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Location: N Texas | Oh gosh, where to start?? LOL. I did the online thing many years ago before I met my hubby (who I actually met through mutual friends, not online). Anyways, I think I only tried two sites--match.com and plenty of fish. I half-way filled out a profile for eharmony when they were doing one of their free weekends, but I couldn't upload a pic or view pics without paying. So I never actually communicated with anyone from that sight.
What I found is that the guys on Match were slightly more serious about dating/getting to know me than on POF because you have to pay for Match, and POF was free. I got the impression that if they had to pay for it, they took it more seriously. The profiles on the free sites were much less impressive, as far as typos, incomplete info, etc.
If you decide to try it, keep your info short and sweet. Don't have a five paragraph description of yourself and what you're looking for, because most guys won't want to read your life story...give enough info to get them interested and let them ask you questions. A lot of guys contact you based on your pic and don't bother reading about you, which is annoying.
After emailing back and forth a few times, if I was digging a guy, I'd give him my number. I had a rule, though, that they had to CALL to ask me out--if they communicated strictly through text and asked me out through text, I turned them down. They had to put forth a little more effort than that!
I would get really frustrated because I would have guys contact me that clearly didn't read my profile and were NOTHING like what I was looking for, and based on their profile, I wasn't what they were looking for either. Some guys contact as many women as possible to see how many they can get to respond, so weeding out the guys who I knew weren't a good match was sometimes frustrating.
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Location: Never in one place long | I've never done it but my Mom has and WOW, did she find some weirdos! We still laugh about them! I haven't ever heard any success stories personally but I know for some people, that is works. :) good luck to you. |
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| I've signed up on a couple of the dating sites, but my thing is you have to pay to actually send anyone a message. Guess I don't want to take a chance that bad. |
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| I only did Match. Had a lot of fun, it was like a screening process for me - I got the basic info before I wasted my time. Things I know I can't deal with in a relationship like he still lives with Mommy, is really liberal, illiterate, etc. Kind of felt like online shopping lol! I put in my ideal criteria (6'+, lives alone, conservative, selected a few astrological signs even, put in some search words like 'hunt' 'horse' etc and up popped several to choose from. My husband was on that list. 8 years later, we are still happy as clams. |
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| I did several of the free sites...POF (or as I call it, PO*) lol, Date Hook Up, and OK Cupid. Some of it was fun, some totally useless...and the Date Hook up site had forums where you could interact and chat. I didn't meet any guys that I really hit it off with (Lots of weirdos and liars) but I did meet a lot of good friends that are all over the country from the chat forums.
I agree, the men tend to not read your profile and just look at your pictures, and I woud suggest not putting pictures of you on your horse or with a horse...I found that single dads wanted to meet so that they could give their kids a "pony ride" but then got upset when I said I don't meet people's kids until we have established a relationship of our own.
Overall...fun and entertaining, but I found hubby the old fashioned way. In person. |
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Location: South Dakota | I met my wonderful husband on farmersonly.com...we've been married 8 years...and feel fortunate to have met each other. |
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Location: Texas | I did some of the free ones and all I found for most part were morons but did make a friend or two but no romantic match. I tried eharmony and that was a waste as none of the men on there were really into the horsey lifestyle. I have heard Match.com is really good but never tried it. I met my hubby on FB. He found me through a mutual friend connection and sent me a message and it went from there. |
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| I did it for a while. Met some total nutjobs. N.U.T.J.O.B.S. I recommend when you go to go on a 'breakfast date'. Only meet your date for breakfast. That way, if you're ready "CRAZY!" loud and clear, you can bail with your "huge list of things to get done today, it was really wonderful to meet you" excuse. If you're reading good things, you can take him along to the grocery store or something.
Honestly, I had way better luck clubbing. I met two serious relationships with really wonderful (though it didn't work out, ah, the journeys of life, ha ha) there, and then I met my fantastic husband at a western dance club on Texas coast. We just hit it off, he called me the very next day. All very text book and but oh so exhilarating. True story. |
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | I married an axe murderer from eharmony.com.....
I did a 30 day free trial as a joke....who would have thought I woulda got hitched?????
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Location: midwest mama | The only one I tried for real was EHarmony.
Joined it for 6 months and was very honest in my profile and answering questions. They never found one match for me.
Joined it for 6 months again about 3 years later and the same thing happened. No matches.
