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 No Tune in a Bucket
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Location: Texas | I am not a literate Facebook user. I have a delicate situation that I don't want to make worse. I received a friend request from my ex-daughter in law which is ok. We get along because of our 2 grandkids, but I am Facebook Friends with the new wife and I don't want them to see each other's posts. There is some friction there. If I except ex-dil's request, what should my setting be to make sure that does not happen. Would they only see my posts and any replies to it? |
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  Shipwrecked and Flat Out Zapped
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | I'm sure there is a way.......but, I would ignore it and pretend I never received it lol.....because, Lord knows, I'd mess something up one night and there would be Facebook War.....it's not worth it lol. |
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Location: Midwest Farmer's Daughter: Central Illinois | If being friends with the ex-wife & current wife will cause beef then one can block the other & that'll settle that. |
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 Damn Yankee
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | Have one block the other. Then each can't see anything to do with the other. |
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No Tune in a Bucket
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Location: Texas | Thanks. I really don't want to get into trouble. My choice would be to friend the ex and unfriend the current wife, but that would be starting a war. lol The ex posts pics and videos of grandkiddos and new wife is jealous of the kids.  |
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | Here's MY rules....my Facebook....my rules....if you don't like one of MY friends, feel free to "unfriend" me and leave. The "new" wife would just have to get over it because those are YOUR grandchildren and you have every right to have access to their photos and life events. |
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Location: Missouri | RocketPilot - 2014-04-07 8:32 PM Thanks. I really don't want to get into trouble. My choice would be to friend the ex and unfriend the current wife, but that would be starting a war. lol The ex posts pics and videos of grandkiddos and new wife is jealous of the kids.
My brother has been married three times since I joined FB. The current wife threw a fit about me being friends with the other exs. Really a frustrating situation! Since I was already friends, I didn't change anything. But, my choice would also be to "unfriend" the current wife! lol!
ps I think my rule will be if they still have my maiden name, I can be friends with them! 
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 Lived to tell about it and will never do it again
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| NJJ - 2014-04-07 8:42 PM Here's MY rules....my Facebook....my rules....if you don't like one of MY friends, feel free to "unfriend" me and leave. The "new" wife would just have to get over it because those are YOUR grandchildren and you have every right to have access to their photos and life events.
I'm with NJJ on this one. There situation with each other isn't your problem. Neither one of them should dictate who you are friends with. |
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 A Somebody to Everybody
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | euchee - 2014-04-07 8:58 PM NJJ - 2014-04-07 8:42 PM Here's MY rules....my Facebook....my rules....if you don't like one of MY friends, feel free to "unfriend" me and leave. The "new" wife would just have to get over it because those are YOUR grandchildren and you have every right to have access to their photos and life events. I'm with NJJ on this one. There situation with each other isn't your problem. Neither one of them should dictate who you are friends with.
I dont do facebook, but these Ladies have a very good point  |
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Location: Iowa | good luck... Sticky situation . I'd accept it because even though there was a divorce, you didn't have a divorce from her. |
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No Tune in a Bucket
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Location: Texas | It is tough. New wife and son have 2 small kids. She posts their pics all the time. If I post pics of the 2 older kids, I am asked by my son to post pics of younger kids because wife thinks I am favoring the older kids. She posts pics of the little kids and not the older ones at events that I know they were all at. When I questioned that, she said that some people didn't like other people posting pics of their kids and she did not know how their mother would feel about her posting pics. I told her that they are my son's kids and her step kids and didn't see a problem with it. Sometimes the older kids feel left out. I probably do favor the older kids for that reason. She had a different attitude toward them until she kids of her own. |
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Location: Southwest Minnesota | I agree with the other ladies. I have a similar family/friend situation and I refuse to let anyone dictate who I am friends with. If your new dil doesn't want to see ex's posts she can block them. |
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Location: Kansas | Actually what you can do.....friend her, then go to her page and click on where it says you are friends. You will see "aquaintences" (sp?) and click that, now when you post something you can edit the privacy to friends without aquaintences so that she can't see the posts....only your friends can.
