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Location: PNW | I was just invited to a friend's baby shower.... for her FOURTH DAUGHTER. Seriously? What could she POSSIBLY NEED? Also, she is hosting it herself. She is throwing herself a party, for all of us to bring gifts - to replace things she already has. Greedy much?
Am I the only one that finds this annoying? Like... come on. They are more than capable of financially footing the bill for this child. I am all about helping people out who genuinely need it, but this just seems greedy to me.
Somebody please tell me if I just need to shut up and get off my Emily Post high horse. Or you can agree with me and we can drink wine and be cranky together. You choose!
PS: I had to post this on here because I obviously can't rant about it on FB. |
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Location: Vinton, La. | Ahhhh, buy her a sack of diapers, go to the shower, eat cake, drink punch, and enjoy yourself. Hey, free cake! |
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Location: PNW | Bigtime mistake - 2015-02-25 12:15 AM
Ahhhh, buy her a sack of diapers, go to the shower, eat cake, drink punch, and enjoy yourself. Hey, free cake!
Free cake indeed. No wine though. |
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Location: In the Hills of Texas | I wouldn't go but then again I don't do baby showers or wedding showers. If I like the person I send a gift. |
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| I think after the first kid, they are being greedy unless the second is a different sex, then maybe I can see it. I'm kind of the same way with birthday parties, I can see one for the first, maybe 5th and 10th but EVERY year?? - Or is that just me being rude? |
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| Griz - 2015-02-25 5:32 AM
I think after the first kid, they are being greedy unless the second is a different sex, then maybe I can see it. I'm kind of the same way with birthday parties, I can see one for the first, maybe 5th and 10th but EVERY year?? - Or is that just me being rude?
I've never understood celebrating in such a big way for the first birthday of a child since the child has absolutely no idea what is happening or why, but people have gone all out crazy over the first birthday. I'm not saying don't have some kind of gathering, but the first birthday has become as spectacle for the adults. LOL |
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| sodapop - 2015-02-25 7:20 AM
Griz - 2015-02-25 5:32 AM
I think after the first kid, they are being greedy unless the second is a different sex, then maybe I can see it. I'm kind of the same way with birthday parties, I can see one for the first, maybe 5th and 10th but EVERY year?? - Or is that just me being rude?
I've never understood celebrating in such a big way for the first birthday of a child since the child has absolutely no idea what is happening or why, but people have gone all out crazy over the first birthday. I'm not saying don't have some kind of gathering, but the first birthday has become as spectacle for the adults. LOL
I have 4 kids and we just gave them a cupcake in took pictures, parties did not start till they were old enough to understand. Now my first grand baby will be here in a March and will be living next door, I can't promise I won't be turning into a crazy lunatic when it comes to doing things for him.
As far as throwing a shower yourself for your fourth child, kind of tacky. |
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Location: Texas | Some people just feel the need to make a production out of everything. |
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Location: God's country...aka TEXAS | I work with a girl who just had a shower for her fourth child also. She had no problem going and registering for all kinds of gifts etc. I don't understand it either because this was her third daughter and she had plenty of clothes etc. I don't mind buying diapers (which is what I did) but I don't think you should be registering and having a huge baby shower. |
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Location: Kansas | I never had a baby shower for my daughter....my coworkers threw one for me the day after I was born. And thank goodness for that because I had diapers for like a year hahaha.
I'm not big into baby showers, I don't like the games |
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Location: Never in one place long | I think if a parent wants to celebrate their new child with a shower that's great but the invite should specifically say NO GIFTS PLEASE. That way it is apparent that it's just a celebration and theyr'e not trying to get presents from it. I'd say that is ridiculous if she is registering and requesting gifts for a 4th child!! People these days! |
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Location: 100 miles from Nowhere, AR | I'm old school and apparently so are all my family and friends because I didn't get a baby shower for my 2nd even tho she was a girl and I needed clothes. My mom made up for it tho, because she was excited about her first granddaughter. LOL Plus, I made the poor child wear her brother's hand me downs at home until she was old enough to notice.
