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Location: KS | Or did you? I'm in my late twenties, its taken me a while to really even start thinking about starting our family, I always told myself I didn't want to have kids until I was all in. Most days I feel like Id be ok with it and then there's days when Im relieved I don't have any. I grew up in a large family, my husband also and I get to spend more time then most with my nephews which I am blessed for that. My husband has been ready, has never pushed me just has let me know whenever is fine. We've been together almost 8 years, married 5. Just looking for others advice/thoughts. Thanks.
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Location: Where the long tails flow, ND | It's hard- haha! I didn't ever feel ready and wasnt sure I was even ready at the time but I don't think you ever will feel 'ready'! My son is 3 now :) | |
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Location: Oklahoma | We werent ready were in our late 2o's as well, thought we would have a few other things accomplished before she came and more time to plan.. but she was a wondrful surprise... It was by pry best that it happened this way for us or i dont think we would have kids as I never really wanted children.. Now I cant imagine life with out her. But when people ask about siblings I can honestly say I am perfectly happy with just one and dont really want another.
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Location: Buffalo, Wyoming | I don't think there is every a "right time". I am 30 and my SO is 41. I think we would both be OK if it happened now but I am waiting until my last name is the same as his. He isn't getting any younger and neither am I.... | |
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Location: Texas | I have no idea. I'm not ready but I'm also not married either! I'm 26 and would like to be married a few years before I start a family... but am a little ways from marriage so I'm guessing I'll probably be in my 30s when I do start a family.
When I was in my teens I absolutely did not want kids. In my 20s I started opening my mind to it.. hanging out with Kuhlmann's kids has helped me grow that maternal *whatever* but I'm still a ways off! | |
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| My husband and I were married for 4 years before we decided to bring a child into the picture. We dated 4 years prior to getting married. We wanted to be sure on the marriage, have some us time, and prepare. I was 31 when my son was born. Good luck in your decision. | |
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Location: LaBelle, Florida | I was 37 when I had my daughter. Hubby #2 is the sire and we were married almost a year after dating/living together a year.
I told him if we were going to have one (he has an older daughter) we better do it then or it wasn't happening.
I got pg the first try and think if it had not happened then, I would have changed my mine.
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| When I got pregnant. We definitely did not have a plan. Met my husband in December, engaged in February, married in May, first baby in December with 3 to follow in the next 3 years. I was 26, he was 24 when we married. | |
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Location: Wonderful Wyoming | Married at 19 and my first son was born when I was 27. 2nd son came when I was 31. I wanted to be done having kids by 30. That didn't happen, but pretty close. I am a big planner and planned each of them to be May babies. I even got lucky and got both the boys I wanted. I do think the older you get the harder it is. Maybe I just have too busy a life. I'm always outside during the summer riding or doing ranch things and working on something in the house in the winter when we are done feeding cows. By 8 pm I am EXHAUSTED. I used to be a night person too. Still think I am but the body just quits by 9. I was raised by a dad with no patience and I apparently inherited that trait. I was also blessed with a super hard headed "Strong willed Child" as the books like to call him. He is the oldest and probably most of the reason I am so tired. I'm 35 now and so glad I had these 2. In High School I could really care less about kids. I do wish my husband and I had done more fun things before we had kids. We just worked instead. So when the kids came, we were pretty finacially set. Have our own business etc. That does take some stress off. If you really want kids though, don't wait until the time is just right, because it never will be. There will always be an excuse to hold off. I was not a baby person and still am not. But something about holding your own and getting to snuggle when they sneak in at 3 am. It's just something really special. | |
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Location: Opelousas, LA | wyoming barrel racer - 2015-11-19 8:34 PM Married at 19 and my first son was born when I was 27. 2nd son came when I was 31. I wanted to be done having kids by 30. That didn't happen, but pretty close. I am a big planner and planned each of them to be May babies. I even got lucky and got both the boys I wanted. I do think the older you get the harder it is. Maybe I just have too busy a life. I'm always outside during the summer riding or doing ranch things and working on something in the house in the winter when we are done feeding cows. By 8 pm I am EXHAUSTED. I used to be a night person too. Still think I am but the body just quits by 9. I was raised by a dad with no patience and I apparently inherited that trait. I was also blessed with a super hard headed "Strong willed Child" as the books like to call him. He is the oldest and probably most of the reason I am so tired. I'm 35 now and so glad I had these 2. In High School I could really care less about kids. I do wish my husband and I had done more fun things before we had kids. We just worked instead. So when the kids came, we were pretty finacially set. Have our own business etc. That does take some stress off. If you really want kids though, don't wait until the time is just right, because it never will be. There will always be an excuse to hold off. I was not a baby person and still am not. But something about holding your own and getting to snuggle when they sneak in at 3 am. It's just something really special.