Jeez.........what does that say about me? I guess I'm just one of a kind. LOL |
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| I was wondering about the sites i know a lady who is single she goes out with guys on plent of fish and another site, but she is only looking for fun. But, i could find that with out a web site. I want a nice friend, but i want someone to bring a positive i dont need another thing to take care of. If ypu know what i mean. |
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Location: Midwest | My friend met her husband on POF (she's in her 50s). She started as a joke but ended up married. He's a PHENOMENAL guy, super handy, and puts up with her and the horses. He's remodeling the farmhouse they bought. I'm SOOOO happy for her. :)
My younger friends have met some crazy folks from the other sites. My one friend met a guy on there who told her the church he grew up in (preacher's son) was haunted and was also the gateway between heaven and hell.... yeah, you can't make that sh!t up! LOL |
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | I tried POF a few weeks back and they deleted my account before 48 hours was up. On a positive note, I probably weeded a few out for you, so you may want to give that site a try lol. Also, no one on POF is rich. |
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| I did on and off for a few years before I met hubby, who I met on match.com. I was careful to research and screen the men before I met them. I always met them in a public place and gave either my mom or my best friend all of the pertinent information about where I was and who I was with.
That said, the men themselves were EXACTLY who they said they were. That doesn't mean that they were who I thought they were. There is a lot that gets left out over the interwebz. How I read an email is different than how someone writes the email. How I perceive something is different than the actuality.
I learned pretty quick not to expect anything to be what I thought besides the facts (age, hair color, job etc.). I dated probably half a dozen different men casually and knew that nothing would come of them.
When I finally paid for a match.com profile, I went for broke. I put my parameters in at my dream man. I didn't put the things down that were acceptable to me, or the things that I could live with. I put down exactly what I wanted. There were only like 5 matches for me. 2 of which responded to me. 1 of which I met. We had the fairy tale first date.
I won't say our relationship is any easier than any other, but I have a great life. |
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Location: Blissfully happy Giants fan!!! | I did the 30 day free trial on farmersonly.com and met my hubby there. We have been together for 6 years next month and married for three. |
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Location: NC | im on pof and okcupid. Dont really want to spend money on them. I have been on a few dates and even "dated" one for a week. I do get responses, ive just learned the min they lie I move on.
My mom is on a few as well (my father passed 3 years ago). Shes been on a few dates as well but nothing so far.
Unfortunately we live somewhere where people have no clue about horses and country to them means short shorts and cowboy boots... Very hard but if we find someone great, if not well keep looking. |
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Location: N Texas | RodeoCowgirl4u - 2014-08-05 4:50 PM I did several of the free sites...POF (or as I call it, PO*) lol, Date Hook Up, and OK Cupid. Some of it was fun, some totally useless...and the Date Hook up site had forums where you could interact and chat. I didn't meet any guys that I really hit it off with (Lots of weirdos and liars) but I did meet a lot of good friends that are all over the country from the chat forums. I agree, the men tend to not read your profile and just look at your pictures, and I woud suggest not putting pictures of you on your horse or with a horse...I found that single dads wanted to meet so that they could give their kids a "pony ride" but then got upset when I said I don't meet people's kids until we have established a relationship of our own. Overall...fun and entertaining, but I found hubby the old fashioned way. In person.
How lame of them! Some people are so dumb. I put pics of me on my horses, and luckily never had anyone try to get free pony rides for their kids :) |
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| SpottedT - 2014-08-06 7:43 AM
I did on and off for a few years before I met hubby, who I met on match.com. I was careful to research and screen the men before I met them. I always met them in a public place and gave either my mom or my best friend all of the pertinent information about where I was and who I was with.
That said, the men themselves were EXACTLY who they said they were. That doesn't mean that they were who I thought they were. There is a lot that gets left out over the interwebz. How I read an email is different than how someone writes the email. How I perceive something is different than the actuality.
I learned pretty quick not to expect anything to be what I thought besides the facts (age, hair color, job etc.). I dated probably half a dozen different men casually and knew that nothing would come of them.
When I finally paid for a match.com profile, I went for broke. I put my parameters in at my dream man. I didn't put the things down that were acceptable to me, or the things that I could live with. I put down exactly what I wanted. There were only like 5 matches for me. 2 of which responded to me. 1 of which I met. We had the fairy tale first date.
I won't say our relationship is any easier than any other, but I have a great life.
Same experience I had. The other sites like POF seemed liked hook up spots for cheapos. I went ahead and paid for match and it was definitely worth it. My hub is exactly my dream man, and I don't know that we would have met any other way, since he lived a few towns over. |
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Location: Texas | I met an ex on equestrian singles. We got along great but distance ultimately ended our relationship.