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| Wanted to add my friends gave me a baby shower for my 4th but only because the first 3 were girls and he was a boy- no baby shower for#2 and #3 girls. I did not register for gifts, I received little boy clothes that were much appreciated. |
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Location: Idahome | My girlfriend is throwing me a small shower for my 2nd, even though I don't really need one. My first was a girl and this one is a boy, so it will be nice to get a few boy things but if I truthfully would rather not have one at all. I don't need much and am getting a ton of boy clothes from another friend of mine. I told her that if she insisted, it needed to be super small and not much money spent. My family all lives about 6-8 hours away, so it will only be a few people anyways. I don't see the need to have a shower for each kid especially if they already have stuff for the same sex from previous. |
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| DLV - 2015-02-25 9:09 AM
I think if a parent wants to celebrate their new child with a shower that's great but the invite should specifically say NO GIFTS PLEASE. That way it is apparent that it's just a celebration and theyr'e not trying to get presents from it. I'd say that is ridiculous if she is registering and requesting gifts for a 4th child!! People these days!
This is how we did it. For number 2, we had a "sprinkle", where you just bring small gifts that you need for each-diapers, wipes, maybe crib sheets & some new onesies. For the 3rd, my work threw me a surprise shower, so sweet, and at least it gave me some pictures & gifts for the baby book.
I think it would be sad to be a later child & look back and see no shower/party pictures in the baby book, almost like if you weren't first you didn't matter.
Edited to add: I didn't throw myself any of the showers- kind friends & family chose too, and I told them all no presents were necessary for all 3, I wanted people to come so I could see them & not feel obligated.
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| In my area, we have showers for all children, #2, #3..., same gender, different gender, it doesn't matter. However, I can't imagine giving yourself a shower for #4. I would just buy diapers. |
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Location: Buffalo, Wyoming | I can see having a baby shower for any child after the first if they are of different gender. But I would only see giving maybe clothes and diapers as most things from the previous child could be used again.
My best friend had a little boy while we were in High School, he is now 12 I believe. She did not have her second (which was also a boy) until 10 years later. I can see having another shower or something for a second child in this case as I am sure most people would have gotten rid of most things and most things have changed in 10 years and won't be safe. |
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| UTAHCANCHASER - 2015-02-25 9:39 AM
I can see having a baby shower for any child after the first if they are of different gender. But I would only see giving maybe clothes and diapers as most things from the previous child could be used again.
My best friend had a little boy while we were in High School, he is now 12 I believe. She did not have her second (which was also a boy) until 10 years later. I can see having another shower or something for a second child in this case as I am sure most people would have gotten rid of most things and most things have changed in 10 years and won't be safe.
I agree with this.
Years between children and medical issues would warrant a second, third or fourth shower. |
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Location: Kansas | mruggles - 2015-02-25 9:36 AM id buy her a condom tree.......lol
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | How far apart are her kids? If they are close like 2 years apart, nawww I would not go and since its her fourth she should have plenty of clothes, toys, bottles. Seems tacky to me to give yourself a baby shower and expect gifts, if she wanted a party she should have a welcome new baby and just have finger foods and drinks to cerebrate the new baby with no gifts. But to throw your own babyshower sounds weird to me.  |
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| UTAHCANCHASER - 2015-02-25 10:39 AM
I can see having a baby shower for any child after the first if they are of different gender. But I would only see giving maybe clothes and diapers as most things from the previous child could be used again.
My best friend had a little boy while we were in High School, he is now 12 I believe. She did not have her second (which was also a boy) until 10 years later. I can see having another shower or something for a second child in this case as I am sure most people would have gotten rid of most things and most things have changed in 10 years and won't be safe.
I agree with this. My aunt and uncle were surprised with baby #3 when my cousins were 15 and 19. Their baby stuff was LONG gone by that time so she had a shower (she didn't want one lol). In this circumstances, I understand it. For your 4th kid in a row...I dunno |
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Location: mi | Keep in mind I am crabby cuz its the second coldest February on record for our state. But NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! If she wants to have 4 kids she had better be able to afford to purchase the items needed for the 4th kid. No matter what gender. If she can't afford to go buy diapers and some new clothes she should not have gotten pregnant. I mostly agree with giving her a condom tree!
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Location: N Texas | EqualRanch - 2015-02-25 7:37 AM
Some people just feel the need to make a production out of everything.
Exactly!
I'm getting married, so I'm having 64506808 showers so EVERYONE I've ever met in my whole life can buy me something! Then you better bring another present to the wedding!
Then after getting pregnant, I'm sending Pinterest worthy pregnancy announcements with sonogram pics to every person I've ever met, then I'm having a gender reveal party so people can pretend they give a rat's @$$ what the heck is growing in my belly, then I'll have 40564065 baby showers so that I can get enough presents to stock an entire Babies R Us!
