for up to 30 days post partum.
C section the research is also showing reduces the woman's life by 5 years.
General anesthetic give in c sections can actually cause the heart to stop in the child post delivery.
The point is not to scare anyone, but do your research make the decision with your eyes wide open.
I just retread you are anti vaccine, this I do disagree with you as the only way small pox was eradicated world wide was vaccination.
Due to anti vaccinationers in Alberta we have had 2 measles outbreaks within the last 6 months.
All deadly diseases are one flight away, one classroom away, one table away. Tetanus will never be eradicated as it lives in the soil, people still die every year from the disease.
I could go on and on, but to the people who refuse vaccines are not only putting their children at risk but all immunosupressed, cancer fighters and survivors.
IMHO if people who don't vaccinate cause a death of someone who cannot receive the vaccine should be charged with murder.
I can't highlight on my phone....
Your info on the general anesthesia during a cesarean is lacking some detail.
General is reserved for EMERGENCY situations: routine cesareans are done with a spinal OR an epidural if the patient already has one inserted.
As a mom of a child who had a heart condition (he's 100% healthy now), in an emergency situation - SHOULD the heart stop, doctors have methods of restarting it within SECONDS. My son's heart was PURPOSEFULLY stopped and then restarted twice using the medication Adenosine.
I said it in my last post, and I'll say it again.
A healthy baby is the goal. Your delivery method and choices do not define you in any way. Talk to your doctor/midwife. Get some great personal experiences on here, but make whatever decision you and your healthcare professional feel will get your baby here safely. | |
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Location: Texas | Alicat0909 - 2014-03-24 5:53 PM Before this turns into a total debate and everything is lost. OP A good thing to read was The Business of Being Born by Ricki Lake I havent had the chance to get it yet but it has come highly recommended. My best friend had her baby in a hospital with drugs. She said she wished she would have read that first because she would have done everything differently. Not sure what she meant exactly but I cant wait to read it.
Ah, yes. Dr. Ricki Lake.
It's celebrities like this that help perpetuate fads. I'm all for the right to choose but Jeez, don't base your opinion on someone that has no medical knowledge. Seriously. The lack of common sense astounds me. | |
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Location: Idaho | bocephus's mama - 2014-03-24 6:54 PM
Alicat0909 - 2014-03-24 5:53 PM Before this turns into a total debate and everything is lost. OP A good thing to read was The Business of Being Born by Ricki Lake I havent had the chance to get it yet but it has come highly recommended. My best friend had her baby in a hospital with drugs. She said she wished she would have read that first because she would have done everything differently. Not sure what she meant exactly but I cant wait to read it.
Ah, yes. Dr. Ricki Lake.
It's celebrities like this that help perpetuate fads. I'm all for the right to choose but Jeez, don't base your opinion on someone that has no medical knowledge. Seriously. The lack of common sense astounds me.
OK I'm going to have yo put a stop to this. I wasnt going to reply, but give me a break. Forgive me if I'm wrong but I believe you made the comment about me not being a ture control freak... and if I was I would have my child in the hospital. What I like to have more then control is factual information. I do not live with my head in the clouds and this isn't about "an organic experience". Its about having options and researching, questioning, and scrutinizing each of them until you are comfortable making decisions in the heat of the moment. Just because its not the "norm" doesn't mean it wrong. Same goes for the opposite. Now let's be nice because I was enjoying hearing from all of you. | |
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Location: Idaho | svincent - 2014-03-24 6:45 PM
cheryl makofka - 2014-03-24 4:33 PM
RoughstockKennel - 2014-03-24 12:18 PM
I so wish I could go back and have both of mine at home, naturally. If I do ever have another I plan a home birth with a midwife. If you are healthy and able I say definatley look into it more! Read the Birth Book by Dr Sears. So much GREAT info! I am also pro delaying cord clamping, delaying the first bath, extended breastfeeding, immediate skin to skin contact after birth (no being whisked away) and anti vaccine.
Sorry my like went to dislike.
I am glad women are feeling empowered to have the choice midwife or doctor.
Midwives also have tools and instruments to measure fetal heart rate, and they also have the experience to identify if things are going wrong.
To the person who wants drugs while delivering. Please read up on drug use during labor and delivery, as the drugs you do take negatively impact your child in some way.
I am not saying no to all drugs, but don't make the decision without reading the literature first.
Iv narcotics cause initial problems with the child, and also affect the sucking reflex. One thinks the doctors can give narcan to reverse the effects, but narcan has a very short half life, so the baby can still have complications after the narcan administration.
Epidurals also have a negative impact on the child as well, the research has proven epidurals negatively impact the sucking reflex for up to 30 days post partum.
C section the research is also showing reduces the woman's life by 5 years.
General anesthetic give in c sections can actually cause the heart to stop in the child post delivery.
The point is not to scare anyone, but do your research make the decision with your eyes wide open.
I just retread you are anti vaccine, this I do disagree with you as the only way small pox was eradicated world wide was vaccination.
Due to anti vaccinationers in Alberta we have had 2 measles outbreaks within the last 6 months.
All deadly diseases are one flight away, one classroom away, one table away. Tetanus will never be eradicated as it lives in the soil, people still die every year from the disease.
I could go on and on, but to the people who refuse vaccines are not only putting their children at risk but all immunosupressed, cancer fighters and survivors.
