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| Sometimes, you have to whack the guy over the head because being sweet and submissive doesn't do the trick.
I've been married for 14 years and every Christmas is always the same. He gets gifts from me but I get last minute stuff you find at the gas station because even though the house is decorated, there is a six foot tree, the street lamps have garland and our music station is playing carols, he had no idea the holidays was upon him.
I can' t take another year of "I'll make it up to you, babe." So, this year, I sat him down.
"Have you noticed what time of the year it is?"
"Yeah, why?"
"Well, I just thought I'd mention that Christmas is going to be here before you know it and you should be prepared."
"What do you want me to fix this time?"
"Just make sure you go shopping so you don't feel bad on Christmas."
"Oh, yeah. I do, do that. You might want to remind me later."
"How about I paint something on my forehead?"
Okay..so cool. I did my part and reminded him again and he knows that this year he's going to get good stuff because now I'm his sugar mama.
Well, I'll be damned...I caught him. I caught him buying me something early. I haven't gotten him anything yet. You folks better remind me not to forget about him. LOL....
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Location: In The Land of Cotton | I have a good husband. So, this year I have already shopped for him. He has gotten ostrich Lucchesse boots, Calvin Allen chaps, Carhart coat and two hat racks - one for each pickup.
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Location: Cap'n Joan Rotgut.....alberta | yup we do...even though hes a scrooge and hates christmas...lol.....this year hes getting a bot shirt and the biggest jug of rogers syrup i can find and some wool socks cause my puppy keeps eating his..lol
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| You girls did good. I think I'm going to get him a rifle, a jacket and some air tools. |
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Location: 100 miles from Nowhere, AR | We do exchange gifts, and he badgers me about making a list of wants. I have a hard time letting myself want stuff, especially when I'm focused on the large number of people we have to buy for. |
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| The SO and I do gifts too ... Last year was a bust and he totally pulled a gas station moment like yours Riden! LOL .... this year I sat him down too and did the gentle/bash over the head reminder!
Last year I gave him new Caiman boots ... this year its a gorgeous drawing from our own Sara of his first/best/favorite Border Collie ... I hope I catch him getting me something great too! |
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| Three 4 Luck - 2014-11-15 7:40 AM We do exchange gifts, and he badgers me about making a list of wants. I have a hard time letting myself want stuff, especially when I'm focused on the large number of people we have to buy for.
Guilt. I hate that. I do that too. I can't stand to see anyone disappointed. |
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Location: EDGE OF INSANITY | yes, and i painfully scour my brain what to get him (he always says "nothing" "whatever" blah blah when i ask him what the wants). I always get extra large sweaters/jackets whatever from tractor supply (i wear a SMALL) because he literally waits until christmas eve to go get my stuff. It kind of hurts my feelings - i put a ton of effort into his gifts and he just grabs whats left at tractor supply?  |
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| lindseylou2290 - 2014-11-15 7:41 AM The SO and I do gifts too ... Last year was a bust and he totally pulled a gas station moment like yours Riden! LOL .... this year I sat him down too and did the gentle/bash over the head reminder! Last year I gave him new Caiman boots ... this year its a gorgeous drawing from our own Sara of his first/best/favorite Border Collie ... I hope I catch him getting me something great too!
Leave this thread open on your computer. That'll teach him.
"Hey Lindsey's hubby! Straighten up! She doensn't want another pine tree air freshner!" |
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| horsepoor1 - 2014-11-15 7:42 AM yes, and i painfully scour my brain what to get him (he always says "nothing" "whatever" blah blah when i ask him what the wants ). I always get extra large sweaters/jackets whatever from tractor supply (i wear a SMALL ) because he literally waits until christmas eve to go get my stuff. It kind of hurts my feelings - i put a ton of effort into his gifts and he just grabs whats left at tractor supply?
