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  Snake Charmer
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Location: Texas | So... How many of you ladies would be ok with your boyfriend going on "family vacation" with his ex wife? |
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 Don't Wanna Make This Awkward
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Location: Texas | acheela - 2015-07-06 12:35 AM So... How many of you ladies would be ok with your boyfriend going on "family vacation" with his ex wife?
Not me.. Are there more details to this? Why would he be going? An ex is an ex for a reason... |
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The Resident Destroyer of Liberal Logic
Location: PNW | He TELLS you she is his ex. Lol. I think this is how those "And then I found out he had a second family in Maine...." stories start.
I wouldn't be cool with that at all. |
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 Shelter Dog Lover
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| My first reaction would be to not like the idea either but I would understand if he is doing it for his kids. I would not be committed to someone I did not trust. If you are concerned that he still has feelings for his ex and this situation might cause him to act on them then maybe he is not ready for another committed relationship. Afer dating a few guys who were less than stellar, I decided I never wanted to be with someone I had to worry about.
Edited by rodeomom3 2015-07-06 10:12 AM
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Tried and True
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Location: Where I am happiest | Uhh NO!! There is absolutelly no good reason and I wouldnt stand for it for a single second. |
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 Midget Lover
Location: Kentucky | If he wants to go on vacation with his kids, then he needs to take his kids on his own. |
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Location: Kansas | Murphy - 2015-07-06 7:23 AM If he wants to go on vacation with his kids, then he needs to take his kids on his own.
yep |
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Location: Do I hear Banjos? | I'd have a problem with that. I realize we don't have details here. But I wouldn't be dating a man that went on family vacation with his ex wife. He hasn't moved on.
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| I agree. He hasn't moved on and if children are involved, he can take them alone. I think it's ok if they're together for children at school/sporting events, activities, etc but nothing more than that. Them staying together, away and alone equals trouble. |
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 The Purple Princess
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Location: Charlestown, IN | He would become MY ex... |
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Extreme Veteran
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| hmm no.. Have you been dating for long and met all of his children and ex wife? Why wouldn't he suggest you come with?? That would be a logically thing for him to do. Otherwise there is no way I would be ahppy with that. They are not a "family" They are divorced he is family with his children she is his ex.. |
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 Chicken Chick
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Location: Texas | I can't seem to write anything that doesn't require a curse word.
No. Unless he just literally has no flippin clue how to take care of his kids, he can take them himself. At the very least, you should be going with him if they go on their little "family" trip. I would be sittin' right in the middle singin' kumbaya.
If my husband ever tried to do something like that before we got married... pfftt. |
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| There's no reason for someone to even want to spend that much time with the ex, unless they're thinking of getting back together. He should take the kids on his own separate vacation, if he wants to spend time with them and only them. |
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 Witty Enough
Posts: 2954
Location: CTX | Nope, not even for the kids (if there are any). He can take them by himself.... No way would I be happy with that situation. |
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| I'd either go with them or I would dump him. His "family' no longer includes the ex. I don't believe I would insist that he not go because I feel he should make that decision for himself--not because I made him. Based on what he decides will tell you a whole bunch how he feels or doesn't feel about you.
Good luck. |
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Location: Bastrop, Texas | Obviously this is a trick question. |
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 Northern Chocolate Queen
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Location: ND | Are there kids involved?
In the case that there are kids in the situation I'll be the odd man out here. I would encourage him to go, as long as I was going with. I see no reason why a "family" can't be civil and work together to raise kids even if they are divorced.
If there are no kids, then NO! |
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 A Somebody to Everybody
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Thats a big fat NO, he should have his own vacation with his kids if theres any kids. Is there any kids? How long have they been divorced? |
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 Serious Snap Trapper
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Location: In The Snow, AZ | Haha haha haha haha.....no. |
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Rad Dork
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Location: Oklahoma | I'd let him know that I was gonna call up an ex and plan a vacation with him. |
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Location: California | The closest thing I can even compare this to is when my mom was dating this guy "Dan".
He would vacation with his ex wife and kids.... but also with her husbad AND my mom with us kids.
So depeding on how new the relationship is... either you should be included or he shouldn't go. |
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Chicken Chick
Posts: 3562
Location: Texas | There is a difference in "Honey I know it is going to be awkward but I want to spend time with my kids. Come with me and we will try to bite our tongue around my ex all weekend." or "Hey I think I'm going to go on vacation with my ex and the kids. See ya when I get back!"
Granted I don't even know if the guy has kids, I am assuming he is or he wouldn't be dumb enough to want to go on vacation with his ex. If he doesn't have kids, pack your crap while he is gone lol. |
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Snake Charmer
Posts: 1632
Location: Texas | This is a situation that has happened to a friend of mine. I agree with you guys. I actually told her she should tell him To "inhale a male appendage" if you catch my meaning. There are two boys involved, 3 and 6, and he has had them exclusively for over a month. He could have and did spend lots of time with them then. I would never put up with this, and wonder in what world it's ok. |
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 I Chore in Chucks
Posts: 2882
Location: MD | uh no.
I understand the kids aspect but, you can take separate vacations....
Edited by Crowned Image 2015-07-07 9:35 PM
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 Ms. Marine
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Location: Texas | Heck to the no!!! |
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Ot what would you do!