IMHO if people who don't vaccinate cause a death of someone who cannot receive the vaccine should be charged with murder.
I can't highlight on my phone....
Your info on the general anesthesia during a cesarean is lacking some detail.
General is reserved for EMERGENCY situations: routine cesareans are done with a spinal OR an epidural if the patient already has one inserted.
As a mom of a child who had a heart condition (he's 100% healthy now ), in an emergency situation - SHOULD the heart stop, doctors have methods of restarting it within SECONDS. My son's heart was PURPOSEFULLY stopped and then restarted twice using the medication Adenosine.
I said it in my last post, and I'll say it again.
A healthy baby is the goal. Your delivery method and choices do not define you in any way. Talk to your doctor/midwife. Get some great personal experiences on here, but make whatever decision you and your healthcare professional feel will get your baby here safely.
This is what I'm interested in hearing. ..thank you for sharing :) | |
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Location: Texas | cowpony45 - 2014-03-24 7:06 PM bocephus's mama - 2014-03-24 6:54 PM Alicat0909 - 2014-03-24 5:53 PM Before this turns into a total debate and everything is lost. OP A good thing to read was The Business of Being Born by Ricki Lake I havent had the chance to get it yet but it has come highly recommended. My best friend had her baby in a hospital with drugs. She said she wished she would have read that first because she would have done everything differently. Not sure what she meant exactly but I cant wait to read it. Ah, yes. Dr. Ricki Lake.
It's celebrities like this that help perpetuate fads. I'm all for the right to choose but Jeez, don't base your opinion on someone that has no medical knowledge. Seriously. The lack of common sense astounds me. OK I'm going to have yo put a stop to this. I wasnt going to reply, but give me a break. Forgive me if I'm wrong but I believe you made the comment about me not being a ture control freak... and if I was I would have my child in the hospital. What I like to have more then control is factual information. I do not live with my head in the clouds and this isn't about "an organic experience". Its about having options and researching, questioning, and scrutinizing each of them until you are comfortable making decisions in the heat of the moment. Just because its not the "norm" doesn't mean it wrong. Same goes for the opposite. Now let's be nice because I was enjoying hearing from all of you.
I asked you in my first post, just bc I was curious, why you wanted to deliver out of a hospital. I honestly am interested in the answer. Since you've done so much research, I'm sure you'll come up with something intelligent and add to the conversation.
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Location: Idaho | bocephus's mama - 2014-03-24 7:40 PM
cowpony45 - 2014-03-24 7:06 PM bocephus's mama - 2014-03-24 6:54 PM Alicat0909 - 2014-03-24 5:53 PM Before this turns into a total debate and everything is lost. OP A good thing to read was The Business of Being Born by Ricki Lake I havent had the chance to get it yet but it has come highly recommended. My best friend had her baby in a hospital with drugs. She said she wished she would have read that first because she would have done everything differently. Not sure what she meant exactly but I cant wait to read it. Ah, yes. Dr. Ricki Lake.
It's celebrities like this that help perpetuate fads. I'm all for the right to choose but Jeez, don't base your opinion on someone that has no medical knowledge. Seriously. The lack of common sense astounds me. OK I'm going to have yo put a stop to this. I wasnt going to reply, but give me a break. Forgive me if I'm wrong but I believe you made the comment about me not being a ture control freak... and if I was I would have my child in the hospital. What I like to have more then control is factual information. I do not live with my head in the clouds and this isn't about "an organic experience". Its about having options and researching, questioning, and scrutinizing each of them until you are comfortable making decisions in the heat of the moment. Just because its not the "norm" doesn't mean it wrong. Same goes for the opposite. Now let's be nice because I was enjoying hearing from all of you.
I wanted to reply to your first post. But you came across as someone looking to stir the pot and I didn't feel like encouraging that behivor. And with this post it seems like you are going to continue so anything intelligent I have to say won't be heard anyways. I'm really not trying to be rude, but some things can come across the wrong way over the internet and I hope this is my misunderstanding. | |
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Location: Texas | You asked for "thoughts on the subject" which I gave. This place can be SUCH a great learning experience. My political knowledge alone came from trying to support statements I made here. Just trying to make you think - REALLY think. You said you've done research, I'm interested - mainly in the issues with hospitals. | |
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Location: Beggs, OK | bocephus's mama - 2014-03-24 6:54 PM Alicat0909 - 2014-03-24 5:53 PM Before this turns into a total debate and everything is lost. OP A good thing to read was The Business of Being Born by Ricki Lake I havent had the chance to get it yet but it has come highly recommended. My best friend had her baby in a hospital with drugs. She said she wished she would have read that first because she would have done everything differently. Not sure what she meant exactly but I cant wait to read it. Ah, yes. Dr. Ricki Lake.
It's celebrities like this that help perpetuate fads. I'm all for the right to choose but Jeez, don't base your opinion on someone that has no medical knowledge. Seriously. The lack of common sense astounds me.
I tried to watch that ridiculous movie last week....only because I have an abnormal amount of time on my hands. Turned it off halfway through because it's scary that people actually follow along with that mess without knowing how quickly things can go wrong.
I had major blood pressure issues with my first delivery.
Hemorrhaged after my second.
