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Location: Texas | So my roommate has a boyfriend or atleast that's what me and the other roommates thought(there's 4 of us). The boy is over everyday and night, they spend the night together almost every night, very affectionate in front of us aswell, not like they are trying to hide anything. I went to go see if they were "facebook official" because I was curious and if they weren't I didn't want to make it awkward bu confronting them. When I looked at his facebook he is in a relationship with another girl. Everyone here goes home on the weekend and I know they never go home together. So I am assuming that's when he see's this other girl? I really have no clue but now I just feel so bad for his girlfriend since he pretty much has 2 girlfriends. He's been with the other girl almost a year and my roommate about 2 months. I just have no clue if I should even think about getting involved or if I should confront someone? And then who do I confront?? I've never even been in a slightly similar situation so I have no clue what's right or wrong. |
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Location: Kansas | what.......the.....fudge????? Is she not friends with him on facebook to see that relationship status? |
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Location: Texas | hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-24 2:30 PM what.......the.....fudge????? Is she not friends with him on facebook to see that relationship status?
Oh she is.. She has to know he has a girlfriend. |
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| hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-24 1:30 PM
what.......the.....fudge????? Is she not friends with him on facebook to see that relationship status?
Maybe she knows and does not care ...... |
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Location: OH | If it has no direct effect on you---I'd stay out of it. |
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Location: Oklahoma | take a picture of him with your room mate making out and post it to his facebook
eta.... I'm kidding... I'd stay out of it.
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Location: N Texas | I would only say something to your roommate...like "hey, did you know he has a girlfriend on FB?" I wouldn't say anything to the FB girlfriend, because you really don't know what their real status is. Who knows, maybe they have an open relationship. Most likely he's a dirty cheating dog, and I wouldn't get involved in their business. You don't want to be in the middle of that drama! |
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Location: Kansas | wow....stay out of it.....karma will hit them both if she does know he has a girlfriend
sorry but your roommate is a flipping homewrecker. |
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Location: Four Corners Colorado | Stay out of it and the Drama! |
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Location: Buffalo, Wyoming | Is this the same girl that was bringing random men back to your trailer after a rodeo? If I am confusing you with someone else, please excuse me?
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Location: Texas | UTAHCANCHASER - 2014-11-24 2:40 PM Is this the same girl that was bringing random men back to your trailer after a rodeo? If I am confusing you with someone else, please excuse me?
I would stay out of it.
Nope same girl. She is wonderful, we just adore her
Staying out of it is the best plan I can see. If I got involved I'm stuck with this girl as my roommate until may and that much drama is not something I want to deal with. The sad part is we were good friends at first, I feel like I've been played by a friend which I never thought could happen. Oh well. |
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Location: Gainesville, TX | Murphy - 2014-11-24 2:42 PM
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Location: Slipping down the slope of old age. Boo hoo. | Murphy - 2014-11-24 2:42 PM
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Location: North of the 49th Parallel | As someone who has been in a similar situation (knew one party was cheating).... STAY OUT OF IT. And claim ignorance that you did not know about it, if ever approached about it. That's my advice. Also, I've had roommate problems too and the best it just to stay out of all drama. |
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Location: Texas | I had a friend... I saw her boyfriend naked in his truck with another girl (also naked). I told my friend... and somehow I ended up being the bad guy. Not sure how that happened but I have learned my lesson. My friends are getting annonymous tips from now on lol.
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| It's absolutely none of your business. Stay out of it. Especially given that they are FB friends which means she is privy to the same info that you are and by "confronting" either of them you would be meddling where you've not been asked to nor have any right to. "You were curious so you and looked at his FB....you didn't want to confront them" etc. etc. What the heck? Who are you to check up on him, her or be concerned one way or the other except for the fact that you are being nosey and putting your nose in where it doesn't belong. I appreciate the fact that you may be concerned for your friend but I also wonder if maybe you don't have enough going on in your own life which might be the true cause of you being overly concerned about someone else's??? |
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Location: Southeast Louisiana | runs4fun - 2014-11-24 4:02 PM
It's absolutely none of your business. Stay out of it. Especially given that they are FB friends which means she is privy to the same info that you are and by "confronting" either of them you would be meddling where you've not been asked to nor have any right to. "You were curious so you and looked at his FB....you didn't want to confront them" etc. etc. What the heck? Who are you to check up on him, her or be concerned one way or the other except for the fact that you are being nosey and putting your nose in where it doesn't belong. I appreciate the fact that you may be concerned for your friend but I also wonder if maybe you don't have enough going on in your own life which might be the true cause of you being overly concerned about someone else's???