We definately need a support group for this problem. |
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| RidenFly - 2014-11-14 9:43 AM
lindseylou2290 - 2014-11-15 7:41 AM The SO and I do gifts too ... Last year was a bust and he totally pulled a gas station moment like yours Riden! LOL .... this year I sat him down too and did the gentle/bash over the head reminder! Last year I gave him new Caiman boots ... this year its a gorgeous drawing from our own Sara of his first/best/favorite Border Collie ... I hope I catch him getting me something great too!
Leave this thread open on your computer. That'll teach him.
"Hey Lindsey's hubby! Straighten up! She doensn't want another pine tree air freshner!"
YES!!!!!!!!!!! Support group right here!!
And oh yeah .... I'm TOTALLY leaving this thread open 
ETA - The air freshner wasn't ALL that horrible considering his dog puked in my truck and I totally needed it .... but .... LOL!!
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Location: Oklahoma | My husband isn't the kind of guy to get me anything on Valentine's Day, anniversary.... but he makes up for it on my birthday and Christmas!! Last year he waited until the 23rd to get my gift at the mall (williams sonoma and he said it was miserable. lol!)..... I hope he learned his lesson, but I know it's easier for him to wait until the last minute because I will spend every second I'm awake for the last two weeks begging for hints.... It's a fun game we've played with each other for years (actually, it's probably more fun for me than him....).
I'm not sure what I'm getting him this year.... we usually go to Bass Pro and shop for some other people and I can always find something he really wants but won't spend the money on. I need to get him to Bass Pro!!! |
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Location: CTX | Lol, yes we do exchange gifts.
And he pulls the same thing every year.... "I don't need anything....... I don't want anything............ what ever you get me is great............. I have you...." and them some.... So I keep hounding him for a wishlist... Heck, I even send him my list through Amazon. But still he doesn't know....
I do get great stuff from hom, so no complaints there. It's just like pulling teeth to get a list ready for him....
On top of that.... we really have everything we need (except a tractor, but that is a project we are both working on) so it gets harder and harder to find something. |
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| FACTS
*My birthday is the 22nd of December.
*I hate malls any time. Especially the holidays.
*Christmas isn't my favorite time because of how "commercialized" it has become.
STORY
2 years ago.....
my sweet honey suggested we go Christmas shopping at the mall... On the 22nd......
Can you guess how that went?
HE FORGOT IT WAS MY BIRTHDAY! Needless to say I spent my day at the barn. Among my horses. Alone.
I normally get him something big. It was a new handgun one year, a super nice felt hat, Tony Llama boots another.
I doubt Ill be able to get him much this year. We put out close to $700 worth of seed and fertilizer on the pastures last month. I told him Merry Christmas.
I don't care for Christmas presents. Think about me all year and not just on one day. I am strange but I don't really want anything for Christmas. If I need it during the year, I buy it. |
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Location: NC | My husband always wants to get me something I like, BUT he doesn't know how to find or order things online and we don't have any good tack stores around. So he always wants me to order it online...... I like surprises and this kinda ruins it for me, I want him to take hints and do a little work himself to get it.
He is great for hinting at what he wants. but much like a child for like up to two months before Christmas and his birthday he is like (I would really like this, oh this is what I want, I really need one of these, forget what I said before I want this, etc.....) drives me crazy especially if I have already gotten him something and then he tells me 'forget what I said, this is what I really want'....
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| Jazz's Girl - 2014-11-15 8:02 AM
FACTS
*My birthday is the 22nd of December.
*I hate malls any time. Especially the holidays.
*Christmas isn't my favorite time because of how "commercialized" it has become.
STORY
2 years ago.....
my sweet honey suggested we go Christmas shopping at the mall... On the 22nd......
Can you guess how that went?
HE FORGOT IT WAS MY BIRTHDAY! Needless to say I spent my day at the barn. Among my horses. Alone.
I normally get him something big. It was a new handgun one year, a super nice felt hat, Tony Llama boots another.
I doubt Ill be able to get him much this year. We put out close to $700 worth of seed and fertilizer on the pastures last month. I told him Merry Christmas.
I don't care for Christmas presents. Think about me all year and not just on one day. I am strange but I don't really want anything for Christmas. If I need it during the year, I buy it.