...Now, I'm pregnant with twins and have a type of placenta previa that would be tough to diagnose even on ultrasound and had a major bleeding episode 9 weeks ago. If I had tried to have a home birth with any of these issues who knows how it would have turned out.
I have never had my babies taken away from me immediately after birth. They were given right to me, wiped off, and I nursed them for as long as I needed to before they were ever given a bath. I've had fantastic labor and delivery nurses and wouldn't change anything about any of the birthing experiences that I've had. I'll be having a c-section with the twins I'm carrying now, because I CAN'T give birth naturally as the placenta of one of the babies is blocking my cervix.
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Location: Idaho | bocephus's mama - 2014-03-24 8:16 PM
You asked for "thoughts on the subject" which I gave. This place can be SUCH a great learning experience. My political knowledge alone came from trying to support statements I made here. Just trying to make you think - REALLY think. You said you've done research, I'm interested - mainly in the issues with hospitals.
Your right I absolutely asked for thoughts on this subject. And I asked them here because I feel like I can get an answer, or think about something in a different way or ask more questions. But you need to understand you came off very rude in your first post to me and I just don't feel like I have enough information to stand my ground at this point. You keep saying that I've "done my research", but what you keep missing is that I've been clear I haven't even seen my doctor yet to get answers to the questions I had before I started this post and that I have now. I never said I was not going to deliver in the hospital. I never said I wasn't. I said I keep hearing about all these horrible experiences my friends are telling me about their labor and it kinda makes you want to question both sides. The drugs are another issue I have. I don't know what's available or used and I would like to know well before hand what is going into my body and what effect it will have. You really don't need to worry about me not REALLY thinking about this....I already am....I'm over thinking this to death.
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Location: FL | OP, do not stress yourself over this! You'll have plenty of that to deal with for the next 18 years. I think, more than anything, what you can take away from this thread is that there is more than one way to skin a cat. And safely at that! :) There are so many available options for expectant mother's now. I know women who have worked with mid-wives AND doctors to have a tailor made experience that offered the best possible outcome for mom and baby. Like someone else said, at the end of the day, that is all that matters.
And don't be afraid to 'doctor hunt'. If you get into your first appointment and your physician does not seem receptive to your ideal, move on. There are many out there who are happy to work with you, and happy to educate you about ALL of your options. | |
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Location: Texas | rachellyn80 - 2014-03-24 8:16 PM
bocephus's mama - 2014-03-24 6:54 PM Alicat0909 - 2014-03-24 5:53 PM Before this turns into a total debate and everything is lost. OP A good thing to read was The Business of Being Born by Ricki Lake I havent had the chance to get it yet but it has come highly recommended. My best friend had her baby in a hospital with drugs. She said she wished she would have read that first because she would have done everything differently. Not sure what she meant exactly but I cant wait to read it. Ah, yes. Dr. Ricki Lake.
It's celebrities like this that help perpetuate fads. I'm all for the right to choose but Jeez, don't base your opinion on someone that has no medical knowledge. Seriously. The lack of common sense astounds me.
I had major blood pressure issues with my first delivery.
Hemorrhaged after my second.
...Now, I'm pregnant with twins and have a type of placenta previa that would be tough to diagnose even on ultrasound and had a major bleeding episode 9 weeks ago. If I had tried to have a home birth with any of these issues who knows how it would have turned out.
I have never had my babies taken away from me immediately after birth. They were given right to me, wiped off, and I nursed them for as long as I needed to before they were ever given a bath. I've had fantastic labor and delivery nurses and wouldn't change anything about any of the birthing experiences that I've had. I'll be having a c-section with the twins I'm carrying now, because I CAN'T give birth naturally as the placenta of one of the babies is blocking my cervix.
Don't let someone else's terrible experience put you in danger.
Easy girls.
I have no clue what its about and obviously only thought it was a book when i guess its a movie? I dont care who its by or who decided it was right. Ive had plenty of doctors give me wrong diagnosis or wont flat out listen. Hence why im changing to a midwife. My OB is a total wanker and shows no concern what so ever.
Im still going to read/watch it
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Location: Idaho | CalamityKate - 2014-03-24 9:04 PM
OP, do not stress yourself over this! You'll have plenty of that to deal with for the next 18 years. I think, more than anything, what you can take away from this thread is that there is more than one way to skin a cat. And safely at that! :) There are so many available options for expectant mother's now. I know women who have worked with mid-wives AND doctors to have a tailor made experience that offered the best possible outcome for mom and baby. Like someone else said, at the end of the day, that is all that matters.
And don't be afraid to 'doctor hunt'. If you get into your first appointment and your physician does not seem receptive to your ideal, move on. There are many out there who are happy to work with you, and happy to educate you about ALL of your options.
Thanks :) I'm pretty good at over stressing and I need to work harder on be relaxed. I think one of the things that makes me so unsure is I don't have a great Doctor I feel comfortable with now and haven't for quite some time. I'm a little lost at this point and I hopefully will have some questions answered when I go in this week. I'm worried I won't have enough time to find one if this doesn't work out...I know this sounds silly, but I'm pretty much worried about everything and most of it will happen regardless. | |
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Location: PNW | Like Rachellynn - I had a great hospital experience, despite my high risk situation.