I agree with this.
He has it on his Facebook. Don't get involved. |
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Location: ND | Stay out of it....BUT I'd bet money that he simply forgot to change his status. I know lots of people who are in a relationship but their status says single, or they're single & it still says they're with someone....it's not everybody's top priority to change what they have on FB.
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Location: Louisiana | SaraJean - 2014-11-24 6:07 PM Stay out of it....BUT I'd bet money that he simply forgot to change his status. I know lots of people who are in a relationship but their status says single, or they're single & it still says they're with someone....it's not everybody's top priority to change what they have on FB.
Just saying... Both people have to aprove the status to be "in a relationship" on FB. So, if he just forgot, then so did the girl that it says he's in a relationship with. If the girl were to change hers, his would default to simply "in a relationship" without a name attached. When my fiance deactivated his FB account, my status still says engaged, but it doesn't say to whom.
That being said, I agree with everyone saying to stay out of it... Nothing good ever comes from FB stalking :)
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Location: Texas | runs4fun - 2014-11-24 4:02 PM It's absolutely none of your business. Stay out of it. Especially given that they are FB friends which means she is privy to the same info that you are and by "confronting" either of them you would be meddling where you've not been asked to nor have any right to. "You were curious so you and looked at his FB....you didn't want to confront them" etc. etc. What the heck? Who are you to check up on him, her or be concerned one way or the other except for the fact that you are being nosey and putting your nose in where it doesn't belong. I appreciate the fact that you may be concerned for your friend but I also wonder if maybe you don't have enough going on in your own life which might be the true cause of you being overly concerned about someone else's???
I really don't appreciate you using that tone on MY post when I was simply trying to decide what the right thing to do is. It's none of YOUR business how I know anyways. He is at my apartment every single night, I think I have the right to know what's going on or to be friends with him on facebook.
And I know they are still together, my only concern was that I know this girl is gonna be heartbroken and I think she will be embarrassed when she finds out, BUT I know it is not my place to say anything, I just felt bad for her. |
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Location: Somewhere between S@%&# stirrer and Saint | outrundaizy - 2014-11-24 2:29 PM So my roommate has a boyfriend or atleast that's what me and the other roommates thought(there's 4 of us). The boy is over everyday and night, they spend the night together almost every night, very affectionate in front of us aswell, not like they are trying to hide anything. I went to go see if they were "facebook official" because I was curious and if they weren't I didn't want to make it awkward bu confronting them. When I looked at his facebook he is in a relationship with another girl. Everyone here goes home on the weekend and I know they never go home together. So I am assuming that's when he see's this other girl? I really have no clue but now I just feel so bad for his girlfriend since he pretty much has 2 girlfriends. He's been with the other girl almost a year and my roommate about 2 months. I just have no clue if I should even think about getting involved or if I should confront someone? And then who do I confront?? I've never even been in a slightly similar situation so I have no clue what's right or wrong.
Don't do anything or he may file false Stalking charges against you! Hahahahahahah
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Location: Loma Linda, CA | I know other people are saying stay out of it, but as someone who was blindsided by a cheating ex I appreciated when someone finally stepped up and told me about his cheating ways.
Seriously, had no idea. He was sneaky about it and met up with girls/women while I was at work, or he was at work and would meet them during his lunches. He used a google voice number and a separate email (not that I had access to his phone or computer anyways, but he covered all his bases).
I only found out about his methods later when he finally came clean in his weird attempt to get me back (he has issues with being alone or broken up with I guess lol).
Although, he now has a baby mama and is cheating on her. I won't tell her just because it really isn't my place and I doubt she'd believe me anyways. |
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Location: N Texas | TwistedK - 2014-11-24 2:34 PM
take a picture of him with your room mate making out and post it to his facebook
eta.... I'm kidding... I'd stay out of it.
I kind of like this idea...friend him on FB then tag him in a pic of them together with a caption that says "My roommate and her new boyfriend <3!" 
