Nateracer - 2015-01-30 8:55 AM I was a XL bordering 2X.  I have since lost 42 lbs.  I'd be interested in telling you the differences.  

fulltiltfilly - 2015-01-30 9:19 AM What size are you considering "plus" size? If you are a size 0 then 8 is plus size to you LOL 

Nateracer - 2015-01-30 7:55 AM I was a XL bordering 2X.  I have since lost 42 lbs.  I'd be interested in telling you the differences.  

hlynn - 2015-01-30 9:19 PM Trying to find a good quality 16 inch saddle without having to custom order one. That's the biggest struggle. I'm ok with knowing I need a 16. Others need to accept that fact and stop trying to squeeze an 18+ butt into a 15 inch saddle. No bueno. Oh and treeless. No one over 160 or so should be riding in a treeless. Period. End of story. Do your horse a favor and just get the tree. People thinking your horse sucks and can't run faster than 3D when in actuality it could totally kick everyone's butt f your own butt wasn't 12 sizes bigger than the average little can chaser. And finding nice jeans in big girl sizes is pretty much impossible unless you enjoy your jeans doubling as a bra. That's about it besides the obvious. :) LOL

hlynn - 2015-01-30 9:19 PM

Trying to find a good quality 16 inch saddle without having to custom order one. That's the biggest struggle.

I'm ok with knowing I need a 16. Others need to accept that fact and stop trying to squeeze an 18+ butt into a 15 inch saddle. No bueno.

Oh and treeless. No one over 160 or so should be riding in a treeless. Period. End of story. Do your horse a favor and just get the tree.

People thinking your horse sucks and can't run faster than 3D when in actuality it could totally kick everyone's butt f your own butt wasn't 12 sizes bigger than the average little can chaser.

And finding nice jeans in big girl sizes is pretty much impossible unless you enjoy your jeans doubling as a bra.

That's about it besides the obvious. :) LOL

hlynn - 2015-01-30 9:19 PM

Trying to find a good quality 16 inch saddle without having to custom order one. That's the biggest struggle.

I'm ok with knowing I need a 16. Others need to accept that fact and stop trying to squeeze an 18+ butt into a 15 inch saddle. No bueno.

Oh and treeless. No one over 160 or so should be riding in a treeless. Period. End of story. Do your horse a favor and just get the tree.

People thinking your horse sucks and can't run faster than 3D when in actuality it could totally kick everyone's butt f your own butt wasn't 12 sizes bigger than the average little can chaser.

And finding nice jeans in big girl sizes is pretty much impossible unless you enjoy your jeans doubling as a bra.

That's about it besides the obvious. :) LOL

cheryl makofka - 2015-01-30 10:36 PM


Not sure if you are looking for a saddle right now, but seen some average quality billy cook, circle y, maybe one Martin on Facebook barrel saddles for sale

Iwish - 2015-01-31 10:36 AM I quit riding all together because I felt I was to heavy to ride. Now that I have lost a good amount of weight I'm starting to ride again but I will not go ride out in public. Horse people are so incredibly rude and all they look at is your size. They don't even care that your horse is more than equipped for you and that you and the tack are under the 20% "rule", no no your fat so you must be to heavy for your horse and you are a horrible person. So I don't know when I will ever ride around the public as I still have a good amount of weight to loose. I really want to start taking my mare to time onlys but I won't be doing that any time soon.

4Horse - 2015-01-31 10:28 AM Agree with trying to find jeans that fit well and don't sit too low. Ebay is great for finding the older style jeans. I'm trying to sell a 15 1/2 inch saddle and realized it might be much harder to sell because far more want the smaller sizes than the larger ones, I never thought it might be an issue. Well past menopause, older and more arthritic make it a lot harder to lose weight, especially when you've tended towards being heavier all your life. I don't find it effecting my riding what so ever, balance and skill is still the same; however, my horse might think differently. I don't obsess over it though, there is too much to life to enjoy without worrying about it.

oija - 2015-01-31 9:21 AM I too am plus size according to that definition, though I'm actually less plus size as I've dropped from a 16/18 in the last year to a 12/14. Sounds like you have plenty of people answering questions which is great. I'm interested to see the article. Just to add, you might also try a poll just to give you some survey numbers to add a little more interesting stuff to your article. :)

Rolling J - 2015-01-30 1:07 PM

I have to say, I have almost stopped riding all together and my weight is a HUGE factor in it all. I feel so off balance on a horse anymore and my reflexs are awful. I only wish I was a size 12 but I also felt VERY comfortable riding at that size and was my size for many, many years. It has been the last two years that I have really put on the weight and I am the heaviest I have ever been. I have lost almost all my confience.

I acknowledge that I am at a crossroads with horses. I want/need to buy a new horse this spring but I have to start with my weight first. I don't want to ever judge what weight someone feels comfortful with but I know first hand how much weight affects one's skills. That is me in the avatar in 2007- size 12- LOVED, LOVED riding then! would have NEVER of thought at that time, I would be thinking about walking away (ok now that I am tearing up...)