I had a c-section at 36 weeks. In the operating room they put Dave Stamey pandora radio on. My doctor held me while I got the spinal because I was TERRIFIED... And after weeks of hospital bed rest he and several nurses have become like family to me - I can't wait to see them again when I deliver this little one. They offered me a mirror so I could watch if I wanted to, I passed on that. Once my son was born they brought him STRAIGHT over to my head and put him on my neck/boobs while my husband held him there. Because of his heart, he did have to go straight to the NICU, but my husband was NEVER asked to leave his side and was encouraged to take HIS shirt off and do skin/skin while they waited for me. As soon as I was stitched up, they wheeled me straight to the NICU and put my son on my chest for skin to skin and nursing. He turned out to be a champion nurser, and we had no complications. My biggest piece of advice is be clear, but FLEXIBLE with your birth plan. Doctors and nurses will do everything they can to accommodate your wishes - also make sure your SO and/or another family member knows your wishes so that somebody can advocate for you if a question needs to be answered or a decision needs to be made and you aren't available. Eye gel stuff? Hep B shot? Vitamin k? Breast or formula? Do you want a pump? Would you like food? lol it seems silly but I was glad my husband was there to answer silly questions for me. | |
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Location: Texas | CalamityKate - 2014-03-24 9:04 PM OP, do not stress yourself over this! You'll have plenty of that to deal with for the next 18 years. I think, more than anything, what you can take away from this thread is that there is more than one way to skin a cat. And safely at that! :) There are so many available options for expectant mother's now. I know women who have worked with mid-wives AND doctors to have a tailor made experience that offered the best possible outcome for mom and baby. Like someone else said, at the end of the day, that is all that matters. And don't be afraid to 'doctor hunt'. If you get into your first appointment and your physician does not seem receptive to your ideal, move on. There are many out there who are happy to work with you, and happy to educate you about ALL of your options.
This!!!
Please doctor hunt! I went with the first gal i saw and she is true and total uncaring dumby. (JMHO)
At 8 weeks i got bucked off. Called and her phone answering lady said go to the ER if your worried and hung up.
I called back and demanded I speak to my doctor. SHe said the same thing. Absolutly NO concern. Yes i understand my dumbass shouldnt have been on the horse but for gods sake you can act a little human.
Last week, I was exactly 14 weeks. I passed out in a store. Full fledged passed out, hubby caught me old style fainting. Hubby rushed me to the near by hospital and that wrench wasnt going to run any tests. Told me to go eat and drink more water.
I have never been so hurt, let down, and ****ed in my life. Absolutly no concern what so ever for me or my baby.
Please please please shop around and dont settle. You dont need any more stress than your already under. And as Ive learned. Listen to your body. My body told me to sit down before I passed out and I didnt listen to it.
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Location: FL | cowpony45 - 2014-03-24 9:11 PM
CalamityKate - 2014-03-24 9:04 PM
OP, do not stress yourself over this! You'll have plenty of that to deal with for the next 18 years. I think, more than anything, what you can take away from this thread is that there is more than one way to skin a cat. And safely at that! :) There are so many available options for expectant mother's now. I know women who have worked with mid-wives AND doctors to have a tailor made experience that offered the best possible outcome for mom and baby. Like someone else said, at the end of the day, that is all that matters.
And don't be afraid to 'doctor hunt'. If you get into your first appointment and your physician does not seem receptive to your ideal, move on. There are many out there who are happy to work with you, and happy to educate you about ALL of your options.
Thanks : ) I'm pretty good at over stressing and I need to work harder on be relaxed. I think one of the things that makes me so unsure is I don't have a great Doctor I feel comfortable with now and haven't for quite some time. I'm a little lost at this point and I hopefully will have some questions answered when I go in this week. I'm worried I won't have enough time to find one if this doesn't work out...I know this sounds silly, but I'm pretty much worried about everything and most of it will happen regardless.
It's easy to stress, this is a huge game changer in this thing we call life! But like you said, it's going to happen, regardless of how you choose to go about it. I wasn't comfortable with my doctor either and saw three before I finally settled on my OB. If you let them know why you're looking, most are pretty good about getting you in ASAP.
Also, if you do decide to go the hospital route, search for a 'Baby-Friendly' hospital. Yes, there is a difference, google it! :) These facilities are advocates of rooming-in, skin to skin and ONLY support breastfeeding. They don't even keep formula on hand and the nurses are legally obligated to NOT promote formula feeding.
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Location: Beggs, OK | Alicat0909 - 2014-03-24 9:15 PM CalamityKate - 2014-03-24 9:04 PM OP, do not stress yourself over this! You'll have plenty of that to deal with for the next 18 years. I think, more than anything, what you can take away from this thread is that there is more than one way to skin a cat. And safely at that! :) There are so many available options for expectant mother's now. I know women who have worked with mid-wives AND doctors to have a tailor made experience that offered the best possible outcome for mom and baby. Like someone else said, at the end of the day, that is all that matters. And don't be afraid to 'doctor hunt'. If you get into your first appointment and your physician does not seem receptive to your ideal, move on. There are many out there who are happy to work with you, and happy to educate you about ALL of your options. This!!!
Please doctor hunt! I went with the first gal i saw and she is true and total uncaring dumby. (JMHO )
At 8 weeks i got bucked off. Called and her phone answering lady said go to the ER if your worried and hung up.