I love how you laid that out. And yes, my daughter shares a birthday close to you and she suffers the same thing. |
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Location: EDGE OF INSANITY | cranky B4 10am - 2014-11-14 11:02 AM
Lol, yes we do exchange gifts.
And he pulls the same thing every year.... "I don't need anything....... I don't want anything............ what ever you get me is great............. I have you...." and them some.... So I keep hounding him for a wishlist... Heck, I even send him my list through Amazon. But still he doesn't know....
I do get great stuff from hom, so no complaints there. It's just like pulling teeth to get a list ready for him....
On top of that.... we really have everything we need (except a tractor, but that is a project we are both working on) so it gets harder and harder to find something.
i copy and paste the EXACT things i want onto his facebook lol. its there, website and all (he "hates" shopping, so there ya go, click the link and go directly to what i want) still doesnt work....sigh |
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Location: In The Snow, AZ | Hubby has always gotten me amazing Christmas gifts. This year is the best by far.... luckily, I didn't have to wait until Christmas. Last week he bought me a 4 year old gelding. I'm jazzed with him.
And hubby just bought a 2015 dually GMC one ton. So I'm hoping that counts as Christmas???
Either way, Christmas is about spending our time together. We used to have to split holidays between his family and mine. We have decided (as of last year) that Thanksgiving and Christmas is at our home. Anyone can come. But that's where we will be. |
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Location: CTX | horsepoor1 - 2014-11-14 10:10 AM cranky B4 10am - 2014-11-14 11:02 AM Lol, yes we do exchange gifts.
And he pulls the same thing every year.... "I don't need anything....... I don't want anything............ what ever you get me is great............. I have you...." and them some.... So I keep hounding him for a wishlist... Heck, I even send him my list through Amazon. But still he doesn't know....
I do get great stuff from hom, so no complaints there. It's just like pulling teeth to get a list ready for him....
On top of that.... we really have everything we need (except a tractor, but that is a project we are both working on) so it gets harder and harder to find something. i copy and paste the EXACT things i want onto his facebook lol. its there, website and all (he "hates" shopping, so there ya go, click the link and go directly to what i want ) still doesnt work....sigh
Ha, didn't think about that! That should work good too!
I do email him some random stuff, but they end up in the big pile, so this would probably be easier for him.  |
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Location: LuluLand~along I64 Indiana | Mr Whit is the bomb when it comes to getting me good stuff at christmas. While i have never resorted to the gas station gifts for him i have lacked a few times in the years we have been married..... playing the im the best gift you ever got card doesnt sit well... lesson learned... LOL |
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Location: Wonderful Wyoming | We do. My husband is really hard to buy for. He doesn't really have any hobbies, is just a workaholic and I don't have a clue what he needs for his business. If it is needed, he buys it. He on the other hand keeps an eye out for what I have been eyeing in catalogs or stores we go to (usually horse or house stuff) and surprises me. |
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Location: London Ontario | Preaching to the Choir, My Birthday is Dec 2 so I have now made a tradition with myself to go shopping at the mall for myself on my Birthday. between Christmas on the way, people having exam blah blah blah, it just never works out to be all that fun.
The SO plays the same cards, I don't know if he just doesn't care or what? And the worst part is, he's the biggest baby about Christmas!!! He even has to take gravol on Christmas eve to fall asleep.
Last year my stocking stuffers consisted of Potpourri from the dollar store, and a Candle with Jesus on it.... and we aren't religious at all. I on the other hand am done my xmas shopping by Dec 1.
This year he is getting a leveling kit, a bunch of hunting accessories and a new snowmobile helmet.
Every year I lay out a xmas list with sizes, colors, links etc. Literally spell it out for him!!!
