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Location: In my own world | My dad has an old will, from 30 years ago when I was a baby. I'm pretty sure it leaves everything to his sisters. He is now remarried and has a wife and step daughter. She informed me yesterday everything was half hers since she was his wife and everything would go to her when he died. I don't think she knows about his will. So what happens? I thought his will would take presidence? |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-14 12:41 PM My dad has an old will, from 30 years ago when I was a baby. I'm pretty sure it leaves everything to his sisters. He is now remarried and has a wife and step daughter. She informed me yesterday everything was half hers since she was his wife and everything would go to her when he died. I don't think she knows about his will. So what happens? I thought his will would take presidence?
How long have they been married? Just wondering why shes worried about what is hers. |
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Location: In the Hills of Texas | I take it your father is still alive?
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Have a friend her mother died and her dad remarried, new wife had her dad redo his will while he was sick and his two daughter's from first wife did not know that they were writing out, he was alot older then new wife and she has a daughter, he had a pretty big farm I'm thinking 300 acres at the time and home. He was not sound mind at the time of him redoing his will, he died and it was a big mess, his daughters did not get anything and the new wife got it all, she was a evil bit** and they could not prove anything. And that farm has been in the family for ever and this women sold it in parts.
So be very very careful and makes darn sure the will will hold up and she has not had him change it. |
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Location: In my own world | Yes I think they are in the process of redoing the will. It's such a long story. I'll try to make it short. My dad has 2 sisters that have never married and no kids. They will leave what they have to me and my sister. About 90 acres to each of us. My dad also has 90 acres. Step mom is mad my aunts don't treat her daughter the same way as they treat me and my sister. She wants my dads 90 left to my step sister so it's all split even. My dad feels like he should split his in 1/3 for each of us. Me, my sister and step sister and it's causing problems. Step mom likes to run her trap and it's been a long 10 yrs of her being here. My dad is trying to prevent her from being able to mess with things if he passes first. She didn't think he had a will and it will all go o her so she can divide it how she wants. She wasn't happy to find out he has a will that doesn't include her. She has been physically abusive to my dad, yes physically and went to jail for it. My step sister has also hit him. She is 16. I'm not fond of either of them but I can't make my dad live his life like I think he should. So it's a sore subject |
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Location: Home....Smiling M Farms | Southtxponygirl - 2015-06-14 3:29 PM
Have a friend her mother died and her dad remarried, new wife had her dad redo his will while he was sick and his two daughter's from first wife did not know that they were writing out, he was alot older then new wife and she has a daughter, he had a pretty big farm I'm thinking 300 acres at the time and home. He was not sound mind at the time of him redoing his will, he died and it was a big mess, his daughters did not get anything and the new wife got it all, she was a evil bit** and they could not prove anything. And that farm has been in the family for ever and this women sold it in parts.
So be very very careful and makes darn sure the will will hold up and she has not had him change it.
Exactly, pretty much same thing happened to a friend of mine. Her dad remarried a much younger woman, had a child with him, and eventually got him to redo the will (when he got sick and wasn't really in his right mind). He passed away. New wife took everything. My friend and her full brother got nothing. After her dad died, the woman sold everything, took the money, their younger brother, and moved up north. They haven't seen or heard from them in 15 years. |
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Location: In my own world | Southtxponygirl - 2015-06-14 12:53 PM
livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-14 12:41 PM My dad has an old will, from 30 years ago when I was a baby. I'm pretty sure it leaves everything to his sisters. He is now remarried and has a wife and step daughter. She informed me yesterday everything was half hers since she was his wife and everything would go to her when he died. I don't think she knows about his will. So what happens? I thought his will would take presidence?
How long have they been married? Just wondering why shes worried about what is hers.
Been married 10 yrs. she doesn't think her child gets treated fairly. And I believe her speech entailed something about her her $ went into the farm and it is hers to give too even though my dad owned it all before she came
In the picture and the home place was completely paid for when she came Up here. I got up and left when my dad told her that was enough we weren't discussing it more. |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-14 3:36 PM Yes I think they are in the process of redoing the will. It's such a long story. I'll try to make it short. My dad has 2 sisters that have never married and no kids. They will leave what they have to me and my sister. About 90 acres to each of us. My dad also has 90 acres. Step mom is mad my aunts don't treat her daughter the same way as they treat me and my sister. She wants my dads 90 left to my step sister so it's all split even. My dad feels like he should split his in 1/3 for each of us. Me, my sister and step sister and it's causing problems. Step mom likes to run her trap and it's been a long 10 yrs of her being here. My dad is trying to prevent her from being able to mess with things if he passes first. She didn't think he had a will and it will all go o her so she can divide it how she wants. She wasn't happy to find out he has a will that doesn't include her. She has been physically abusive to my dad, yes physically and went to jail for it. My step sister has also hit him. She is 16. I'm not fond of either of them but I can't make my dad live his life like I think he should. So it's a sore subject
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | This women that married my friends dad has a daughter from a different man so this girl was not even his but she was in the will, I think they were married about 10 years maybe more but he was much older, and his own girls did not get a dime when he passed. Its was a really sad thing to happen, this women was so good to his girls the whole time he was alive and then when he died things changed really fast, these girls treated her as part of the family, they loved their daddy so they loved her too because it was their dad, but who knew she would do this to them.. |
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Location: In my own world | Southtxponygirl - 2015-06-14 3:51 PM This women that married my friends dad has a daughter from a different man so this girl was not even his but she was in the will, I think they were married about 10 years maybe more but he was much older, and his own girls did not get a dime when he passed. Its was a really sad thing to happen, this women was so good to his girls the whole time he was alive and then when he died things changed really fast, these girls treated her as part of the family, they loved their daddy so they loved her too because it was their dad, but who knew she would do this to them..