I do that frequently LOL |
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Location: Where I am happiest | Actually, it's not a "tuff" situation at all. The ex wife is the mother of your grandchildren. The currant wife is now your daughter in law. They both need to grow up and a act like adults. Friend them both, take the high road and keep the family peace. BOTH deserve and should be your "friends" and they will just have to get over it and act like adults. You can NOT ignore the friend request. That would be rude, and cause alot of unneccessary hurt feelings. |
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 Own It and Move On
Location: The edge of no where | euchee - 2014-04-07 8:58 PM NJJ - 2014-04-07 8:42 PM Here's MY rules....my Facebook....my rules....if you don't like one of MY friends, feel free to "unfriend" me and leave. The "new" wife would just have to get over it because those are YOUR grandchildren and you have every right to have access to their photos and life events. I'm with NJJ on this one. There situation with each other isn't your problem. Neither one of them should dictate who you are friends with.
^^ This.
Especially since there are kids involved, I wouldn't worry about it. They're your grandkids, and fb is an easy way for you to keep up with pictures she posts of them.
Unless she is posting them to your page, current wife won't be able to see them anyway.
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 Cute Little Imp
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Location: N Texas | They won't be able to see each other's posts because they are not friends. They might be able to see if you're tagged in their photos or if you comment or "like" something of theirs.
Like someone else said, she is the mother of your grandchildren, so there's no need to completely block her out of your life. If current wife gets her feelings hurt over who you're Facebook friends with, she can get over it...there are much bigger things to be concerned about. |
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Location: Bastrop, Texas | Just tell the truth to both. Problem solved. It's only a problem if they choose to make it one, and then it's theirs, not yours.
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Shipwrecked and Flat Out Zapped
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | Not related, but I just learned how to turn off game requests and I could french kiss my friend, Lauren, right now :) |
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No Tune in a Bucket
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Location: Texas | hoofs_in_motion - 2014-04-08 7:40 AM
Actually what you can do.....friend her, then go to her page and click on where it says you are friends. You will see "aquaintences" (sp?) and click that, now when you post something you can edit the privacy to friends without aquaintences so that she can't see the posts....only your friends can.
I do that frequently LOL
Thanks. This is good know. |
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No Tune in a Bucket
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Location: Texas | ThreeCorners - 2014-04-08 8:20 AM Actually, it's not a "tuff" situation at all. The ex wife is the mother of your grandchildren. The currant wife is now your daughter in law. They both need to grow up and a act like adults. Friend them both, take the high road and keep the family peace. BOTH deserve and should be your "friends" and they will just have to get over it and act like adults. You can NOT ignore the friend request. That would be rude, and cause alot of unneccessary hurt feelings.
This was my thought exactly. Thanks. |
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No Tune in a Bucket
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Location: Texas | LRQHS - 2014-04-08 8:31 AM
Not related, but I just learned how to turn off game requests and I could french kiss my friend, Lauren, right now :)
I definitely think this is information you should share. Probably more important than my dumb family drama. lol |
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Shipwrecked and Flat Out Zapped
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | RocketPilot - 2014-04-08 9:01 AM LRQHS - 2014-04-08 8:31 AM
Not related, but I just learned how to turn off game requests and I could french kiss my friend, Lauren, right now :) I definitely think this is information you should share. Probably more important than my dumb family drama. lol
It works. Just follow these simple directions :)http://m.wikihow.com/Turn-off-Game-Notifications-in-Facebook |
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 Arriving at the last minute!
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Location: Kansas | I agree with everyone needs to be adults and this is the world we live in. Ex this and that and blended families. Everyone should be happy and get excited for the other person and want to build each other up. Most are jealous and tear people down. Hope you can be a part of everyones lives without jealousy and fights!! |
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