I met my husband on farmersonly
Let me tell ya...i got some real weirdos on there too. Most were gentlemen who took hints easily. Some not so much.
I met my husband on there in September. I went and met him in colorado in October. 2 weeks later he moved down here and we got married in February.
And we have our first little one on the way.
Fast? Ohhh yeah..waay fast lol. BUT we both absolutely adore each other and love everything. Like any couple we have had our differences and problems but we are so much alike we work through them easily. He keeps me level headed and I keep his life interesting with my fly by the seat of my pants life style lol
Wanted to add.....if you dont mind weeding through a gazillion weirdos and random penis pictures then the free sites are for you. If you dont want to deal with potential ax murderers who like their gentiles too much its completely worth it on farmers only to pay the 30 bucks for a month.
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Location: North Dakota | I can't stop coming back and checking this. I always fear that I'll die alone cause every moment I don't spend at work or sleeping is spent at the barn. I wonder how many 20 somethings are on these websites... |
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Location: North of the 49th Parallel | cavyrunsbarrels - 2014-08-06 9:18 PM I can't stop coming back and checking this. I always fear that I'll die alone cause every moment I don't spend at work or sleeping is spent at the barn. I wonder how many 20 somethings are on these websites...
I'm 20 something and thinking about that too. My friends dared me to get Tinder... so I did. It's addicting. But I don't suggest it for anyone over the age of 30. It's a hookup app even though I have absolutely zero intentions of doing that. Apparently when you're life is work/horses/barrel racing/gym there isn't much time to meet guys! |
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| bccanchaser16 - 2014-08-06 11:28 PM
cavyrunsbarrels - 2014-08-06 9:18 PM I can't stop coming back and checking this. I always fear that I'll die alone cause every moment I don't spend at work or sleeping is spent at the barn. I wonder how many 20 somethings are on these websites...
I'm 20 something and thinking about that too. My friends dared me to get Tinder... so I did. It's addicting. But I don't suggest it for anyone over the age of 30. It's a hookup app even though I have absolutely zero intentions of doing that. Apparently when you're life is work/horses/barrel racing/gym there isn't much time to meet guys!
I am just glad I am not alone... I have no interest in the online thing (no offense that those who do it, just not for me). But if im not working, I am at the barn. |
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Location: Texas | cavyrunsbarrels - 2014-08-06 11:18 PM
I can't stop coming back and checking this. I always fear that I'll die alone cause every moment I don't spend at work or sleeping is spent at the barn. I wonder how many 20 somethings are on these websites...
Im 23 and my husband is 27 :D |
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| bccanchaser16 - 2014-08-06 11:28 PM
cavyrunsbarrels - 2014-08-06 9:18 PM I can't stop coming back and checking this. I always fear that I'll die alone cause every moment I don't spend at work or sleeping is spent at the barn. I wonder how many 20 somethings are on these websites...
I'm 20 something and thinking about that too. My friends dared me to get Tinder... so I did. It's addicting. But I don't suggest it for anyone over the age of 30. It's a hookup app even though I have absolutely zero intentions of doing that. Apparently when you're life is work/horses/barrel racing/gym there isn't much time to meet guys!
Yep. I'm 20- tomorrow. I was married and divorced young. Since then it's work, ride, sleep. I do nothing outside of that and quite honestly don't really plan on changing it soon. I don't want to die alone or live alone for that matter but it's not really looking any other way without some help. I'm on POF. I actually respond to about 1 guy a week. Sometimes I quit talking to them because they say something weird or I lose interest. I have met 3 in person. Only 1 looked like what I expected him to and he was freakin bat sh*t. I have hung out with 1 a few times and he is really nice but there is nothin there. The other was raised without manners (not rude but childish/sloppy) so I quit talking to him instead of telling him that lol.
