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Location: California | Sooo at work, I just got notified yesterday that my boss wants me to visit the Yuma, AZ work office for a week on the 20th this month. I live in central California. It's about 9-10 hrs driving. Basically I don't want to go, and I am trying to get out of it, but my options are pretty much to go or quit. I either need a reality check telling me I'm being ridiculous, or that I'm not completely crazy. Sorry long rant.
Problem #1. I have 2 horses, 4 dogs, 5 mini pigs, a goat and a cat that I take care of when I leave work. It's like having two jobs. No one really seems to understand this, so i figured I would post here.
Problem #2. 1 of the 4 dogs will NOT eat when I leave him. He is 16 and gets MAJOR seperation anxiety; it doesn't matter who he's with.
Problem #3. My fiance and I raise show hogs. We have at least 5 sows that should be farrowing in the next couple of weeks. Pigs have to be closely monitored, as we don't use farrowing crates.
I've been with this job for over 2 years, and I was never required to travel before. I should however state, that I started in Yuma, because my fiance had to travel for his job. (Agriculture seasons). So year one, I started the job when I moved there with my fiance for 5 months. Year two, I was NOT allowed to move for the 5 month season. Year 3 of Yuma season, my fiance quit his job since 1, his growing show pig business, and 2, I couldn't go. I find it ironic now that they are making me go. Yes just for a week, but it's not like I'm someone who can just pack a suitcase & not worry about anything. OH AND THEY WANT ME TO ROOMIE IN THE COMPANY RENTAL HOUSE WITH A 55 YEAR OLD MAN THAT I CURRENLY WORK WITH IN THE CA OFFICE.
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| Can you afford to quit? If not, suck it up, buttercup. My husband is starting to have to travel for work every once in a while because he is really good at his job and they need him to help with the other business sites. I stay at home and deal with the cattle, horses and dogs. He hates traveling but he is looking to the not so distant future - retirement. He thinks he can do consulting work when he retires and we will still be comfortable financially. If you will be in a rental house with a 50 year old man, I wouldn't be worried. If I had to share a hotel room, that would be different. |
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Location: Canada | Was travel included in the contract for your position's duties? |
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Location: California | Whit37 - 2015-04-08 11:02 AM Was travel included in the contract for your position's duties?
Nope. But I'm thinking I can't fight that considering the job started in Yuma... |
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | One.....can you afford to quit?
Two.....if not.....better pack your bags. Employers are allowed to ask their employees to do "most" anything if you are employed "at will"..... AND you have a connection with the Yuma office. |
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Location: Cap'n Joan Rotgut.....alberta | I would be ok with it..i have had to do it a couple times. .but i also have a fairly reliable person at home to look after everything....the only thing i wouldnt be ok with is the accomadations...they would be paying for a hotel..and it would be a pet friendly one then i would take my dog....:)M |
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Location: Canada | ccarpe18 - 2015-04-08 1:03 PM
Whit37 - 2015-04-08 11:02 AM Was travel included in the contract for your position's duties?
Nope. But I'm thinking I can't fight that considering the job started in Yuma...
Yes but that sounds like a transfer, not a weeklong trip.
I would explain that you can't be away from your responsibilities outside of work for that long and travel wasn't a part of the duties you agreed to for that reason. |
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Location: Deep South | Can fiance not handle all the critters for one week?
If this is a one time thing I agree with just sucking it up. There's not many people I know that don't eventually have to take a work trip for some sort of business or training or something if they are with the company for any length of time. We all have obligations at home that we have to make arrangements for, be it kids animals, whatever. You do what you have to do and move on. |
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| Its called "Other duties as assigned" that IS in your job description. Its in ALL job descriptions with most companies...
I'm in HR.
You've been asked to go as part of your job responsibilities. If you can't follow through on your job responsibilities then you need to resign so they can find someone who can. Your personal problems are just that..personal. Business is business and they don't care about what you have to arrange on the home front. What they are asking is not unreasonable.
