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 Mature beyond Years
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Location: North of the 49th Parallel | Went down to San Diego with a friend on vacation, and coming home with a boyfriend. All jokes aside, he's an amazing and wonderful guy but.... he's in the Navy, stationed in San Diego, and I live in Canada. We're willing to give it a shot as far as long distance goes and we both know it's going to take a lot of 'work' to make this thing last. We're both pretty young (21 & 24) so I'm going to need any advice on how to do this. |
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 Undercover Amish Mafia Member
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Location: Kansas | trust is going to be the biggest thing since you can't see each other on a daily basis |
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 Good Grief!
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Location: Cap'n Joan Rotgut.....alberta | trust has nothing to do with the amount you see a person.......
just take it one call at a time and see what happens
and remember to have fun and dont sweat the small stuff 
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  Independent Cuss
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Location: Dearing, GA | I've been in a military relationship for 3 years, 1.5 of that has been long distance. He's also in the Navy, and currently deployed. We make time to fly and see each other as often as money and work allow. Its really important to communicate daily and to establish great trust. I hate the waiting, but I know what I have is worth the wait. Its not easy, but it can be done!
Congrats on a new romance (: |
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 Money Eating Baggage Owner
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Location: Phoenix | I did long distance once when I was 19-20ish....didn't work. I kind of forgot about him because I never saw him. Sounds harsh but apparently that's how I operate. |
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 Thick and Wavy
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Location: Nebraska | My husband went to basic for the Army 3 months after our wedding. It was hard! I was in school and worked so I couldn't just pick up and leave whenever he'd have a weekend off. Plus, we never knew when his weekends off would be and by the time we found out plane tickets were over $800 round trip and it was a 24 hr drive. I saw him a total of 6 days in the year and a half he was gone (not counting his Christmas exodus during Basic). Trust is huge. He had a lot of friends that were single and enjoyed going to the college town to drink and go to strip clubs. We made it work but it was so hard. Good luck! |
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 The Original Cyber Bartender
Location: Washington | Dang how long were you in San Diego? |
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| My brother and his wife have been married for some time but, the first 3 years of marriage he was only home for a total of 6 months. He was deployed the the other time |
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 Take a Picture
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| Many years ago, I had a long distance relationship with a guy from my home town who went to Vietnam. We ended up getting married when he came home. It was when we were together that we seemed to have problems. I was ex wife number 1. Ex wife number 3 and I are good friends and ride horses together. Seriously..... Lost track of what number he is on now.
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 Total Germophobe
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Location: Montana | I tried it when I was young (18-20), but it broke up because of me...I wasn't ready to be "tied down" yet, let alone with a guy that lived 1500 miles away. But that was more about my maturity than the guy.
I will say that trust is a big issue...and make sure you have a good email account...emails back and for are great especially when you can't always afford long distance phone calls. |
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Location: Mississippi | Trust, phone calls and face time |
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Money Eating Baggage Owner
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Location: Phoenix | mtcanchazer - 2015-02-18 4:38 PM
I tried it when I was young (18-20), but it broke up because of me...I wasn't ready to be "tied down" yet, let alone with a guy that lived 1500 miles away. But that was more about my maturity than the guy.
I will say that trust is a big issue...and make sure you have a good email account...emails back and for are great especially when you can't always afford long distance phone calls.
Ditto. I got annoyed when he called...... |
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 To the Left
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Location: Florida | My niece did it and she has been married to a guy in the navy for 5 years now. I recommend a computer face time program like Skype. |
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| My highschool sweetheart (Who was three years older than me) joined the Marine Corps and left after graduation. I stayed put because I had 3 years of school left. I saw him about 3-4 times a year. We wrote lots of letters, talked a lot on the phone ect. We stuck it out through all those years until he got out and moved home only to find we just had become two different people. Perhaps we out-grew each other. Maybe it was putting love on a shelf for so long that it died.. Of course you are an adult and older than I was so you probably have means to see him more often than I did. Just take it in strides, and be honest with yourself. It can be done, you just both have to be comitted (and trustworthy of course) |
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 Chasin my Dream
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Location: Alberta | mruggles - 2015-02-18 11:06 AM trust has nothing to do with the amount you see a person.......
just take it one call at a time and see what happens
and remember to have fun and dont sweat the small stuff
m
This!!!! Still enjoy your life and don't let it totally consume your life...that's my advice.... |
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