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Location: Kentucky | We have been friends with a couple for about 3 years now. The wife and I have never really gotten along, she is dumber than a bag of hammers. The husband was not so bad, so the friendship thrived. However, he is self proclaimed a-hole and has a really bad habit of "picking" on my husband around our group of friends.
Last November we started building our barn, and he helped us until we completed it in February. It was a long, cold winter, and I appreciated everyone's help. We offered them money, but they declined. We did provide food, drinks, and lots of beer.
In May, we were at an event with the group of friends, and this guy would not stop ragging on my husband. Picking on him and poking fun at anything he could. My husband finally flipped out on the guy, and we left. We have not seen them since then.
We do have a piece of equipment that we were borrowing from him and I told my husband that we need to deliver it back to this guy. We want to end the friendship because we both cannot be around someone so... well, douchey. We both feel guilty that he helped us with the barn and we did nothing in return to help him. Is it "OK" to end the friendship without returning the favor? We don't want to feel like we used this guy, but he has it out for my husband for some reason. |
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 Buttered Noodles Snacker
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Location: NC | Nope. Cut your ties and move on. Its not like you didn't offer to pay him. |
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  Shipwrecked and Flat Out Zapped
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | You shouldn't put up with anyone that does that to you or your husband. If the guy is a self proclaimed a-hole, he probably already knows why your husband lost his marbles on him. I'd take the piece of equipment back, at say, 0230 in the morning and run for the hills. This dude will either realize he was being a jerk and come make amends or he won't......
Edited by LRQHS 2014-08-06 7:11 AM
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 Dancing in my Mind
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Location: Eastern OH but my heart is in WV | When you take back the equipment also take a nice thank-you card with a gift card for something they like or need (favorite restruant, gas card, grocery card....) |
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Shipwrecked and Flat Out Zapped
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | You could leave some booze and chapstick on their front steps when you deliver the equipment at 0230.... |
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Midget Lover
Location: Kentucky | LRQHS - 2014-08-06 8:15 AM You could leave some booze and chapstick on their front steps when you deliver the equipment at 0230....
I gave him a big bottle of Woodford Reserve towards the end of the barn build. He is normally a Crown Royal drinker, but I told him I'd get him something that was actually good, lol.
His wife told me that he tried it but he didn't like it. Which is fine, but then she said she tried it and said that she's had better whiskey that was $5 for a pint. I was like..... ok..... |
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Shipwrecked and Flat Out Zapped
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | Murphy - 2014-08-06 7:19 AM LRQHS - 2014-08-06 8:15 AM You could leave some booze and chapstick on their front steps when you deliver the equipment at 0230.... I gave him a big bottle of Woodford Reserve towards the end of the barn build. He is normally a Crown Royal drinker, but I told him I'd get him something that was actually good, lol.
His wife told me that he tried it but he didn't like it. Which is fine, but then she said she tried it and said that she's had better whiskey that was $5 for a pint. I was like..... ok.....
Oh, lordy lol....well scratch that then.......just the chapstick and run.... |
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 I Chore in Chucks
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Location: MD | Murphy - 2014-08-06 8:19 AM
LRQHS - 2014-08-06 8:15 AM You could leave some booze and chapstick on their front steps when you deliver the equipment at 0230....
I gave him a big bottle of Woodford Reserve towards the end of the barn build. He is normally a Crown Royal drinker, but I told him I'd get him something that was actually good, lol.
His wife told me that he tried it but he didn't like it. Which is fine, but then she said she tried it and said that she's had better whiskey that was $5 for a pint. I was like..... ok.....
then they are both butt holes. When you receive a gift, you are always polite about it regardless of anything.
leave their equipment, a thank you card, explain in a non-confrontational way that you'd like to end the friendship, and would like to do something to return the favor for the barn build. be it gift cards, money or a present (which they pry won't like with their previous behavior.) If I were you I wouldn't mention the bullying if your husband already addressed it at the dinner.
obviously they don't have a lot of tact, so doing it this way will be worlds above them. |
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 Queen Boobie 2
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| Murphy - 2014-08-06 7:19 AM LRQHS - 2014-08-06 8:15 AM You could leave some booze and chapstick on their front steps when you deliver the equipment at 0230.... I gave him a big bottle of Woodford Reserve towards the end of the barn build. He is normally a Crown Royal drinker, but I told him I'd get him something that was actually good, lol.
His wife told me that he tried it but he didn't like it. Which is fine, but then she said she tried it and said that she's had better whiskey that was $5 for a pint. I was like..... ok.....