Step sister isn't my dads kid either. He did adopt her because mom says it traumatized her to have a different last name. It is what it is. I told my dad I won't be mad at him. But was hoping if he just did nothing his old will would save him |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-14 4:05 PM Southtxponygirl - 2015-06-14 3:51 PM This women that married my friends dad has a daughter from a different man so this girl was not even his but she was in the will, I think they were married about 10 years maybe more but he was much older, and his own girls did not get a dime when he passed. Its was a really sad thing to happen, this women was so good to his girls the whole time he was alive and then when he died things changed really fast, these girls treated her as part of the family, they loved their daddy so they loved her too because it was their dad, but who knew she would do this to them.. Step sister isn't my dads kid either. He did adopt her because mom says it traumatized her to have a different last name. It is what it is. I told my dad I won't be mad at him. But was hoping if he just did nothing his old will would save him
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Location: where ever my L/Q trl is parked | Don't know if every state has the same laws, but in Ca you have to be married atleast 10 years before one or the other spouse get everything.... and then if there is more than one marriage if any of those unions are 10 years + they will get a percentage of Social S. |
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Location: In my own world | Southtxponygirl - 2015-06-14 4:41 PM livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-14 4:05 PM Southtxponygirl - 2015-06-14 3:51 PM This women that married my friends dad has a daughter from a different man so this girl was not even his but she was in the will, I think they were married about 10 years maybe more but he was much older, and his own girls did not get a dime when he passed. Its was a really sad thing to happen, this women was so good to his girls the whole time he was alive and then when he died things changed really fast, these girls treated her as part of the family, they loved their daddy so they loved her too because it was their dad, but who knew she would do this to them.. Step sister isn't my dads kid either. He did adopt her because mom says it traumatized her to have a different last name. It is what it is. I told my dad I won't be mad at him. But was hoping if he just did nothing his old will would save him
It's tough to see them treat him like crap. He kept her around because he was afraid of what would happen to the step daughter if he divorced her. I understand that. But now that the step daughter treats him like crap too it peeves me off. |
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Location: Tennessee | It really depends on the state you live in and state law. In TN, for example, everything automatically goes to the spouse, regardless of a will. When my grandfather passed, even though he had a will, everything went to my grandmother (actually my step grandmother, his 2nd wife). Tennessee doesn't even look at a will if they are survived by a spouse. Everything is considered marital property and as such goes to the surviving spouse. |
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My mother and dad had wills leaving everything to each other. They each assumed that they would take care of us 3 kids. My mother was killed in 1967 in an auto accident. We had a 735 acre ranch. My dad remarried and my step mother talked my dad into selling the ranch. She bankrupted my dad within about 5 years. I was very young and did not know that you could contest a will. Wish I had known because I am sure that it could have been done. Moral of the story is, have your business in order, make sure that the will clearly states who gets what AND that everyone knows what they are supposed to get so that they can get their panties out of a wad before the will kicks in.
I wrote my will and my husband's will and when my husband died his was probated with no problem. I don't really recommend this though.
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Location: Arkansas | livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-14 3:36 PM
Yes I think they are in the process of redoing the will. It's such a long story. I'll try to make it short. My dad has 2 sisters that have never married and no kids. They will leave what they have to me and my sister. About 90 acres to each of us. My dad also has 90 acres. Step mom is mad my aunts don't treat her daughter the same way as they treat me and my sister. She wants my dads 90 left to my step sister so it's all split even. My dad feels like he should split his in 1/3 for each of us. Me, my sister and step sister and it's causing problems. Step mom likes to run her trap and it's been a long 10 yrs of her being here. My dad is trying to prevent her from being able to mess with things if he passes first. She didn't think he had a will and it will all go o her so she can divide it how she wants. She wasn't happy to find out he has a will that doesn't include her. She has been physically abusive to my dad, yes physically and went to jail for it. My step sister has also hit him. She is 16. I'm not fond of either of them but I can't make my dad live his life like I think he should. So it's a sore subject
This is a sad situation, and I feel terrible for you and your dad. Greed is an awful thing, especially among family. |
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Location: Slipping down the slope of old age. Boo hoo. | Unfortunately, inheritance expectations tend to cause some really big family rifts and upsets -- if you own something, it is your right to leave it to anyone you wish - family or not. We are not entitled to anything our parents have unless law forces it to us or parents want us to have it. However you wish to split up your assets legally you need a will and/or trust. If you have lots of assets, it is so important to estate plan -- and speak with your family so they know how you will distribute those assets. If no will, the state you live in will determine who gets what.... and wills can be contested -- if you want to spend the money to contest..... and then again, the state will determine what will happen. If you have assets, get a lawyer and get a good will written or have a revocable trust set up -- but most importantly - talk with your family regularly so they know what you plan to do and why..... or better yet as you get old begin distributing things you want people to have before you are too old to remember what you want to do with them.... i.e. give little Ricky that big painting over the fireplace or deed land to daughter Gayle with stipulations you live out your life there -- just ESTATE PLAN in some manner. I have seen so many families implode and destroyed over "inheritances". Very sad. |
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | kdb2qq - 2015-06-14 9:54 PM It really depends on the state you live in and state law. In TN, for example, everything automatically goes to the spouse, regardless of a will. When my grandfather passed, even though he had a will, everything went to my grandmother (actually my step grandmother, his 2nd wife). Tennessee doesn't even look at a will if they are survived by a spouse. Everything is considered marital property and as such goes to the surviving spouse.