For me its just something I think I have to get used to. One of these years however I will be getting him the same last minute junk he gets me just to show him how it feels. I don't want to sound bratty and I would love something sentimental and what not but it just kinda rubs your heart in the dirt a little when he doesn't put any effort in. |
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| If we have money my husband is great about buying but Christmas time never seems to be when we have money and this year we had had no work since haying season ended so there will be no gifts. We always buy our daughter something she really wants and that is good enough ! As soon as work fires back up I can go back to hauling to races and that is what I have been waiting for . |
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Location: Washington | For the women who have husbands who pull the BS card about not shopping or knowing what to get you, I would suggest that you go out and shop for yourself, and I mean go big. Wrap it all up and hide it, Christmas eve after he has gone to bed put your presents under the tree. Watch his face as you open them screaming with joy over the gifts he's not sure how they got there....until the bill arrives. I promise the bill will make him go shopping for you next Christmas.  |
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| luluwhit - 2014-11-15 8:17 AM Mr Whit is the bomb when it comes to getting me good stuff at christmas. While i have never resorted to the gas station gifts for him i have lacked a few times in the years we have been married..... playing the im the best gift you ever got card doesnt sit well... lesson learned... LOL
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Location: London Ontario | fatchance - 2014-11-14 11:29 AM
For the women who have husbands who pull the BS card about not shopping or knowing what to get you, I would suggest that you go out and shop for yourself, and I mean go big. Wrap it all up and hide it, Christmas eve after he has gone to bed put your presents under the tree. Watch his face as you open them screaming with joy over the gifts he's not sure how they got there....until the bill arrives. I promise the bill will make him go shopping for you next Christmas.
How funny!!!! I should!!!! |
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| MC1993 - 2014-11-15 8:23 AM Preaching to the Choir, My Birthday is Dec 2 so I have now made a tradition with myself to go shopping at the mall for myself on my Birthday. between Christmas on the way, people having exam blah blah blah, it just never works out to be all that fun. The SO plays the same cards, I don't know if he just doesn't care or what? And the worst part is, he's the biggest baby about Christmas!!! He even has to take gravol on Christmas eve to fall asleep. Last year my stocking stuffers consisted of Potpourri from the dollar store, and a Candle with Jesus on it.... and we aren't religious at all. I on the other hand am done my xmas shopping by Dec 1. This year he is getting a leveling kit, a bunch of hunting accessories and a new snowmobile helmet. Every year I lay out a xmas list with sizes, colors, links etc. Literally spell it out for him!!! For me its just something I think I have to get used to. One of these years however I will be getting him the same last minute junk he gets me just to show him how it feels. I don't want to sound bratty and I would love something sentimental and what not but it just kinda rubs your heart in the dirt a little when he doesn't put any effort in.
You made me a laugh and cry. He must feel totally helpless about what to buy. Maybe we need to start a website where men can log on and ask for advice. They seem so clueless! |
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| fatchance - 2014-11-15 8:29 AM For the women who have husbands who pull the BS card about not shopping or knowing what to get you, I would suggest that you go out and shop for yourself, and I mean go big. Wrap it all up and hide it, Christmas eve after he has gone to bed put your presents under the tree. Watch his face as you open them screaming with joy over the gifts he's not sure how they got there....until the bill arrives. I promise the bill will make him go shopping for you next Christmas.
Pure brilliance. |
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Location: In The Snow, AZ | RidenFly - 2014-11-14 8:41 AM fatchance - 2014-11-15 8:29 AM For the women who have husbands who pull the BS card about not shopping or knowing what to get you, I would suggest that you go out and shop for yourself, and I mean go big. Wrap it all up and hide it, Christmas eve after he has gone to bed put your presents under the tree. Watch his face as you open them screaming with joy over the gifts he's not sure how they got there....until the bill arrives. I promise the bill will make him go shopping for you next Christmas.
