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Location: Deep in the heart of Texas. | Some of you know I have been threw a lot this year . And that includes a divorce and a lot of other stuff . Well currently me and my daughter live with my mother and step father uncle grandma and my youngest brother. I just got a job and would like to be able to move and re start my life but I can't only think about myself now days I also have to think about my daughter as well. I would really like to move to New Mexico where I have lived before and really enjoyed it and just re start my life over where I only have a few friends but no one knows what I had went threw there. Im just worried I will be where I have been here and not able to find a job again and it took me from feb of this year till November of this year to find a job here what would yahll suggest? My thought was work at this job for awhile and save up my money and see what I can find out there. I mean I currently live in a small town everyone knows your business and I was never accepted hear ive been here most of my life.
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| Stay here and work, save money and build a resume. Does your family help with child care?? Another reason to stay if they do. |
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Elite Veteran
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Location: Deep in the heart of Texas. | Currently my grandma and uncle will be watching my daughter the days that I work
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  Fact Checker
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | Stay where you are.....work at a job....save money.....then move out by your self here to see if you can live alone without family financial support. You can always look at a move to NM as a "goal" to set for yourself. .....Another question is ... are you "allowed" to move (custody arrangements). |
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Elite Veteran
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Location: Deep in the heart of Texas. | Yes I am allowed to move. |
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Location: SE Louisiana | NJJ - 2014-11-21 5:17 PM
Stay where you are.....work at a job....save money.....then move out by your self here to see if you can live alone without family financial support. You can always look at a move to NM as a "goal" to set for yourself. .....Another question is ... are you "allowed" to move (custody arrangements).
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Location: Florida.. | you just got a Job.. and almost didnt make it to interview due to child at home. Id recommend staying where you are so your family can watch child until she goes to school.. then move close by to see how it works out. have you started your job yet? its costly on your own.. and with childcare if you moved it would be hard to get by.. good luck |
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Location: Deep in the heart of Texas. | Not having a babysitter yesterday wasn't my fault it was parshley there fault you can't just call someone ten mins before you want them there knowing there a single parent and expect them to have a babysitter and be there in ten mins. |
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Warmblood with Wings
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Location: Florida.. | txkrystal - 2014-11-21 6:52 PM Not having a babysitter yesterday wasn't my fault it was parshley there fault you can't just call someone ten mins before you want them there knowing there a single parent and expect them to have a babysitter and be there in ten mins.
I didnt say it was your fault at all.. I was simply saying if you moved..... and no family to watch her it will be hard to support yourself is what I mean. |
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Location: Deep in the heart of Texas. | ok I apologize for the misunderstanding. |
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The Advice Guru
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| txkrystal - 2014-11-21 5:52 PM
Not having a babysitter yesterday wasn't my fault it was parshley there fault you can't just call someone ten mins before you want them there knowing there a single parent and expect them to have a babysitter and be there in ten mins.
I wouldn't suggest blaming the company for you having no child care.
When one is looking for a job, one may have to jump through a lot of hoops, to get said job, this is how they weed out applicants. |
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Location: In a happy place | Good advice. |
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Location: North Dakota | cheryl makofka - 2014-11-21 6:19 PM txkrystal - 2014-11-21 5:52 PM Not having a babysitter yesterday wasn't my fault it was parshley there fault you can't just call someone ten mins before you want them there knowing there a single parent and expect them to have a babysitter and be there in ten mins. I wouldn't suggest blaming the company for you having no child care. When one is looking for a job, one may have to jump through a lot of hoops, to get said job, this is how they weed out applicants.