I looked this up since I have relatives in TN.....Somebody had a very stupid lawyer if they "allowed" her to get everything.....this is the TN law........
Generally, a testator is free, through a valid will, to bequeath his property to any friend, family member or charitable organization. Tennessee law, however, protects a surviving spouse, who is always entitled to a percentage of the deceased's estate. If a spouse is omitted from a testator's will -- whether inadvertently or intentionally -- the disinherited spouse can claim her elective share. Tennessee law grants a surviving spouse nine months' time from the deceased's death to seek an elective share from the court. In Tennessee, the amount of the elective share is based on the length of the marriage. If the marriage lasted for less than three years, the elective share is 10 percent of the estate. If the marriage lasted between three and six years, the elective share is 20 percent, and if the marriage lasted between six and nine years, the elective share is 30 percent. Finally, if the marriage lasted more than nine years, the surviving spouse receives a share of 40 percent. |
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Location: That part of Texas | livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-14 12:41 PM My dad has an old will, from 30 years ago when I was a baby. I'm pretty sure it leaves everything to his sisters. He is now remarried and has a wife and step daughter. She informed me yesterday everything was half hers since she was his wife and everything would go to her when he died. I don't think she knows about his will. So what happens? I thought his will would take presidence?
Every state is different so it's hard to say without knowing where your father lives and how that would apply. Have you seen the will lately or definitely know it's still in existence and kept somewhere safe? You would be amazed at the people who know they had a will prepared but can't find it after some time. It would probably be best for him to have an attorney review his whole estate plan at this time to make sure it will do what he wants it to with everybody in mind. |
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Location: In The Land of Cotton | Red Raider - I know any will can be contested. That being said - can't you as the person who writes the will leave X an amount of a $1 - and also write in it that if they contest the will they will also loose the $1? Does it make it harder for them to get anything then?
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Location: That part of Texas | 3canstorun - 2015-06-15 10:06 AM Red Raider - I know any will can be contested. That being said - can't you as the person who writes the will leave X an amount of a $1 - and also write in it that if they contest the will they will also loose the $1? Does it make it harder for them to get anything then?
I can't vouch for all states but Texas is one who has it's own form of no-contest clause and most of them time they are strongly upheld.
The problem with only leaving someone $1.00 total and saying that they will lose said dollar if a will is contested is not really much of a deterrent. If you think you have a way to get your hands on a large amount of property, $1.00 isn't going to keep you from trying.
If I have someone who knows they are going to have a highly contested estate plan, I will usually have them leave more than just a small sliver of something to make the party really think about challenging the will in that manner. Otherwise we heavily document why that person was completely cut out and if needed, I video record the client giving their own reasons so they have a way to speak from the grave on the matter.
Most wills are contested not in what was left but how things were either distributed or how a trust formed under the will is being handled. You can challenge how a Trustee is acting without challenging the provisions of the will and that is where much of the litigation in this area occurs -- not the will itself.
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Location: Moving soon..... | My FIL does not have a Will. When he dies, his wife only gets one-half of his half and my husband and his brother get the balance due to FIL's property still being in their Mother and Dad's name. When my FIL sold part of the land, my husband and his brother had to sign papers allowing him to sell his land. I don't know if his current wife knows this, but he will not prepare a Will. |
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My dad has an old will, from 30 years ago when I was a baby. I'm pretty sure it leaves everything to his sisters. He is now remarried and has a wife and step daughter. She informed me yesterday everything was half hers since she was his wife and everything would go to her when he died. I don't think she knows about his will. So what happens? I thought his will would take presidence?
I hope this helps, I am a legal assistant and we specialize in Estate Planning matters.. First off, in most states Wills are not recorded until after the death the person, when the Will is admitted into probate. A Will is valid until a new will is written, signed and witnessed. Any Will can be contested but it is very costly and time consuming and most (90%) of the time the contesting party looses. I wouldn't say anything about the Will to the "new" wife. If you have any questions please don't hesitate to message me!!!!
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Location: In my own world | Red Raider - 2015-06-15 9:55 AM livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-14 12:41 PM My dad has an old will, from 30 years ago when I was a baby. I'm pretty sure it leaves everything to his sisters. He is now remarried and has a wife and step daughter. She informed me yesterday everything was half hers since she was his wife and everything would go to her when he died. I don't think she knows about his will. So what happens? I thought his will would take presidence? Every state is different so it's hard to say without knowing where your father lives and how that would apply. Have you seen the will lately or definitely know it's still in existence and kept somewhere safe? You would be amazed at the people who know they had a will prepared but can't find it after some time. It would probably be best for him to have an attorney review his whole estate plan at this time to make sure it will do what he wants it to with everybody in mind.