Perfection. |
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| Yes we do - mostly things we can use. Him - Carhartt shirts, Wrangler jeans, stuff like that. And Santa may just drop a bottle of Pendleton in his stocking too but nothing huge. My husband is a last minute shopper and for him that translates into it doesn't matter how much it costs just to get him out of the store! But he's done pretty well over the years - though early on I got things like a .22 rifle (which I sold after a few years to buy a saddle pad), and 'lovely' pistol - which I still have. :) |
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| We have started a new tradition. We don't give big gifts just something for under the tree. Instead we treat ourselves to Vegas during the NFR. He has a stressful job and it makes me so happy to see his childish delight when we leave for the airport to go to Vegas. It's his big de-stress time. He is excited already about going. |
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Location: Oklahoma | We just give each other money and we buy what we want. Otherwise, it's that old cycle of buying/taking back/exchanging. lol |
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| We used to in our younger years. We were always broke, had 4 kids so the emphasis was on them but we bought something for each other, usually things we needed. He is a very good gift giver, very thoughtful. Now sometimes my husband shops for me and sometimes he doesn't if I have been buying a lot for myself. Last Christmas I did not get any gifts- had just bought our new place. He surprised with an I Pad 2 years ago. I just had a birthday and since I bought 2 Caldwells, a TR3 drag and a new horse in the last 6 months I was good with no gifts for my BD and Christmas :). We are both pretty low maintenace, probably because we are able to buy what we want throughout the year. We are building a new house so a pretty nice gift for both of us. I will still buy for him, he works so hard, buys me what ever I want with in reason so I want him to have everything- of course he has to pay for it.
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| ~BINGO~ - 2014-11-14 10:56 AM
RidenFly - 2014-11-14 8:41 AM fatchance - 2014-11-15 8:29 AM For the women who have husbands who pull the BS card about not shopping or knowing what to get you, I would suggest that you go out and shop for yourself, and I mean go big. Wrap it all up and hide it, Christmas eve after he has gone to bed put your presents under the tree. Watch his face as you open them screaming with joy over the gifts he's not sure how they got there....until the bill arrives. I promise the bill will make him go shopping for you next Christmas. Perfection.
I SO SHOULD DO THIS!!!!! LMAO!!! |
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Location: never in the right place | My husband does pretty good, except for stocking stuffers, I get pens, staples, push pins etc . No I do not work from home. . He is very hard to buy for because he gets what he wants during the year. I usually end up getting jeans, sweaters and flannel shirts for him and try and get 1 bigger gift, but this year I am at a loss. |
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Location: Buffalo, Wyoming | My SO and I do exchange gifts. Except for last year, he was starting a new business so I didn't get anything. This year he better make up for it big time by putting a rock on my finger....
He is usually really good about getting me great gifts. He made up for Christmas last year by getting me a great birthday present. His only downfall is he can't wait until the day of to give anything so it is a surprise so I always end up getting my presents a couple of days in advance if not sooner. |
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| Sometimes you just have to TELL them. Men are not mind readers. My SIL gets upset every year because my BIL doesn't get her anything "personal" or she thinks he takes the easy way out (like a giant basket of stuff from Bath and Body works). One year for Christmas he got her a bug guard for her pickup and she was livid. And if he asks what she wants she says nothing because "he ought to know." Screw that - I make a list and give it to him, he cannot read my mind and this way he has many items to choose from, from a $2 roll of vet wrap to items I'll never, ever get. :) And it makes it fun for both of us. My SIL I have decided would rather be a grinch. |
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Location: In the Hills of Texas | We don't buy stuff for each other and we really don't do Christmas. I'm a Bah Hum Bug and really don't like this time of year at all. I can't wait for Jan. 2nd. |
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| WE gave up on the gift thing.....hubby sucked at it. He made Scrooge look like a Christmas Elf! Our anniversary is in late October and his bad mood would start weeks before that and get increasingly worse until Christmas. Then Christmas morning he was all sunshine and tinsel, Grrrrrrr!!!!
Any Christmas shopping done by him was done on Christmas Eve, enabled by his mother, when she was still alive. Many of any gift I received was purchased in a truck stop, TSC would have been a welcome step up. It took me awhile until I figured the pattern out. When I did I gave him a pass as all of this crap has made me dread Christmas and have become a bit Scroogy myself.