Wow, nice of her to add that last bit. Some people... |
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Midget Lover
Location: Kentucky | Neither one of them have any tact, and they are both rude. I'm honestly surprised the friendship lasted as long as it did.
I had thought about a gift card also, but honestly, I think my husband would be so against it just because of how he has been treated. |
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Shipwrecked and Flat Out Zapped
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | Murphy - 2014-08-06 7:40 AM Neither one of them have any tact, and they are both rude. I'm honestly surprised the friendship lasted as long as it did.
I had thought about a gift card also, but honestly, I think my husband would be so against it just because of how he has been treated.
I wouldn't give them crap if they treated me bad and they'd be lucky if I didn't send them a box of poop from www.poopsenders.com. |
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Location: Do I hear Banjos? | OMG there's a place that will mail poop to someone?? Ive gotta find this one girl's address....seriously.
I would just return the item and not say another word. You already thanked them and gave a gift. At this point it's water under the bridge. My guess is that Jerk guy is insecure and picks on your husband to try to make himself feel like the big man. Well...all it does is lose friends and show his butt. Show him yours as you both walk away.
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 Tough Patooty
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Location: Sperry, OK | I wouldn't offer to pay them or help them with a project at all. You offered to pay during the barn process, you provided food, drinks and beer. You have done your part. Just take the equipment back and be done. No notes, no gift cards, no nothing! |
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 The Comeback Kid
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Location: lost in missouri | After the way your husband has been treated and the way the wife is you gave them the greatest gift anyone has to offer and that is friendship. Since they obviously do not know how to accept physical gifts (the bottle of alchol) nor know how to be true friends, you have given them all you owe them. Cut your losses and run. They are doing you a favor by offering you an out before you get anymore involved with them. It doesnt matter what you do for them or give them at this point it wont be enough or good enough, these are 2 people you will never be able to please. RUN |
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I Really Love Jeans
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Location: North Dakota | I would drop the equipment off and leave it at that. People like that are not worth a second thought! |
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Shipwrecked and Flat Out Zapped
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | TrailGirl - 2014-08-06 7:59 AM OMG there's a place that will mail poop to someone?? Ive gotta find this one girl's address....seriously.
I would just return the item and not say another word. You already thanked them and gave a gift. At this point it's water under the bridge. My guess is that Jerk guy is insecure and picks on your husband to try to make himself feel like the big man. Well...all it does is lose friends and show his butt. Show him yours as you both walk away.
Yup, and you can get a mixture of poops. Best part, it's totally annonymous :) annnnddddd, totally worth the $40. |
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Midget Lover
Location: Kentucky | Thanks guys! My husband and I are not the type of people to use and abuse people, so our hearts have been very heavy over this.
Yes - this is a type of guy that puts down my husband in order to make himself feel like a big man. It's pathetic. |
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Location: Texas | I would just return the equipment and not look back. You offered to pay for help with barn and they declined. You bought a thank you gift which they belittled so that's all you need to do. I understand your need to do the right thing but at this point you tried and they turned it down so move on |
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Expert
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Location: East Texas | Be sure and take pictures or videos of whatever you are returning (as you are returning it). They sound like the kind that would accuse you of tearing up whatever it is that you borrowed and you sure don't want to have to fight over that!! |
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Midget Lover
Location: Kentucky | horsesinharleton - 2014-08-06 10:11 AM Be sure and take pictures or videos of whatever you are returning (as you are returning it). They sound like the kind that would accuse you of tearing up whatever it is that you borrowed and you sure don't want to have to fight over that!!
We didn't go out to eat with them one time during the NCAA championship games. They got mad and told us they talked about egging our house. So I wouldn't put it past them. |
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Expert
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Location: East Texas | Murphy - 2014-08-06 9:12 AM
horsesinharleton - 2014-08-06 10:11 AM Be sure and take pictures or videos of whatever you are returning (as you are returning it). They sound like the kind that would accuse you of tearing up whatever it is that you borrowed and you sure don't want to have to fight over that!!
We didn't go out to eat with them one time during the NCAA championship games. They got mad and told us they talked about egging our house. So I wouldn't put it past them.