We live in MO. Yes he has a will he doesn't have a copy at home but there is a copy on file with the lawyer. Yes things need to be updated but he doesn't like how the wife is wanting it updated |
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Location: That part of Texas | livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-15 1:11 PM Red Raider - 2015-06-15 9:55 AM livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-14 12:41 PM My dad has an old will, from 30 years ago when I was a baby. I'm pretty sure it leaves everything to his sisters. He is now remarried and has a wife and step daughter. She informed me yesterday everything was half hers since she was his wife and everything would go to her when he died. I don't think she knows about his will. So what happens? I thought his will would take presidence? Every state is different so it's hard to say without knowing where your father lives and how that would apply. Have you seen the will lately or definitely know it's still in existence and kept somewhere safe? You would be amazed at the people who know they had a will prepared but can't find it after some time. It would probably be best for him to have an attorney review his whole estate plan at this time to make sure it will do what he wants it to with everybody in mind.
At the very least, I would have your Dad make a phone call to the attorney's office to make sure they still have retained that original will from so long ago (just to double check it's existence) and possibly meet with the attorney to discuss either updating the will or not. If he doesn't want to change it, it may be a good move to basically keep the provisions the same but resign it with today's date to show that his intentions were the same post-marriage. |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Red Raider - 2015-06-15 1:44 PM livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-15 1:11 PM Red Raider - 2015-06-15 9:55 AM livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-14 12:41 PM My dad has an old will, from 30 years ago when I was a baby. I'm pretty sure it leaves everything to his sisters. He is now remarried and has a wife and step daughter. She informed me yesterday everything was half hers since she was his wife and everything would go to her when he died. I don't think she knows about his will. So what happens? I thought his will would take presidence? Every state is different so it's hard to say without knowing where your father lives and how that would apply. Have you seen the will lately or definitely know it's still in existence and kept somewhere safe? You would be amazed at the people who know they had a will prepared but can't find it after some time. It would probably be best for him to have an attorney review his whole estate plan at this time to make sure it will do what he wants it to with everybody in mind.
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Red Raider - 2015-06-15 9:55 AM livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-14 12:41 PM My dad has an old will, from 30 years ago when I was a baby. I'm pretty sure it leaves everything to his sisters. He is now remarried and has a wife and step daughter. She informed me yesterday everything was half hers since she was his wife and everything would go to her when he died. I don't think she knows about his will. So what happens? I thought his will would take presidence? Every state is different so it's hard to say without knowing where your father lives and how that would apply. Have you seen the will lately or definitely know it's still in existence and kept somewhere safe? You would be amazed at the people who know they had a will prepared but can't find it after some time. It would probably be best for him to have an attorney review his whole estate plan at this time to make sure it will do what he wants it to with everybody in mind.
Yes confirm with his attorney that the original is still in attorney's office. Our office does not keep originals of anything! So please be sure! Good luck!! Following up is a great idea!!
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Location: In my own world | Southtxponygirl - 2015-06-15 1:48 PM Red Raider - 2015-06-15 1:44 PM livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-15 1:11 PM Red Raider - 2015-06-15 9:55 AM livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-14 12:41 PM My dad has an old will, from 30 years ago when I was a baby. I'm pretty sure it leaves everything to his sisters. He is now remarried and has a wife and step daughter. She informed me yesterday everything was half hers since she was his wife and everything would go to her when he died. I don't think she knows about his will. So what happens? I thought his will would take presidence? Every state is different so it's hard to say without knowing where your father lives and how that would apply. Have you seen the will lately or definitely know it's still in existence and kept somewhere safe? You would be amazed at the people who know they had a will prepared but can't find it after some time. It would probably be best for him to have an attorney review his whole estate plan at this time to make sure it will do what he wants it to with everybody in mind.
i agree that is a good idea. if he updates the date to a current date, that could help in the case of a contesting of the will? he may have an old copy around the house somewhere. but new wife has thrown lots of stuff out. pictures of me when i was little with my mom and dad when they were together, gone. and others she just cut my mom out of |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-15 2:12 PM Southtxponygirl - 2015-06-15 1:48 PM Red Raider - 2015-06-15 1:44 PM livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-15 1:11 PM Red Raider - 2015-06-15 9:55 AM livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-14 12:41 PM My dad has an old will, from 30 years ago when I was a baby. I'm pretty sure it leaves everything to his sisters. He is now remarried and has a wife and step daughter. She informed me yesterday everything was half hers since she was his wife and everything would go to her when he died. I don't think she knows about his will. So what happens? I thought his will would take presidence? Every state is different so it's hard to say without knowing where your father lives and how that would apply. Have you seen the will lately or definitely know it's still in existence and kept somewhere safe? You would be amazed at the people who know they had a will prepared but can't find it after some time. It would probably be best for him to have an attorney review his whole estate plan at this time to make sure it will do what he wants it to with everybody in mind.
What the He**!!!!! Cutting up pictures to make herself feel better and throwing away, shes got a problem..... Did your mom pass away and thats why your dad remarried? I need to reread I guess, I'm so sorry but this women sounds really bitter, hugs cause it sounds like your going to really need them when your dad does pass. |
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Location: That part of Texas | livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-15 2:12 PM Southtxponygirl - 2015-06-15 1:48 PM Red Raider - 2015-06-15 1:44 PM livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-15 1:11 PM Red Raider - 2015-06-15 9:55 AM livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-14 12:41 PM My dad has an old will, from 30 years ago when I was a baby. I'm pretty sure it leaves everything to his sisters. He is now remarried and has a wife and step daughter. She informed me yesterday everything was half hers since she was his wife and everything would go to her when he died. I don't think she knows about his will. So what happens? I thought his will would take presidence? Every state is different so it's hard to say without knowing where your father lives and how that would apply. Have you seen the will lately or definitely know it's still in existence and kept somewhere safe? You would be amazed at the people who know they had a will prepared but can't find it after some time. It would probably be best for him to have an attorney review his whole estate plan at this time to make sure it will do what he wants it to with everybody in mind.