When that baby finally comes, you better believe I'm getting a big, fat push present from my hubby! And everyone better drop what they're doing to come fawn over me and the baby the moment it pops out!
Then I'm making my baby a cake to celebrate every single month it's alive until the BIG FIRST BIRTHDAY!! OMG it's going to be epic! I'm spending at least $1k so that my baby (who really has NO clue what's going on) can have a bounce-house, face-painter, pony rides, clown, magician, and pretty much anything I can throw my money at, because heaven forbid I forget ANYTHING! You're not a good mom if you don't go completely overboard with EVERYTHING!! I'm also inviting 500 people, because who would want to miss my precious snowflakes birthday!! NO ONE!!
And if you don't show up to any of these events, then just don't bother talking to me ever again because you clearly don't realize how lucky you are that I'm your friend, and it's just appalling that anyone could possibly not comprehend the awesomeness that is my life!
Ok, rant over :) To the OP, yes, that is beyond tacky to have a shower for a fourth child, especially if she already has a child of that same sex. I know a girl who had girls 11 months apart and had showers for each one. Actually, she threw herself the second one. Hello, you should still have EVERYTHING from the first child you JUST had! It really has gotten to where manners and etiquette are not even considered. If you're having a baby, you're getting a shower! I mean come on, if you don't have a shower for every single child, you clearly don't love that child as much as the others! Duh! 
Several years ago I was friends with a girl who went WAY overboard with her wedding stuff. She had several showers, including multiple bridal showers, a couple lingerie showers, and even a stock-the-bar shower, so her guests could buy the couple liquor and stuff for their house. Her bachelorette party was in New York, so all the bridesmaids had to shell out money for that too! It was really ridiculous how important she thought her wedding was, as if no one in history before her had gotten married.
Some women really act like they're the only ones to ever experience that stuff.
If someone is having a shower or event that I don't agree with, I just don't go!
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Location: N Texas | mruggles - 2015-02-25 9:36 AM
id buy her a condom tree.......lol
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I REALLY wanted to anonymously send some condoms to a girl who clearly didn't understand how babies were made...no job, husband doesn't make much money, they can't afford anything, but had two "surprise" babies.
I've actually heard of women who have babies just because they like the attention they get while they're pregnant and have a newborn. |
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Location: Gainesville, TX | I've heard of "diaper parties" where they visit with friends and family and everyone just brings something that has to be replaced often like baby shampoo or wipes or diapers. I don't think something like that is tacky, or if its another sex or been a number of years. But . . . what you said . . . yeah, that's a bit silly. |
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Location: When you hit the middle of nowhere .. Keep driving | Griz - 2015-02-25 5:32 AM
I think after the first kid, they are being greedy unless the second is a different sex, then maybe I can see it. I'm kind of the same way with birthday parties, I can see one for the first, maybe 5th and 10th but EVERY year?? - Or is that just me being rude?
I agree one shower and that should be it... IMO. A few friends and I did have a small baby shower for another friend recently when she was pregnant with her second child but it was justified I think. She had given up after 5 miscarriages and got rid of all her stuff, then wham when she least expected it she gets pregnant and everything works out (she's due in march). She's beyond ecstatic but isn't prepared and has to buy everything again. |
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Location: The best kept secret in TX | My Momma had to have one for every child just because of how we are spaced. My brother, 14 months later I accidentally happened to appear, then 12 years later my sister, two years later my brother. Bless her heart she hated every single one of them!! Except my oldest brother. he was the chosen child. (planned)
We had the showers at our church, thrown by the ladies in the church. We had no idea we were having the last two showers for her until we walked in, saw all the gifts and decorations and were like... Uhhh.... We should've pulled the trailer today instead of taken the car...
LOL the ladies were WAY too excited. We got so much stuff my siblings grew too fast to wear most of the clothes... So we re-gifted a LOT |
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Location: Kansas | I've never looked at a baby shower as a way to get gifts... I've always thought it was just a celebration of a baby to come. I expect girls to have a baby shower for each kid. Planning it for yourself, though? Tacky. |
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| I got an invite for one I just threw into the trash for husband's cousin's daughter - who we haven't seen in over 10 years. She is 18, giving the shower for herself, works 1 day a week and the sperm donor is "laid off" and he made it clear through 8th grade. In addition to your gift the invitation requested diapers to form a diaper pyramid. WTH? She thought it would be cool to have a baby and doesn't need to work becuase she gets a check from the state. SMH - I did consider sending a card that says, "I am going to work, you're welcome." but I refrained. |
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Location: The best kept secret in TX | brlraceaddict - 2015-02-25 11:31 AM I got an invite for one I just threw into the trash for husband's cousin's daughter - who we haven't seen in over 10 years. She is 18, giving the shower for herself, works 1 day a week and the sperm donor is "laid off" and he made it clear through 8th grade. In addition to your gift the invitation requested diapers to form a diaper pyramid. WTH? She thought it would be cool to have a baby and doesn't need to work becuase she gets a check from the state. SMH - I did consider sending a card that says, "I am going to work, you're welcome." but I refrained.