SO I have pretty much given him a pass on gift giving, exchanging it for a less stressed, less moody husband. Also appreciate the fact that I have pretty much anything I and all of my furbabies need. He never hesitated to tell me to go ahead with expensive, risky colic surgery on two different occasions (one turned out happy, the other not), I'll take that over Christmas, birthday and anniversary gifts any day! I have also asked him if he would be OK with me donating money to a critter or person in need, of which I have found a couple here on the board. THAT makes me happy, gifts not so much.
Last Christmas he wasn't too happy with me when I presented him with a wrapped gift Christmas morning. It was a huge collage of all of he and his pickup horses in action. Turned out really cool and he forgave me.....I think.....
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Location: Deep in the heart of Texas. | Don't feel bad this past year i was forgotten on our anniversary and didn't receive anything for my birthday and last Christmas his family bought him and my daughter something but i got for gotten about .
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| txkrystal - 2014-11-15 11:41 AM Don't feel bad this past year i was forgotten on our anniversary and didn't receive anything for my birthday and last Christmas his family bought him and my daughter something but i got for gotten about .
I'm sorry. That hurt me to read that. Take Fatchance's suggestion. In your case, go broke doing it.
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | Nevertooold - 2014-11-14 1:31 PM We don't buy stuff for each other and we really don't do Christmas. I'm a Bah Hum Bug and really don't like this time of year at all. I can't wait for Jan. 2nd.
LOL....the older I get the more I feel that way too. We have been married so long and have (or buy) anything we want during the year so we don't exchange gifts either....... |
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Location: Opelousas, LA | I buy him stuff he needs but he is usually so mad at me come Christmas morning that he just pouts around and stuffs all his gifts in the closet. Sometime later in the year he mentions he needs whatever it is he needs and I tell him the boys or I got it for him for Christmas and he will go find it so he can use it. He pretty much never buys me anything for Christmas, just tells me to go buy what I need.
I have really started to hate the holidays because it is just a lot of extra work trying to make things fun for the kids and nice for the rest of the family. We don't get days off so everything gets put off til the last minute and then he gets mad because I expect him to help and I get mad because he won't. I am trying very hard this year to get things done way early, just too much stress otherwise.
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| txkrystal - 2014-11-14 1:41 PM
Don't feel bad this past year i was forgotten on our anniversary and didn't receive anything for my birthday and last Christmas his family bought him and my daughter something but i got for gotten about .
Don't YOU feel bad. Mine has remembered my birthday maybe 3 times in the 36 years we have been married and two of those have been since I told him NOT to remember since I wasn't HAVING any anymore. LOL
Anniversaries....well he does tell me Happy Anniversary if he remembers. But I think I have decided that his support throughout the year rather than a few gifts on certain days. |
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Location: Vinton, La. | Married for 24 years and mine has no clue what to get me every Christmas. One year he bought me a pair of slippers two sizes too small. And another year I got a saddle bronc bronze. Uh, yea saddle bronc. Yes, I smiled and told him I loved the bronze and stuffed my big feet in those little slippers when he was home. But for the last 5 years I just told him to buy what he wanted and I'd go shopping in Ruidoso. He agreed and I spend a small fortune once a year. |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Bigtime mistake - 2014-11-14 8:52 PM Married for 24 years and mine has no clue what to get me every Christmas. One year he bought me a pair of slippers two sizes too small. And another year I got a saddle bronc bronze. Uh, yea saddle bronc. Yes, I smiled and told him I loved the bronze and stuffed my big feet in those little slippers when he was home. But for the last 5 years I just told him to buy what he wanted and I'd go shopping in Ruidoso. He agreed and I spend a small fortune once a year.
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Location: Vinton, La. | LOL Roxie! He buys tractors. I go to Ruidoso. It's a great trade off. |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Bigtime mistake - 2014-11-14 8:59 PM LOL Roxie! He buys tractors. I go to Ruidoso. It's a great trade off.
That is a good trade off. LOL
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Location: NW Arkansas | GLP - 2014-11-14 10:06 AM We have started a new tradition. We don't give big gifts just something for under the tree. Instead we treat ourselves to Vegas during the NFR. He has a stressful job and it makes me so happy to see his childish delight when we leave for the airport to go to Vegas. It's his big de-stress time. He is excited already about going.