I want to try eharmony. I am into older guys like (23-28) range because of who I am and what I have been through I am not the average 20yo. I know we all say that. I get it. But uuuhhhh I'm currently basically raising my parents. I am their financial advisor, the house keeper, the logical thinker. The mother basically. I don't want another "child" on my list. Right or wrong makes no difference. That's just how it is. |
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| I know that Farmers Only has the cheesiest commercials but my mom's had pretty good luck with it! I bet Equine Singles (I think it's called) would be a good try too. They're about the only dating sites you can connect with people that have mostly the same interests as country girls/cowgirls, you'd have more of a selection! Lol |
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Location: The edge of no where | RoaniePonie11 - 2014-08-07 3:02 AM bccanchaser16 - 2014-08-06 11:28 PM cavyrunsbarrels - 2014-08-06 9:18 PM I can't stop coming back and checking this. I always fear that I'll die alone cause every moment I don't spend at work or sleeping is spent at the barn. I wonder how many 20 somethings are on these websites... I'm 20 something and thinking about that too. My friends dared me to get Tinder... so I did. It's addicting. But I don't suggest it for anyone over the age of 30. It's a hookup app even though I have absolutely zero intentions of doing that. Apparently when you're life is work/horses/barrel racing/gym there isn't much time to meet guys! Yep. I'm 20- tomorrow. I was married and divorced young. Since then it's work, ride, sleep. I do nothing outside of that and quite honestly don't really plan on changing it soon. I don't want to die alone or live alone for that matter but it's not really looking any other way without some help. I'm on POF. I actually respond to about 1 guy a week. Sometimes I quit talking to them because they say something weird or I lose interest. I have met 3 in person. Only 1 looked like what I expected him to and he was freakin bat sh*t. I have hung out with 1 a few times and he is really nice but there is nothin there. The other was raised without manners (not rude but childish/sloppy ) so I quit talking to him instead of telling him that lol. I want to try eharmony. I am into older guys like (23-28 ) range because of who I am and what I have been through I am not the average 20yo. I know we all say that. I get it. But uuuhhhh I'm currently basically raising my parents. I am their financial advisor, the house keeper, the logical thinker. The mother basically. I don't want another "child" on my list. Right or wrong makes no difference. That's just how it is.  It was a great way to meet guys, I wasn't into meeting them at bars, not into random hookups, and spend every waking min at work or the barn. I met my husband at a barrel race......
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| HorseMommyFiveO - 2014-08-06 10:13 AM
SpottedT - 2014-08-06 7:43 AM
I did on and off for a few years before I met hubby, who I met on match.com. I was careful to research and screen the men before I met them. I always met them in a public place and gave either my mom or my best friend all of the pertinent information about where I was and who I was with.
That said, the men themselves were EXACTLY who they said they were. That doesn't mean that they were who I thought they were. There is a lot that gets left out over the interwebz. How I read an email is different than how someone writes the email. How I perceive something is different than the actuality.
I learned pretty quick not to expect anything to be what I thought besides the facts (age, hair color, job etc.). I dated probably half a dozen different men casually and knew that nothing would come of them.
When I finally paid for a match.com profile, I went for broke. I put my parameters in at my dream man. I didn't put the things down that were acceptable to me, or the things that I could live with. I put down exactly what I wanted. There were only like 5 matches for me. 2 of which responded to me. 1 of which I met. We had the fairy tale first date.
I won't say our relationship is any easier than any other, but I have a great life.
Same experience I had. The other sites like POF seemed liked hook up spots for cheapos. I went ahead and paid for match and it was definitely worth it. My hub is exactly my dream man, and I don't know that we would have met any other way, since he lived a few towns over.
I darn sure KNOW I would have never, ever met my husband. He was a city boy through and through, drove an itty bitty sports car, loved happy hour and lived at the beach. We are in different career fields and different towns.
It wasn't until he met me (complete 180 from anyone he dated at all) and started hanging out that he realized the country life he grew up with was actually where he was happier. He's back to hunting again and sold the RX8 for a Jeep. |
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Location: NE Texas | I met my hubby on POF and we'll have been married 4 years on Saturday. There was definitely some weeding out I had to do, but eventually he contacted me, and the rest is history. I had fun on there and would just say that a person has to have common sense about online dating and most important thing IMO about dating...online or otherwise....is to be yourself from the very beginning and not who you think they are looking for. The first time I met my hubby I showed up in lounge pants a hoodie and a ball cap. LOL
I tried equestrian singles too and met a couple interesting guys on there, but overall these guys were wannabe cowboys, which is a huge turnoff for me. |
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Location: British Columbia | I met my fiance through POF. He was the 3 guy I went on a date with from the site after 1,000,000 skeezy messages to filter through. It makes it easier to meet people, but not necessarily the right people. I've always found it impossible to meet people after college, even friends. I worked a lot and wasn't social, so the internet was really my only option lol! |
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Location: South Georgia | Match. Met my boyfriend and we have been together for a year and a half. |
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| Or you could try the Walmart parking lot, that's where I met mine and we've been together for 3 and a half years. Lol.  |
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