If you are uncomfortable being in the rental house then you can tell them that you are uncomfortable with that. let them know that other arrangements need to be made. they should be willing to work with you on that.
I'm sorry if this comes across as rude or cold. I don't mean it to be. |
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| Wishful - 2015-04-08 1:26 PM Its called "Other duties as assigned" that IS in your job description. Its in ALL job descriptions with most companies... I'm in HR. You've been asked to go as part of your job responsibilities. If you can't follow through on your job responsibilities then you need to resign so they can find someone who can. Your personal problems are just that..personal. Business is business and they don't care about what you have to arrange on the home front. What they are asking is not unreasonable. If you are uncomfortable being in the rental house then you can tell them that you are uncomfortable with that. let them know that other arrangements need to be made. they should be willing to work with you on that. I'm sorry if this comes across as rude or cold. I don't mean it to be.
Pretty much what I was going to say. |
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Location: California | Wishful - 2015-04-08 11:26 AM Its called "Other duties as assigned" that IS in your job description. Its in ALL job descriptions with most companies... I'm in HR. You've been asked to go as part of your job responsibilities. If you can't follow through on your job responsibilities then you need to resign so they can find someone who can. Your personal problems are just that..personal. Business is business and they don't care about what you have to arrange on the home front. What they are asking is not unreasonable. If you are uncomfortable being in the rental house then you can tell them that you are uncomfortable with that. let them know that other arrangements need to be made. they should be willing to work with you on that. I'm sorry if this comes across as rude or cold. I don't mean it to be.
Not rude at all. It's what I need to hear really.
I think what really gets me mad is the fact that when my fiance had to go, I wasn't allowed to go, & now I'm being forced to.
Also I really should add that my boss is considered family. He tells everyone that I am his cousin. Well, he does not like my fiance (because he doesn't go to all family functions), & I have overheard him saying something about trying to break us up. SOOO that also frustrates me because I know he does things.... (use imagination lol).
Of course this is all I can think about, I really have NO IDEA what the point in going is.
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Location: Oklahoma & Texas | It does stink having to go - but if i was you i would go... I work for a big company and i travel about once a month..sometimes its just a day away sometimes its a week.. i can usually plan plenty of time in advance though.. my husband isn't a horse person but thankfully i have my mom and friends (horse friends) that usally step in to feed/take care of them.. and i usually pay them cause i feel bad lol.. although my horse friends we do it for each other so we just pay each other back by watching each others horses/places when the other goes someplace.. one time i had no one and the hub had to feed for me for 3 days.. i just put all the horses outside in pastures (they usually are brought in at night to barn) and let him throw hay/alfalfa over the fence for them so he wouldn't even have to mess with catching them...i have broodmares with babies as well as other broke horses but i didn't want any getting away from him and then a big circus with me not there to help lol.. anyway... we have 6 dogs and all the horses soo it is a job in itself some days lol.. but jobs are hard to come by especially good ones.. soo if you dont want to be looking for another i'd be packing up.. also - think about the good side - likely it'll negate any additional travel fora while and then also it'll look good on your job history cause when the boss asked ya to go you went! :) |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | ccarpe18 - 2015-04-08 2:32 PM Wishful - 2015-04-08 11:26 AM Its called "Other duties as assigned" that IS in your job description. Its in ALL job descriptions with most companies... I'm in HR. You've been asked to go as part of your job responsibilities. If you can't follow through on your job responsibilities then you need to resign so they can find someone who can. Your personal problems are just that..personal. Business is business and they don't care about what you have to arrange on the home front. What they are asking is not unreasonable. If you are uncomfortable being in the rental house then you can tell them that you are uncomfortable with that. let them know that other arrangements need to be made. they should be willing to work with you on that. I'm sorry if this comes across as rude or cold. I don't mean it to be. Not rude at all. It's what I need to hear really.