This is what my husband surprised me with this year! We went last year and he loved it. In October he told me he'd booked the first weekend of the NFR for us for Christmas. He said don't buy me any gifts, we'll shop at the NFR. |
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Buttered Noodles Snacker
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Location: NC | UTAHCANCHASER - 2014-11-14 1:12 PM
My SO and I do exchange gifts. Except for last year, he was starting a new business so I didn't get anything. This year he better make up for it big time by putting a rock on my finger....
He is usually really good about getting me great gifts. He made up for Christmas last year by getting me a great birthday present. His only downfall is he can't wait until the day of to give anything so it is a surprise so I always end up getting my presents a couple of days in advance if not sooner.
Mine is bad for this too. As soon as he gets me something he wants to give it to me. And if I don't let him he wants me to try n guess what it is... Hahaha |
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| Some of these post are really depressing. I didn't expect that. So maybe the better point to make would be to remind ourselves the reason for the season and be grateful for another day in which to hug our loved ones and remind them how special they are to us. |
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Location: Southeast Louisiana | We do give gifts. But, the real gift is that we listen to each other. It's usually something inexpensive, but something the other mentioned in conversation. |
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Location: California | I've already got my husband planned out for gifts . I really don't want anything or need anything but he keeps asking so more than anything I asked him to help me decorate the house (inside and out) and to take a trip to see my family next year when he gets more vacation days . I think the best gift he could have given was acknowledging the communication errors we have been having and really putting an effort in fixing the things that were upsetting to me.
His Birthday is the day after so Ive had to think double the goodies but I've made note of things he has mentioned/looked at over the year. This is our first Christmas with his family and not mine. I am more stressed about his family doing a name drawing for gifts and I ended up with his step sisters husband (who I have never met). It will be a new experience for sure.
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| RidenFly - 2014-11-14 9:24 AM
Sometimes, you have to whack the guy over the head because being sweet and submissive doesn't do the trick.
I've been married for 14 years and every Christmas is always the same. He gets gifts from me but I get last minute stuff you find at the gas station because even though the house is decorated, there is a six foot tree, the street lamps have garland and our music station is playing carols, he had no idea the holidays was upon him.
I can' t take another year of "I'll make it up to you, babe." So, this year, I sat him down.
"Have you noticed what time of the year it is?"
"Yeah, why?"
"Well, I just thought I'd mention that Christmas is going to be here before you know it and you should be prepared."
"What do you want me to fix this time?"
"Just make sure you go shopping so you don't feel bad on Christmas."
"Oh, yeah. I do, do that. You might want to remind me later."
"How about I paint something on my forehead?"
Okay..so cool. I did my part and reminded him again and he knows that this year he's going to get good stuff because now I'm his sugar mama.
Well, I'll be damned...I caught him. I caught him buying me something early. I haven't gotten him anything yet. You folks better remind me not to forget about him. LOL....
So...when it comes to Christmas do you and your spouse exchange gifts?
Reading your post I started to think maybe my hubby got. BHW handle and was complaining about ME. LOL!! I'm terrible. He's always on top of stuff and I procrastinate. |
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| fatchance - 2014-11-14 10:29 AM
For the women who have husbands who pull the BS card about not shopping or knowing what to get you, I would suggest that you go out and shop for yourself, and I mean go big. Wrap it all up and hide it, Christmas eve after he has gone to bed put your presents under the tree. Watch his face as you open them screaming with joy over the gifts he's not sure how they got there....until the bill arrives. I promise the bill will make him go shopping for you next Christmas.
I love it!! And I'm a little afraid my hubby will do that. HAHAHAHAAAA!! |
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I Prefer to Live in Fantasy Land
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Location: In the Hills of Texas | F Bar - 2014-11-15 4:45 PM I've already got my husband planned out for gifts . I really don't want anything or need anything but he keeps asking so more than anything I asked him to help me decorate the house (inside and out) and to take a trip to see my family next year when he gets more vacation days . I think the best gift he could have given was acknowledging the communication errors we have been having and really putting an effort in fixing the things that were upsetting to me.