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Location: PNW | If this were any of the scenarios that have been put out here (different gender, long spacing, etc.) I would be MORE than happy to go and spoil the crap out of her and the new munchkin. But it's not. The daughters are 7, 4, 2, and still cooking.
This is just the feather in the irritation cap these people have put on my head over the last year. They are constantly whining that they are broke, have leased land from us to run animals on (PAID WAY LATE, like MONTHS), have taken TWO vacations (Hawaii and somewhere on the East coast), constantly are making comments about how they wish THEY could afford horses... Newsflash: YOU CAN. You just have to stop with the bs. The last "vacation" I took was my wedding night. I chose to only have TWO children because that is the number my husband and I feel we can EASILY support financially without having to make huge spending changes (like giving up my horses). I'm not saying that they need to choose fun over children - I would just like them to stop friggin whining about it.
And unfortunately, not going really isn't an option. It is a VERY small town, and my absence WOULD be noticed and then inquired on. It will be easier to just go and take her a bag of diapers and pack of wipes. These people just really bring out my inner jerkface and I struggle to control my sarcasm and snark. Pooh.
Thanks everybody for letting me gripe. Maybe I will anonymously donate a box of condoms - that is what my husband suggested I get her also.lol |
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Location: PNW | HarlanLivesOn - 2015-02-25 11:19 AM
I've never looked at a baby shower as a way to get gifts... I've always thought it was just a celebration of a baby to come. I expect girls to have a baby shower for each kid. Planning it for yourself, though? Tacky.
The whole point of any shower is to be "showered with gifts" - which is totally fine for your first child, or any of the other situations that have been presented here. If "shower" is the description of the party it is intended that guests bring a gift of some sort.
If parents would just like to have a celebration for the baby, the word "shower" needs to be left off of any and all invitation materials. Just have a BBQ and have a cake that says "Welcome Baby!" or something.
And for goodness sake you don't host your OWN shower. Any of them. Showers are a gift from the host/hostess - not a requirement.
And like in my previous post, these people have just really rubbed me the wrong way in the last year or so - so I am especially grumpy about it. |
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Location: Texas | My son was 10 when I had my daughter... so I had to start all over. Someone threw me baby shower's for both. I got smart this time and I am saving all of my daughter's stuff for the next girl. In our family we do some sort of party for every pregnancy, no matter how many kids they have. If they are new parents they get a ton, and if not people bring smaller things or diapers.
Oh and I will not register for a baby shower. My mom begged me to last time and I refused. It just seems like I am begging for stuff. If you want to get me something, get something you think is cute or I may need. Don't feel obligated because it was on some list.
I don't think we had to go out and buy 1 thing for my daughter that we "needed".
ETA: They aren't always called Baby Showers. Sometimes it is a Diaper Party or something like that. Sometimes it is Oh crap she had the baby and it wasn't a girl!!! lol
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Location: PNW | ndiehl - 2015-02-25 10:44 AM
Griz - 2015-02-25 5:32 AM
I think after the first kid, they are being greedy unless the second is a different sex, then maybe I can see it. I'm kind of the same way with birthday parties, I can see one for the first, maybe 5th and 10th but EVERY year?? - Or is that just me being rude?
I agree one shower and that should be it... IMO. A few friends and I did have a small baby shower for another friend recently when she was pregnant with her second child but it was justified I think. She had given up after 5 miscarriages and got rid of all her stuff, then wham when she least expected it she gets pregnant and everything works out (she's due in march ). She's beyond ecstatic but isn't prepared and has to buy everything again.