I did join a gym yesterday with FRIENDS to help keep me motived so I hope I can come back on here by summer with some postive news :)

Iwish - 2015-01-31 11:36 AM

I quit riding all together because I felt I was to heavy to ride. Now that I have lost a good amount of weight I'm starting to ride again but I will not go ride out in public. Horse people are so incredibly rude and all they look at is your size. They don't even care that your horse is more than equipped for you and that you and the tack are under the 20% "rule", no no your fat so you must be to heavy for your horse and you are a horrible person. So I don't know when I will ever ride around the public as I still have a good amount of weight to loose. I really want to start taking my mare to time onlys but I won't be doing that any time soon.

Iwish - 2015-01-31 10:36 AM

I quit riding all together because I felt I was to heavy to ride. Now that I have lost a good amount of weight I'm starting to ride again but I will not go ride out in public. Horse people are so incredibly rude and all they look at is your size. They don't even care that your horse is more than equipped for you and that you and the tack are under the 20% "rule", no no your fat so you must be to heavy for your horse and you are a horrible person. So I don't know when I will ever ride around the public as I still have a good amount of weight to loose. I really want to start taking my mare to time onlys but I won't be doing that any time soon.

hlynn - 2015-01-31 6:06 PM Anyone up for a double chin action shot club? LOL I'm not even super mega huge but I always have the ugliest faces in my action shots. It's like I'm destined to be hideous. LOL

redmansmyman11 - 2015-01-31 1:01 PM

My butt has grown quite a few sizes in the last few years but I don't know if I'm plus sized or not, depends on the jeans but I still feel like I can ride well enough.

What I want to say is all of you women who feel criticized or judged or ashamed or embarrassed to ride in public because you feel too big or people make comments or look down on you... TELL THEM ALL TO GO TO HELL it hurts my heart to read your posts about missing out on things because you feel this way. If you can, get up to them and tell them what you really think about them and go out and enjoy your horse! I wish I lived closer to some of you because I would tell them to go to hell for you if I could. tell them to kiss off

CanCan - 2015-01-31 8:05 PM


You must be my sister. 

jake16 - 2015-01-31 6:37 PM


Two thumbs up!!! This sounds like something Laramie would say to people...I laughed out loud and thought of her too.Shes giving you a thumbs up from Heaven.

Ethel - 2015-02-01 1:50 AM

Guys, I am and have been working on a saddle for plus sized women! I got to thinking that there are more women now that are plus size than not and a whole bunch of them run barrels! No one has ever catered to them before and I want to do it.. Have been working with several plus sized ladies to what their needs are.. I am really excited about it.. Most all saddles are made for small and or 1D riders and they make up less percentage of all the barrel racers at a barrel race! Just know my husband and I have been working toward this for almost a year..  We want to cater to you specifically.. We will have 16 inch seats or bigger if we need to.. It has been slow going and we have had road blocks to try to get over but, this has been in my plans for a while now..  Hang in there.. Help is on the way!! :-) A group of our board buddies know this is happening but we just haven't said much about it, because we aren't ready to roll with it just yet.. Still waiting on the trees to come in for the prototypes.. BUT, they have been ordered!!!!!  This seemed as good a time as any to let you all know..                                             

                                     Libby Hurley
 

c7a - 2015-02-01 10:59 AM

I'm a size 18 and yes it's very hard to get motivated and ride like I want to. I skip a lot of races because I'm not comfortable riding in front of people even tho I have great balance

Ethel - 2015-02-01 10:52 AM

hlynn, the cantle will be 4 inches high.. The problem with a really high cantle is that when you need to put your weight in your stirrups to balance, your butt has to have somewhere to go BEHIND you.. If your cantle is really high it stops you from being able to push it back where it needs to be so that you can actually balance, unless you have a big enough seat.. If you are already squished into your saddle seat, you have no where to go but up and over the front of your saddle swells, your feet going behind you in the process. You have to be able to push back away from the swells.. That is why you need room in your saddle.. For some reason, people think that they have to be sucked down in there to be able to stay on, when actually the total opposite is true! You have to have room in your saddle seat to be able to move to position your body to keep from being thrown forward. You would HATE a saddle with a high cantle..They also will hit you and bark you in the back.. That's why most saddle makers won't even go there.. They already know the outcome..

mam0329 - 2015-01-31 11:25 AM


Same here....