I called back and demanded I speak to my doctor. SHe said the same thing. Absolutly NO concern. Yes i understand my dumbass shouldnt have been on the horse but for gods sake you can act a little human.
Last week, I was exactly 14 weeks. I passed out in a store. Full fledged passed out, hubby caught me old style fainting. Hubby rushed me to the near by hospital and that wrench wasnt going to run any tests. Told me to go eat and drink more water.
I have never been so hurt, let down, and ****ed in my life. Absolutly no concern what so ever for me or my baby.
Please please please shop around and dont settle. You dont need any more stress than your already under. And as Ive learned. Listen to your body. My body told me to sit down before I passed out and I didnt listen to it.
The cold hard facts of medicine is that a baby is not viable until they are past 24 weeks. The reason that they don't do much at 8 weeks is that there really isn't anything to do. At 14 weeks still not much. You have to take care of yourself and this precious baby that's growing inside you. Did eating, drinking water, and resting help? Have you passed out anymore? What sort of test would they run for something that's fairly common in pregnancy?
One thing that you have to remember in this and every other situation in your life is that you have to present yourself in a way that you are going to be respected. I read these stories on here and cannot relate. I've never in any situation medical or otherwise been treated the way others claim. Sure, I've had Dr.'s that I didn't care for but it wasn't because they called me an idiot, hung up on me, or acted like I was less than human. It was because I just didn't care for their way of doing things. I have vets that I don't like for the same reasons.... | |
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Location: Texas | rachellyn80 - 2014-03-24 9:35 PM
Alicat0909 - 2014-03-24 9:15 PM CalamityKate - 2014-03-24 9:04 PM OP, do not stress yourself over this! You'll have plenty of that to deal with for the next 18 years. I think, more than anything, what you can take away from this thread is that there is more than one way to skin a cat. And safely at that! :) There are so many available options for expectant mother's now. I know women who have worked with mid-wives AND doctors to have a tailor made experience that offered the best possible outcome for mom and baby. Like someone else said, at the end of the day, that is all that matters. And don't be afraid to 'doctor hunt'. If you get into your first appointment and your physician does not seem receptive to your ideal, move on. There are many out there who are happy to work with you, and happy to educate you about ALL of your options. This!!!
Please doctor hunt! I went with the first gal i saw and she is true and total uncaring dumby. (JMHO )
At 8 weeks i got bucked off. Called and her phone answering lady said go to the ER if your worried and hung up.
I called back and demanded I speak to my doctor. SHe said the same thing. Absolutly NO concern. Yes i understand my dumbass shouldnt have been on the horse but for gods sake you can act a little human.
Last week, I was exactly 14 weeks. I passed out in a store. Full fledged passed out, hubby caught me old style fainting. Hubby rushed me to the near by hospital and that wrench wasnt going to run any tests. Told me to go eat and drink more water.
I have never been so hurt, let down, and ****ed in my life. Absolutly no concern what so ever for me or my baby.
Please please please shop around and dont settle. You dont need any more stress than your already under. And as Ive learned. Listen to your body. My body told me to sit down before I passed out and I didnt listen to it.
One thing that you have to remember in this and every other situation in your life is that you have to present yourself in a way that you are going to be respected. I read these stories on here and cannot relate. I've never in any situation medical or otherwise been treated the way others claim. Sure, I've had Dr.'s that I didn't care for but it wasn't because they called me an idiot, hung up on me, or acted like I was less than human. It was because I just didn't care for their way of doing things. I have vets that I don't like for the same reasons....
This post isnt about what Ive had happen to me. The OP wants advice so she can make an educated decision for whats best for her. If youd like to know about me personally. PM me.
I know the facts about miscarriage, Im prepared to deal with those as I have in the past.
A little education goes a long way and until the ER nurse and my cousin on FB explained it I had no idea that passing out was common. I had no idea that baby was still in your pelvis at 8 weeks. SHe offered no advice and it peeved me off. Isnt that why I have a DR? For her advice and knowledge? Common sense tells me to go to an ER if Im bleeding or passing out. But I still have questions that go unanswered and that to me is unacceptable. I will take my business and care else where because I don't like her way of doing things.
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Location: 100 miles from Nowhere, AR | rachellyn80 - 2014-03-24 9:35 PM Alicat0909 - 2014-03-24 9:15 PM CalamityKate - 2014-03-24 9:04 PM OP, do not stress yourself over this! You'll have plenty of that to deal with for the next 18 years. I think, more than anything, what you can take away from this thread is that there is more than one way to skin a cat. And safely at that! :) There are so many available options for expectant mother's now. I know women who have worked with mid-wives AND doctors to have a tailor made experience that offered the best possible outcome for mom and baby. Like someone else said, at the end of the day, that is all that matters. And don't be afraid to 'doctor hunt'. If you get into your first appointment and your physician does not seem receptive to your ideal, move on. There are many out there who are happy to work with you, and happy to educate you about ALL of your options. This!!!
Please doctor hunt! I went with the first gal i saw and she is true and total uncaring dumby. (JMHO )
At 8 weeks i got bucked off. Called and her phone answering lady said go to the ER if your worried and hung up.
I called back and demanded I speak to my doctor. SHe said the same thing. Absolutly NO concern. Yes i understand my dumbass shouldnt have been on the horse but for gods sake you can act a little human.