That is awesome! Congrats to her! And you guys are awesome friends for throwing her a shower. That is indeed a wonderful reason! |
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Location: Idahome | svincent - 2015-02-25 10:43 AM If this were any of the scenarios that have been put out here (different gender, long spacing, etc.) I would be MORE than happy to go and spoil the crap out of her and the new munchkin. But it's not. The daughters are 7, 4, 2, and still cooking. This is just the feather in the irritation cap these people have put on my head over the last year. They are constantly whining that they are broke, have leased land from us to run animals on (PAID WAY LATE, like MONTHS), have taken TWO vacations (Hawaii and somewhere on the East coast), constantly are making comments about how they wish THEY could afford horses... Newsflash: YOU CAN. You just have to stop with the bs. The last "vacation" I took was my wedding night. I chose to only have TWO children because that is the number my husband and I feel we can EASILY support financially without having to make huge spending changes (like giving up my horses). I'm not saying that they need to choose fun over children - I would just like them to stop friggin whining about it. And unfortunately, not going really isn't an option. It is a VERY small town, and my absence WOULD be noticed and then inquired on. It will be easier to just go and take her a bag of diapers and pack of wipes. These people just really bring out my inner jerkface and I struggle to control my sarcasm and snark. Pooh. Thanks everybody for letting me gripe. Maybe I will anonymously donate a box of condoms - that is what my husband suggested I get her also.lol
I feel like you may be coming down the a bug, the flu or a bad cold, maybe even a migrane on the day this is supposed to happen. |
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Location: Bennett, CO | And this is what drives me crazy.... Hubby and I are having our first in 7 weeks.... We have been married almost 16 years, and Im 40.
My Mom and a friend are planning a Baby Shower for me, and Im really self Conscious about it!
Registering was something that we got forced to do, but it was REALLY good for us to go and think about all of the things I needed. When we first got registered, we only had a handful of things in the $25 or less range, but the consultant at Babies R Us told us to put anything we thought we might buy on the list, as we get a discount on those items 2 weeks prior to my due date... so we have a huge registry, so we can take advantage of it.
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Location: N Texas | gotothewhip - 2015-02-25 12:02 PM
And this is what drives me crazy.... Hubby and I are having our first in 7 weeks.... We have been married almost 16 years, and Im 40.
My Mom and a friend are planning a Baby Shower for me, and Im really self Conscious about it!
Registering was something that we got forced to do, but it was REALLY good for us to go and think about all of the things I needed. When we first got registered, we only had a handful of things in the $25 or less range, but the consultant at Babies R Us told us to put anything we thought we might buy on the list, as we get a discount on those items 2 weeks prior to my due date... so we have a huge registry, so we can take advantage of it.
I sure hope none of those coming to the shower they are planning think we are being greedy.
First of all, congrats on your baby!!!! Second of all, no it's not greedy to have a shower and register for big things for your first!!
When I got married, we put "big" items on our registry in case a few people wanted to go in together for one big gift instead of several small ones. We didn't get any "big" gifts, which was totally ok with us, we just registered for them "just in case".
So don't feel bad putting more expensive stuff on there!
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Location: ohio-in my own little world with pretty ponies :) | We are getting ready to throw a "sprinkle" for my SIL. This is her second baby and its a different sex. The idea is "sprinkle" the new baby with love. Not a real baby shower, just want people to bring diapers and a little something blue or boy. I feel like after that...too much. I have a "friend" I went to school with that is getting ready to have her 3rd boy...she purposely gives away things as they grow out of them bc she knows she will have a baby shower each time....talk about rude. |
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Location: PNW | Gunner11 - 2015-02-25 12:10 PM
gotothewhip - 2015-02-25 12:02 PM
And this is what drives me crazy.... Hubby and I are having our first in 7 weeks.... We have been married almost 16 years, and Im 40.
My Mom and a friend are planning a Baby Shower for me, and Im really self Conscious about it!
Registering was something that we got forced to do, but it was REALLY good for us to go and think about all of the things I needed. When we first got registered, we only had a handful of things in the $25 or less range, but the consultant at Babies R Us told us to put anything we thought we might buy on the list, as we get a discount on those items 2 weeks prior to my due date... so we have a huge registry, so we can take advantage of it.
I sure hope none of those coming to the shower they are planning think we are being greedy.
First of all, congrats on your baby!!!! Second of all, no it's not greedy to have a shower and register for big things for your first!!
When I got married, we put "big" items on our registry in case a few people wanted to go in together for one big gift instead of several small ones. We didn't get any "big" gifts, which was totally ok with us, we just registered for them "just in case".
So don't feel bad putting more expensive stuff on there!
Congratulations on your baby!!!!!!
