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Location: Kansas | With a bad break up? I was in a relationship with someone, who I truly did love. He broke it off with me last friday, because he said I was putting him through alot. We went to a concert in a town about 30 miles from home, I said hi to a guy I previously had a relationship with (over 2 years ago), the guy acknowledged I was in a relationship and that was basically the conversation. So basically that ticked my ex off.....he left me in the town, had to have my grandmother come get me at 1:00 am since my car was at his house.
Since then, I haven't eaten since saturday...all I do is cry. He is talking to other girls already, and then sends me nasty text messages saying I was the one who never loved him, nor cared about him and that because of my "actions" I did this to myself. The messages are horrible, I cry everytime he sends a new one. I guess I'm hurt, because I'm a single mother.......and he was a "father figure" to my daughter. He basically states I'm a piece of crap who never cared about him.
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Location: Oklahoma | I messaged you on facebook... |
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Location: London Ontario | Block his number. Stupid comments and texts like that are ridiculous and I guess show his true colors. There are like a bajillion other guys out there and as corny as that sounds its true. He sounds like he needs a good a** whoop and to grow up. I say focus on yourself and your cutie for a while, the right guy will come around in time. Hugs... |
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Location: NW. Florida | Different strokes for different folks. I'm sorry you're hurt, but if he left me somewhere I wouldn't be hurt.....I'd be pissed. I wouldn't put up with someone that childish and didn't respect me any more than that. Find someone worthy of you and your child. Again sorry you're hurt. |
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | I'm so sorry, Aushlin. While he seemed like a great guy from what I saw, he left you in town stranded and he is lashing out at you in texts. These are not the actions of someone that cares about you. Even if he intended to break up with you, a man, would not have left you stranded. Though it seems hopeless right now, it will get better. It's going to take a little time, but don't settle for that. You and your daughter deserve better than that. That's not what a man would do. I'm here and on FB if you need to vent, talk, cry, need strength or just need me to cuss him out for you. Don't hesitate to contact me if you need. Hugs :) |
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Location: Oklahoma | I can't say anything better than what everyone else has said.... he showed his true colors and don't forget it. Lashing out in texts is immature and leaving you stranded somewhere is uncalled for. I think if was that jealous over an ex saying hello (which, IMO, would have been immature NOT to acknowledge each other if you had a past) I think he has something of his own to hide.
I would either get a new number or block his and don't let his nastiness get to you! Be strong and know that someone else better is out there!!
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Location: Buffalo, Wyoming | So sorry to hear this girl! Like what was said above, I real man would not have left you stranded like that.
Like I said on FB come out to Wyoming! |
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| LRQHS - 2014-11-20 2:43 PM I'm so sorry, Aushlin. While he seemed like a great guy from what I saw, he left you in town stranded and he is lashing out at you in texts. These are not the actions of someone that cares about you. Even if he intended to break up with you, a man, would not have left you stranded. Though it seems hopeless right now, it will get better. It's going to take a little time, but don't settle for that. You and your daughter deserve better than that. That's not what a man would do. I'm here and on FB if you need to vent, talk, cry, need strength or just need me to cuss him out for you. Don't hesitate to contact me if you need. Hugs :)
LRQHS beat me to it. It's going to hurt, some days more than others, but I promise it will get easier, and you and your daughter deserve better than how he has treated you. Give yourself some time to grieve, hold onto your daughter tight and move on, one step at a time. Stay strong and know that your friends on BHW will always be around to listen :) |
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| He sounds super guilty of something you have yet to discover. Be patient. You'll probably find out the real reason for this unexpected behavior soon. Meanwhile, hold your head up and block his number. Who needs that kind of aggrivation? (hugs) |
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Location: NE Texas | He is not a man, he is a child, and you are not a priorty, bottom line. He isn't worth your time and you don't want that kind of person as a role model for your daughter. I agree with whoever said they would be ticked off....a man doesn't put a woman in that position...EVER! You need to block his number and on facebook (if you do that sort of thing). He's not worthy of your time.....heck, i'd be encouraging everyone to take him off your hands! LOL I know you're hurting but in order to get over this you're going to have to make a conscious choice to see that he is not that kind of man you're looking for to share your life with and that with that type of temper and negligence toward you, he's definitely not someone you want around your child. Find a man who things the sun rises and sets on your behind....someone who would spend their last penny for your happiness....someone who you want to do the same for. THAT's the man who is worthy of you and your daughter's time.
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| Good riddance.
Leave you stranded in another town, heck ANYWHERE! Oh He LL no. I don't care how mad he is at you, that is dangerous and putting your safety in jeopardy.
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Location: N Texas | I agree with the others--no matter how pissed at you he was, there is no excuse to leave you stranded somewhere. As much as it sucks, it kind of looks like he was looking for a way out and blew this out of proportion on purpose.
I'm so sorry you're going through this, but I've found the best way to cope is to stay busy. Crying helps too, but the more you sit around and dwell on it, the more miserable you're going to make yourself. You're going to go through a huge range of emotions--anger, hurt, acceptance, and everything in between--more than once.
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| Wow. That is really sad and immature. I agree with the others, regardless of how mad he was...he should NEVER have left you 30 minutes from home without a ride. Thoughtless and self centered at best. A man that will do that is also someone that you cannot depend on in other situations and you are better off without him. As far as the nasty text messages yet still talking to other girls...he has a control issue and you would be best to block his number. Yes it will be hard for you, but when you look down the road 10 years later you will look back and think "Omg what was I thinking? My life would be horrible now if I had stayed there." (Trust me...I speak from personal experience.) |
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Location: Kentucky | RidenFly - 2014-11-20 3:54 PM He sounds super guilty of something you have yet to discover. Be patient. You'll probably find out the real reason for this unexpected behavior soon. Meanwhile, hold your head up and block his number. Who needs that kind of aggrivation? (hugs)
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| Murphy - 2014-11-21 12:57 PM RidenFly - 2014-11-20 3:54 PM He sounds super guilty of something you have yet to discover. Be patient. You'll probably find out the real reason for this unexpected behavior soon. Meanwhile, hold your head up and block his number. Who needs that kind of aggrivation? (hugs) Yep - he is the guilty party and he is trying to cover his tracks by making you feel like crap.
It's an old trick. Accuse the innocent of something you're guilty of and make a big show of it.... |
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Location: Kansas | What sucks even worse....is I posted that I was "feeling heartbroken" on facebook......I never said anything else, people automatically assumed he had done this and that.