So very true, I am not a kid person but my boys are awesome. I will be so sad when my little one doesn't want to cuddle in mommys bed anymore. | |
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| It's okay to never be ready and just not have kids too. I'm 31 and know perfectly clearly that I will never have them, nor want my own. My family was a little disappointed, but since they know me, they understand. My husband got a vasectomy recently, and I'm really relieved.
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Location: Oklahoma | I met my ex at 22, married at 23, kiddo at 25, divorced by 28. Knew my current husband from high school. Dated for 4 years and got married in 2013. We are just starting to try to add another 2 legged member to our family. I'm 33 now. I don't think you'll ever truly be ready. I was scared to have my daughter and she is the best thing ever. I am now just getting to the point I'm thinking I'm ready for another kid. My ex really did a number on my trust. It's taken me this long to realize my husband now won't leave me to do everything while pregnant and with the baby. With the ex, I might as well have been a single parent the whole entire time.
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Location: Missouri | I don't think it's possible to be completely prepared because it's not possible to understand what it means to be a mom until it happens to you...
I didn't want kids. I cried my eyes out when I found I was pregnant with my first. As soon as my baby boy was born, I thought back to that moment (and all the others before) thinking "how could I have not wanted you?"
I wasn't prepared, but I could not have possibly loved him more.
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Location: In The Snow, AZ | Hubby and I had our little girl early. I was 21 when she was born. Yes, it's young. But she was planned and loved and cared for since conception. I met my amazing husband at 17. Ten years in. He's my best friend and biggest supporter. And having our baby girl six years ago was a gift from God.
But as everyone says, I too don't believe that one can ever really be prepared. I am 27 and highly doubt I will feel the need to have another... Although hubby would. I am thoroughly enjoying our life, and being able to take our daughter to barrel races. Hopefully one day she wants to ride! | |
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Location: Gainesville, TX | My sister and her husband have two boys, both were surprises and she was in pharmacy school when both were born. Yes they were using protection and it failed, both times. It happens. They lived on his salary and lived cheap and have made it through fine. The oldest is 4 and the youngest 2. That being said, she's out now, has a steady excellent paying job. They own a house and her oldest will start kindergarten next year. They were certainly not in the best situation and have come through fine. Her kids are very well behaved for their ages too.
My husband and I have been very careful with our planning. We've been married 7 years. I'm 31 and out of school with a steady job. He just finished law school and is looking but still has steady work as a real estate appraiser. We are looking at houses but I knew I wanted kids before I turned 35 as its just much harder after that point. I'm pregnant now and due in February. It would have been a bit more convenient if I was due in December or the summer months. But it still works out okay. I've got about 10 months to lose some weight and get back in shape for my futurity horse. I don't know that we are perfectly ready but we are in much better shape than most people, being out of school and with consistent work and a good place to live and happy in our relationship.