No he needs the whole will rewritten with clauses probably updated and possibly an explanation of family relations and such. If I have a will that will probably be contested, those are the things I like to have added and put in there so there is no question on my client's intent and people involved.
Just updating the date will not suffice for most legal documents of that nature, especially wills. I'm not an expert in Missouri law but I would hedge a bet wills must be witnessed there and you will need that done as part of the process, even if he isn't changing the provisions that parcel out the property and other parts of the estate. |
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Location: AR & OK | If I was in your Dad's shoes I would take my kids and go to a real estate attorney and have all my possessions put in their name and my kids could start paying taxes on it.
I would re-write my will stating all personal possessions, naming exactly who gets what. The house is to be sold at his death to pay his funeral, bills in his name only and distributed equally with a clause stating if any of his possessions are missing and if anyone contest the will all proceeds will go to a 501c3 organization of his choice.
Trust me, your Dad has legal rights while he is alive. He knows he is married to an evil *****. He needs his power given back to him because she has abused it right out of him and he is afraid of being alone. |
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Location: In my own world | candyloveshorses - 2015-06-15 4:07 PM If I was in your Dad's shoes I would take my kids and go to a real estate attorney and have all my possessions put in their name and my kids could start paying taxes on it.
I would re-write my will stating all personal possessions, naming exactly who gets what. The house is to be sold at his death to pay his funeral, bills in his name only and distributed equally with a clause stating if any of his possessions are missing and if anyone contest the will all proceeds will go to a 501c3 organization of his choice.
Trust me, your Dad has legal rights while he is alive. He knows he is married to an evil *****. He needs his power given back to him because she has abused it right out of him and he is afraid of being alone.
I already tried getting him to deed my part to me. I even offered to buy it take that $ and put it in an IRA so he would have it for retirement. I knew if he got the $ wife would spend it. But wife threw a fit and said I was just trying to screw her and the daughter over. Buying my own inheritance? Yeah that's really hurting her. Part of this farm has been in my family 70 years. We want to see a Century sign put on it someday.
Edited to add Have you met my dad? Lol because I have heard those words out of his mouth. Afraid to be alone. I don't get it
Edited by livinonlove&horses 2015-06-15 4:14 PM
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Location: In my own world | Red Raider - 2015-06-15 3:24 PM livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-15 2:12 PM Southtxponygirl - 2015-06-15 1:48 PM Red Raider - 2015-06-15 1:44 PM livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-15 1:11 PM Red Raider - 2015-06-15 9:55 AM livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-14 12:41 PM My dad has an old will, from 30 years ago when I was a baby. I'm pretty sure it leaves everything to his sisters. He is now remarried and has a wife and step daughter. She informed me yesterday everything was half hers since she was his wife and everything would go to her when he died. I don't think she knows about his will. So what happens? I thought his will would take presidence? Every state is different so it's hard to say without knowing where your father lives and how that would apply. Have you seen the will lately or definitely know it's still in existence and kept somewhere safe? You would be amazed at the people who know they had a will prepared but can't find it after some time. It would probably be best for him to have an attorney review his whole estate plan at this time to make sure it will do what he wants it to with everybody in mind. No he needs the whole will rewritten with clauses probably updated and possibly an explanation of family relations and such. If I have a will that will probably be contested, those are the things I like to have added and put in there so there is no question on my client's intent and people involved.
Just updating the date will not suffice for most legal documents of that nature, especially wills. I'm not an expert in Missouri law but I would hedge a bet wills must be witnessed there and you will need that done as part of the process, even if he isn't changing the provisions that parcel out the property and other parts of the estate.
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If I was in your Dad's shoes I would take my kids and go to a real estate attorney and have all my possessions put in their name and my kids could start paying taxes on it.
I would re-write my will stating all personal possessions, naming exactly who gets what. The house is to be sold at his death to pay his funeral, bills in his name only and distributed equally with a clause stating if any of his possessions are missing and if anyone contest the will all proceeds will go to a 501c3 organization of his choice.
Trust me, your Dad has legal rights while he is alive. He knows he is married to an evil *****. He needs his power given back to him because she has abused it right out of him and he is afraid of being alone.
A will should not list anything of value or disbursing of family goods other than a few personal things to be given to certain people ... a will should only say you love the ones you love and to heck with those you don't .. and what you want done with your body .. go watch the will of Dumbledorf on one of the Harry Potter movies.. lol
Deeds to land, bank accts, CD's, farm equipment, car, truck titles all should be changed into an OR arrangement ... i.e. .. current owner OR trusted son // daughter names should be on everything ... and at the current owners demise the OR person is the automatic owner with no lawyers or court probates!!
Probate attorneys will suck the life out of any inheritance anyone is hoping for ..
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Location: AR & OK | livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-15 4:11 PM candyloveshorses - 2015-06-15 4:07 PM If I was in your Dad's shoes I would take my kids and go to a real estate attorney and have all my possessions put in their name and my kids could start paying taxes on it.
I would re-write my will stating all personal possessions, naming exactly who gets what. The house is to be sold at his death to pay his funeral, bills in his name only and distributed equally with a clause stating if any of his possessions are missing and if anyone contest the will all proceeds will go to a 501c3 organization of his choice.