I just commented under the post saying that I couldnt eat/sleep, and was upset. I then deleted the post because everyone was jumping to conclusions about what happened. I never shared what happened to anyone, and because of that post....he thinks I'm telling people what an a-hole he is, and this and that...when in fact I haven't said anything to anyone about it! I'm ashamed. I'm not perfect, I understand that....nobody is perfect. It hurts me when I get called a piece of crap (other word though) because I apparently told people he was the one that "wronged" me. I never should of said Hi to that guy at the concert, I know I was in the wrong for that. I honestly didn't believe he would have an issue with it...since it wasn't even a conversation with the guy! It was hi and that was basically it. |
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| Hmmm, lets recap:
1. He left you in a strange town after you and your ex had an responsible/respectful convo.
2. He's talking to other girls already.
3. He's sending nasty texts to rub it in.
Um, no. This guy is a jerk that you, nor your daughter need.
I'm sorry that you're hurting right now, but I'm going to bet that you'll feel better, and very soon. |
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Location: Oklahoma | hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-20 3:00 PM What sucks even worse....is I posted that I was "feeling heartbroken" on facebook......I never said anything else, people automatically assumed he had done this and that.
I just commented under the post saying that I couldnt eat/sleep, and was upset. I then deleted the post because everyone was jumping to conclusions about what happened. I never shared what happened to anyone, and because of that post....he thinks I'm telling people what an a-hole he is, and this and that...when in fact I haven't said anything to anyone about it! I'm ashamed. I'm not perfect, I understand that....nobody is perfect. It hurts me when I get called a piece of crap (other word though) because I apparently told people he was the one that "wronged" me. I never should of said Hi to that guy at the concert, I know I was in the wrong for that. I honestly didn't believe he would have an issue with it...since it wasn't even a conversation with the guy! It was hi and that was basically it.
Oh no.... this is 2014... you can da*n well say hello to whoever you want. If he were secure it wouldn't have been an issue.... you didn't do anything wrong.... he's a little p**is......... |
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Location: Kansas | TwistedK - 2014-11-20 3:02 PM hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-20 3:00 PM What sucks even worse....is I posted that I was "feeling heartbroken" on facebook......I never said anything else, people automatically assumed he had done this and that.
I just commented under the post saying that I couldnt eat/sleep, and was upset. I then deleted the post because everyone was jumping to conclusions about what happened. I never shared what happened to anyone, and because of that post....he thinks I'm telling people what an a-hole he is, and this and that...when in fact I haven't said anything to anyone about it! I'm ashamed. I'm not perfect, I understand that....nobody is perfect. It hurts me when I get called a piece of crap (other word though) because I apparently told people he was the one that "wronged" me. I never should of said Hi to that guy at the concert, I know I was in the wrong for that. I honestly didn't believe he would have an issue with it...since it wasn't even a conversation with the guy! It was hi and that was basically it. Oh no.... this is 2014... you can da*n well say hello to whoever you want. If he were secure it wouldn't have been an issue.... you didn't do anything wrong.... he's a little p**is.........
He is talking to a girl he slept with......he talked to her our entire relationship but claimed it was about his "puppies" and that was it.....yet she was on his snapchat...and she would "cry" to him in text messages about her dog being sick this, or that. And I never said anything to him about it, nor did I accuse him of anything. |
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Location: Paradise , tx | You cope one day at a time. You only want someone who treats you like a princess. Even though it hurts right now , I am very sorry for your hurt. I think many of us have been there, just remember you are special, even if you don't think so right now, and if he cann't see that, his loss |
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Location: London Ontario | "he thinks I'm telling people what an a-hole he is, and this and that" Uhhh a spade is a spade is it not????? Keep your head up chicky. He's lucky cause if he left me, my foot would be so far up his behind we wouldn't be able to find it.....Oh and all the tires would be slashed on his vehicle....BUT that's just me hahaha....not giving you any ideas BTW lol
Edited to say "claimed it was about his "puppies" and that was it" yeah my hubby has a pair of "puppies" too but that's not G rated ahahahah
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | Ummmm, nope. A man would be secure enough to stand there and talk to the dude with you or say later, "hey, that kind of bothered me." Him calling you a piece of s*** does not make it a true statement. YOU ARE VERY FAR FROM THAT! You aren't even close to a fart. So, just shake that crap off. |
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Location: In the Hills of Texas | Were you married before?
If so..how long have you been divorced?
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Location: LuluLand~along I64 Indiana | girl.... im sorry you are sad but the real issue here is you see no self worth. Why are you putting your mind and body thru heck when some pos left you high and dry.... You have no reason to feel ashamed.... Hang him high and dry on FB and stand up for yourself instead of letting him give you yet another guilt trip....
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Location: Kansas | Nevertooold - 2014-11-20 3:09 PM Were you married before?
If so..how long have you been divorced?
I've never been married. I was in a relationship with my daughters father, who was very abusive....he use to beat me really bad so I left him. Since then, her father has made my life a living hell.....and still is. |
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Location: Buffalo, TX | You do not want guys like him in your life role modeling this atrocious behavior for your daughter...what an immature jerk...there were probably a few red flags before this pointing to his jealous side...and, sorry to point this out, but I'll never understand why people put anything at all about their personal lives on facebook for the whole world to see and interpret, so I would completely keep your relationships private...like the others here, I say good riddance...you deserve better, so raise your standards... |
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-20 3:10 PM
Nevertooold - 2014-11-20 3:09 PM Were you married before?
If so..how long have you been divorced?
I've never been married. I was in a relationship with my daughters father, who was very abusive....he use to beat me really bad so I left him. Since then, her father has made my life a living hell.....and still is.
This one is no better. I agree with Lulu, your self esteem is low. What you have been through was not/is not easy, but you are going to have to find some strength and self worth. You need my friend, Jessie Quarles, Herbie. She always has really great words and can pull anyone up. Come back, Herbie! We need you! |
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Location: Buffalo, TX | hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-20 3:10 PM Nevertooold - 2014-11-20 3:09 PM Were you married before?
If so..how long have you been divorced?
I've never been married. I was in a relationship with my daughters father, who was very abusive....he use to beat me really bad so I left him. Since then, her father has made my life a living hell.....and still is.