I don't think you are ever truly ready. Sometime you just have to bite the bullet. Hubby was scared out of his mind but I pressed the issue because my biological clock ticks much faster than his. He's already getting excited though. And I imagine we'll do like most first time parents, figure it out as we go. :) And it will be just fine because we we will love them and give them our best. | |
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| I don't know if you're ever "ready"..I wasn't! I didn't want kids, but we had a surprise - and he's awesome, I love him to death! My husband talks about having anther and I KNOW I am not ready-nor will ever be! Raising him and our son is enough for me  | |
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Location: Somewhere around here | I had my child when I was 23, turned 24 the next day though lol! I've been married for 3 years now and at the beginning of our marriage I definitely wanted to wait, started taking those birth control shots but soon hated how they effected my body + mental state so I stopped just after a few months. Apparently that's when I was "ready" to start a family but a side effect of the bc made it hard for me to conceive a couple of years after stopping the shots so I went back and forth on when I wanted a family. Of course I became pregnant when I wasn't ready and freaked out for the first 6 months of being pregnant, worrying that I wouldn't have my same body and anxious that I would never be able to barrel race or really ride again cause I was afraid I'd never have time. But after my little girl coming almost at 24 weeks (40 weeks is a full term birth) I changed my mindset a lot and I started being more excited about being a mom and loving a little human.
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Location: KS | Thanks for all those giving advice. I realize Im not alone. :)
I have always wanted kids, and I know I want more than just one....two, three, four. I don't really want to plan, if it happens it happens, but if we're no longer doing anything to prevent it I want to be mentally prepared. If it takes months that's ok, I just want to be prepared it may only take one month.
My biggest fear is I feel like Im going to have to give up so much of me when it happens, Im not sure, this sounds selfish, but I work full time, my husband farms/ranches and when Im not at work Im usually messing with horses, checking cows, etc. When we work cows Im always there, nothing keeps me from not being there, and I don't have to worry about keeping and eye on the kids or having someone else watch them. Im not against the help, but I live a mile away from my inlaws and have a very poor/difficult relationship with my MIL, and its not on my end, I have tried everything and all the woman does is degrade me, disrespect me, and after talking about it to enough people (Im a part of a young women of faith group in our small town) I think its a jealousy thing, which I never thought this until it was suggested to me. You wouldn't believe the things that have been said to me. I have always been strong willed, and not afraid to stick up for myself, my family when someone else wants to disrespect me/us and I think this has put even more of a strain on our relationship (Im not afraid to call her out when shes wrong). I have a sister inlaw that has a 2 year old, our MIL has done the same thing to her but she lets it go, lets her take her son and go do things (she doesn't come around all that often) but I think Im going to have a really hard time with letting people who have treated me so poorly be a huge part of my childrens lives, yes I want them to know their grandparents, I don't want to keep that from them, but my father in law refused to come to our wedding because it was not in his preferred church. I have worked hard the last 5 years to forgive, I have a somewhat good relationship with him, but its not good enough that I want my kids to sleepover or spend all day with them. I have watched my MIL disrespect the mothers of all her grandchildren in front of them. My parents on the otherhand our amazing, complete opposite, respectful, positive people, who have treated my husband like a son and do the same with all my sister inlaws. I live 5 miles away from my parents. And would never have a problem with them spending so much time with my children.
My husband and I are in good place as far as our relationship, we are financially ok, and he's more than aware of my relationship with his parents, he knows they are wrong. But they our his parents, and he has no control over what they think or say, he just has to know he has to stick up for me and our kids.
The age I am now, and the things that we've been handed I feel Im strong enough to handle it, like I said just want to be all in and I really would like to fit in my favorite jeans again. :)
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Location: Arkansas | Peewee212 - 2015-11-20 11:32 AM
Thanks for all those giving advice. I realize Im not alone. :)
I have always wanted kids, and I know I want more than just one....two, three, four. I don't really want to plan, if it happens it happens, but if we're no longer doing anything to prevent it I want to be mentally prepared. If it takes months that's ok, I just want to be prepared it may only take one month.