Trust me, your Dad has legal rights while he is alive. He knows he is married to an evil *****. He needs his power given back to him because she has abused it right out of him and he is afraid of being alone. I already tried getting him to deed my part to me. I even offered to buy it take that $ and put it in an IRA so he would have it for retirement. I knew if he got the $ wife would spend it. But wife threw a fit and said I was just trying to screw her and the daughter over. Buying my own inheritance? Yeah that's really hurting her. Part of this farm has been in my family 70 years. We want to see a Century sign put on it someday. Edited to add Have you met my dad? Lol because I have heard those words out of his mouth. Afraid to be alone. I don't get it
No, I do not know your Daddy (hugs)
I would get the whole family together and talk to your Dad.
Lay it all out there. He needs to hear what will happen after he is gone if he goes before her and how you want to keep the heritage together.
You have to remember... he has the legal right to will his possessions to anyone he wants. Morally it might not be right but legally it is his choice. |
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Location: In my own world | Southtxponygirl - 2015-06-15 3:01 PM
livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-15 2:12 PM Southtxponygirl - 2015-06-15 1:48 PM Red Raider - 2015-06-15 1:44 PM livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-15 1:11 PM Red Raider - 2015-06-15 9:55 AM livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-14 12:41 PM My dad has an old will, from 30 years ago when I was a baby. I'm pretty sure it leaves everything to his sisters. He is now remarried and has a wife and step daughter. She informed me yesterday everything was half hers since she was his wife and everything would go to her when he died. I don't think she knows about his will. So what happens? I thought his will would take presidence? Every state is different so it's hard to say without knowing where your father lives and how that would apply. Have you seen the will lately or definitely know it's still in existence and kept somewhere safe? You would be amazed at the people who know they had a will prepared but can't find it after some time. It would probably be best for him to have an attorney review his whole estate plan at this time to make sure it will do what he wants it to with everybody in mind.
No my mom is still alive. They had me when they were 18 and divorced when I was 4. Too young. Some make it but they didn't. Current wife he married when I was 18. I was going to college and working part time and my sister was 14. I left when the wife moved in. My sister and I both had dogs, dobermans and they weren't mean. But she didn't like them because step daughter was 18 months. Dad gave my sister dog to our Aunts. I said Hell No and moved out and took my dog with me. I could type for a day on all the things that has happened. She has been diagnosed bipolar. 2 suicide attempts. 911 has been to the house more than once. I let my dad borrow my car because he sold his to pay a bill and he wasn't allowed to drive "her" car so he could go to my sisters softball game. She was so ****ed she came over it my house and was yelling at me through the door. I locked it and told her to leave. Picked up the car next night and while driving it to work my tire comes off. Some of the lug nuts snapped off and the other were loose. To this day I swear she loosened them. My daughter was not allowed to spend the night at their house until she was 4 and could talk and tell me if she had a good time or if there were fights. Yes she's nuts and he keeps her for some reason |
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Location: North Dakota | Here's a new twist on this whole inheritance thing.....I am independent and make my own way. I DO NOT expect anything from my parents or in-laws for that matter, that is their money they've earned it! It's up to them to utitilize their possessions as they see fit-keep in mind I'm an only child! The place my folks live on has been in the family since 1904-deep roots and IMO if they have to sell it to pay their way through nursing care-fine-if I can afford to buy it I will.
I have found that life is what we make of it-if you choose to continue to pursue the will issue with the "dreadful" step mom it is going to ruin the relationship with your dad and isn't that what is important??
I sure hope that someone doesn't tell me how to distribute the things I've worked hard to acquire some day.
Honestly, I do feel bad that you are in this situation and I'm not trying to point out faults, what I'm trying to do is bring another perspective that maybe you could live with and let yourself and your dad off the hook.
People generally suck and will drain the good out of us if we let them
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Location: In my own world | candyloveshorses - 2015-06-15 4:21 PM
livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-15 4:11 PM candyloveshorses - 2015-06-15 4:07 PM If I was in your Dad's shoes I would take my kids and go to a real estate attorney and have all my possessions put in their name and my kids could start paying taxes on it.
I would re-write my will stating all personal possessions, naming exactly who gets what. The house is to be sold at his death to pay his funeral, bills in his name only and distributed equally with a clause stating if any of his possessions are missing and if anyone contest the will all proceeds will go to a 501c3 organization of his choice.
Trust me, your Dad has legal rights while he is alive. He knows he is married to an evil *****. He needs his power given back to him because she has abused it right out of him and he is afraid of being alone. I already tried getting him to deed my part to me. I even offered to buy it take that $ and put it in an IRA so he would have it for retirement. I knew if he got the $ wife would spend it. But wife threw a fit and said I was just trying to screw her and the daughter over. Buying my own inheritance? Yeah that's really hurting her. Part of this farm has been in my family 70 years. We want to see a Century sign put on it someday. Edited to add Have you met my dad? Lol because I have heard those words out of his mouth. Afraid to be alone. I don't get it
I would get the whole family together and talk to your Dad.
Lay it all out there. He needs to hear what will happen after he is gone if he goes before her and how you want to keep the heritage together.
You have to remember... he has the legal right to will his possessions to anyone he wants. Morally it might not be right but legally it is his choice.