Gift registries are awesome because most places give you "completion coupons" to finish buying stuff that hadn't been purchased. Usually they are like 10-15%.
For our second son, we had to buy some big stuff like another carseat (first son is only 18 months older), another high chair, playpen (first got ruined by a bummer lamb) - so we actually created a registry, registered for the stuff we needed to buy for the second little guy, and then bought it all using the completion coupon that you get like a month before your due date. We didn't have a shower for the second little guy, but we sure took advantage of the savings that come from the registry.
It is definitely not greedy to have a registry, people need to know what you like. Even if I don't buy from the registry I still like to look at what people have picked out so that I can get a sense of what they like as far as patterns, colors, etc.
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Location: In my own world | sodapop - 2015-02-25 7:20 AM
Griz - 2015-02-25 5:32 AM
I think after the first kid, they are being greedy unless the second is a different sex, then maybe I can see it. I'm kind of the same way with birthday parties, I can see one for the first, maybe 5th and 10th but EVERY year?? - Or is that just me being rude?
I've never understood celebrating in such a big way for the first birthday of a child since the child has absolutely no idea what is happening or why, but people have gone all out crazy over the first birthday. I'm not saying don't have some kind of gathering, but the first birthday has become as spectacle for the adults. LOL
We have had parties for our kids every year. Now they are not over the top parties. Close family and maybe friends if they are particularly involved in our kids life. It's a BBQ and cake and ice cream. To me my children's birthdays are a celebration that I survived parenting for another year!!! It makes me feel good as a mom to make a not so great decorated but always tasty cake with lots of move from me. They may not remember but they do look at pictures and I still love the look on my daughters face when she says "you made my cake mom, it's pretty"
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Ms. Poutability
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Location: In my own world | As far as showers go, my mom had one for my second child. He was a boy when we already had a daughter. But they were 5 yrs apart. Which meant all new car seat as they expire. I did not have a high chair with my first because our house was too small. I did not register for as much as my first just replaced some things that needed replaced. Lots of it we just bought ourselves and family got is set in the clothes department
If you want to go buy something that she neess like diapers or wipes. But yes it is tacky to throw yourself one |
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I Prefer to Live in Fantasy Land
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Location: In the Hills of Texas | When I was young...The only way I would have ever made it to a shower is if they were having the shower at the rodeo or barrel race I was at. |
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| gotothewhip - 2015-02-25 12:02 PM And this is what drives me crazy.... Hubby and I are having our first in 7 weeks.... We have been married almost 16 years, and Im 40.
My Mom and a friend are planning a Baby Shower for me, and Im really self Conscious about it!
Registering was something that we got forced to do, but it was REALLY good for us to go and think about all of the things I needed. When we first got registered, we only had a handful of things in the $25 or less range, but the consultant at Babies R Us told us to put anything we thought we might buy on the list, as we get a discount on those items 2 weeks prior to my due date... so we have a huge registry, so we can take advantage of it.
I sure hope none of those coming to the shower they are planning think we are being greedy.
I didn't know stores gave discounts like that if you put it on your registry. I was one of those people who thought the people were asking guests to buy big ticket items. A few years back a big tv was on the list. I thought if these people think I'm going to buy them a tv they've got another thing coming. LOL Not too long ago I went to a baby shower that had a really expensive stroller. I thought I sure hope they get it, but it darn sure won't be from me.haha
It's nice to have this info. Now I know why those big ticket items are on a registry.
Congratulations on your baby! |
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| hoofs_in_motion - 2015-02-25 7:52 AM I never had a baby shower for my daughter....my coworkers threw one for me the day after I was born. And thank goodness for that because I had diapers for like a year hahaha.
I'm not big into baby showers, I don't like the games
Why do people have all the games at a shower? That's something I haven't understood. One game is fine, but let's say for example 3 is too many. LOL I am all about eating and oohing and awwing over he gifts. That takes a good while just to eat and open gift. |
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The Resident Destroyer of Liberal Logic
Location: PNW | I think they work as ice breakers if you have a large group who may not all know each other. |
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Location: Arkansas | mruggles - 2015-02-25 9:36 AM
id buy her a condom tree.......lol
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| svincent - 2015-02-25 8:29 PM
I think they work as ice breakers if you have a large group who may not all know each other.
Maybe so, but not everyone wants to get to know others. LOL
The games sometimes put people on the spot and make them uncomfortable especially in front of people they don't know. |
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OT baby shower vent