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Location: Arkansas | outrundaizy - 2014-11-24 10:15 PM runs4fun - 2014-11-24 4:02 PM It's absolutely none of your business. Stay out of it. Especially given that they are FB friends which means she is privy to the same info that you are and by "confronting" either of them you would be meddling where you've not been asked to nor have any right to. "You were curious so you and looked at his FB....you didn't want to confront them" etc. etc. What the heck? Who are you to check up on him, her or be concerned one way or the other except for the fact that you are being nosey and putting your nose in where it doesn't belong. I appreciate the fact that you may be concerned for your friend but I also wonder if maybe you don't have enough going on in your own life which might be the true cause of you being overly concerned about someone else's??? I really don't appreciate you using that tone on MY post when I was simply trying to decide what the right thing to do is. It's none of YOUR business how I know anyways. He is at my apartment every single night, I think I have the right to know what's going on or to be friends with him on facebook.
And I know they are still together, my only concern was that I know this girl is gonna be heartbroken and I think she will be embarrassed when she finds out, BUT I know it is not my place to say anything, I just felt bad for her.
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Location: Texas | I would leave it alone. if its out there on FB its out there on FB... she can see it herself.
If I was personally involved with someone who had a relationship status like that I would ask them about it as soon as I saw it..because I don't cheat. But, you never know what the deal is. Facebook is weird and causes problems.
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Location: Texas | Lobo - 2014-11-25 11:21 AM outrundaizy - 2014-11-24 10:15 PM runs4fun - 2014-11-24 4:02 PM It's absolutely none of your business. Stay out of it. Especially given that they are FB friends which means she is privy to the same info that you are and by "confronting" either of them you would be meddling where you've not been asked to nor have any right to. "You were curious so you and looked at his FB....you didn't want to confront them" etc. etc. What the heck? Who are you to check up on him, her or be concerned one way or the other except for the fact that you are being nosey and putting your nose in where it doesn't belong. I appreciate the fact that you may be concerned for your friend but I also wonder if maybe you don't have enough going on in your own life which might be the true cause of you being overly concerned about someone else's??? I really don't appreciate you using that tone on MY post when I was simply trying to decide what the right thing to do is. It's none of YOUR business how I know anyways. He is at my apartment every single night, I think I have the right to know what's going on or to be friends with him on facebook.
And I know they are still together, my only concern was that I know this girl is gonna be heartbroken and I think she will be embarrassed when she finds out, BUT I know it is not my place to say anything, I just felt bad for her.
Explain to me why there is any reason to be rude? Everyone else seemed to have gotten their point accross pretty straight forward without offense. |
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | Lobo - 2014-11-25 11:21 AM outrundaizy - 2014-11-24 10:15 PM runs4fun - 2014-11-24 4:02 PM It's absolutely none of your business. Stay out of it. Especially given that they are FB friends which means she is privy to the same info that you are and by "confronting" either of them you would be meddling where you've not been asked to nor have any right to. "You were curious so you and looked at his FB....you didn't want to confront them" etc. etc. What the heck? Who are you to check up on him, her or be concerned one way or the other except for the fact that you are being nosey and putting your nose in where it doesn't belong. I appreciate the fact that you may be concerned for your friend but I also wonder if maybe you don't have enough going on in your own life which might be the true cause of you being overly concerned about someone else's??? I really don't appreciate you using that tone on MY post when I was simply trying to decide what the right thing to do is. It's none of YOUR business how I know anyways. He is at my apartment every single night, I think I have the right to know what's going on or to be friends with him on facebook.
And I know they are still together, my only concern was that I know this girl is gonna be heartbroken and I think she will be embarrassed when she finds out, BUT I know it is not my place to say anything, I just felt bad for her.
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| outrundaizy - 2014-11-25 1:32 PM
Lobo - 2014-11-25 11:21 AM outrundaizy - 2014-11-24 10:15 PM runs4fun - 2014-11-24 4:02 PM It's absolutely none of your business. Stay out of it. Especially given that they are FB friends which means she is privy to the same info that you are and by "confronting" either of them you would be meddling where you've not been asked to nor have any right to. "You were curious so you and looked at his FB....you didn't want to confront them" etc. etc. What the heck? Who are you to check up on him, her or be concerned one way or the other except for the fact that you are being nosey and putting your nose in where it doesn't belong. I appreciate the fact that you may be concerned for your friend but I also wonder if maybe you don't have enough going on in your own life which might be the true cause of you being overly concerned about someone else's??? I really don't appreciate you using that tone on MY post when I was simply trying to decide what the right thing to do is. It's none of YOUR business how I know anyways. He is at my apartment every single night, I think I have the right to know what's going on or to be friends with him on facebook.
And I know they are still together, my only concern was that I know this girl is gonna be heartbroken and I think she will be embarrassed when she finds out, BUT I know it is not my place to say anything, I just felt bad for her.
I am sticking up for outrundaizy on this one!