I know he does. But as she informed me the other day they are half hers because she married him. My dad has low self esteem and when she gets him cornered she gets in his head. I don't get to see him enough to keep him above water emotionally. This past Christmas wa when the step daughter hit him while in the car. He called me and was at McDonald's and wanted me to come get him to take him home. The next time I saw him he said it was his fault? I said she it you how is that your fault? He said "well I told her too if she was so mad at me to hit me". I said so, you don't hit people period. That is wrong and disrespectful. I told him that he had made me plenty mad raising me but hitting him was not something that had ever crossed my mind. |
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Location: Stephenville, TX | livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-15 4:32 PM candyloveshorses - 2015-06-15 4:21 PM livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-15 4:11 PM candyloveshorses - 2015-06-15 4:07 PM If I was in your Dad's shoes I would take my kids and go to a real estate attorney and have all my possessions put in their name and my kids could start paying taxes on it.
I would re-write my will stating all personal possessions, naming exactly who gets what. The house is to be sold at his death to pay his funeral, bills in his name only and distributed equally with a clause stating if any of his possessions are missing and if anyone contest the will all proceeds will go to a 501c3 organization of his choice.
Trust me, your Dad has legal rights while he is alive. He knows he is married to an evil *****. He needs his power given back to him because she has abused it right out of him and he is afraid of being alone. I already tried getting him to deed my part to me. I even offered to buy it take that $ and put it in an IRA so he would have it for retirement. I knew if he got the $ wife would spend it. But wife threw a fit and said I was just trying to screw her and the daughter over. Buying my own inheritance? Yeah that's really hurting her. Part of this farm has been in my family 70 years. We want to see a Century sign put on it someday. Edited to add Have you met my dad? Lol because I have heard those words out of his mouth. Afraid to be alone. I don't get it
I would get the whole family together and talk to your Dad.
Lay it all out there. He needs to hear what will happen after he is gone if he goes before her and how you want to keep the heritage together.
You have to remember... he has the legal right to will his possessions to anyone he wants. Morally it might not be right but legally it is his choice. I know he does. But as she informed me the other day they are half hers because she married him. My dad has low self esteem and when she gets him cornered she gets in his head. I don't get to see him enough to keep him above water emotionally. This past Christmas wa when the step daughter hit him while in the car. He called me and was at McDonald's and wanted me to come get him to take him home. The next time I saw him he said it was his fault? I said she it you how is that your fault? He said "well I told her too if she was so mad at me to hit me". I said so, you don't hit people period. That is wrong and disrespectful. I told him that he had made me plenty mad raising me but hitting him was not something that had ever crossed my mind.
I'd be far less concerned with how your father's assets will be divided when he's gone and MUCH MORE concerned with how he's being treated while he's still alive. A very sad situation and I hope he finds the strength to make some changes. |
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Location: In my own world | LMS - 2015-06-15 4:27 PM Here's a new twist on this whole inheritance thing.....I am independent and make my own way. I DO NOT expect anything from my parents or in-laws for that matter, that is their money they've earned it! It's up to them to utitilize their possessions as they see fit-keep in mind I'm an only child! The place my folks live on has been in the family since 1904-deep roots and IMO if they have to sell it to pay their way through nursing care-fine-if I can afford to buy it I will.
I have found that life is what we make of it-if you choose to continue to pursue the will issue with the "dreadful" step mom it is going to ruin the relationship with your dad and isn't that what is important??
I sure hope that someone doesn't tell me how to distribute the things I've worked hard to acquire some day.
Honestly, I do feel bad that you are in this situation and I'm not trying to point out faults, what I'm trying to do is bring another perspective that maybe you could live with and let yourself and your dad off the hook.
People generally suck and will drain the good out of us if we let them
Please read the original post. I don't care if their is or isn't an inheritance. I'm tring to help my dad not making him go in. The current wife started this it me |
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Location: In my own world | Running Roan - 2015-06-15 4:56 PM livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-15 4:32 PM candyloveshorses - 2015-06-15 4:21 PM livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-15 4:11 PM candyloveshorses - 2015-06-15 4:07 PM If I was in your Dad's shoes I would take my kids and go to a real estate attorney and have all my possessions put in their name and my kids could start paying taxes on it.
I would re-write my will stating all personal possessions, naming exactly who gets what. The house is to be sold at his death to pay his funeral, bills in his name only and distributed equally with a clause stating if any of his possessions are missing and if anyone contest the will all proceeds will go to a 501c3 organization of his choice.
Trust me, your Dad has legal rights while he is alive. He knows he is married to an evil *****. He needs his power given back to him because she has abused it right out of him and he is afraid of being alone. I already tried getting him to deed my part to me. I even offered to buy it take that $ and put it in an IRA so he would have it for retirement. I knew if he got the $ wife would spend it. But wife threw a fit and said I was just trying to screw her and the daughter over. Buying my own inheritance? Yeah that's really hurting her. Part of this farm has been in my family 70 years. We want to see a Century sign put on it someday. Edited to add Have you met my dad? Lol because I have heard those words out of his mouth. Afraid to be alone. I don't get it
I would get the whole family together and talk to your Dad.
Lay it all out there. He needs to hear what will happen after he is gone if he goes before her and how you want to keep the heritage together.
You have to remember... he has the legal right to will his possessions to anyone he wants. Morally it might not be right but legally it is his choice. I know he does. But as she informed me the other day they are half hers because she married him. My dad has low self esteem and when she gets him cornered she gets in his head. I don't get to see him enough to keep him above water emotionally. This past Christmas wa when the step daughter hit him while in the car. He called me and was at McDonald's and wanted me to come get him to take him home. The next time I saw him he said it was his fault? I said she it you how is that your fault? He said "well I told her too if she was so mad at me to hit me". I said so, you don't hit people period. That is wrong and disrespectful. I told him that he had made me plenty mad raising me but hitting him was not something that had ever crossed my mind.
