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| Just wanted to see if anyone else has ran into this problem.
Last year we decided to put up light in our arena. Out of kindness, we asked our neighbor, who is several acres away, it would bother him. He said no, your property do what you want. He told us he goes to bed early and sleeps in the basement and would never see them. So we put up our lights according to all possible codes and got all the proper approvals with county regulations.
The first night they were on he comes flying up our driveway and says they are not going to work. We need to take them down or change them. There is a small glare on his lake. My husband explains there is nothing we can do. He got very rude and left.
The lights have been on 13 times in the last 12 months and we always try to turn them off by 10:30. During the 4th of July he had a party and we made sure the light did not come on to ruin his fireworks display.
He has came over randomly asking if we are going to do anything. Two days ago he came over and was very pleasant and asked if there was anything we are going to do. My husband told him, he is not sure what he could do to make him happy and that we try to be very considerate with the use. They have only been on 5 times in 2015. The neighbor acknowledged the curtsey buts wants to try to dim the glare. So last night while we had friends over she is taking pictures of us riding which was very uncomfortable and from what I am reading very illegal. He is becoming harassing.
Has anyone ever dealt with this. We doubled checked with county officials on our setup and they said we set up everything correct. |
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Location: Four Corners Colorado | How close is the neighbor? Do you share a fence line? I have a neighbor like that and my solution is a very tall privacy fence.
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Location: Lost in the swamps | Omg what an a$$! Tell him it could always be worse! And to go about his life, life to short to worry about a friggen beam of light! Some people make you wanna do crazier stuff just to p*** them off more! Lol!!!
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Location: Deep South | I think the problem is you are being WAY to nice. Tell him to get #$%@ off your property and if he comes back you're calling the law.
People like that will absolutely bully you if you allow it. Been there. |
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| He is several thousand feet away. A privacy fence would not work.
I am to the point where I have lost my patience but my husband is not wanting to have bad relations with this guy. He is the neighborhood bully and we are the only ones that talk to him. I feel he is taking advantage of my husbands nice guy attitude.
The taking the pictures while we were riding was very creepy and has caused me not to care if he likes me or not. I had several young girls riding and it just does not look right.
I am going to talk to a lawyer today to see if there is anything legal he can do or we can do. I am tired of the worrying and the harassment. |
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| I don't know about the bulbs. The gentleman who works for the county is one who set it up for us.
The mans wife has told us several times it is no big deal but he is just wanting to be difficult. |
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Location: Four Corners Colorado | Oh the privacy fence isn't to block the light it's so they need a ladder to see over the fence to take pics. I was thinking he had to get pretty close to do that, like standing on the property line? Or is he taking them from a ways off? Also a thick tree row can help but it takes time to grow. |
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Location: Texas | moeandme2008 - 2015-07-13 7:54 AM
He is several thousand feet away. A privacy fence would not work.
I am to the point where I have lost my patience but my husband is not wanting to have bad relations with this guy. He is the neighborhood bully and we are the only ones that talk to him. I feel he is taking advantage of my husbands nice guy attitude.
The taking the pictures while we were riding was very creepy and has caused me not to care if he likes me or not. I had several young girls riding and it just does not look right.
I am going to talk to a lawyer today to see if there is anything legal he can do or we can do. I am tired of the worrying and the harassment.
