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| if you don/t have 1 get 1 it will save yoour loved ones a lot tears and decisions
life as you know can be gone in a split second
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Location: Slipping down the slope of old age. Boo hoo. | Living will PLUS a Health Directive.....
Agree - having these and a will or trust set up will be a comfort to those you love... |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | vjls - 2015-06-08 3:27 PM if you don/t have 1 get 1 it will save yoour loved ones a lot tears and decisions
life as you know can be gone in a split second
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Location: Iowa | yes, did this a couple of years ago. At least if my SO is in the hospital, I can pay bills and make decisions on the farm. |
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Location: Nebraska | hope you didn't find it out the hard way...... I see it all too often at work. Families put patients through so much because they truly don't know what the patient would have wanted. |
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Location: I'm lost - please tell me, I'm not on BHW again!!! | A will is good but a Trust is better.
With a will your family will still have to probate it and the judge still decides what goes where and when especially if it is protested.
A Trust is lock solid and death tax free, plus you depending on your attorney, you get all your POA's and wills included. |
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| Where Am I? - 2015-06-08 11:10 PM
A will is good but a Trust is better.
With a will your family will still have to probate it and the judge still decides what goes where and when especially if it is protested.
A Trust is lock solid and death tax free, plus you depending on your attorney, you get all your POA's and wills included.
Amen! My dad is in a nursing home and has a will. When something happens with him, I will still have to deal with probate which I don't THINK will be a big deal but a trust would have been SO much easier. Now I will have to hire a lawyer for the probate procedings. At LEAST he had a will though, which I was a little surprised by. For a very educated man (PhD), dad didn't handle his paperwork very well. |
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Miracle in the Making
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| brlracerchick - 2015-06-08 11:52 PM hope you didn't find it out the hard way...... I see it all too often at work. Families put patients through so much because they truly don't know what the patient would have wanted.
yes and no but my boss is dealing with it now his wife is on a vent everything breaking down no hope really unless god gives a miracle
a living will would have prevenativte this no one wants to live locked in and she is |
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| A living will or advanced directive guides your loved ones in making the medical decisions you would want honored if you were unable to make those decisions yourself. It is not the same as a will that designates how you want your estate managed. |
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| caspersabelpip - 2015-06-09 8:09 AM
A living will or advanced directive guides your loved ones in making the medical decisions you would want honored if you were unable to make those decisions yourself. It is not the same as a will that designates how you want your estate managed.
Oops - I'm sorry, I didn't read this close enough. Yes, I agree, who wants to be hooked up to a machine for any length of time - that would be heart breaking. |
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Miracle in the Making
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| WELL THEY TOOK HER OFF THE VENT YESTERDAY in the pm she died at around 7pm. ny boss is crushed
please pray for him god know him |
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Location: When you hit the middle of nowhere .. Keep driving | Amen to this. I will add make sure you update every 5 years! I have been dealing with lawyers for the better part of 10 months now, and I don't know how I am able to still do everything... I'm stressed out and depressed. I have the farm but that's it. We had a Will but the trustee had passed, I had to be appointed through a court system (super slow and expensive). I will also add make sure as much of it is in a trust (money, bank accounts, Retirement plans etc) it's in a trust or at least in Canada put a beneficiary on as much as possible. Anything that has them isn't taxable (in Canada at least)... the rest is.
 For your boss, it's really hard and will take a long time. |
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Miracle in the Making
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| ndiehl - 2015-06-11 7:14 PM Amen to this. I will add make sure you update every 5 years! I have been dealing with lawyers for the better part of 10 months now, and I don't know how I am able to still do everything... I'm stressed out and depressed. I have the farm but that's it. We had a Will but the trustee had passed, I had to be appointed through a court system (super slow and expensive ). I will also add make sure as much of it is in a trust (money, bank accounts, Retirement plans etc ) it's in a trust or at least in Canada put a beneficiary on as much as possible. Anything that has them isn't taxable (in Canada at least )... the rest is. For your boss, it's really hard and will take a long time.
what i have done but as only 1 kiddo he is on just about everything land cars cheecking accounts
so when i am gone everything is in his name no taxes no death penality nada |
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Location: Never in one place long | I think this is great advice, I've been thinking a lot about getting this done but have NO CLUE where to start... can someone give step by step instructions on how to do this? do's and don'ts?? |
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| DLV - 2015-06-12 1:41 PM I think this is great advice, I've been thinking a lot about getting this done but have NO CLUE where to start... can someone give step by step instructions on how to do this? do's and don'ts??
it is usually best to find a good attorney help you get it all set up. |
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Location: Never in one place long | Whiteboy - 2015-06-12 1:44 PM
DLV - 2015-06-12 1:41 PM I think this is great advice, I've been thinking a lot about getting this done but have NO CLUE where to start... can someone give step by step instructions on how to do this? do's and don'ts??
it is usually best to find a good attorney help you get it all set up.