I am concerned but I can't get anything done. We just try to be there when he needs something. Sometimes he just comes over and hangs out. We know something is going on at home but don't ask unless he wants to talk. If he just wants to relax we visit and such. Feed him if he needs it or whatever. But I can't fix their problems at home |
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Location: Arkansas | livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-15 2:12 PM
Southtxponygirl - 2015-06-15 1:48 PM Red Raider - 2015-06-15 1:44 PM livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-15 1:11 PM Red Raider - 2015-06-15 9:55 AM livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-14 12:41 PM My dad has an old will, from 30 years ago when I was a baby. I'm pretty sure it leaves everything to his sisters. He is now remarried and has a wife and step daughter. She informed me yesterday everything was half hers since she was his wife and everything would go to her when he died. I don't think she knows about his will. So what happens? I thought his will would take presidence? Every state is different so it's hard to say without knowing where your father lives and how that would apply. Have you seen the will lately or definitely know it's still in existence and kept somewhere safe? You would be amazed at the people who know they had a will prepared but can't find it after some time. It would probably be best for him to have an attorney review his whole estate plan at this time to make sure it will do what he wants it to with everybody in mind.
She sounds like a real piece of work. I hope your daddy gets this worked out the way HE wants it for HIS kids. Best of luck to you and him both. |
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| livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-15 5:47 PM
LMS - 2015-06-15 4:27 PM Here's a new twist on this whole inheritance thing.....I am independent and make my own way. I DO NOT expect anything from my parents or in-laws for that matter, that is their money they've earned it! It's up to them to utitilize their possessions as they see fit-keep in mind I'm an only child! The place my folks live on has been in the family since 1904-deep roots and IMO if they have to sell it to pay their way through nursing care-fine-if I can afford to buy it I will.
I have found that life is what we make of it-if you choose to continue to pursue the will issue with the "dreadful" step mom it is going to ruin the relationship with your dad and isn't that what is important??
I sure hope that someone doesn't tell me how to distribute the things I've worked hard to acquire some day.
Honestly, I do feel bad that you are in this situation and I'm not trying to point out faults, what I'm trying to do is bring another perspective that maybe you could live with and let yourself and your dad off the hook.
People generally suck and will drain the good out of us if we let them
Please read the original post. I don't care if their is or isn't an inheritance. I'm tring to help my dad not making him go in. The current wife started this it me
I agree 100 percent. Like I said in an earlier post my mil just passed away 3 weeks ago. For years and I mean like 25 years my husband has worked on his dad's farm in order to inherit it. That is the only reason he would go see them at times. I always thought in my mind that he was very selfish and that he should help because they needed the help. Now he has no parents left and he has the farm but guess what? He told someone yesterday he would give all that land for one more year with both his parent.
PEOPLE it is just things. Make your own inheritance but let your parents do what they want with there property enjoy your time with them they will be gone WAYYYYYY to soon. |
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Location: In my own world | cavlier - 2015-06-16 9:42 AM
livinonlove&horses - 2015-06-15 5:47 PM
LMS - 2015-06-15 4:27 PM Here's a new twist on this whole inheritance thing.....I am independent and make my own way. I DO NOT expect anything from my parents or in-laws for that matter, that is their money they've earned it! It's up to them to utitilize their possessions as they see fit-keep in mind I'm an only child! The place my folks live on has been in the family since 1904-deep roots and IMO if they have to sell it to pay their way through nursing care-fine-if I can afford to buy it I will.
I have found that life is what we make of it-if you choose to continue to pursue the will issue with the "dreadful" step mom it is going to ruin the relationship with your dad and isn't that what is important??
I sure hope that someone doesn't tell me how to distribute the things I've worked hard to acquire some day.
Honestly, I do feel bad that you are in this situation and I'm not trying to point out faults, what I'm trying to do is bring another perspective that maybe you could live with and let yourself and your dad off the hook.
People generally suck and will drain the good out of us if we let them
Please read the original post. I don't care if their is or isn't an inheritance. I'm tring to help my dad not making him go in. The current wife started this it me
I agree 100 percent. Like I said in an earlier post my mil just passed away 3 weeks ago. For years and I mean like 25 years my husband has worked on his dad's farm in order to inherit it. That is the only reason he would go see them at times. I always thought in my mind that he was very selfish and that he should help because they needed the help. Now he has no parents left and he has the farm but guess what? He told someone yesterday he would give all that land for one more year with both his parent.
PEOPLE it is just things. Make your own inheritance but let your parents do what they want with there property enjoy your time with them they will be gone WAYYYYYY to soon.
Been there and done that and my husband sold the that farm because of the emotion it caused. My MIL passed away and then my FIL passed away 18 months later. We inherited a very nice farm. My husband was the only child that farmed, had been since he was 9 yrs old. He was soooo close to his dad. He farmed it another 2 years and then we sold it a year ago Feb. I was shocked. But he said he couldn't do it without his dad. He didn't enjoy it anymore. I loved my FIL to pieces and I miss him dearly too. And our kids, ugh to have both of the grandparents back. We made a nice fortune selling it. But both would give it all back to have PePa and Granny Susan with us again and live dirt poor and never complain. |
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