Last week, I was exactly 14 weeks. I passed out in a store. Full fledged passed out, hubby caught me old style fainting. Hubby rushed me to the near by hospital and that wrench wasnt going to run any tests. Told me to go eat and drink more water.
I have never been so hurt, let down, and ****ed in my life. Absolutly no concern what so ever for me or my baby.
Please please please shop around and dont settle. You dont need any more stress than your already under. And as Ive learned. Listen to your body. My body told me to sit down before I passed out and I didnt listen to it.
One thing that you have to remember in this and every other situation in your life is that you have to present yourself in a way that you are going to be respected. I read these stories on here and cannot relate. I've never in any situation medical or otherwise been treated the way others claim. Sure, I've had Dr.'s that I didn't care for but it wasn't because they called me an idiot, hung up on me, or acted like I was less than human. It was because I just didn't care for their way of doing things. I have vets that I don't like for the same reasons....
I think sometimes doctors don't take complaints seriously because they are so used to dealing with whiners. I pulled my groin at 15 weeks with my first baby and when I tried to talk to my dr about the pain I was having, she told me it was just a part of pregnancy aches and pains and totally normal. She didn't get that if I said I was hurting that I was HURTING. Kinda like the ER doc that told me I had a bruised butt and to suck it up when I had a fractured pelvis. I literally couldn't walk and he acted like I was a drama queen and wouldn't even give me any pain meds.  | |
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Location: The Lone Star State (Southeast, near the Gulf) | Congratulations! It's normal to feel all of the emotions you described. I had a planned c-section; it was fantastic. Each person has their own opinions, remember that & that what works for one, doesn't necessarily work for another. Your doctor should honor your birth plan as long as safety isn't compromised. Tour the hospital & ask about their policies. I'd steer clear of a home birth. Not worth the risk. Too much can happen without warning. We kept our baby in the room with us the entire time. We wanted the bonding & after all, you will have them with you 24-7 once you're home, so might as well start a routine immediately! | |
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Location: Texas | Three 4 Luck - 2014-03-24 10:02 PM
rachellyn80 - 2014-03-24 9:35 PM Alicat0909 - 2014-03-24 9:15 PM CalamityKate - 2014-03-24 9:04 PM OP, do not stress yourself over this! You'll have plenty of that to deal with for the next 18 years. I think, more than anything, what you can take away from this thread is that there is more than one way to skin a cat. And safely at that! :) There are so many available options for expectant mother's now. I know women who have worked with mid-wives AND doctors to have a tailor made experience that offered the best possible outcome for mom and baby. Like someone else said, at the end of the day, that is all that matters. And don't be afraid to 'doctor hunt'. If you get into your first appointment and your physician does not seem receptive to your ideal, move on. There are many out there who are happy to work with you, and happy to educate you about ALL of your options. This!!!
Please doctor hunt! I went with the first gal i saw and she is true and total uncaring dumby. (JMHO )
At 8 weeks i got bucked off. Called and her phone answering lady said go to the ER if your worried and hung up.
I called back and demanded I speak to my doctor. SHe said the same thing. Absolutly NO concern. Yes i understand my dumbass shouldnt have been on the horse but for gods sake you can act a little human.
Last week, I was exactly 14 weeks. I passed out in a store. Full fledged passed out, hubby caught me old style fainting. Hubby rushed me to the near by hospital and that wrench wasnt going to run any tests. Told me to go eat and drink more water.
I have never been so hurt, let down, and ****ed in my life. Absolutly no concern what so ever for me or my baby.
Please please please shop around and dont settle. You dont need any more stress than your already under. And as Ive learned. Listen to your body. My body told me to sit down before I passed out and I didnt listen to it.
One thing that you have to remember in this and every other situation in your life is that you have to present yourself in a way that you are going to be respected. I read these stories on here and cannot relate. I've never in any situation medical or otherwise been treated the way others claim. Sure, I've had Dr.'s that I didn't care for but it wasn't because they called me an idiot, hung up on me, or acted like I was less than human. It was because I just didn't care for their way of doing things. I have vets that I don't like for the same reasons....
Im sorry!! Since you got the general suck it up answer Ill say it! 
And also I agree with everything you said.
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Location: Beggs, OK | Three 4 Luck - 2014-03-24 10:02 PM rachellyn80 - 2014-03-24 9:35 PM Alicat0909 - 2014-03-24 9:15 PM CalamityKate - 2014-03-24 9:04 PM OP, do not stress yourself over this! You'll have plenty of that to deal with for the next 18 years. I think, more than anything, what you can take away from this thread is that there is more than one way to skin a cat. And safely at that! :) There are so many available options for expectant mother's now. I know women who have worked with mid-wives AND doctors to have a tailor made experience that offered the best possible outcome for mom and baby. Like someone else said, at the end of the day, that is all that matters. And don't be afraid to 'doctor hunt'. If you get into your first appointment and your physician does not seem receptive to your ideal, move on. There are many out there who are happy to work with you, and happy to educate you about ALL of your options. This!!!
Please doctor hunt! I went with the first gal i saw and she is true and total uncaring dumby. (JMHO )
At 8 weeks i got bucked off. Called and her phone answering lady said go to the ER if your worried and hung up.