My biggest fear is I feel like Im going to have to give up so much of me when it happens, Im not sure, this sounds selfish, but I work full time, my husband farms/ranches and when Im not at work Im usually messing with horses, checking cows, etc. When we work cows Im always there, nothing keeps me from not being there, and I don't have to worry about keeping and eye on the kids or having someone else watch them. Im not against the help, but I live a mile away from my inlaws and have a very poor/difficult relationship with my MIL, and its not on my end, I have tried everything and all the woman does is degrade me, disrespect me, and after talking about it to enough people (Im a part of a young women of faith group in our small town) I think its a jealousy thing, which I never thought this until it was suggested to me. You wouldn't believe the things that have been said to me. I have always been strong willed, and not afraid to stick up for myself, my family when someone else wants to disrespect me/us and I think this has put even more of a strain on our relationship (Im not afraid to call her out when shes wrong). I have a sister inlaw that has a 2 year old, our MIL has done the same thing to her but she lets it go, lets her take her son and go do things (she doesn't come around all that often) but I think Im going to have a really hard time with letting people who have treated me so poorly be a huge part of my childrens lives, yes I want them to know their grandparents, I don't want to keep that from them, but my father in law refused to come to our wedding because it was not in his preferred church. I have worked hard the last 5 years to forgive, I have a somewhat good relationship with him, but its not good enough that I want my kids to sleepover or spend all day with them. I have watched my MIL disrespect the mothers of all her grandchildren in front of them. My parents on the otherhand our amazing, complete opposite, respectful, positive people, who have treated my husband like a son and do the same with all my sister inlaws. I live 5 miles away from my parents. And would never have a problem with them spending so much time with my children.
My husband and I are in good place as far as our relationship, we are financially ok, and he's more than aware of my relationship with his parents, he knows they are wrong. But they our his parents, and he has no control over what they think or say, he just has to know he has to stick up for me and our kids.
The age I am now, and the things that we've been handed I feel Im strong enough to handle it, like I said just want to be all in and I really would like to fit in my favorite jeans again. :)
Again thanks for the input, didn't mean for this post to get so long.
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Location: Stuck in a cubicle having tropical thoughts | Nothing in life is guanteed. You are never ready. The problem with humans is they always think they will have time. If you know you are going to have children with your husband, don't wait. You will never regret it.
That is my advice. My husband and I are parents to an angel baby. She was a surprise pregnancy. We were terrified and not ready at first, but more and more excited, then the world stopped when she was still born 3 weeks before her due date. They have no idea why she was still born. That was 15 months ago. We've been trying to get pregnant again for a year now and we've found out that fertility is not always as simple as it seems.
I have a friend that had a 36 week still born, then had a daughter who was a month premature and then had two miscarriages. Another friend had a miscarriage and it took them 7 years to get pregnant again. In the meantime, this couple had adopted. Another couple we know lost 5 babies before adopting. And I have a co-worker that him and his wife have been tring for about 7 years and haven't had one single prenancy.
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Location: KS | barlracr429 - 2015-11-21 11:49 PM
Nothing in life is guanteed. You are never ready. The problem with humans is they always think they will have time. If you know you are going to have children with your husband, don't wait. You will never regret it.
That is my advice. My husband and I are parents to an angel baby. She was a surprise pregnancy. We were terrified and not ready at first, but more and more excited, then the world stopped when she was still born 3 weeks before her due date. They have no idea why she was still born. That was 15 months ago. We've been trying to get pregnant again for a year now and we've found out that fertility is not always as simple as it seems.
I have a friend that had a 36 week still born, then had a daughter who was a month premature and then had two miscarriages. Another friend had a miscarriage and it took them 7 years to get pregnant again. In the meantime, this couple had adopted. Another couple we know lost 5 babies before adopting. And I have a co-worker that him and his wife have been tring for about 7 years and haven't had one single prenancy.
I'm not telling you this for a pity party or to make you feel sad, but the reality is that 1 in 4 woman experience fertility issues and/or mis-carriage or stillbirth. So my advice is to stop waiting.
Thank you. I have a couple friends who are in a similar situation. I pray for them daily, know that you and your friends are in my prayers now too.
Thanks again for the advice.
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Location: Wonderful Wyoming | barlracr429 - 2015-11-21 10:49 PM Nothing in life is guanteed. You are never ready. The problem with humans is they always think they will have time. If you know you are going to have children with your husband, don't wait. You will never regret it.
That is my advice. My husband and I are parents to an angel baby. She was a surprise pregnancy. We were terrified and not ready at first, but more and more excited, then the world stopped when she was still born 3 weeks before her due date. They have no idea why she was still born. That was 15 months ago. We've been trying to get pregnant again for a year now and we've found out that fertility is not always as simple as it seems.