Coming from someone who has learned the hard way...please take some time for yourself and be alone for awhile before you jump into another relationship...your picker is off and you need to learn who you are and think more of yourself and that you deserve a good life...I'm willing to bet you come a family with either an absent, abusive, or alcoholic father...I did, and it took me a long time to put the puzzle pieces together...so don't settle for the first old boy who comes along and acts like he's head over heels.... |
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | Also, I did not like his gotee and he didn't have any butt. |
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| hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-20 3:00 PM
What sucks even worse....is I posted that I was "feeling heartbroken" on facebook......I never said anything else, people automatically assumed he had done this and that.
I just commented under the post saying that I couldnt eat/sleep, and was upset. I then deleted the post because everyone was jumping to conclusions about what happened. I never shared what happened to anyone, and because of that post....he thinks I'm telling people what an a-hole he is, and this and that...when in fact I haven't said anything to anyone about it! I'm ashamed. I'm not perfect, I understand that....nobody is perfect. It hurts me when I get called a piece of crap (other word though) because I apparently told people he was the one that "wronged" me. I never should of said Hi to that guy at the concert, I know I was in the wrong for that. I honestly didn't believe he would have an issue with it...since it wasn't even a conversation with the guy! It was hi and that was basically it.
Oh pal !!!! Chin up and HUGS from me to you!
You should never feel like you cannot talk to someone - regardless if you had a past relationship with them or not. Really - he is the one being insecure if he can't take you saying hi to an old flame ... AND he never should have left you ANYWHERE. I don't care how mad a man is, but as soon as he leaves you somewhere, he is not a man. That is crap that a freakin' high school boy would do.
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Location: In the Hills of Texas | hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-20 3:10 PM Nevertooold - 2014-11-20 3:09 PM Were you married before?
If so..how long have you been divorced?
I've never been married. I was in a relationship with my daughters father, who was very abusive....he use to beat me really bad so I left him. Since then, her father has made my life a living hell.....and still is.
I would say you have a few more relationships to go through before you find a real man that wants a real relationship.
Good luck and like Cindy said..never put stuff like that out on FB. It will always turn around and bit you in the butt. |
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Location: Kansas | LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:17 PM Also, I did not like his gotee and he didn't have any butt.
LMAO!!!!! Thank you for the smile on that one!!!! |
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Location: Kansas | Cindy Hamilton - 2014-11-20 3:17 PM hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-20 3:10 PM Nevertooold - 2014-11-20 3:09 PM Were you married before?
If so..how long have you been divorced?
I've never been married. I was in a relationship with my daughters father, who was very abusive....he use to beat me really bad so I left him. Since then, her father has made my life a living hell.....and still is.
I agree, this time I'm just going to be alone. My father has never really been in my life, my mother was an alcholic and drug addict. I've had to pretty much raise myself over the years. |
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-20 3:19 PM
LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:17 PM Also, I did not like his gotee and he didn't have any butt.
LMAO!!!!! Thank you for the smile on that one!!!!
I kept wanting to pull his pants up lol. |
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Location: Oklahoma | LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:20 PM hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-20 3:19 PM LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:17 PM Also, I did not like his gotee and he didn't have any butt. LMAO!!!!! Thank you for the smile on that one!!!! I kept wanting to pull his pants up lol.
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | TwistedK - 2014-11-20 3:23 PM
LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:20 PM hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-20 3:19 PM LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:17 PM Also, I did not like his gotee and he didn't have any butt. LMAO!!!!! Thank you for the smile on that one!!!! I kept wanting to pull his pants up lol.
Who wants to go through life with a buttless man? Not this cowgirl! I need something to hold on to. |
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Location: Oklahoma | LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:25 PM TwistedK - 2014-11-20 3:23 PM LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:20 PM hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-20 3:19 PM LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:17 PM Also, I did not like his gotee and he didn't have any butt. LMAO!!!!! Thank you for the smile on that one!!!! I kept wanting to pull his pants up lol. Who wants to go through life with a buttless man? Not this cowgirl! I need something to hold on to.
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Location: Gainesville, TX | Let's talk about the way this should have gone based on my experience.
We're at a restaurant. An Ex walks up, surprising me. I've told my husband this guy was a bit of a pain. The ex and I parted on relatively good terms though, something along the lines of "I'm going to be moving a lot and this isn't the best thing for me right now. So he says hi. I say hi but not much more. He talks to my sister for a minute. After dinner, my husband mentions he was a bit upset that I had not immediately introduced him. I apologize and promise to always do so in future. He gets over it, drives us home, and we're married for six years and counting. THAT would be a reasonable response. |
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Location: Kansas | oija - 2014-11-20 3:33 PM Let's talk about the way this should have gone based on my experience. We're at a restaurant. An Ex walks up, surprising me. I've told my husband this guy was a bit of a pain. The ex and I parted on relatively good terms though, something along the lines of "I'm going to be moving a lot and this isn't the best thing for me right now. So he says hi. I say hi but not much more. He talks to my sister for a minute. After dinner, my husband mentions he was a bit upset that I had not immediately introduced him. I apologize and promise to always do so in future. He gets over it, drives us home, and we're married for six years and counting. THAT would be a reasonable response.
that's kind of how I thought it would go in my mind......but it went south as soon as I walked back up to him. He ignored me the rest of the night, then left. I had 3 beers that evening, and had to have a police officer drive me to perkins so I could sit and wait for my grandmother to pick me up. I was embarassed. |
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| LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:17 PM
Also, I did not like his gotee and he didn't have any butt.
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| seriously? screw that. girl you might not see it today but he did you a favor.
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Location: NE Texas | LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:25 PM TwistedK - 2014-11-20 3:23 PM LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:20 PM hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-20 3:19 PM LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:17 PM Also, I did not like his gotee and he didn't have any butt. LMAO!!!!! Thank you for the smile on that one!!!! I kept wanting to pull his pants up lol. Who wants to go through life with a buttless man? Not this cowgirl! I need something to hold on to.
Mama needs a man with that feels and looks like a MAN! LOL
I'm in with Lulu and the others....You have to respect yourself before anyone else will respect you and you have to have a clear definition of what your expectations for a relationship are. When lines are crossed, we have to hold the line crosser accoutable. We teach people how to treat us and you are teaching them to treat you like crap. Stand tall, be proud of who you are!!!! Sounds like you have already overcome so much....be proud of that and use that as a tool and learning experience. Love yourself first and foremost and if a potential mate isn't matching up to the man you know you deserve....MOVE ON.....you were looking when you found him! LOL In all seriousness, you have to have expectations of what you want and when you don't get that, cut ties. Time to take control of your life and be proud to be a strong woman, a mother, and to know that a good man will be HONORED to be with you, not burdened. Food for thought...... |
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| Herbie - 2014-11-20 3:38 PM
LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:25 PM TwistedK - 2014-11-20 3:23 PM LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:20 PM hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-20 3:19 PM LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:17 PM Also, I did not like his gotee and he didn't have any butt. LMAO!!!!! Thank you for the smile on that one!!!! I kept wanting to pull his pants up lol. Who wants to go through life with a buttless man? Not this cowgirl! I need something to hold on to.