Great idea to speak with a lawyer. So sorry you are having to deal with this. |
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Location: Four Corners Colorado | Personally I'd tell him you have been really considerate to this point but there is nothing more you can do. Tell him to invest in black out curtains. |
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| Go buy him a set of black out currents and wrap them up nice and leave a note that says.... "found the solution, instructions are on the package" |
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Location: Florida.. | invite them over to join in the fun.lol |
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Location: MD | I'd just keep using and let it go. wife says its fine, you went over before you put them up to see if it would be fine, he said yes. what else can ya do. Say, "I went out of my way to make sure this wouldn't be an issue BEFORE we put them up, and you agreed it was a non-issue... I'm not talking about this anymore." |
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | It's time to quit playing nice. The next time he comes over, tell him that you checked with him first and the county says everything is in order so there will be NO changes made! End of discussion! |
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| He can easily put curtains over his windows if it's that big of a deal for him. |
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Location: Phoenix | Ditto to the others saying to wrap it up and close the case. You asked him if it would be an issue, he said no, you've been conservative with the use, and now you're done talking about it! Maybe throw in a comment about taking pictures of younger girls doesn't look too great for someone his age ha ha! Taking pictures almost makes me worry that he might be contacting a lawyer or something… |
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| That is what we are thinking, he might be getting a lawyer but not sure what he has against us since he agreed to it and we have the proper permits and followed all the regulations. I have a good lawyer too so it should be fun ;)
I told my husband just a bit a go, we need to just shut the door and tell him to leave us alone!!!!! |
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Location: Do I hear Banjos? | Keep a notebook documenting the harassment. Each time he comes over or says anything about it...and the picture taking day/time etc. Might help to have that in the future.
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Location: sunny california | a freind of mine was having a problem with a neighbor complaining about dust. well we are in the country and that is just how it is. she lives in a community with a lot of rules . she was having to go before the board and defend herself and the guy was stupid enough to bring in a video of her young daughter riding in the back yard which showed a little dust. she knew ahead of time he was bringing a video. I told her to use it to her advantage. her daughter was riding in a bathing suit and so you can guess where she went with that. the guy complaining was freinds with members of the board and they saw the writing on the wall and dropped it for the dumb neighbor for his own good. |
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| kwanatha - 2015-07-13 11:22 AM
a freind of mine was having a problem with a neighbor complaining about dust. well we are in the country and that is just how it is. she lives in a community with a lot of rules . she was having to go before the board and defend herself and the guy was stupid enough to bring in a video of her young daughter riding in the back yard which showed a little dust. she knew ahead of time he was bringing a video. I told her to use it to her advantage. her daughter was riding in a bathing suit and so you can guess where she went with that. the guy complaining was freinds with members of the board and they saw the writing on the wall and dropped it for the dumb neighbor for his own good.
Alwaysuse evidence to your advantage. Laughing. That one is good. |
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| The only thing I can say that they might find is if you are in violation of a light time ordinance. Here we have several observatories and the lights from various things interfere with being able to see the stars, so we have to be done by 10pm. (That's California for you, though.) |
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| After everything yall did to accomadate him I would be turning the lights on whenever the h#%l I wanted to. Some people are just not happy in life no matter what you do!
In our county there are pretty much zero rules or regs and this part of the greatness of living out in the sticks. Tell him to frickin move to some remote area of the u.s. like the deserts of N.M. or AZ. |
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| We try to be very careful not to overdue and with all the rain we have had they have not been on much at all. We have never had to pay over the minimum on the electric bill.
I think we have covered all our bases so not much more to talk about. I guess if he wants to sue us we will see what happens. I have quite a bit of ammunition in my bag to come back fighting. |
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Location: Aubrey, Texas | You might suggest that he drain his lake- problem solved!
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Location: Texas | I'd suggest you walk around the yard in your shorts and flip flops with a gun belt and holster, talking to yourself and waving your arms. That should get the neighbor to avoid you at all costs.  |
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Location: Florida.. | cloverleaf - 2015-07-13 7:20 PM You might suggest that he drain his lake- problem solved!
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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | I guess I don't understand why you felt you had to ask his permissiong to put up lights on YOUR property. As long as you didn't break any laws doing it. It's your property. It shouldn't matter what he has to say about it. It sounds like you would have been respectful of him even if you hadn't asked if he was ok with it. |
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| I would rig up a timer and leave them on til 11 pm every night until he got the hint. |
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| My mom always says, "you have to act crazier than the person you're dealing with". Lol |
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