Ethel - 2015-02-01 9:52 AM hlynn, the cantle will be 4 inches high.. The problem with a really high cantle is that when you need to put your weight in your stirrups to balance, your butt has to have somewhere to go BEHIND you.. If your cantle is really high it stops you from being able to push it back where it needs to be so that you can actually balance, unless you have a big enough seat.. If you are already squished into your saddle seat, you have no where to go but up and over the front of your saddle swells, your feet going behind you in the process. You have to be able to push back away from the swells.. That is why you need room in your saddle.. For some reason, people think that they have to be sucked down in there to be able to stay on, when actually the total opposite is true! You have to have room in your saddle seat to be able to move to position your body to keep from being thrown forward. You would HATE a saddle with a high cantle..They also will hit you and bark you in the back.. That's why most saddle makers won't even go there.. They already know the outcome..

c7a - 2015-02-01 10:59 AM I'm a size 18 and yes it's very hard to get motivated and ride like I want to. I skip a lot of races because I'm not comfortable riding in front of people even tho I have great balance

livinonlove&horses - 2015-01-31 6:04 PM  I'm a size 18. Want to cry every time I see video of myself. But I am working on it. Send me a pm!

hlynn - 2015-01-31 6:06 PM Anyone up for a double chin action shot club? LOL I'm not even super mega huge but I always have the ugliest faces in my action shots. It's like I'm destined to be hideous. LOL

Ethel - 2015-02-01 12:50 AM Guys, I am and have been working on a saddle for plus sized women! I got to thinking that there are more women now that are plus size than not and a whole bunch of them run barrels! No one has ever catered to them before and I want to do it.. Have been working with several plus sized ladies to what their needs are.. I am really excited about it.. Most all saddles are made for small and or 1D riders and they make up less percentage of all the barrel racers at a barrel race! Just know my husband and I have been working toward this for almost a year..  We want to cater to you specifically.. We will have 16 inch seats or bigger if we need to.. It has been slow going and we have had road blocks to try to get over but, this has been in my plans for a while now..  Hang in there.. Help is on the way!! :-) A group of our board buddies know this is happening but we just haven't said much about it, because we aren't ready to roll with it just yet.. Still waiting on the trees to come in for the prototypes.. BUT, they have been ordered!!!!!  This seemed as good a time as any to let you all know..                                             



                                     Libby Hurley

 

streakysox - 2015-02-01 10:59 AM You do not need a specially designed saddle for queen size riders. You need to buy a saddle with a big enough seat. Last spring I bought a new Josey Ultimate with a 16 inch seat. Pam at Josey's told me she though a 15 1/2 would be OK but check with my trainer first. Trainer said 16 so that is what I got. It has taken some getting used to but I love riding. The saddle has a high cantle. Something that has significantly helped my riding is joining a fitness center. I specifically told them I wanted to improve my balance and core strength. If I lost weight that would be good but I needed to work on the first things. WOW that has helped so much. Friday night I made one of the best runs I have made in a couple of years. This is not going to happen over night. Baby steps and patience. I am trying to do what will help me ride like I used to. This has helped me so I hope you can benefit you.

cavyrunsbarrels - 2015-02-01 2:17 PM   Can we talk about getting on horses and being heavy? I've had people be rude because I need a mounting block. EXCUSE ME. MY HORSE IS BIG AND I'M HEAVY DO YOU EXPECT ME TO FREAKING LEVITATE? I can't even bend my leg far enough to reach the dang stirrup.

Fairweather - 2015-02-01 2:23 PM

People of ALL sizes use mounting blocks in English  - they expect you to.

I know people say that western saddles have horns, but technically if you're really correct about getting on you're not supposed even use the horn when you get on.  

Talk to any horse chiro and they'll tell you regardless of rider or horse size it's not good to get on a horse from the ground. 

I don't give a crap what people think about me getting on my horses -- it's what happens when I actually get on them that counts! I might not have the fastest runs, but I've broke a lot of horses and I've ridden bad rides through I figured I've earned my dues! Besides, I'm 5'3"+ and my horse is 15.3+ hands -- I can't see over his hip. I have several others that aren't that much smaller so bite me! 

EDITED TO ADD -- If the same people that like to make comments about mounting blocks actually had to get on the CORRECT way without using the horn or gripping in any way with the left hand, the majority couldn't do it. 

cavyrunsbarrels - 2015-02-01 3:17 PM

  Can we talk about getting on horses and being heavy? I've had people be rude because I need a mounting block. EXCUSE ME. MY HORSE IS BIG AND I'M HEAVY DO YOU EXPECT ME TO FREAKING LEVITATE? I can't even bend my leg far enough to reach the dang stirrup.

Bibliafarm - 2015-02-01 5:21 PM

no matter how much you weigh you should use a mounting block of some type. the constant pull will ruin a horse.. chiro etc.. 

Three 4 Luck - 2015-02-01 12:42 PM


 The people who would judge you are the mean ones who will find something to make fun of no matter who you are or what size.   

classicpotatochip - 2015-02-01 10:37 PM This. For sure. People can be such jerks. Just go ride!!

TrackinBubba - 2015-02-02 8:59 AM


Some snot-nosed brat asked me one day if I really thought I should be riding at my size. I told her my a$$ was large so she would have a larger target to kiss. Obviously she lacked the intelligence to find a smaller one. 