But who on earth has a babysitter at their beck and call 24/7? I'm not saying the company is to blame, but it isn't the most considerate thing in the world to call with such short notice. |
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | cavyrunsbarrels - 2014-11-22 1:04 PM cheryl makofka - 2014-11-21 6:19 PM txkrystal - 2014-11-21 5:52 PM Not having a babysitter yesterday wasn't my fault it was parshley there fault you can't just call someone ten mins before you want them there knowing there a single parent and expect them to have a babysitter and be there in ten mins. I wouldn't suggest blaming the company for you having no child care. When one is looking for a job, one may have to jump through a lot of hoops, to get said job, this is how they weed out applicants. But who on earth has a babysitter at their beck and call 24/7? I'm not saying the company is to blame, but it isn't the most considerate thing in the world to call with such short notice.
If I was a single mother and SERIOUSLY looking for a job, I would make certain that I had someone to call on short notice for babysitting.....many companies want you there NOW to interview.....Unreasonable, yes....but that is just the way it is.....not an excuse to use! |
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Location: Oakdale, CA | as an employer...yes, yes and yes!
we hire you to fill a position you have to be there or we will find some one that will................. |
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Location: California | I agree with everyone else. Work the job you just landed , save up a cushion and look into job opportunities where you want to move while still living where you are and saving up. Sounds like you have a lot on your plate and moving without a job lined up or a few months rent and living money will just add to your stress level. If you aren't happy where you are no one says you have to live there forever , just be strategic and smart about your relocation . It will all work out ! |
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Location: Deep in the heart of Texas. | Thanks everyone for the Advice. |
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Save every penny you can and give yourself a good emergency fund and plenty of start-up money. It will take awhile but will be worth it. Really eases your stress level when you feel prepared. |
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Location: Canada | I agree with everyone else- stay where you are, save some money and gain some job experience. Since you have support and childcare is it possible to take an online or evening course that would further open doors for you in the job market. Do your research and see what is available to you in terms of grants, or financial support and see if you qualify for any financial assistance to further your education.
If you don't qualify see what you can take locally, or online that will help you pad your resume. Even some online Word/Excel/Powerpoint/Access/QuickBooks training can quickly make your skills more marketable and those classes aren't that expensive and are easily found online.
Check your local listings and see what (in your area) is the most common skill required (accounting, reception, computer etc.) and make sure you have top of the line skills in that area. Help from a professional resume builder or coach can certainly help too once you have some extra money saved up. Till then work extra hard at your job and be willing and flexible to take on anything. Remember nothing is beneath you or outside of your job description if it helps pay the bills. Even if it's not your dream job everything can become a marketable skill with time.
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Location: Slipping down the slope of old age. Boo hoo. | NJJ - 2014-11-21 5:17 PM
Stay where you are.....work at a job....save money.....then move out by your self here to see if you can live alone without family financial support. You can always look at a move to NM as a "goal" to set for yourself. .....Another question is ... are you "allowed" to move (custody arrangements).
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Location: oklahoma | Is there a vocation/ technical type school where you're at? Ours offers nursing, mechanical and culinary classes etc with degrees at completion. I'd take full advantage of free babysitting. Good luck. Where there's a will, there's a way. After you get an associates, if you decide, you'll have an easier time moving and finding a job. |
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Location: The edge of no where | Ok - It takes $$ to move. Unless you work for a while, do you have the cash to do that? I've found that people are the same everywhere..moving doesn't really change anything. Giving up free childcare is a BIG deal. If you are serious about moving, save some $$$ and get a job set up before you move. |
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Location: Stephenville, Texas | Kids get sick a lot and most daycares will not take a sick kid. Having family to watch them when they are sick is priceless. Reliability is important in any job and if you have to call in sick to work to watch your child they will get tired of that. Give yourself 6 months and see how it goes. Good luck!
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Location: Do I hear Banjos? | I don't know anything about what all you have been through or the divorce situation etc...but I have to ask...
Would moving to another state reduce the time your daughter gets to spend with her father? Is she getting to see him now? (As I say I don't know the situation so maybe that's a whole nother thing) But...in general it would be sad for the daughter to be taken farther away from her dad.
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Ok some of you know i have been threw alot this year.