I think what really gets me mad is the fact that when my fiance had to go, I wasn't allowed to go, & now I'm being forced to.
Also I really should add that my boss is considered family. He tells everyone that I am his cousin. Well, he does not like my fiance (because he doesn't go to all family functions), & I have overheard him saying something about trying to break us up. SOOO that also frustrates me because I know he does things.... (use imagination lol).
Of course this is all I can think about, I really have NO IDEA what the point in going is.
This sounds like high school junk, how old are you? |
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Location: 31 lengths farms | Wishful - 2015-04-09 11:26 AM
Its called "Other duties as assigned" that IS in your job description. Its in ALL job descriptions with most companies...
I'm in HR.
You've been asked to go as part of your job responsibilities. If you can't follow through on your job responsibilities then you need to resign so they can find someone who can. Your personal problems are just that..personal. Business is business and they don't care about what you have to arrange on the home front. What they are asking is not unreasonable.
If you are uncomfortable being in the rental house then you can tell them that you are uncomfortable with that. let them know that other arrangements need to be made. they should be willing to work with you on that.
I'm sorry if this comes across as rude or cold. I don't mean it to be.
This is the one that get us all...It basically allows them , at least at my job, to call me X and pay me x yet I have the same duties that people in other divisions are called "XXX" and paid "XX" for. I am stuck doing the managers job, we have no manager at our division, I do the reports, am in charge of the quarterly inventories, the pharmacy inspections and having to do co-workers reviews but everyone else in the company that was hired before a certain date is consider "Ops" and gets a salary which starts at @40K+ depending on how long they've been with the company, the rest of us schmucks make @$12 an hour and continue to get more dumped on us including the original jobs we were hired to do...sad thing is I can't afford to quit either. Love being employed but hate my job. The worst part is for the next 3 months we have to work Saturdays also...yep, 6 days a week. |
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Location: California | Southtxponygirl - 2015-04-08 1:35 PM
ccarpe18 - 2015-04-08 2:32 PM Wishful - 2015-04-08 11:26 AM Its called "Other duties as assigned" that IS in your job description. Its in ALL job descriptions with most companies... I'm in HR. You've been asked to go as part of your job responsibilities. If you can't follow through on your job responsibilities then you need to resign so they can find someone who can. Your personal problems are just that..personal. Business is business and they don't care about what you have to arrange on the home front. What they are asking is not unreasonable. If you are uncomfortable being in the rental house then you can tell them that you are uncomfortable with that. let them know that other arrangements need to be made. they should be willing to work with you on that. I'm sorry if this comes across as rude or cold. I don't mean it to be. Not rude at all. It's what I need to hear really.
I think what really gets me mad is the fact that when my fiance had to go, I wasn't allowed to go, & now I'm being forced to.
Also I really should add that my boss is considered family. He tells everyone that I am his cousin. Well, he does not like my fiance (because he doesn't go to all family functions), & I have overheard him saying something about trying to break us up. SOOO that also frustrates me because I know he does things.... (use imagination lol).
Of course this is all I can think about, I really have NO IDEA what the point in going is.
I'm 24...
& Honestly, yes it really does feel like high school all over again. I could go on for days! I think there's probably a lot more to it that I am leaving out that adds up to the reasons I don't want to go.
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | ccarpe18 - 2015-04-08 4:29 PM Southtxponygirl - 2015-04-08 1:35 PM ccarpe18 - 2015-04-08 2:32 PM Wishful - 2015-04-08 11:26 AM Its called "Other duties as assigned" that IS in your job description. Its in ALL job descriptions with most companies... I'm in HR. You've been asked to go as part of your job responsibilities. If you can't follow through on your job responsibilities then you need to resign so they can find someone who can. Your personal problems are just that..personal. Business is business and they don't care about what you have to arrange on the home front. What they are asking is not unreasonable. If you are uncomfortable being in the rental house then you can tell them that you are uncomfortable with that. let them know that other arrangements need to be made. they should be willing to work with you on that. I'm sorry if this comes across as rude or cold. I don't mean it to be. Not rude at all. It's what I need to hear really.