I'm in with Lulu and the others....You have to respect yourself before anyone else will respect you and you have to have a clear definition of what your expectations for a relationship are. When lines are crossed, we have to hold the line crosser accoutable. We teach people how to treat us and you are teaching them to treat you like crap. Stand tall, be proud of who you are!!!! Sounds like you have already overcome so much....be proud of that and use that as a tool and learning experience. Love yourself first and foremost and if a potential mate isn't matching up to the man you know you deserve....MOVE ON.....you were looking when you found him! LOL In all seriousness, you have to have expectations of what you want and when you don't get that, cut ties. Time to take control of your life and be proud to be a strong woman, a mother, and to know that a good man will be HONORED to be with you, not burdened. Food for thought......
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Location: Oklahoma | Herbie - 2014-11-20 3:38 PM LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:25 PM TwistedK - 2014-11-20 3:23 PM LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:20 PM hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-20 3:19 PM LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:17 PM Also, I did not like his gotee and he didn't have any butt. LMAO!!!!! Thank you for the smile on that one!!!! I kept wanting to pull his pants up lol. Who wants to go through life with a buttless man? Not this cowgirl! I need something to hold on to.
I'm in with Lulu and the others....You have to respect yourself before anyone else will respect you and you have to have a clear definition of what your expectations for a relationship are. When lines are crossed, we have to hold the line crosser accoutable. We teach people how to treat us and you are teaching them to treat you like crap. Stand tall, be proud of who you are!!!! Sounds like you have already overcome so much....be proud of that and use that as a tool and learning experience. Love yourself first and foremost and if a potential mate isn't matching up to the man you know you deserve....MOVE ON.....you were looking when you found him! LOL In all seriousness, you have to have expectations of what you want and when you don't get that, cut ties. Time to take control of your life and be proud to be a strong woman, a mother, and to know that a good man will be HONORED to be with you, not burdened. Food for thought......
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | TwistedK - 2014-11-20 3:41 PM
Herbie - 2014-11-20 3:38 PM LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:25 PM TwistedK - 2014-11-20 3:23 PM LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:20 PM hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-20 3:19 PM LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:17 PM Also, I did not like his gotee and he didn't have any butt. LMAO!!!!! Thank you for the smile on that one!!!! I kept wanting to pull his pants up lol. Who wants to go through life with a buttless man? Not this cowgirl! I need something to hold on to.
I'm in with Lulu and the others....You have to respect yourself before anyone else will respect you and you have to have a clear definition of what your expectations for a relationship are. When lines are crossed, we have to hold the line crosser accoutable. We teach people how to treat us and you are teaching them to treat you like crap. Stand tall, be proud of who you are!!!! Sounds like you have already overcome so much....be proud of that and use that as a tool and learning experience. Love yourself first and foremost and if a potential mate isn't matching up to the man you know you deserve....MOVE ON.....you were looking when you found him! LOL In all seriousness, you have to have expectations of what you want and when you don't get that, cut ties. Time to take control of your life and be proud to be a strong woman, a mother, and to know that a good man will be HONORED to be with you, not burdened. Food for thought......
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Location: NE Texas | Hey, i've kissed a few frogs in my day too! I didn't come by this knowledge without making a few mistakes along the way!  |
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Location: Kansas | Herbie - 2014-11-20 3:38 PM LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:25 PM TwistedK - 2014-11-20 3:23 PM LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:20 PM hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-20 3:19 PM LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:17 PM Also, I did not like his gotee and he didn't have any butt. LMAO!!!!! Thank you for the smile on that one!!!! I kept wanting to pull his pants up lol. Who wants to go through life with a buttless man? Not this cowgirl! I need something to hold on to.
I'm in with Lulu and the others....You have to respect yourself before anyone else will respect you and you have to have a clear definition of what your expectations for a relationship are. When lines are crossed, we have to hold the line crosser accoutable. We teach people how to treat us and you are teaching them to treat you like crap. Stand tall, be proud of who you are!!!! Sounds like you have already overcome so much....be proud of that and use that as a tool and learning experience. Love yourself first and foremost and if a potential mate isn't matching up to the man you know you deserve....MOVE ON.....you were looking when you found him! LOL In all seriousness, you have to have expectations of what you want and when you don't get that, cut ties. Time to take control of your life and be proud to be a strong woman, a mother, and to know that a good man will be HONORED to be with you, not burdened. Food for thought......
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Location: NE Texas | You're very welcome....time to pull yourself together and make the choice for yourself that YOU are going to be just fine and this is for the best. I mean literally choose it. When you start feeling sad, tell yourself OUTLOUD if you have to....nope, not going to do this to myself and smile. Smiling is really quiet powerful believe it or not. I've even had to just lough out loud when i'm feeling blue and sorry for myself. Makes a big difference....almost like i'm laughing at myself. It's important to be able to laugh at ourselves when we're being silly. |
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | At first I was afraid
I was petrified
Kept thinking I could never live
without you by my side
But then I spent so many nights
thinking how you did me wrong
And I grew strong
And I learned how to get along
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Location: LaBelle, Florida | As the others have stated, be thankful he did this now.
If he is so insecure as to go off like this over a conversation in FRONT of him, then leave you stranded in another town.
Pull yourself up by your bootstraps and do what you gotta do to move on.
God is just making room for a REAL man to come into your life.
It may not be tomorrow or the next day, but down the road.
Block his number, do not say a word other than you have split up, change the locks on your house, cut ALL contact with this low life.