His Birthday is the day after so Ive had to think double the goodies but I've made note of things he has mentioned/looked at over the year. This is our first Christmas with his family and not mine. I am more stressed about his family doing a name drawing for gifts and I ended up with his step sisters husband (who I have never met). It will be a new experience for sure.
I didn't know that you and your husband were back together. That's a nice gift. Hope you work everything out.. |
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Location: Jersey Girl | Most years we do exchange gifts but there have been years that we buy something for the house instead.
I have learned with Christmas (and birthdays) you have to completely spell out to them what you want and/or expect. Makes it so its not so dissappointing. |
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| I'm a scrooge....Gifts at Christmas have always been a dissappointment to me. When I was young my mom had 8 kids and for some reason she could never figure me out.. Still can't... I don't know that I ever got a gift I wanted or needed. EVER... Seemed like she got me what my older sister Vicky wanted. SO my sister got two gifts I got nothing... One year I was 12 mom got me a BARBIE DOLL!! Really I asked for a new set of reins for my bridle, which were cheaper than that dumb doll (I gave that doll to my 8 year old cousin)... for the record I was NEVER a barbie doll girl.. Tonka trucks and matchbox cars yes, not DOLLS. And the last time I was home for Christmas mom gave me a "snowbaby" Christmas tree ornament ugliest thing I ever saw, ahhh mom they make all kinds of horsey ones for half the price.
SO when I got married my then husband asked me what I wanted for Christmas I told him I wanted a floor jack for the car, and a nintendo gameplayer... He told me "I can't get my wife a floor jack! What else?" SO I told him "Don't get me anything, if ya ask what I want and don't like what I ask for I don't want anything." I got the nintedo... got the floor jack for my bithday
SO I had decided I was not going to make the same mistake my mother did and figured out my boys are individuals and got them gifts that said so. Christmas gift giving is for kids and I love to see them with happy faces...
I am a big advocate of keeping Christ in Christmas and try to enjoy the holiday with family and friends and try to stay away from the commercialization. |
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Location: Southeast Louisiana | suzy2qtee - 2014-11-16 10:15 AM
I'm a scrooge....Gifts at Christmas have always been a dissappointment to me. When I was young my mom had 8 kids and for some reason she could never figure me out.. Still can't... I don't know that I ever got a gift I wanted or needed. EVER... Seemed like she got me what my older sister Vicky wanted. SO my sister got two gifts I got nothing... One year I was 12 mom got me a BARBIE DOLL!! Really I asked for a new set of reins for my bridle, which were cheaper than that dumb doll (I gave that doll to my 8 year old cousin)... for the record I was NEVER a barbie doll girl.. Tonka trucks and matchbox cars yes, not DOLLS. And the last time I was home for Christmas mom gave me a "snowbaby" Christmas tree ornament ugliest thing I ever saw, ahhh mom they make all kinds of horsey ones for half the price.
SO when I got married my then husband asked me what I wanted for Christmas I told him I wanted a floor jack for the car, and a nintendo gameplayer... He told me "I can't get my wife a floor jack! What else?" SO I told him "Don't get me anything, if ya ask what I want and don't like what I ask for I don't want anything." I got the nintedo... got the floor jack for my bithdaySO I had decided I was not going to make the same mistake my mother did and figured out my boys are individuals and got them gifts that said so. Christmas gift giving is for kids and I love to see them with happy faces...
I am a big advocate of keeping Christ in Christmas and try to enjoy the holiday with family and friends and try to stay away from the commercialization.
I can totally sympathize with you, Suzy! My mom tried to make me fit what she thought I should like, too.
For my last birthday, my husband told me, "I'm not getting you sand." He laughs that I show off my tack set and tell everyone he is the one who got that for me, but he never sees me showing off my diamond necklace. He just doesn't always get me. He does try, though. And I love him for that. |
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