Any person who would say something nasty is obviously not worth the time or energy to waste thoughts on much less time and effort. Just go ride your horse. 

Leo - 2015-02-02 7:11 PM I'm a bigger girl but I'm an aggressive rider. I got my feelings hurt big time a few years ago. A decently known trainer came up to me and was asking me about a small-ish, quick, catty, little horse he needed somebody to jockey. We talked for some time, then he finally said "I want somebody that rides exactly like you, only 20 lbs lighter."

outrundaizy - 2015-02-02 5:17 PM I will say I am not plus sized, BUT I am a 9/10 and have never been bigger than a size 3 until this last year. The difference in my riding in unbelievable. I am now at an "over weight" BMI. I fell off turning a barrel at ANHA this year, I have never fallen off at a show or due to balance before. I am changing this before it gets worse, I am so insecure.  You ladies that are size 12 plus I just want to say you CAN do it. You don't even need to lose weight, if you are a size 18 and you love your body then more power to ya! Just doing sit ups and core workouts is enough to be able to ride. If you are trying to lose weight, just know it is worth it, for you, for your horse, for your health and family, but change because you truly want to, not because you think you have to. I have never once looked twice at someone because they were bigger, nor have I ever heard anyone say something because of someone's size. For all of you who said you are too embarrassed to go to a barrel race, please, this weekend go make a run, and have FUN! 

mbellos11 - 2015-02-01 10:02 PM I hate being over weight. Last year was the hardest year of my life. Had a few flare ups due to stress. I have Rheumatoid arthritis and Fibromyalgia. Broke up with my long term boyfriend and lost my aunt who was the closest thing to me. They put me on prednisone for 10 months and lyrica (NEVER AGAIN) and my depression just made me stress eat. Sold my two barrel saddles (size 14 and 15) I was so mad one day. Now, I'm riding in a 18" cutting saddle if I even do decide to get on. I am blessed with this one horse and I feel like every day I take him for granted. For example: October 2014. Everyone at my barn got invited to a cattle drive. Of course everyone begged me to go and I did. Not everyone sees me ride. Bless my gelding, he made me look so good that I spoiled him when we were done. For not being ridden in a while he did everything I asked. Made going thru creeks, up and down hills, chasing the cows, galloping catching stray ones, and hauling my @$$ around, look like a breeze. Half who went couldn't believe how well I could ride being my size. I haven't ridden since then. I only did 2 rodeos last year. I was the BIGGEST girl there. I actually had to get a strong buzz before I ran just to calm down. I have too many personal issues going on it's so hard to stay on track. I don't even do what I love anymore. Barrel race and Bartend. My income has dropped down like crazy. I use to bar tend and what I am making in 2 WEEKS NOW I use to make in ONE night. I'm only down to 1 horse. It just sucks. Last thing I want is anyone feeling sorry for me. Just feels good to vent I never talk about this to anybody. Maybe it's easier on here because I can't talk to anybody face to face LOL I would not be good at answering all of those questions I got messaged. I'm just a tad bit bitter about myself.

barrelracr131 - 2015-02-03 7:36 AM

 I've seen riders hindered by weight and riders that aren't. I'm not plus sized, but I think someone that gains a lot quickly is more susceptible to balance issues. 

And if that happens, get your thyroid checked! Especially if you are tired a lot and or have anxiety issues. It has been a lifesaver for several people I know. 

If people are judging you, they are judging everyone else too. Successful folks usually don't waste time with that nonsense... It's a bleacher jockey move. 

Fairweather - 2015-02-01 1:23 PM People of ALL sizes use mounting blocks in English  - they expect you to.



I know people say that western saddles have horns, but technically if you're really correct about getting on you're not supposed even use the horn when you get on.  



Talk to any horse chiro and they'll tell you regardless of rider or horse size it's not good to get on a horse from the ground. 



I don't give a crap what people think about me getting on my horses -- it's what happens when I actually get on them that counts! I might not have the fastest runs, but I've broke a lot of horses and I've ridden bad rides through I figured I've earned my dues! Besides, I'm 5'3"+ and my horse is 15.3+ hands -- I can't see over his hip. I have several others that aren't that much smaller so bite me! 



EDITED TO ADD -- If the same people that like to make comments about mounting blocks actually had to get on the CORRECT way without using the horn or gripping in any way with the left hand, the majority couldn't do it. 