You can put your so called "opinion" out there without being rude. This post sounded extremely defensive-so much so I thought to myself, is this the friend posting and is upset? Opinions and tact can exist in the same post.
And I will be the the odd one out here. I would confront my roommate. Someone being a little offended wouldn't keep me from holding some accountability. If I pay rent and I have to live with this girl-it is my business. It can be done tactfully also. Say you are actually concerned for this girl and the girl he might be dating back home. Plus-my parents were divorced because of my dad's cheating. So many of my mom's friends knew and kept it hush hush because it wasn't any of there business. They cost my mom years of extra heartache. I also dated a cheater and his friends-that were "my" friends knew. Would have appreciated the heads up!
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Location: Texas | Blueridgedreaming - 2014-11-25 2:42 PM outrundaizy - 2014-11-25 1:32 PM Lobo - 2014-11-25 11:21 AM outrundaizy - 2014-11-24 10:15 PM runs4fun - 2014-11-24 4:02 PM It's absolutely none of your business. Stay out of it. Especially given that they are FB friends which means she is privy to the same info that you are and by "confronting" either of them you would be meddling where you've not been asked to nor have any right to. "You were curious so you and looked at his FB....you didn't want to confront them" etc. etc. What the heck? Who are you to check up on him, her or be concerned one way or the other except for the fact that you are being nosey and putting your nose in where it doesn't belong. I appreciate the fact that you may be concerned for your friend but I also wonder if maybe you don't have enough going on in your own life which might be the true cause of you being overly concerned about someone else's??? I really don't appreciate you using that tone on MY post when I was simply trying to decide what the right thing to do is. It's none of YOUR business how I know anyways. He is at my apartment every single night, I think I have the right to know what's going on or to be friends with him on facebook.
And I know they are still together, my only concern was that I know this girl is gonna be heartbroken and I think she will be embarrassed when she finds out, BUT I know it is not my place to say anything, I just felt bad for her. I am sticking up for outrundaizy on this one! You can put your so called "opinion" out there without being rude. This post sounded extremely defensive-so much so I thought to myself, is this the friend posting and is upset? Opinions and tact can exist in the same post. And I will be the the odd one out here. I would confront my roommate. Someone being a little offended wouldn't keep me from holding some accountability. If I pay rent and I have to live with this girl-it is my business. It can be done tactfully also. Say you are actually concerned for this girl and the girl he might be dating back home. Plus-my parents were divorced because of my dad's cheating. So many of my mom's friends knew and kept it hush hush because it wasn't any of there business. They cost my mom years of extra heartache. I also dated a cheater and his friends-that were "my" friends knew. Would have appreciated the heads up!
Thank you... I have NO problem what so ever with people expressing your opinions, but if you cannot do it without being rude then don't press submit. There is a big difference between being rude and having a difference of opinions.
And thank you for sharing your story.. I still don't think I will say anything. I may ask my roommate if they are "official"(roommate & boy) that way she isn't heartbroken aswell. Unless I'm confronted first I think I will just keep on keepin' on. |
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| runs4fun - 2014-11-24 3:02 PM
It's absolutely none of your business. Stay out of it. Especially given that they are FB friends which means she is privy to the same info that you are and by "confronting" either of them you would be meddling where you've not been asked to nor have any right to. "You were curious so you and looked at his FB....you didn't want to confront them" etc. etc. What the heck? Who are you to check up on him, her or be concerned one way or the other except for the fact that you are being nosey and putting your nose in where it doesn't belong. I appreciate the fact that you may be concerned for your friend but I also wonder if maybe you don't have enough going on in your own life which might be the true cause of you being overly concerned about someone else's???
Not gona lie, id totaly creep this guys FB if I was the OP (meaning this man i dont really know was spending a ton of time and over nights in MY house) |
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| pinx05 - 2014-11-24 3:37 PM
I had a friend... I saw her boyfriend naked in his truck with another girl (also naked). I told my friend... and somehow I ended up being the bad guy. Not sure how that happened but I have learned my lesson. My friends are getting annonymous tips from now on lol.
I have been in this situation too and either way you get in trouble. Since you don't have a relationship with the supposide gf back home, leave it alone.
I remember being in college and people jokingly in relationships all the time on facebook. Some were best friends and some were opposite sex/same sex. I wouldn't get too concerned unless you know the facts. |
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Location: SE Louisiana | pinx05 - 2014-11-24 3:37 PM
I had a friend... I saw her boyfriend naked in his truck with another girl (also naked). I told my friend... and somehow I ended up being the bad guy. Not sure how that happened but I have learned my lesson. My friends are getting annonymous tips from now on lol.