Any idea around how much it costs to hire one? I think ours would be fairly simple... we don't have too awful much... |
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| When my husband was dying from cancer, the nurses asked if he had a living will. I told them no and within 30 minutes they had one signed and had insecurity guard from downstairs to witness -- it was about 11 o'clock at night. You do not need a lawyer. It basically says do not resuscitate. Get one off the internet. Keep it on your billfold. |
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Location: When you hit the middle of nowhere .. Keep driving | DLV - 2015-06-12 2:03 PM
Whiteboy - 2015-06-12 1:44 PM
DLV - 2015-06-12 1:41 PM I think this is great advice, I've been thinking a lot about getting this done but have NO CLUE where to start... can someone give step by step instructions on how to do this? do's and don'ts??
it is usually best to find a good attorney help you get it all set up.
Any idea around how much it costs to hire one? I think ours would be fairly simple... we don't have too awful much...
It depends, but definitely go to a lawyer if possible and let them keep the original copy and you get a notarized copy (that way if it's misplaced they have a copy too, and to amend it its easier). I think my mom's just cost about $250 and he asked questions you wouldn't think of. They know what to do and how to make it as stress free as possible; talking about your death is never an easy feeling. She made it so everything was done and nothing would have been needed of us; which I appreciate now after going through what I have (although I am executor again, I don't have to think). After what I've went through I will vouch that while you can get one off the internet the lawyer's are worth every penny.
A Living Will is also not a DNR... it won't stop them from resuscitating you but will give your family direction if something were to go wrong about how you would like everything handled and avoid any possible fighting. I highly recommend having the Living Will with a trustee, and both a medical and general power of attorney as well. |
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| I'm 50 and have one for my son. |
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| I want to add to PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE think long and hard about who you put in charge of making decisions on your behalf. My MIL passed two weeks ago and was in really bad shape for several months prior to her death. The sister in law was her power of attorney over her health and was not able to refuse testing. MIL has CHF, COPD, diabetes, and renal failure. When she went to the hospital about a month prior to death they wanted to do MIR, CT, USG on heart and kidneys, EEG, GGT, and a long list of other tear. Not one single test was going to tell us anything new. I did step in and suggest we not put her through all the trauma of being moved for test multiple times a day. The brothers also felt like what the Drs said was the law having someone who was thinking clear helped her comfort during her last few days.
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Location: That part of Texas | cavlier - 2015-06-14 8:15 PM I want to add to PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE think long and hard about who you put in charge of making decisions on your behalf. My MIL passed two weeks ago and was in really bad shape for several months prior to her death. The sister in law was her power of attorney over her health and was not able to refuse testing. MIL has CHF, COPD, diabetes, and renal failure. When she went to the hospital about a month prior to death they wanted to do MIR, CT, USG on heart and kidneys, EEG, GGT, and a long list of other tear. Not one single test was going to tell us anything new. I did step in and suggest we not put her through all the trauma of being moved for test multiple times a day. The brothers also felt like what the Drs said was the law having someone who was thinking clear helped her comfort during her last few days.
This is probably one of the only things in this thread I can whole-heartedly say someone has got it right (sorry guys y'all had me shaking my head on some of this -- love ya but omg *smh* *cringe*) but this statement is 100% true and something I strongly counsel when I'm drafting an estate plan for someone.
I have many people/couples who think too much with their hearts -- they don't want to make someone mad versus putting the best person in the role to do what they want. Some people are better with making medical decisions than others, no matter what their degree of relation to you. Others can handle financial stuff like a wiz while your child may not.
The best thing you can ever do is really look at the person and fit them to the job that you need done. Many people are shocked at who I say is on my medical power of attorney and the financial one but understand when I say why I have that person. It's about who is best to get what job done and who you can count on to really carry out your wishes.
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