If that's the case, I would return it as soon as possible before they report it as "stolen!!! |
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Midget Lover
Location: Kentucky | horsesinharleton - 2014-08-06 10:15 AM Murphy - 2014-08-06 9:12 AM horsesinharleton - 2014-08-06 10:11 AM Be sure and take pictures or videos of whatever you are returning (as you are returning it). They sound like the kind that would accuse you of tearing up whatever it is that you borrowed and you sure don't want to have to fight over that!! We didn't go out to eat with them one time during the NCAA championship games. They got mad and told us they talked about egging our house. So I wouldn't put it past them. If that's the case, I would return it as soon as possible before they report it as "stolen!!!
It's going back this weekend, for sure. |
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 Cute Little Imp
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Location: N Texas | Just return their stuff, and thank them for letting you borrow it. You owe them NOTHING. You offered to pay them at the time and they declined, so they are not entitled to anything further.
I also don't think you owe them any kind of explanation unless they outright ask. With some people, the less you say, the better. |
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 Fact Checker
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | Gunner11 - 2014-08-06 9:28 AM Just return their stuff, and thank them for letting you borrow it. You owe them NOTHING. You offered to pay them at the time and they declined, so they are not entitled to anything further. I also don't think you owe them any kind of explanation unless they outright ask. With some people, the less you say, the better.
^^^THIS.......but I would certainly take a picture of it, at their place the day you return it.....better safe than sorry........ |
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 A Somebody to Everybody
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Its needs to be returned, so just return it, but make sure its in a good spot so they will see it as soon as they go outside/return home, but a safe spot so that it cant get stolen.
Dont be feeling guitly over ending a friendship that was toxic. Sounds like it was coming no matter if your hubby went off on him are not.  |
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Midget Lover
Location: Kentucky | Southtxponygirl - 2014-08-06 11:08 AM Its needs to be returned, so just return it, but make sure its in a good spot so they will see it as soon as they go outside/return home, but a safe spot so that it cant get stolen.
Dont be feeling guitly over ending a friendship that was toxic. Sounds like it was coming no matter if your hubby went off on him are not.
I was going to call/text him and ask him if they were going to be home, and if not, where they would like for us to drop it off. I didn't just want to dump it in their yard, so hopefully my text will be a heads up for them. |
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A Somebody to Everybody
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Murphy - 2014-08-06 10:16 AM Southtxponygirl - 2014-08-06 11:08 AM Its needs to be returned, so just return it, but make sure its in a good spot so they will see it as soon as they go outside/return home, but a safe spot so that it cant get stolen.
Dont be feeling guitly over ending a friendship that was toxic. Sounds like it was coming no matter if your hubby went off on him are not.
I would rather let someone know that I was returning it that same day so they would know to look for it. I think you are doing the right thing by texing him and asking where to leave it. It was their lost, but their fault that the friendship was a toxic one.  |
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Industrial Srength Barrel Racer
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| LRQHS - 2014-08-06 7:42 AM Murphy - 2014-08-06 7:40 AM Neither one of them have any tact, and they are both rude. I'm honestly surprised the friendship lasted as long as it did.
I had thought about a gift card also, but honestly, I think my husband would be so against it just because of how he has been treated. I wouldn't give them crap if they treated me bad and they'd be lucky if I didn't send them a box of poop from www.poopsenders.com.
OMG - you are a scream!!! This website is blocked but I had to let you know I LOVE your humor! |
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Shipwrecked and Flat Out Zapped
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | Griz - 2014-08-06 11:17 AM LRQHS - 2014-08-06 7:42 AM Murphy - 2014-08-06 7:40 AM Neither one of them have any tact, and they are both rude. I'm honestly surprised the friendship lasted as long as it did.
I had thought about a gift card also, but honestly, I think my husband would be so against it just because of how he has been treated. I wouldn't give them crap if they treated me bad and they'd be lucky if I didn't send them a box of poop from www.poopsenders.com.
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 No Tune in a Bucket
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Location: Texas | Murphy - 2014-08-06 10:16 AM Southtxponygirl - 2014-08-06 11:08 AM Its needs to be returned, so just return it, but make sure its in a good spot so they will see it as soon as they go outside/return home, but a safe spot so that it cant get stolen.
Dont be feeling guitly over ending a friendship that was toxic. Sounds like it was coming no matter if your hubby went off on him are not.
You might even want to have another friend go with you to return the equipment just to have a witness that it was returned in good shape if necessary in the future. |
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Extreme Veteran
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| I'm now definitely going to send poop to someone... and I know just who needs it! |
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Shipwrecked and Flat Out Zapped
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | SuckerForHorses - 2014-08-06 12:08 PM I'm now definitely going to send poop to someone... and I know just who needs it!
You don't have my address do you??? |
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Dilemma.... need opinions