I have a friend that had a 36 week still born, then had a daughter who was a month premature and then had two miscarriages. Another friend had a miscarriage and it took them 7 years to get pregnant again. In the meantime, this couple had adopted. Another couple we know lost 5 babies before adopting. And I have a co-worker that him and his wife have been tring for about 7 years and haven't had one single prenancy.
I'm not telling you this for a pity party or to make you feel sad, but the reality is that 1 in 4 woman experience fertility issues and/or mis-carriage or stillbirth. So my advice is to stop waiting.
I am truly heart broke for you. I lost a baby boy at about 20 weeks. Just about every woman I know has had miscarriages. I am pretty sure I had another in between my 2 boys. A planned pregnancy, I was late and I am never late and then had my period later. So I think it was an early miscarriage. Many prayers that you are pregnant and holding a baby soon.  | |
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| Waiting until you are ready is a smart thing to do, however I am not sure if some of us are ever ready lol. I wanted kids but could not make a decision on when. I had to just remove all prevention and let it happen on its own time. I was still scared silly when I finally found out. I was terrified all the way through my pregnancy. Those first couple of months are hard, but past that it has been so much fun. It has not slowed me down as much as I had imagined. You know the saying "if you wait for kids until you think you are ready, or can afford them, you'll never have any".
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Location: Oklahoma | As a mom you do have to give up ALOT I work full time ride 6 head of horses (not everyday just rotate through them) and I get wore out but I wouldnt change , its rewarding being a mother it gets easier as they get older too I think. I started competing again a month after she was born. I was up helping with the cows and everything else 2 weeks after she came. She just came along and did it all with us. My husbands family lives in montana and mine in michigan so getting someone to take the baby hasnt always been the easiest. But now that she is older 19 months she LOVES the horses the cows, she wants to help feed and drive the truck| tractor. but she knows no differnt so she just wants to do everything we do. | |
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Location: White Mountains of AZ | Peewee212 - 2015-11-20 9:32 AM
Thanks for all those giving advice. I realize Im not alone. :)
I have always wanted kids, and I know I want more than just one....two, three, four. I don't really want to plan, if it happens it happens, but if we're no longer doing anything to prevent it I want to be mentally prepared. If it takes months that's ok, I just want to be prepared it may only take one month.
My biggest fear is I feel like Im going to have to give up so much of me when it happens, Im not sure, this sounds selfish, but I work full time, my husband farms/ranches and when Im not at work Im usually messing with horses, checking cows, etc. When we work cows Im always there, nothing keeps me from not being there, and I don't have to worry about keeping and eye on the kids or having someone else watch them. Im not against the help, but I live a mile away from my inlaws and have a very poor/difficult relationship with my MIL, and its not on my end, I have tried everything and all the woman does is degrade me, disrespect me, and after talking about it to enough people (Im a part of a young women of faith group in our small town) I think its a jealousy thing, which I never thought this until it was suggested to me. You wouldn't believe the things that have been said to me. I have always been strong willed, and not afraid to stick up for myself, my family when someone else wants to disrespect me/us and I think this has put even more of a strain on our relationship (Im not afraid to call her out when shes wrong). I have a sister inlaw that has a 2 year old, our MIL has done the same thing to her but she lets it go, lets her take her son and go do things (she doesn't come around all that often) but I think Im going to have a really hard time with letting people who have treated me so poorly be a huge part of my childrens lives, yes I want them to know their grandparents, I don't want to keep that from them, but my father in law refused to come to our wedding because it was not in his preferred church. I have worked hard the last 5 years to forgive, I have a somewhat good relationship with him, but its not good enough that I want my kids to sleepover or spend all day with them. I have watched my MIL disrespect the mothers of all her grandchildren in front of them. My parents on the otherhand our amazing, complete opposite, respectful, positive people, who have treated my husband like a son and do the same with all my sister inlaws. I live 5 miles away from my parents. And would never have a problem with them spending so much time with my children.
My husband and I are in good place as far as our relationship, we are financially ok, and he's more than aware of my relationship with his parents, he knows they are wrong. But they our his parents, and he has no control over what they think or say, he just has to know he has to stick up for me and our kids.