Dudette - 2015-02-04 5:43 AM All I can say is that I am Texas size.  I have been a big girl alll of my life.  Being 5'11-6' tall, the least I have weighed was 185, some 40 years ago.  I am currently 62 years old and weigh 240, wearing size 16-18 pants with the longest length I can find.  I started riding when I was 5 years old and have never stopped.  I won my fair share of Buckles and Saddles in Youth Rodeos and Horse Shows in everything from Halter, Western Pleasure, Barrels & Poles as well as Goats and Breakaway.. 
When I was about 25, I was riding with some friends when a "well known" barrel racer told me I was too big to ride a barrel horse.  (This coming from a lady that was there that day, trying to sell a barrel horse to a little girl shaped like an olive on toothpicks.)  An older gentleman heard her and came over to me and said, "Honey, If that horse could pack you when you broke him, he can still pack you now".  I will always remember those words..
I took time off to haul my boys and started Team Roping with them.  I am the one that trained and kept their Barrel and Rope horses in shape.  Last year I started a horse that will eventually go to my 2 1/2 year old grandson. 
I quit Barrel Racing because I got tired of all of the drama.  I have now started back hauling a little with a 16yo girl I work with.  I will never be 1D or even 2D, but my money is in the pot for me, or anyone else, to win.  And yes, I do use my trailer fender and I have a bright pink mounting block to make getting on easier on my horse's back and my knees!

memory - 2015-02-03 11:19 PM What are the weights of some of the top guys in the barrel racing industry? I think we kick ourselves around too much. This is what we are today and who knows what tomorrow brings. Ride and enjoy it.

Murphy - 2015-02-04 1:23 PM


I think men and women carry their weight differently. 200 pounds for a fit man is different than a woman who is out of shape and 200 pounds.

TwistedK - 2015-02-04 1:16 PM I am a size 14 in jeans (33x35). I wear an XL-XXL top depending on fit. I work behind a desk so I don't get much exercise. I HATE working out... I was in a bad car wreck January 2002. I broke all the bones across the top of my right foot and my right femur. I to this day cannot walk up a flight of stairs normally, I just don't have the leg strength. I'm VERY self conscience in my appearance and don't like being intimate due to that. It hurts my husband that I feel this way, but I cannot help it. I have joined a gym as of Feb 1. There is a place near me called sweat like a girl. It is a bunch of women and different daily classes. I pre paid my membership so I have no excuse not to go. I go every morning at 5:15am before my family wakes up. I'm sore as all get out especially since today is only day 3. Monday was weights, Tuesday was cardio kickboxing and today was yoga. I haven't seen any results yet, but I will get there. There are other 4-H moms that go at that time, so I have company. I grew up riding english, so I'm a very light seat rider with light hands. Yes, I hate how I look riding right now, but I still ride. I have my stud who is my rock. Even when I'm feeling horrible about myself, he doesn't judge me. He sees me coming and knows it means one on one time. I'm so glad this thread started. It's nice knowing we aren't alone.

Fairweather - 2015-02-04 12:55 PM

 UPDATE......
I have started a blog and website called Cowgirls With Curves to highlight and encourage plus size riders. 

Just got it up and running late last night. I'm sure I'll be tweaking some with a fresh set of eyes. 

I will be posting interviews on a weekly basis -- this is a permanent thing that I'll be featuring every week. If you answered questions, I'll be posting your interview in the weeks to come. 

I also have plans to review and feature clothing, tack, supplements. 

There's also a page on Facebook by the same name. 

The website address is cowgirlswithcurves.com - http://cowgirlswithcurves.com

Fairweather - 2015-02-04 2:29 PM They do carry their weight differently, however I have seen 200 pound women that can work just as hard and long as a fit man in the hay field. I'm not 200 pounds but I'm short and plus size and 46 - considered "out of shape" as you mentioned but yet I have out worked teenagers and 20 somethings considered to be fit in our hay fields. I work in an office - it's not like I'm work hardened either.

Murphy - 2015-02-04 1:36 PM I never mentioned anything about someone outworking another, or singling anyone out. 

Fairweather - 2015-02-04 2:43 PM  No, but you did reference a 200 pound man as fit vs  a not fit 200 pound woman. If a person can lift a lot for a long period of time, I would consider that fit. Not all women that are 200 pounds or have a higher BMI are necessarily unfit or soft. That's the point I was trying to make in general. 

Murphy - 2015-02-04 2:21 PM


I'm hoping I didn't offend with my comment, as that was not my intent. However, I think there is more in being "fit" than just lifitng heavy for long periods of time. My husband is out of shape (he will admit this) and he can throw hay all day long.  He is 6'4" and 220 pounds. 

I think people who have a solid core and are in shape can utilize balance and weight better. That's all. 

banjomia - 2015-02-04 4:11 PM I couldn't agree more....being "fit" is a lot more than being able to go out in a field and outwork a teenager. Being fit requires your heart and lungs and your entire body to be fit. There are a lot of different sized people in this world. None of us have the same frame or genetics. What you you can do is be the best and most fit version of yourself. Unfortunately, if we are honest with ourselves....that is not happening. Most people eat like crap and don't take the time to exercise. And yes, we do owe it to our equine partners to take care of ourselves so we can take care of them....and that includes in the saddle.

banjomia - 2015-02-04 4:11 PM I couldn't agree more....being "fit" is a lot more than being able to go out in a field and outwork a teenager. Being fit requires your heart and lungs and your entire body to be fit. There are a lot of different sized people in this world. None of us have the same frame or genetics. What you you can do is be the best and most fit version of yourself. Unfortunately, if we are honest with ourselves....that is not happening. Most people eat like crap and don't take the time to exercise. And yes, we do owe it to our equine partners to take care of ourselves so we can take care of them....and that includes in the saddle.