I think what really gets me mad is the fact that when my fiance had to go, I wasn't allowed to go, & now I'm being forced to.
Also I really should add that my boss is considered family. He tells everyone that I am his cousin. Well, he does not like my fiance (because he doesn't go to all family functions), & I have overheard him saying something about trying to break us up. SOOO that also frustrates me because I know he does things.... (use imagination lol).
Of course this is all I can think about, I really have NO IDEA what the point in going is.
I'm 24... & Honestly, yes it really does feel like high school all over again. I could go on for days! I think there's probably a lot more to it that I am leaving out that adds up to the reasons I don't want to go.
Well you do what is right for you, I would be worried too  |
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Location: So. California | ccarpe18 - 2015-04-08 12:32 PM Wishful - 2015-04-08 11:26 AM Its called "Other duties as assigned" that IS in your job description. Its in ALL job descriptions with most companies... I'm in HR. You've been asked to go as part of your job responsibilities. If you can't follow through on your job responsibilities then you need to resign so they can find someone who can. Your personal problems are just that..personal. Business is business and they don't care about what you have to arrange on the home front. What they are asking is not unreasonable. If you are uncomfortable being in the rental house then you can tell them that you are uncomfortable with that. let them know that other arrangements need to be made. they should be willing to work with you on that. I'm sorry if this comes across as rude or cold. I don't mean it to be. Not rude at all. It's what I need to hear really.
I think what really gets me mad is the fact that when my fiance had to go, I wasn't allowed to go, & now I'm being forced to.
Also I really should add that my boss is considered family. He tells everyone that I am his cousin. Well, he does not like my fiance (because he doesn't go to all family functions), & I have overheard him saying something about trying to break us up. SOOO that also frustrates me because I know he does things.... (use imagination lol).
Of course this is all I can think about, I really have NO IDEA what the point in going is.
Actually, you could have moved with your fiance, you CHOSE to keep your current position/employeer until you could transfer to the CA office. As for your boss being considered "family", that is your description and the position you put him in. You can correct that impression with your co-workers at any time...
Can your fiance take care of the animals while you are gone?
I agree with the others, make all the necessary arrangements and go on the trip. Business is business after all, and sometimes minor travel is required. |
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Location: Aubrey, Texas | Call me old-fashioned, but I think it is creepy that they want her to stay in the same house as a 55 year old male employee without her fiancée present. I would have to balk at that! |
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Location: Peg-Leg Julia Grimm | cloverleaf - 2015-04-08 3:21 PM Call me old-fashioned, but I think it is creepy that they want her to stay in the same house as a 55 year old male employee without her fiancée present. I would have to balk at that!
I'd say they need to make a different arrangement. That's over the line to me. |
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Location: Texas | I have to say it come across really whiny about not wanting to go. If your fiance cant handle one week of taking care of the animals he would not be my fiance. Lol. I travel all the time and that was my choice when i took the job. The one EXCEPTION is that is is not acceptable to share the corporate house with the 55 yr old man. Either you should get a hotel or he would! |
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Location: California | Thanks everyone for all the input!
Update: I will be going. I got the okay for a Hotel & to bring my dog & I can even bring him to the office  |
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Location: Aubrey, Texas | That is great news! |
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Location: The best kept secret in TX | IRunOnFaith - 2015-04-09 2:52 PM The only problem I see is the housing situation... Creeeeepyyyyyy.....
Also, try and seperate your personal life from work life and things wouldn't be so tangled and complicated to you. Draw lines for your boss and co-workers. If you treat them professionally, they will, in most cases, do the same. If not, go to HR. That's what it's there for.
I'll leave it at that, I wish you good luck. Hugs.
ETA: Just read your above post. Good for you!!
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