I called back and demanded I speak to my doctor. SHe said the same thing. Absolutly NO concern. Yes i understand my dumbass shouldnt have been on the horse but for gods sake you can act a little human.
Last week, I was exactly 14 weeks. I passed out in a store. Full fledged passed out, hubby caught me old style fainting. Hubby rushed me to the near by hospital and that wrench wasnt going to run any tests. Told me to go eat and drink more water.
I have never been so hurt, let down, and ****ed in my life. Absolutly no concern what so ever for me or my baby.
Please please please shop around and dont settle. You dont need any more stress than your already under. And as Ive learned. Listen to your body. My body told me to sit down before I passed out and I didnt listen to it.
One thing that you have to remember in this and every other situation in your life is that you have to present yourself in a way that you are going to be respected. I read these stories on here and cannot relate. I've never in any situation medical or otherwise been treated the way others claim. Sure, I've had Dr.'s that I didn't care for but it wasn't because they called me an idiot, hung up on me, or acted like I was less than human. It was because I just didn't care for their way of doing things. I have vets that I don't like for the same reasons....
I totally agree. I had an ER doc try to send me home with a kidney stone, until I called my Momma who worked in the same hospital, lol. She knew that I wouldn't be balled up on an exam table with tears rolling down my face for nothing.
I blame the pill addicted whiners of the US...and at the same time understand where some of the Dr's are coming from. Too many conversations with women who act like they are the first to ever bear a child would wear a person down. I just tell all of my friends, Wait.......don't get all silly about this now, it will get worse. Lol | |
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| I am 19 weeks with baby #4. I've never had a pushy dr. They always let me call the shots. One completely natural birth, in an ER. One birth with an epidural, in a hospital. One birth induced, in a birthing center. I'd choose the birthing center a billion times!!
Consider this: You breed your favorite mare. Do you take her only to a vet tech or to the best **** repro vet in town? If you can afford it, do you take her to a foaling barn and have a vet, or let her push it out alone in the pasture? | |
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| Running Roan - 2014-03-23 9:53 PM sodapop - 2014-03-22 6:40 PM 22Tango - 2014-03-22 5:27 PM You have to do whatever feels right to you. Both mine were born in a hospital. I toyed with the idea of home birth but decided it was too risky. My first was a drug free water birth. Everything went perfect. Hurt but nothing unbearable. The worst part was how exhausted I was after. I slept the next two days. So tired I barely held my daughter. For my second I had an epidural. I was rested and it was so easy. I got to enjoy him. The drug free delivery was empowering but I know I'm tough and I don't need to prove it to myself again. I would rather be rested to enjoy it. I also roomed in with both. Didn't want someone else messing with my babies more necessary! :) I want to make sure I follow here..... the water birth was at a hospital? I didn't know they did water births at a hospital. I am imagining the movie I saw where the baby was born in a kiddy pool in the living room with a bunch of women in the room..... I can't remember the name of the movie, but maybe Jennifer Lopez was in it...or Jennifer Aniston.
That's all I can contribute to this thread besides a big congrats to the OP!
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Location: Texas | rachellyn80 - 2014-03-24 10:18 PM Three 4 Luck - 2014-03-24 10:02 PM rachellyn80 - 2014-03-24 9:35 PM Alicat0909 - 2014-03-24 9:15 PM CalamityKate - 2014-03-24 9:04 PM OP, do not stress yourself over this! You'll have plenty of that to deal with for the next 18 years. I think, more than anything, what you can take away from this thread is that there is more than one way to skin a cat. And safely at that! :) There are so many available options for expectant mother's now. I know women who have worked with mid-wives AND doctors to have a tailor made experience that offered the best possible outcome for mom and baby. Like someone else said, at the end of the day, that is all that matters. And don't be afraid to 'doctor hunt'. If you get into your first appointment and your physician does not seem receptive to your ideal, move on. There are many out there who are happy to work with you, and happy to educate you about ALL of your options. This!!! Please doctor hunt! I went with the first gal i saw and she is true and total uncaring dumby. (JMHO ) At 8 weeks i got bucked off. Called and her phone answering lady said go to the ER if your worried and hung up. I called back and demanded I speak to my doctor. SHe said the same thing. Absolutly NO concern. Yes i understand my dumbass shouldnt have been on the horse but for gods sake you can act a little human. Last week, I was exactly 14 weeks. I passed out in a store. Full fledged passed out, hubby caught me old style fainting. Hubby rushed me to the near by hospital and that wrench wasnt going to run any tests. Told me to go eat and drink more water. I have never been so hurt, let down, and ****ed in my life. Absolutly no concern what so ever for me or my baby. Please please please shop around and dont settle. You dont need any more stress than your already under. And as Ive learned. Listen to your body. My body told me to sit down before I passed out and I didnt listen to it.
One thing that you have to remember in this and every other situation in your life is that you have to present yourself in a way that you are going to be respected. I read these stories on here and cannot relate. I've never in any situation medical or otherwise been treated the way others claim. Sure, I've had Dr.'s that I didn't care for but it wasn't because they called me an idiot, hung up on me, or acted like I was less than human. It was because I just didn't care for their way of doing things. I have vets that I don't like for the same reasons....