LMS - 2015-02-04 3:20 PM  AND that statement right there makes me want to do this to you    Because I'm overweight I don't love my horse?? SHEESH  HE is an animal, he exists because I've bought him, taken care of him fed him, loved him....don't think I owe him too much......Trust me, I'm as honest as the day is long, some days the only thing that keeps my sanity is the fact that I have to walk down and feed my horses and steers-and guess what?  It's probably the only real exercise I get in a day!!!  Bottom line?  If people would mind their own business and keep their opinions to themselves we wouldn't even need a thread like this.

LMS - 2015-02-04 5:08 PM I'm sorry, I did not miss the point, because IMO my "best" would be to quite my job and workout approximately 5 hours a day and ride for 5 hours a day, that would be my "best".  My best would be me at 135 with enough muscle tone to frighten weak men!  My best would be riding an NFR mount.  Thats what I COULD be, but when someone follows up a statement with unfortunately, it leaves the impression that we should just quite with any of it if we can't do our "best"  I'm not willing to do that, so all of the people that think I'm too fat to ride my horse, keep your opinions to yourself....because you know what?  I'm not doing my "best" and I'm guessing that if people are truly honest with themselves-most are not doing their best either, but I try not to throw rocks when I live in a glass house.  Everyone should evaluate their definition of "their best" because nope I'm not doing my best and that is life! I have never made excuses as to why I am the way I am, I know why.

cavyrunsbarrels - 2015-02-04 6:00 PM Is it me or is this starting to get a little testy...The POINT of this thread, and Fairweather's shiny new website is to ENCOURAGE people. We are all in different situations. We all have different goals and struggles. One person's ideal size may be another's "feel like a balloon" size. There doesn't have to be a clear definition of what is fit and what isn't. If you are trying that is what is important. If you are living as healthfully as YOU can and not hurting yourself or your horse, then gosh darn it I think you're doing great! I understand being frustrated at yourself, the world, whatever and I've gone through my times of bitterness. Heck, I was obese as a baby, as a toddler, as a child, all the way through adulthood. I've never known what it is like to be thin. I didn't eat myself to this point, or have kids, I didn't do anything to deserve the body I was just given. It sucks and it hurts when people want to point fingers. But if you want to feel better you have to ignore the haters and take care of yourself so that you can love yourself no matter what size or shape you are.

Red Raider - 2015-02-04 9:34 PM On May 2, 2013, I walked into a bariatric surgeons office with one major goal in mind.  I was basically willing to die on the operating table during a gastric sleeve surgery for the chance to be able to ride horses again. 



You see, I'd been heavy all my life and had stopped riding horses some 10 years before that time because I thought I was too much for a horse to handle just light riding much less competing.  I never gave up on the dream of riding again though and I figured if I couldn't have that in my life, my life might not be worth living.  So I took the risk and had the surgery.



This picture of me was taken about 9 months after my surgery.  I think I was down about 110 pounds from my heighest weight of 325 at the time it was taken.  This was the first time I had gotten on a horse since 2002-03 when I was in law school and I actually competed in a ranch sorting competition the day this picture was taken.  I can't describe how I felt riding that day.  It was like coming home -- I didn't feel weird or anything.  My balance, seat and everything was pretty much what it always had been.  The body just knows what it knows I guess.  



Don't ever sell your saddle or give up on your dreams.  The cost may be high and the risks may be scary but don't give up on yourself.  Keep dreaming and keep riding on my fellow fat girl friends.  Don't let anybody take riding horses away from you.  If they want to make fun of you and tell you you'll never be able to do it, tell them to go F*CK OFF and get a life.  Your working on yours and it's going to be a good one.    







   

LMS - 2015-02-04 9:56 PM  I do want to apologize to fair weather that I'm as testy as I am!  I'm just about 40 and plumb sick of this! Here's a Point: red raider, ur pics u weigh about 10 pounds lighter than I am now, the gastric sleeve has been on my mind a lot lately. I've always wanted to be thin, for my height 135 is "correct" but at my fittest I weighed 175 and was bullet proof!  Fighting weight probably! I'm very concerned about the problems that come from gastric surgery, can I do it?  Will it kill me?? Will it work? Any insight  into the sleeve I would really appreciate!  You are very brave for trying something so many view as controversial!

