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Location: Lost in the swamps | And just scratch my head here and just wonder about life's lessons sometimes... But I feel disheartened by the fact that a few of the friends I have eagerly helped in the past, even to the point of kept their horses exercised, tagged along to help, cheered them on, and been by there side while they get there time in the spot light winning buckles and money.ect, & knowing I will get my chance in the spotlight too one day. Recently, I won my first champion buckle ever, sure it was a small local association, But I won't discredit it because everyone's has to start somewhere.
Should I be angry? Maybe, but I'm not.
Just saddened to see those I have rooted for for so long not even acknowledge it. And I know they have seen my Facebook pictures. sounds a lil childish I know, but it's still hard to swallow sometimes.
Guess our live have taken different paths. They are now rasing children, or have lives away from horses. I now have a Few other friends that I show with. I'm still greatful for those times with my old friends and continue to cheer on my new ones even if Sounding like I need dear Abby! Just confused about it & Learning the lessons as I go
-sincerely
Life's giving me oranges when I want lemonade... Lol
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Location: Lost in the swamps | hoofs_in_motion - 2016-01-25 3:26 PM
Honestly......do you need their satisifaction to be happy about winning a buckle?
Really no, just wondering why I feel the way I do about it? |
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Location: California | imturnin3 - 2016-01-25 1:22 PM And just scratch my head here and just wonder about life's lessons sometimes... But I feel disheartened by the fact that a few of the friends I have eagerly helped in the past, even to the point of kept their horses exercised, tagged along to help, cheered them on, and been by there side while they get there time in the spot light winning buckles and money.ect, & knowing I will get my chance too one day. Recently, I won my first champion buckle ever, sure it was a small local association, But I won't discredit it because everyone's has to start somewhere. Should I be angry? Maybe, but I'm not. Just saddened to see those I have rooted for for so long not even acknowledge it. And I know they have seen my Facebook pictures. sounds a lil childish I know, but it's still hard to swallow sometimes. Guess our live have taken different paths. They are now rasing children, or have lives away from horses. I now have a Few other friends that I show with. I'm still greatful for those times with my old friends and continue to cheer on my new ones even if Sounding like I need dear Abby! Just confused about it & Learning the lessons as I go -sincerely Life's giving me oranges when I want lemonade... Lol
As my mom would tell me.... They're just jealous! LOL. But really, a lot of times people can't be happy or grateful for others who are doing well. Especially now that you are starting to kick butt! When helping others, never expect them to help back later on. This is not while we help, but I feel this is where we learn who our TRUE friends are. |
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Location: Lost in the swamps | rodeomom3 - 2016-01-25 3:26 PM
Congrats on your buckle!!!!
Thanks! I cracked up when I got it! I told someone it's so big I could use it as a plate and eat off of it!! Hahahaha |
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| I can understand where you are coming from, but on the other hand, I am the only Mom in my group of friends and I am sorry to say I miss a lot of what is going on in their lives. We are not as close as we used to be and it sucks. There’s just no way that I can keep up with my family, horses,career and what is going their lives.
I try to keep up with them via Facebook, but when I only get to check it 1-2x every couple days there is a lot that I miss!
I’m sorry that they didn’t acknowledge your win (I’d be pretty excited too!) but maybe it’s not because they’re snubbing you..if they’re anything like me they’re probably outside with a headlamp after the little one’s asleep trying to get their horses legged up so they can win another buckle too, haha!
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Location: SE Louisiana | I don't really care about that buckle... but while your sitting there on your soapbox..... can you spare 1/2 a cup? |
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Location: Lost in the swamps | komet. - 2016-01-25 4:00 PM
I don't really care about that buckle... but while your sitting there on your soapbox..... can you spare 1/2 a cup?
Sure! But I Hope you don't drink decaf! Lol |
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Location: Lost in the swamps | hoofs_in_motion - 2016-01-25 3:26 PM
Honestly......do you need their satisifaction to be happy about winning a buckle?
Just saw Your "quote" at the bottom is what I say all the time!
And it kinda hits on what I'm talking about...