I blame the pill addicted whiners of the US...and at the same time understand where some of the Dr's are coming from. Too many conversations with women who act like they are the first to ever bear a child would wear a person down. I just tell all of my friends, Wait.......don't get all silly about this now, it will get worse. Lol
To the OP, good luck in your decision. You have a ways and I can tell you from experience, stressing out about it won't help -- no matter what you decide, it will be FINE :). You'll end up with a perfect baby (remember, it's been done BILLIONS of times).
As for my own experience, I had both in a hospital and it was fine -- not saying it's the absolute best option (b/c I've not experienced anything else) but I left with a healthy body and two healthy babies. I've NEVER experienced anything out of my control. They would never take your baby if you said not to (assuming everything is healthy). Trust me, they would have no problem at all not taking the baby to the nursery. They would never force you to take a drug, epidural, enduce labor, etc.
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Location: ND | the vast majority of women could give birth out in the pasture with the mares by themselves.......but on occassion, having technology and intelligence available means the difference between a healthy mom and baby or a not so healthy or dead mom and baby...... | |
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Location: Prosser, WA | I would go to a hospital on the first one. Yeah things can be a lot different on the subsequent ones but at least you would have an idea about how your body handles childbirth. Just think of it like this, in case something bad happened during childbirth or to you or the baby after, would you regret not going to the hospital? Personally I wouldn't handle it very well if my child died during a home birth from something that could have been easily prevented in a hospital. I had a great midwife with my first but still needed to have a c-section. | |
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Location: In the land of peanuts and cotton | cowpony45 - 2014-03-22 1:09 AM
Ok I would really like some thoughts or experiences on this subject. I am 8 weeks pregnant with our first and I'm excited, scared, overwhelmed, happy, nervous, and on top of all this I have a head cold that is going to keep me up all night so I can worry about thing like this. Anyways I'm all set for my first check up next week with my OBGYN. I've had a few thoughts on looking into a midwife, but I'm having trouble finding first hand information. All I read is how bad hospitals are and this or that. I do realize this isn't for everyone, but I like to have as much control and information as I can. Thank you!
Your lucky. You have the option. Here in Alabama it's illegal to have your baby at home. Midwives are illegal too.
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| I used to work OB and i dont understand why you would want to have your baby at home just because what IF something goes wrong?? Why not be at a place where they can immediately do things to prevent any life altering situation....no it doesnt happen very often but nevertheless it does. I would rather have my baby in a hospital or birthing center and have the assurance that if something does go wrong, my choice of where to have the baby will not make the situation worse and potentially alter/affect my life or my babies life. Having a child suffer from lack of oxygen for instance will potentially affect him/her the rest of their life with some sort of disability.... I know there are many babies that this happens to that are born in hospitals but you are at even greater risk with little to no medical equipment/intervention at home. Ive seen it personally, we had some really bad cases come in because we have alot of amish in our area having babies with mid-wives at home....its not pretty. | |
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Location: Oregon | I urge you to have your baby in a hospital. About 2 yrs ago my neighbor decided on a homebirth for her 7th child. She had birthed all previous babies with no complications. Her 7th baby was not the same. There were severe complications, the midwife could not handle it, although lifeflight landed in my field and transported her to the hospital, little Enzo died during childbirth. He was a 10lb baby. Had she been in the hospital he could have been saved with an emergency C section. | |
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Location: Oklahoma | Would never "foal out" at home.
My husbands brother did that... oxygen was lost at some point and his son is 5 years old and can not use either of his legs and only one arm. It is so devestating and sad and they have to live with that for the rest of their lives. not trying to scare you.. just too many things can go wrong. | |
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Location: Dubach, LA | cheryl makofka - 2014-03-22 10:30 AM
CanCan - 2014-03-22 1:14 AM
You get your butt to the hospital and don't let them talk you into any of that rooming in crap. Make 'em keep the baby in the nursery. You'll need your rest. Also, avail yourself of all the luxuries of modern medicine.
Love,
Mother of 3
I disagree, the research shows better milk let down, less incidence of post partum depression with rooming in.
This is your child, you choose to have said child, the child becomes your responsibility when you choose to carry child to term, it is not the nurses responsibility to care for your child for the first few days.
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REALLY??
Pretty sure those nurses get paid to take care of babies in a hospital nursery. ALSO. I nursed my three until they were old enough to make their own PB & J sandwiches. AND my first child had heart problems and didn't come home until she was 14 days old. BE AMAZED - my milk was still there!
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Keeper of the King Snake
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Location: Dubach, LA | dhdqhllc - 2014-03-25 3:14 PM the vast majority of women could give birth out in the pasture with the mares by themselves.......but on occassion, having technology and intelligence available means the difference between a healthy mom and baby or a not so healthy or dead mom and baby......
This is amazingly accurate. I look like I was built for birthing babies, but of my three, only one would have survived a home delivery. | |
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| Free choice is a great thing so we can all do what we feel is best for us. However I would not have either of my children if I would have had a home birth. You just never know what can go wrong and having advanced medical technology at your fingertips was comforting to me. | |
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Location: Kansas | CanCan - 2014-03-22 1:14 AM You get your butt to the hospital and don't let them talk you into any of that rooming in crap. Make 'em keep the baby in the nursery. You'll need your rest. Also, avail yourself of all the luxuries of modern medicine.
Love,
Mother of 3
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