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| LRQHS - 2014-11-20 4:06 PM At first I was afraid I was petrified Kept thinking I could never live without you by my side But then I spent so many nights thinking how you did me wrong And I grew strong And I learned how to get along
and so you're back
from outer space
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Location: NE Texas | lindseylou2290 - 2014-11-20 4:10 PM LRQHS - 2014-11-20 4:06 PM At first I was afraid I was petrified Kept thinking I could never live without you by my side But then I spent so many nights thinking how you did me wrong And I grew strong And I learned how to get along and so you're back from outer space I just walked in to find you here with that sad look upon your face
Kept trying' hard to mend the pieces of my broken heart
And I spent oh so many nights
Just feeling sorry for myself, I used to cry
But now I hold my head up high
And you see me, somebody new
I'm not that chained up little girl who's still in love with you
And so you felt like dropping in
And just expect me to be free
Now I'm saving all my lovin' for someone who's loving me
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | I should have changed that stupid lock
I should have made you leave your key
If I had known for just one second
you'd be back to bother me
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | Go on now go walk out the door
just turn around now
'cause you're not welcome anymore
weren't you the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye
Did you think I'd crumble
Did you think I'd lay down and die
Oh no, not I
I will survive
Oh as long as I know how to love
I know I will stay alive
I've got all my life to live
I've got all my love to give
and I'll survive
I will survive (hey-hey)
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | Man, we are never going to make it singing karyoke..... |
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Location: The edge of no where | hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-20 3:52 PM Herbie - 2014-11-20 3:38 PM LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:25 PM TwistedK - 2014-11-20 3:23 PM LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:20 PM hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-20 3:19 PM LRQHS - 2014-11-20 3:17 PM Also, I did not like his gotee and he didn't have any butt. LMAO!!!!! Thank you for the smile on that one!!!! I kept wanting to pull his pants up lol. Who wants to go through life with a buttless man? Not this cowgirl! I need something to hold on to.
I'm in with Lulu and the others....You have to respect yourself before anyone else will respect you and you have to have a clear definition of what your expectations for a relationship are. When lines are crossed, we have to hold the line crosser accoutable. We teach people how to treat us and you are teaching them to treat you like crap. Stand tall, be proud of who you are!!!! Sounds like you have already overcome so much....be proud of that and use that as a tool and learning experience. Love yourself first and foremost and if a potential mate isn't matching up to the man you know you deserve....MOVE ON.....you were looking when you found him! LOL In all seriousness, you have to have expectations of what you want and when you don't get that, cut ties. Time to take control of your life and be proud to be a strong woman, a mother, and to know that a good man will be HONORED to be with you, not burdened. Food for thought......
That is the best advice you're going to get. BLOCK his number, his FB...everything! Good grief, he's a freakin loser. A real man never treats a woman like that. I.don't.care.how.mad.they.are!! THAT is NOT ACCEPTABLE! After kissing a few frogs, you learn things about men & boys.... They will treat you exactly how you allow them to. You've got to raise your self value in your own eyes before getting into another relationship. I'd be beyond furious at him for leaving that missing him would be the last thing on my mind. Keep all drama off of fb, if it showed you were in a relationship, just change it and roll on! There are some truly great guys out there, not immature jackasses that will never grow up. |
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Location: NE Texas | HEY, HEY-Y-Y-Y-Y-Y-Y!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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Location: Kansas | LRQHS - 2014-11-20 4:13 PM Go on now go walk out the door just turn around now 'cause you're not welcome anymore weren't you the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye Did you think I'd crumble Did you think I'd lay down and die Oh no, not I I will survive Oh as long as I know how to love I know I will stay alive I've got all my life to live I've got all my love to give and I'll survive I will survive (hey-hey)
It took all the strength I had
not to fall apart
kept trying hard to mend
the pieces of my broken heart
and I spent oh so many nights
just feeling sorry for myself
I used to cry
But now I hold my head up high
and you see me
somebody new
I'm not that chained up little person
still in love with you
and so you felt like dropping in
and just expect me to be free
and now I'm saving all my loving
for someone who's loving me
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | I WILL SURVIVE!!!
YOU LOW DOWN, DIRTY, WOMAN LEAVING BUTTHEAD!! |
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Location: Midwest | Many a wonderful woman has fallen for a dbag.
Ive been there. Break ups are tough. Every day WILL get easier.
As as hard as it sounds, get up and take your daughter out to dinner. Go for a ride through a field.
You are strong and beautiful. Not only will you find someone else, he will be deserving of your time and affection.
Ask yourself if this is a man you'd like to see your daughter marry. I'd say no, and him stepping away is a good thing.
It feels like the hurt will never end, but it will.
Now go eat something and watch a funny movie.
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| hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-20 3:03 PM
TwistedK - 2014-11-20 3:02 PM hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-20 3:00 PM What sucks even worse....is I posted that I was "feeling heartbroken" on facebook......I never said anything else, people automatically assumed he had done this and that.
I just commented under the post saying that I couldnt eat/sleep, and was upset. I then deleted the post because everyone was jumping to conclusions about what happened. I never shared what happened to anyone, and because of that post....he thinks I'm telling people what an a-hole he is, and this and that...when in fact I haven't said anything to anyone about it! I'm ashamed. I'm not perfect, I understand that....nobody is perfect. It hurts me when I get called a piece of crap (other word though) because I apparently told people he was the one that "wronged" me. I never should of said Hi to that guy at the concert, I know I was in the wrong for that. I honestly didn't believe he would have an issue with it...since it wasn't even a conversation with the guy! It was hi and that was basically it. Oh no.... this is 2014... you can da*n well say hello to whoever you want. If he were secure it wouldn't have been an issue.... you didn't do anything wrong.... he's a little p**is.........
One day you will look back and be so thankful that the relationship ended. I was in a relationship for two years with a man I dearly cared about and he treated me so poorly. It was incredibly heart breaking to let that relationship end, but I am so happy what followed that relationship. I met the man I married and was blown away by him. There is a bigger plan for your life-and if he is going to treat you this way now, what would he be like in the future. Remember who you are. Remember your value. I know it is hard, I can feel your pain as real as the day I felt similar to you and it has been years. Focus on your daughter and your passions. Praying for you and sending my thoughts.
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Location: Texas | The last ex I ran into was at a pretty big function. Ex came up and hugged me and left. Hubby asked who it was afterward and that was the extent of the issue.
Your future self is praising God that the immature @-hole exited your life now. For someone to leave a "loved one" stranded by themself in this day and age is beyond comprehension. Something horrible could have happened and he would have enabled that to occur. You don't want this man in your life or your daughter's life.
This hasn't been mentioned, but I think you need some counseling given your previous abusive relationship and this last one. I wouldn't want for your "defective picker" to continue you down this path. There is a good guy out there for you and your daughter but you need to arm yourself with the tools to see the truth behind a guy's bullsh#@. (Believe me, we've all been there.)