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| hoofs_in_motion - 2014-11-24 1:36 PM wow....stay out of it.....karma will hit them both if she does know he has a girlfriend
sorry but your roommate is a flipping homewrecker.
WHOA - so SHE's the homewrecker?
If he's actually cheating, HE is the homewrecker, not her. And WHO knows what he told her about the girl back home. I'm also the odd man out - I'd send a message to the GF, it's not cool to be the ONLY one who does not know. |
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Location: Ky | Depends on whether you are friends with your roommate. If my wife was cheating on me and my friends knew it and didn't tell me then once I found out she would no longer be my wife and they would no longer be my friends. |
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| The op is jumping to conclusions with no concrete evidence.
As people have said there is a chance he has not updated his Facebook status, and knowing from a friend of mine, if it was the other girl who tagged him in the relationship, he cannot get out of it on Facebook. This happened to a guy friend of mine.
I personally would leave it alone, but I would have never snooped on his Facebook status to see what it said. I don't need drama.
If the op is concerned and wants to say something, then with both the roommate and the guy present, I would suggest bringing it up something along the lines, hey I seen your Facebook relationship status is with insert name here, what's the deal?
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Location: SE Louisiana | kmcsunshine - 2014-11-27 3:29 PM
You know that Bob Seger song, Night Moves? Maybe they have a mutually satisfying relationship and nobody cares.......I may or may not have had a few of those in college myself.
I sure would not make it my business.
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bgOA24hAe60
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You're not good friends with the "girlfriend" so I guess you don't really owe her anything.
However, having been on the horrible end of cheating and other people knowing and not saying anything-that sucks too.
The difficult thing would be if your friend actually did not know (not likely) if that's the case, you probably owe her at least a heads up. Just say he popped up on the "friends you might know" bar and clicked on it. At least let her know you know what's going on. Also--If she does know about the girlfriend and doesn't care-for heaven's sake don't introduce her to any of your boyfriends!! |
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Location: North MS | I say pull a pretty little liars show type stunt. Catch her sloppy drunk (I theorize this happens on occassion), get her phone and update the relationship status on her end. If she is totally passed out she won't even remember if she did it. Sneaky sneaky.
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Location: The best kept secret in TX | pinx05 - 2014-11-24 3:37 PM I had a friend... I saw her boyfriend naked in his truck with another girl (also naked). I told my friend... and somehow I ended up being the bad guy. Not sure how that happened but I have learned my lesson. My friends are getting annonymous tips from now on lol.
Baha I love the anonymous tips. Like: Here's a note someone left on our doorstep for you. I don't know who left it but here ya go. LOL
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| farmer's tan - 2014-11-27 11:42 PM
I think I have personally been on both sides of this. It sucks.
You're not good friends with the "girlfriend" so I guess you don't really owe her anything.
However, having been on the horrible end of cheating and other people knowing and not saying anything-that sucks too.
The difficult thing would be if your friend actually did not know (not likely) if that's the case, you probably owe her at least a heads up. Just say he popped up on the "friends you might know" bar and clicked on it. At least let her know you know what's going on. Also--If she does know about the girlfriend and doesn't care-for heaven's sake don't introduce her to any of your boyfriends!!
Send a letter to her in the mail using cut out letters from a magazine to spell out, "STAY AWAY FROM MY BOYFRIEND!"I would just stay out of it though. If it's on Facebook, it's not like he's hiding it from your roommate. If you talk to anyone, it should be the actual gf but I see that ending very badly for you. |
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Location: Texas | Always tell! Even if you send a note in the mail anotomously. Don't explain don't say who it is just say I know your bf is cheating you might want to do some snooping. |
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Location: Oklahoma | It's a hard place to be in. I watched a good friend cheat on her boyfriend (who I really liked and had somewhat of a friendship with) numerous times and wanted so badly to tell him, but my husband suggested that I just stay out of it. I did. They wound up breaking up (which needed to happen long before the cheating ever went on) and both are in a happy place today.
It sounds really hypocritical (and I guess it is), but if my husband was cheating on me I'd want to know, regardless of who told me.... But if the girl being cheated on isn't someone you're extremely close to I don't think you'll be portrayed in a good light. I would also be afraid of the guy getting upset and having some anger issues with you and still coming over to your apartment... but I'm kinda paranoid like that! |
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What would you do if you knew someone was cheating?