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Location: Minnesota | I think I've come to that point with my mare. I've had her for a little over a year and we just don't click. I've lost all confidence with her and fear I will start to mess her up the longer I keep her. I don't know what's wrong with me but my spark is gone. My horses get the best care around but my riding has suffered so much. I don't know what's happening. I'm beyond worried about the care Boston will get with someone else. How do you let that fear and anxiety go? She deserves to be rode and used. I'm a mess about it. |
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Hungarian Midget Woman
Location: Midwest | Are you having behavioral issues with her or just not using her? |
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| Well I just make myself understand that I do get to pick the buyer and the horse will be better off if they have someone that will use them. |
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Location: Deep South | Have you sought help from a trainer? Someone reputable that has a long credible record of helping people improve with their horses, not just someone that talks the talk and offers to help you out.
I'm not saying this is the case with you, I don't know your case. But I do see people that think because they have been riding practically their whole life they don't "need" the help of a trainer. Well they get a new horse and things go sour. They think it's just the horse, or they just don't click or whatever the case may be. But sometimes having a trainers set of eyes to point out just a few helpful hints can drastically change everything. Maybe you've never rode a horse like that and the trainer has and knows exactly what they need to be successful.
Worst case scenario, your trainer can tell you that you're wasting your time with this horse and can help you sell her and find one that you will enjoy. |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Ctrygirl14 - 2014-09-15 7:49 PM I think I've come to that point with my mare. I've had her for a little over a year and we just don't click. I've lost all confidence with her and fear I will start to mess her up the longer I keep her. I don't know what's wrong with me but my spark is gone. My horses get the best care around but my riding has suffered so much. I don't know what's happening. I'm beyond worried about the care Boston will get with someone else. How do you let that fear and anxiety go? She deserves to be rode and used. I'm a mess about it.
Awww Sterling dont know what to tell you so heres a hug instead
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Underestimated Underdog
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Location: Minnesota | BamaCanChaser - 2014-09-16 3:57 PM
Have you sought help from a trainer? Someone reputable that has a long credible record of helping people improve with their horses, not just someone that talks the talk and offers to help you out.
I'm not saying this is the case with you, I don't know your case. But I do see people that think because they have been riding practically their whole life they don't "need" the help of a trainer. Well they get a new horse and things go sour. They think it's just the horse, or they just don't click or whatever the case may be. But sometimes having a trainers set of eyes to point out just a few helpful hints can drastically change everything. Maybe you've never rode a horse like that and the trainer has and knows exactly what they need to be successful.
Worst case scenario, your trainer can tell you that you're wasting your time with this horse and can help you sell her and find one that you will enjoy.
I like this. I'm going to get with a trainer first. Thank you. |
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Location: Montana | Ctrygirl14 - 2014-09-16 4:14 PM BamaCanChaser - 2014-09-16 3:57 PM Have you sought help from a trainer? Someone reputable that has a long credible record of helping people improve with their horses, not just someone that talks the talk and offers to help you out. I'm not saying this is the case with you, I don't know your case. But I do see people that think because they have been riding practically their whole life they don't "need" the help of a trainer. Well they get a new horse and things go sour. They think it's just the horse, or they just don't click or whatever the case may be. But sometimes having a trainers set of eyes to point out just a few helpful hints can drastically change everything. Maybe you've never rode a horse like that and the trainer has and knows exactly what they need to be successful. Worst case scenario, your trainer can tell you that you're wasting your time with this horse and can help you sell her and find one that you will enjoy. I like this. I'm going to get with a trainer first. Thank you.
Trust me, a trainer really does help! I did that with my mare (I was about to give up all hope of barrel racing with her) and I am soooooooo happy with her now...I'm thinking of breeding her to have a baby that will be "like" her (hopefully, haha). If you were in my area, I know exactly who I would recommend, but I wish you luck on your search for a trainer and I hope you and your horse get things working together! |
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Underestimated Underdog
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Location: Minnesota | mtcanchazer - 2014-09-16 8:32 PM
Ctrygirl14 - 2014-09-16 4:14 PM BamaCanChaser - 2014-09-16 3:57 PM Have you sought help from a trainer? Someone reputable that has a long credible record of helping people improve with their horses, not just someone that talks the talk and offers to help you out. I'm not saying this is the case with you, I don't know your case. But I do see people that think because they have been riding practically their whole life they don't "need" the help of a trainer. Well they get a new horse and things go sour. They think it's just the horse, or they just don't click or whatever the case may be. But sometimes having a trainers set of eyes to point out just a few helpful hints can drastically change everything. Maybe you've never rode a horse like that and the trainer has and knows exactly what they need to be successful. Worst case scenario, your trainer can tell you that you're wasting your time with this horse and can help you sell her and find one that you will enjoy. I like this. I'm going to get with a trainer first. Thank you.
I posted on a local horse site looking for a trainer so hopefully we can get it together. Mygelding and I are good so I'm not sure what is going on. Lessons and learning is never a bad thing so either way this will be good. |
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| I had a horse wreck and really lost my confidence. I have the best trainer in the world who is also a very good friend. I asked her if she thought a clinic would help and she thought that was a great idea. Martha Josey has been a good friend for many years and I signed up for the FALL clinic. Pam (at Joseys) made the comment that we all need a clinic once in awhile. Since you ride your butt off all day, I really think that is a better confidence builder than a session once in awhile at a trainer. I have been running barrels for about 55 years now and I do not know everything about barrel racing. I am not too good to go to a clinic. If you go with the idea that you are there to learn something, you will get a lot out of the clinic and have fun too. |
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