Hugs to you. Block his number. Unfriend him, his family, and friends on FB. You don't need him knowing what you are doing. Nothing eats at someone more than not knowing. And I would bet dollars to doughnuts that his snapchat friend was also doing some snapchatting in the sheets with him. |
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| barrelracr131 - 2014-11-20 4:18 PM
Many a wonderful woman has fallen for a dbag.
Ive been there. Break ups are tough. Every day WILL get easier.
As as hard as it sounds, get up and take your daughter out to dinner. Go for a ride through a field.
You are strong and beautiful. Not only will you find someone else, he will be deserving of your time and affection.
Ask yourself if this is a man you'd like to see your daughter marry. I'd say no, and him stepping away is a good thing.
It feels like the hurt will never end, but it will.
Now go eat something and watch a funny movie.
You are strong. This won't lick you!
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | Blueridgedreaming - 2014-11-20 4:21 PM
barrelracr131 - 2014-11-20 4:18 PM
Many a wonderful woman has fallen for a dbag.
Ive been there. Break ups are tough. Every day WILL get easier.
As as hard as it sounds, get up and take your daughter out to dinner. Go for a ride through a field.
You are strong and beautiful. Not only will you find someone else, he will be deserving of your time and affection.
Ask yourself if this is a man you'd like to see your daughter marry. I'd say no, and him stepping away is a good thing.
It feels like the hurt will never end, but it will.
Now go eat something and watch a funny movie.
You are strong. This won't lick you!
Great advice too!
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Location: Cottonwood, Ca | sorry, consider yourself lucky it was only 2 years..... better than 10 with kids or something....its hard, but everyday will get alittle bit easier.... prayers for peace
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Location: Montana | Hugs to you! I'm so sorry this happened to you. You definitely deserve better than him. You just have to cry and let it all out. I wish I was there to give you a hug. Break ups are hard, even when it is for the better. Just think, something or someone out there will be better for you, I promise. Pm me if you want someone to talk or text to.
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Location: Texas | Look up "narcissistic personality disorder". You might see this guy's picture in the description.
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Location: California | Fun2Run - 2014-11-20 2:55 PM Look up "narcissistic personality disorder". You might see this guy's picture in the description.
I was thinking this also . I had an ex who fit it to the T , including the leaving me stranded.
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Location: Midwest | LRQHS - 2014-11-20 4:28 PM
Blueridgedreaming - 2014-11-20 4:21 PM
barrelracr131 - 2014-11-20 4:18 PM
Many a wonderful woman has fallen for a dbag.
Ive been there. Break ups are tough. Every day WILL get easier.
As as hard as it sounds, get up and take your daughter out to dinner. Go for a ride through a field.
You are strong and beautiful. Not only will you find someone else, he will be deserving of your time and affection.
Ask yourself if this is a man you'd like to see your daughter marry. I'd say no, and him stepping away is a good thing.
It feels like the hurt will never end, but it will.
Now go eat something and watch a funny movie.
You are strong. This won't lick you!
Great advice too!
Sure it is, but can she sing???
I can, but it ain't pretty |
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Location: Never in one place long | A good man would #1 trust you #2 never leave you stranded like that #3 not send you awful texts like that. I'm sorry but you don't need him that is not a man I'd want to be a rolemodel for my child. He may be good to your kiddo now but his true colors would show eventually. Hang out with a friend, go for coffee, focus on you and your kid. While it's almost thanksigiving, think of all the things you have to be thankful for. Prayers and hugs! |
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Location: Never in one place long | LRQHS - 2014-11-20 4:28 PM
Blueridgedreaming - 2014-11-20 4:21 PM
barrelracr131 - 2014-11-20 4:18 PM
Many a wonderful woman has fallen for a dbag.
Ive been there. Break ups are tough. Every day WILL get easier.
As as hard as it sounds, get up and take your daughter out to dinner. Go for a ride through a field.
You are strong and beautiful. Not only will you find someone else, he will be deserving of your time and affection.
Ask yourself if this is a man you'd like to see your daughter marry. I'd say no, and him stepping away is a good thing.
It feels like the hurt will never end, but it will.
Now go eat something and watch a funny movie.
You are strong. This won't lick you!
Great advice too!
Sure it is, but can she sing???
Some GREAT advice here! |
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Location: North Dakota | I'm sure it's hard, but you should be HAPPY such a douche bag is out of your life! Wipe your tears and let God bring you someone worth your time, in his own time. |
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Location: Southeast Louisiana | I haven't read all of the replies, so I don't know if it's been posted yet or not, but your daughter is learning from you. Don't let her see you with someone like that. Let her learn to have self esteem and not allow people who are disrespectful to stay in her life! He could have handled the whole situation differently, and should have. He should never have left you stranded and should never have been upset because you had a respectful conversation with your ex. That is NOT a man. |
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Location: 100 miles from Nowhere, AR | Fun2Run - 2014-11-20 4:55 PM Look up "narcissistic personality disorder". You might see this guy's picture in the description.
Yeah. The getting mad and leaving you stranded was bad enough. But the making it all your fault he behaved the way he did and the thing how your FB post only mattered because of how it reflected on HIM? He is another abuser.
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| Three 4 Luck - 2014-11-20 7:17 PM Fun2Run - 2014-11-20 4:55 PM Look up "narcissistic personality disorder". You might see this guy's picture in the description.
Yeah. The getting mad and leaving you stranded was bad enough. But the making it all your fault he behaved the way he did and the thing how your FB post only mattered because of how it reflected on HIM? He is another abuser.
And he probably eats his boogers.
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Location: Monticello, AR | I havent read all the responses, but here is my two cents worth.....Facebook is the devil!! Don't put your life on there....don't put your feelings on there.....if your daughter does something, fine....brag on her. But, too many people LIVE their lives on that dang place and it is the devil!!! And, if this pos left you in another town because you said hello to an ex.....he is such a child. He actually did you a HUGE favor....dump him, kick him to the curb, and get to know yourself before you find a new man. Women, contrary to popular belief, do not NEED men. They do serve a purpose if they are raised right....but women can do ANYTHING they can do...except write their name in the snow!!! So.....take time to believe in yourself.....don't waste time on menchildren....and love your daughter enough to give her a shining example of how a man should treat a woman. Good luck dear!! |
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| lindseylou2290 - 2014-11-20 7:48 PM Three 4 Luck - 2014-11-20 7:17 PM Fun2Run - 2014-11-20 4:55 PM Look up "narcissistic personality disorder". You might see this guy's picture in the description.