LMS - 2015-02-04 9:56 PM

 I do want to apologize to fair weather that I'm as testy as I am!  I'm just about 40 and plumb sick of this! Here's a Point: red raider, ur pics u weigh about 10 pounds lighter than I am now, the gastric sleeve has been on my mind a lot lately. I've always wanted to be thin, for my height 135 is "correct" but at my fittest I weighed 175 and was bullet proof!  Fighting weight probably! I'm very concerned about the problems that come from gastric surgery, can I do it?  Will it kill me?? Will it work? Any insight  into the sleeve I would really appreciate!  You are very brave for trying something so many view as controversial!

barrelracr131 - 2015-02-05 8:46 AM

To touch on the thyroid issue, it's been a huge deal for two very close friends.

Friend 1 was a model in her youth, always thin. All of a sudden, she gained a lot of weight. It made her feel "top heavy" as she is very tall. She had several falls from what's now my gelding, and I believe it was the adjustment in balance that made the situation worse. She found out her thyroid was not working, and now she has lost weight and feels much better.

Person 2 is not a horse person, but struggled for years with anxiety. Finally, after several tests, they found out her thyroid was not working at all. Once she was put on the correct meds, she lost 80 lbs in 6 months. She looks fabulous. The disease did damage her teeth beyond repair, though, because it took so long to find a medication. She now has dentures and is in her 30s.  

barrelracr131 - 2015-02-05 9:39 AM

I am not sure, but I know she sees an endocrinologist. It is a specialist doctor. I think there are two types of tests that measure activity, but honestly I'm not very knowledgable about this type of testing. I do know that friend number two had a rough time being diagnosed and finding a medication that worked.

My lab speciality is genetics, so I'm not an expert about that type of testing.. wish I was of more help. 

Tmain - 2015-02-05 12:19 PM I am one of those "PLUS" sized riders - however each year the plus increases a bit. The last 30 pounds have hurt my balance a lot. I used to be the really skinny person - that could eat everything under the sun and never gain a pound. Fast forward to 30, getting married and having 2 children. Up my weight about 45 pounds - I was still competitive and looked pretty good at that weight. It seemed that every year another 10 pounds would be added on. Despite rarely eating out and cooking meals from scratch - the weight keeps finding me. Diets/ Pills have not worked. I went through 9 months with a bariatric doctor and we are going to preform lap band on Monday. as well as removing my gall bladder and fixing a hernia. I hate doctors, but have found I can go forever without eating if I am busy, but mealtimes I over eat. The phrase "only eat until you feel full" doesn't work in my case. I can consume a lot of food at one time. I also have done the portion control and was miserable. I have been on liquids for almost 2 weeks and I warned my husband to slap me if I am eating his arm in the middle of the night, I have woke up "needing" a meal. My cravings are always protein - meat, eggs etc. I do not have the typical carb cravings that everyone talks about. I have cardiac and pulmonary problems that are made worse by the extra weight (perhaps even caused). Waiting to see how things go about 60 days post surgery. Surgery is not a quick fix - there will be a lot of work involved. Diets and exercise did not work for me - I always gained back what I lost - plus a little more for interest. I also researched the different surgical options, I want to keep all my stomach as different parts absorb different nutrients. I also watch my grandma suffer- since she had 2/3rds of her stomach removed in the 50's. She has terrible absorption problems - I am sure that they are more selective of where they cut and how much is removed.

stayceem - 2015-02-05 11:53 AM So normally... I stay away from this kinda post but I will be one participating in OP experiment. You will all get to hear a bit about my story... I do agree that sometimes weight is within your control and sometimes it just isnt. I have literally been the same size since since I was 14-15 years old and I am 25. In high school, I was the "star" bball player with a scholarship in my name. And I was this size. I've always been this size, my body knows how to control itself. I have a strong core and good balance because I never had a fluctuation to get used to. For those who asked if you've ever been made fun of to your face... absolutely. Many times. I started hiding in my truck or trailer to eat my lunch because of a certain group. There are bullies everywhere. Luckily I surrounded myself with some really supportive people who allowed me to be confortable in my own skin. Sure, do I wish I was thin? Absolutely... do I watch what I eat? absolutely. Do I wonder what my horse could do if I was thin? Sometimes... Do I work out, Yep. but I also know my horse gives his heart to me and if I sold him to a girl 50 pounds lighter, she probably wouldnt do as well. I actually sold a horse to a local girl, the horse and i didnt mix. He was a free runner, I am a more push style type rider. We closed anywhere from 1D-4D but more 3D/4D because I usually kicked him right past the barrels. I wont a lot of money prizes and whatever else on him but I knew I wasnt the best rider for him. When she got him she posted pics all over fb about him. Told people that he ran mostly 4D but since I was "fat" she would easily be able to run 1D times on him. needless to say a few of those amazing friends caught wind of the post and defended me... but stuff like that is embarassing. You can have all the confidence in the world... but public humilation hurts and everyone knew that horse. They knew who the "fat" girl was. (sidenote, the girl never pulled a check on him) To all you out there struggling... lose weight if YOU are uncomfortable or if YOUR health is suffering. If you need to go back to some basics for awhile, do it... but dont let someone take your dreams away. And for those who do make the cruel comments... you know who you are.... remember that sometimes its not as easy as "lose weight if it bothers you."