The age I am now, and the things that we've been handed I feel Im strong enough to handle it, like I said just want to be all in and I really would like to fit in my favorite jeans again. :)
Again thanks for the input, didn't mean for this post to get so long.
I'm 19 and pregnant. My barrel horse has been off for the last 3 years due to injury so this was going to be out comeback year. That was probably the hardest thing to comprehend when I first found out. I'm due in May and our barrel racing season won't end until October. I already know some people I would trust working my boy, maybe running him a few times when I can't. I'm kinda scared, but more like " didn't think this would happen to me " type feeling. My biggest worry was that I'd be to selfish, but the moment I knew I was pregnant, things started changing in my mind which was cool/weird. LOL. I am excited though...and worried! | |
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Location: Texas | It's funny how the older you get the more you think kids are a big decision! I don't have kids and I don't regret it. | |
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Location: Louisiana | mollibtexan - 2015-11-23 7:59 PM It's funny how the older you get the more you think kids are a big decision! I don't have kids and I don't regret it.
I'm 25 and my husband is 28. We don't plan on having children. I have never felt that urge. I just can't picture myself as a mother. We have plenty of young cousins, and 2 nephews. That's enough for us.
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Location: Bennett, CO | Barnmom - 2015-11-19 8:20 PM wyoming barrel racer - 2015-11-19 8:34 PM Married at 19 and my first son was born when I was 27. 2nd son came when I was 31. I wanted to be done having kids by 30. That didn't happen, but pretty close. I am a big planner and planned each of them to be May babies. I even got lucky and got both the boys I wanted. I do think the older you get the harder it is. Maybe I just have too busy a life. I'm always outside during the summer riding or doing ranch things and working on something in the house in the winter when we are done feeding cows. By 8 pm I am EXHAUSTED. I used to be a night person too. Still think I am but the body just quits by 9. I was raised by a dad with no patience and I apparently inherited that trait. I was also blessed with a super hard headed "Strong willed Child" as the books like to call him. He is the oldest and probably most of the reason I am so tired. I'm 35 now and so glad I had these 2. In High School I could really care less about kids. I do wish my husband and I had done more fun things before we had kids. We just worked instead. So when the kids came, we were pretty finacially set. Have our own business etc. That does take some stress off. If you really want kids though, don't wait until the time is just right, because it never will be. There will always be an excuse to hold off. I was not a baby person and still am not. But something about holding your own and getting to snuggle when they sneak in at 3 am. It's just something really special. So very true, I am not a kid person but my boys are awesome. I will be so sad when my little one doesn't want to cuddle in mommys bed anymore.
I disagree with this- Everyone told us this same line.. but we were not ready. We had been married 16 years of "not yet" ... at 39. we decided...Now or Never. got pregnant within a few months (Freaked me out, even though we were trying to get pregnant) had him at 40 and everything went according to plan, and we have a 7mo old son (Im now 41) | |
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Location: Wearing a winter coat...... | I am 38 and still not sure I am ready.....and often let my kids know that my choice could change...they are 3 and 9 years old. | |
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| I don't think your ever "ready". I had my son right before turning 21, he wasn't planned and he's turning 2 in a few weeks. My life changed incredibly, I have to find me time, my horse hasn't been rode as much as I would like, and my body is not exactly up to my standards anymore. I still wouldn't change anything, I love my son, and he will only be little for a short time. I would like to have another one but seen to have fertility issues so I've accepted he may be my only child. I still kindve dread starting over if I ever get pregnant again but I knew I wanted 2 children.
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 Go For It!
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I have to laugh when I read some of these posts. Especially about those who need to "plan" things out. If I had to plan things, nothing would ever get done, lol. I'm a big procrastinator! I always wanted kids and had my first at 21 and my second at 23. I "acquired" two more at 28. I never really thought about it. They never prevented me from doing anything that I really wanted to do. I loved being Mommy and these days I love being Mom and Grandma. I wouldn't have had it any other way. :)
PS... we were broke when we had kids and even when I remarried. And I'm glad because my kids were far from spoiled!
Edited by grinandbareit 2015-11-25 8:22 AM
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How did you know when you were ready?