Yeah. The getting mad and leaving you stranded was bad enough. But the making it all your fault he behaved the way he did and the thing how your FB post only mattered because of how it reflected on HIM? He is another abuser.
And he probably eats his boogers. YUP!!!!
You guys are too funny! Hoofs - sorry he IS a jerk, you deserve MUCH better - forget about men for awhile and enjoy life! |
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Location: CTX | Hoofs,
like so many already said, good riddance! He first gets all pissy about you talking to your ex, then he left you stranded.... He is texting other girls and sending you those texts?? Uhm, sounds like he is lashing out at you because he is feeling guilty.... my guess is, he was not just texting with those girls...
So, pick up your life, focus on you and your little girl, and forget about that piece of trash! Block his number, unfriend him and his friends/family.
It won't be easy, some days you are great, some days you will hurt... allow yourself to have those bad days, and then get on. Like someone else mentioned, your little girl learns from you. Teach her to be strong, and not dependent on anybody but herself.
You really don't need a guy to be happy. Eventually you will meet a guy that deserves you and your daughter.
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Location: Oklahoma | Whiteboy - 2014-11-20 7:44 PM Want me to kick his a$$?
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| I went through a bad break up similar, minus the leaving me stranded crap because he knew I would kill him if he did that sh**, he sent me mean texts, called and accused me of stupid untrue crap. Put all the blame on me. I cried all the time, was depressed, ate crappy food (i wish it was the opposite :) ) and I tried like heck to get over it. Blocking a number is hard for some people, for me it was, and i dont know why. It was almost like I had to wait to see what the next thing that he sent was. I dont know if it was because I knew he was thinking about me when he text???? Who knows... but what I do know is it was stupid of me to allow more pain by reading those texts. I then realized he was blaming me and being so hateful and hurtful to me because he was cheating on me.. GO FIGURE. the one who blames usually is the one who needs to be blamed... Finally... FINALLY, I did block his number and I moved on. I started talking to different guys, going on an ocassional date or two, riding my horses more, and I slowly started to heal and one day I woke up and realized I had not thought about him for a week. I was healing day by day and now I have started dating someone who treats me like I am the only woman in the world and wakes up every day thinking about what he can do to make me happy and I do the same. It will happen. I promise. You will be so much stronger after all this. God always has a plan and he likely closed this door so he can open another for you and you wil be much happier.
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Location: Kansas | Well the texts continued until I blocked him from texting me. Pretty much he's ticked that I'm trying to post positive things on facebook, yet he says I'm pulling a "poor me" thing. |
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | Block it all. Change your number if you have to. Step away and don't look back. |
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Location: Alberta | I agree with all mentioned, move on and block him!!!! BUT if he even makes any attempt to threaten you in person or shows up at your house unexpected DO NOT take it lightly!!! Call the police! I hope that doesn't happen! |
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It can be so hard to cut all ability for him to contact you. For whatever reason we have an almost unhealthy need to maintain that connection. Even when all it does is give them a means to get to you, upset you and hurt you. It's like we feel we need to know what is going on in their life still...even though we know what a horrible person they truly are. And how toxic the whole situation has become. But...do it...you blocked him on that phone...now block him on FB and if you have "friends" that are willing to keep him informed and keep stirring that pot...unfriend them for now.
The fact that he is still keeping tabs on your FB and harassing you shows his vindictive immature nature. He has been manipulating you for a while it seems. He must be good at it. Expecting YOU to be fine with his continued contact with an old lover...but flipping out if you said Hi to an ex shows he is manipulative and playing games. And he has been getting away with that crap for far too long. Cut off all means for him to know what you are doing. Don't let him think he is getting to you. Let him stew on this in the dark....and just walk on.
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Location: MD | I will post this meme because I think it is very accurate, and may even put a smile on your face.
Also he may be hiding something and stewing in his own little pot of guilt, hence the sudden anger of you speaking to someone you previously dated. He obviously is not prepared to be in a relationship with you. Even if you're angry with someone you love, you still care about them (especially enough to not leave you stranded at 1 am.)
This dude is a walking poster child of an emotional abuser.
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Location: Indiana | I didn't read all of the comments but here are my thoughts now that I'm older and can look back at my past relationships. The way he has treated you is a peek into who he really is, it may be hard for you to see right now but I want you to know that it has nothing to do with you.
Do not put his low self esteem and issues on yourself. See this as a good thing, a blessing. Think about this, what if it was your daughter in this situation and you saw it happen. I guarantee you would tell her she deserves more, she doesn't need someone in her life who will leave her not knowing if she will make it home safely, and then sending texts telling her it's her fault. You wouldn't want her to be treated that way, and you don't deserve to be treated that way.
Here's the thing, if you don't stand up for yourself and how you are treated, he won't either. You said he is a father figure to your daughter, is this someone that you want in her life or yours.
Look at this break up as a chance to fall in love with yourself and all of the amazing qualties you have. Shake it off, get back to being your awesome self, and when you see him at a concert in town in the future, introduce him to the amazing person you are who has attracted someone who loves you for your amazingness and just smile as you walk away and be thankful that he showed his true colors before you wasted anymore time in your life.
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Location: Kansas | TT's - 2014-11-21 9:39 AM I didn't read all of the comments but here are my thoughts now that I'm older and can look back at my past relationships. The way he has treated you is a peek into who he really is, it may be hard for you to see right now but I want you to know that it has nothing to do with you.
Do not put his low self esteem and issues on yourself. See this as a good thing, a blessing. Think about this, what if it was your daughter in this situation and you saw it happen. I guarantee you would tell her she deserves more, she doesn't need someone in her life who will leave her not knowing if she will make it home safely, and then sending texts telling her it's her fault. You wouldn't want her to be treated that way, and you don't deserve to be treated that way.
Here's the thing, if you don't stand up for yourself and how you are treated, he won't either. You said he is a father figure to your daughter, is this someone that you want in her life or yours.
Look at this break up as a chance to fall in love with yourself and all of the amazing qualties you have. Shake it off, get back to being your awesome self, and when you see him at a concert in town in the future, introduce him to the amazing person you are who has attracted someone who loves you for your amazingness and just smile as you walk away and be thankful that he showed his true colors before you wasted anymore time in your life.
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Location: The edge of no where | hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-21 8:38 AM Well the texts continued until I blocked him from texting me. Pretty much he's ticked that I'm trying to post positive things on facebook, yet he says I'm pulling a "poor me" thing.
BLOCK that lowlife... it's easy and will keep him from getting in your head.