Tmain - 2015-02-05 11:19 AM I am one of those "PLUS" sized riders - however each year the plus increases a bit. The last 30 pounds have hurt my balance a lot. I used to be the really skinny person - that could eat everything under the sun and never gain a pound. Fast forward to 30, getting married and having 2 children. Up my weight about 45 pounds - I was still competitive and looked pretty good at that weight. It seemed that every year another 10 pounds would be added on. Despite rarely eating out and cooking meals from scratch - the weight keeps finding me. Diets/ Pills have not worked. I went through 9 months with a bariatric doctor and we are going to preform lap band on Monday. as well as removing my gall bladder and fixing a hernia. I hate doctors, but have found I can go forever without eating if I am busy, but mealtimes I over eat. The phrase "only eat until you feel full" doesn't work in my case. I can consume a lot of food at one time. I also have done the portion control and was miserable. I have been on liquids for almost 2 weeks and I warned my husband to slap me if I am eating his arm in the middle of the night, I have woke up "needing" a meal. My cravings are always protein - meat, eggs etc. I do not have the typical carb cravings that everyone talks about. I have cardiac and pulmonary problems that are made worse by the extra weight (perhaps even caused). Waiting to see how things go about 60 days post surgery. Surgery is not a quick fix - there will be a lot of work involved. Diets and exercise did not work for me - I always gained back what I lost - plus a little more for interest. I also researched the different surgical options, I want to keep all my stomach as different parts absorb different nutrients. I also watch my grandma suffer- since she had 2/3rds of her stomach removed in the 50's. She has terrible absorption problems - I am sure that they are more selective of where they cut and how much is removed.

willrodeo4food - 2015-02-04 6:46 PM Of course it's going to get testy Cavvy.  You should know by now there is always going to be someone like banjomia that is going to judge overweight people and tell them they just haven't tried hard enough to lose their extra poundage.  It's just not often you see someone like LMS who has had enough & tells them to kiss hers.    I'm with LMS on this one, I know why I'm overweight, I struggle with it every single day.  I don't anyone to tell me I need to be honest with myself or judge me because they don't think I'm being fair to my horses.

 

Nevertooold - 2015-02-05 1:17 PM


I saw you in person...You are anything but fat..LOL 

LMS - 2015-02-04 4:20 PM


 AND that statement right there makes me want to do this to you    Because I'm overweight I don't love my horse?? SHEESH  HE is an animal, he exists because I've bought him, taken care of him fed him, loved him....don't think I owe him too much......Trust me, I'm as honest as the day is long, some days the only thing that keeps my sanity is the fact that I have to walk down and feed my horses and steers-and guess what?  It's probably the only real exercise I get in a day!!!  Bottom line?  If people would mind their own business and keep their opinions to themselves we wouldn't even need a thread like this.

stayceem - 2015-02-05 11:53 AM So normally... I stay away from this kinda post but I will be one participating in OP experiment. You will all get to hear a bit about my story... I do agree that sometimes weight is within your control and sometimes it just isnt. I have literally been the same size since since I was 14-15 years old and I am 25. In high school, I was the "star" bball player with a scholarship in my name. And I was this size. I've always been this size, my body knows how to control itself. I have a strong core and good balance because I never had a fluctuation to get used to. For those who asked if you've ever been made fun of to your face... absolutely. Many times. I started hiding in my truck or trailer to eat my lunch because of a certain group. There are bullies everywhere. Luckily I surrounded myself with some really supportive people who allowed me to be confortable in my own skin. Sure, do I wish I was thin? Absolutely... do I watch what I eat? absolutely. Do I wonder what my horse could do if I was thin? Sometimes... Do I work out, Yep. but I also know my horse gives his heart to me and if I sold him to a girl 50 pounds lighter, she probably wouldnt do as well. I actually sold a horse to a local girl, the horse and i didnt mix. He was a free runner, I am a more push style type rider. We closed anywhere from 1D-4D but more 3D/4D because I usually kicked him right past the barrels. I wont a lot of money prizes and whatever else on him but I knew I wasnt the best rider for him. When she got him she posted pics all over fb about him. Told people that he ran mostly 4D but since I was "fat" she would easily be able to run 1D times on him. needless to say a few of those amazing friends caught wind of the post and defended me... but stuff like that is embarassing. You can have all the confidence in the world... but public humilation hurts and everyone knew that horse. They knew who the "fat" girl was. (sidenote, the girl never pulled a check on him) To all you out there struggling... lose weight if YOU are uncomfortable or if YOUR health is suffering. If you need to go back to some basics for awhile, do it... but dont let someone take your dreams away. And for those who do make the cruel comments... you know who you are.... remember that sometimes its not as easy as "lose weight if it bothers you."