Block him from your FB and your phone. ASAP!!
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Location: Kansas | MS2011 - 2014-11-21 10:05 AM hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-21 8:38 AM Well the texts continued until I blocked him from texting me. Pretty much he's ticked that I'm trying to post positive things on facebook, yet he says I'm pulling a "poor me" thing. BLOCK that lowlife... it's easy and will keep him from getting in your head.
Block him from your FB and your phone. ASAP!!
I did. My grandmother is going to watch my daughter tomorrow so I can go out for a few hours in the evening with some friends. I'm glad to be able to go out and do something that will take my mind off the situation. |
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Location: Do I hear Banjos? | hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-21 10:06 AM
MS2011 - 2014-11-21 10:05 AM hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-21 8:38 AM Well the texts continued until I blocked him from texting me. Pretty much he's ticked that I'm trying to post positive things on facebook, yet he says I'm pulling a "poor me" thing. BLOCK that lowlife... it's easy and will keep him from getting in your head.
Block him from your FB and your phone. ASAP!!
Thats great! But tell the friends there is one important rule for the night...NO discussing the Jerk. Just fun and friends and looking to the future. Don't waste any more time on him. |
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Location: The edge of no where | hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-21 10:06 AM MS2011 - 2014-11-21 10:05 AM hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-21 8:38 AM Well the texts continued until I blocked him from texting me. Pretty much he's ticked that I'm trying to post positive things on facebook, yet he says I'm pulling a "poor me" thing. BLOCK that lowlife... it's easy and will keep him from getting in your head.
Block him from your FB and your phone. ASAP!!
Good for you!!!
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Location: Texas | Carbon Copy - 2014-11-20 12:35 PM
Different strokes for different folks. I'm sorry you're hurt, but if he left me somewhere I wouldn't be hurt.....I'd be pissed. I wouldn't put up with someone that childish and didn't respect me any more than that. Find someone worthy of you and your child. Again sorry you're hurt.
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Thank your lucky stars you dodged that bullet. You were heading down a bad path and you had no idea. Figure out what was blinding you from seeing his true colors. He just showed you who he is, so believe it. He may have been showing his true self for some time now. There may have been signs you overlooked.
Figure out what in the world attracted you to this guy in the first place. Write all of his attributes and characteristics down on a big chart. Then spend the rest of your life trying to stay away from people who are just like him.
Think to yourself..... "I'd rather be lonely every day for the rest of my life alone, than to be lonely and miserable every day for the rest of my life with a horrible man".
Be picky!
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Location: RAINY FREEZING AnartiFlorida | Honey he ain't worth your tears. If that's all you did to upset him he ain't worth having. Block his number and dont shed another tear over that loser! Leaving you in middle of night ain't much of a man either. He would never be around my kid again. So many other nice guys out there. Think of that was friend of yours. What would you tell her?
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Location: Kansas | I have thought about it, and really thought about the things he has said to me.....and I realize that my daughter and I are better off without him. I went out with friends saturday evening and really enjoyed myself. I was even asked out on a date!!!
I'm going to enjoy taking the time to try and find myself.....and all the things I will be able to do without being tied down to someone who had been so controlling. |
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Location: Where the pavement ends and the West begins Utah | Change your phone number it don't cost you. Be thankful the trash took itself out . move to better mates they are waiting for you. God opens better days to come that other door is closed. |
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Location: Kansas | hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-21 8:38 AM Well the texts continued until I blocked him from texting me. Pretty much he's ticked that I'm trying to post positive things on facebook, yet he says I'm pulling a "poor me" thing.
Oh I would have him blocked on there so fast it wouldn't be funny!!!!!
I went through a pretty nasty breakup a few years ago. I was the one who ended it but he immediately started harrassing me and honestly I took off one Friday night and stayed with my brother in extreme NW KS just in case the ex showed up at my house. I didn't want to be alone. He is still in my cell phone contacts but with a Z in front of his name so he's at the end of the list. Only reason I didn't delete him is I wanted to know it was him if he ever called or texted again so I wouldn't have to answer. :) He is still to this day blocked on my Facebook just in case he would decide to start any drama.
I actually signed up for a beginners quilting class after that breakup so I had something to do one night a week. It was a ton of fun and I have a really neat quilt on my bed that I made. Keeping busy was a big help for me especially right away.
I've been dumped, treated like crap etc. by guys in the past but in retrospect all that just made me realize that I deserve better. After that nasty breakup in 2012, I actually wrote on one of those plasticy bracelets "I deserve the fairy tale" and wore it for a couple weeks to remind myself that someday Prince Charming would come riding up on a big white horse and sweep me off my feet. You probably know Matt doesn't have a big white horse, and he didn't immediately sweep me off my feet but still, this is the happiest I've been in years. You'll get there too, it just takes time to heal. |
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| Girl...I know its tough when you really care about someone, but by the way he has acted you may find yourself much better off down the road. It is usually hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel but one of these days you will look back and be glad you moved on. Just be strong and take care of yourself. |
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| hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-24 8:32 AM I have thought about it, and really thought about the things he has said to me.....and I realize that my daughter and I are better off without him. I went out with friends saturday evening and really enjoyed myself. I was even asked out on a date!!!
I'm going to enjoy taking the time to try and find myself.....and all the things I will be able to do without being tied down to someone who had been so controlling.
When you get the urge to consider reconciliation, ponder the rationale of living with somebody willing to abandon you in another town and endanger your life. |
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Location: Kansas | TXBO - 2014-11-24 10:20 AM hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-24 8:32 AM I have thought about it, and really thought about the things he has said to me.....and I realize that my daughter and I are better off without him. I went out with friends saturday evening and really enjoyed myself. I was even asked out on a date!!!
I'm going to enjoy taking the time to try and find myself.....and all the things I will be able to do without being tied down to someone who had been so controlling. When you get the urge to consider reconciliation, ponder the rationale of living with somebody willing to abandon you in another town and endanger your life.
trust me....I'm not even going to consider if he begs. What he did was unforgiveable and still hurts because he is putting all the blame on shoulders as if he did nothing wrong.
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Location: Texas | Cindy Hamilton - 2014-11-20 3:17 PM
hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-20 3:10 PM Nevertooold - 2014-11-20 3:09 PM Were you married before?
If so..how long have you been divorced?
I've never been married. I was in a relationship with my daughters father, who was very abusive....he use to beat me really bad so I left him. Since then, her father has made my life a living hell.....and still is.
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