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Location: Not Where I Want to Be | imturnin3 - 2016-01-25 5:02 PM komet. - 2016-01-25 4:00 PM I don't really care about that buckle... but while your sitting there on your soapbox..... can you spare 1/2 a cup? Sure! But I Hope you don't drink decaf! Lol
decaf soap?
he was asking for soap.
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Location: SE Louisiana | 1DSoon - 2016-01-25 4:36 PM
imturnin3 - 2016-01-25 5:02 PM komet. - 2016-01-25 4:00 PM I don't really care about that buckle... but while your sitting there on your soapbox..... can you spare 1/2 a cup? Sure! But I Hope you don't drink decaf! Lol
he was asking for soap.
Yeah... but def soap?? I'll try it once just to see what happens.. |
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Location: the end of the rainbow | its human nature to have your feelings hurt when your friends are not as happy for your success as you have been for theirs. Congratulations on your achievement, winning a buckle takes hard work. |
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Location: That part of Texas | imturnin3 - 2016-01-25 3:29 PM hoofs_in_motion - 2016-01-25 3:26 PM Honestly......do you need their satisifaction to be happy about winning a buckle? Really no, just wondering why I feel the way I do about it?
You feel hurt because it sucks to have finally reached a goal or milestone and not have the people that helped you along even acknowledge or care anymore about it. It's a time for a joint celebration and it sucks to be dancing alone when you wish friends would join in. It's okay to feel that way and to take the time to acknowledge the hurt/loss of support. There will be plenty of time to pick yourself back up and cowgirl on later. |
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Location: Sweet Home Alabama | Jealousy. Especially because they aren't doing the horse deal anymore. I'm sure they miss it. And It's hard to see someone who they thought wasn't as "good as them" do great. I guarantee that they're thinking "well, if I still did horses, I would have won that buckle". Lol. But congrats! And know that the issue is with them.
I'm only 21 but I've learned that most of the people who cheer you on, are also the one's who say "she only won because of this and because of that" or my fav "she only won because so and so didn't show" to other people. There are very few folks who have your best interest at heart, and this is probably why I've had the same friends since elementary. Haha |
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Location: In the Hills of Texas | Congrats on your first buckle win and it will be a win you'll never forget. As far as the other...welcome to the real world. |
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| They may not be jealous, they may be too busy to say something, they may consider you posting on Facebook is bragging, they may not feel the need to validate your success just because they are a friend.
My true friends I know are always cheering me on, I may not hear them cheer me on, they may not post on Facebook a congrats, but when I see them in person in regular conversation they make a point to ask about me, my successes, and we celebrate even the little victories with a yay, in person not on Facebook.
I am one who tries not to validate victories on Facebook, as I may miss one person, this doesn't mean their victory was any less important, but they may see it that way. I do try and congratulate them in person, even if it is months later.
For yourself, I do believe you need to do some soul searching, why do you need validation? How can you change it? |
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Location: OH. IO | Red Raider - 2016-01-25 6:31 PM
imturnin3 - 2016-01-25 3:29 PM hoofs_in_motion - 2016-01-25 3:26 PM Honestly......do you need their satisifaction to be happy about winning a buckle? Really no, just wondering why I feel the way I do about it?
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| My son the Santa Gertrudis National Jr. Show with a bred and own heifer. Our friends who were there were very happy for us and of course we were on cloud nine. The next day it was was just another day. Everyone had kids, animals and other responsibilities to tend to, as did we. Remember, YOU won the buckle and you are the one effected. They didn't win it and it really has no bearing on their life. My advice is to sit back and take the time to be happy for yourself, do a happy dance every time you look at your beautiful, hard-won buckle. Wear it with pride and move on to the next big thing on your life . Oh, and by the way - Congratulations!!!! Isn't it an awesome feeling to work hard and WIN?!!!  |
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Location: Oregon | Polly05 - 2016-01-25 1:29 PM congrats! some women humans are jealous and envious creatures!
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Location: Arkansas | imturnin3 - 2016-01-25 3:22 PM
And just scratch my head here and just wonder about life's lessons sometimes... But I feel disheartened by the fact that a few of the friends I have eagerly helped in the past, even to the point of kept their horses exercised, tagged along to help, cheered them on, and been by there side while they get there time in the spot light winning buckles and money.ect, & knowing I will get my chance in the spotlight too one day. Recently, I won my first champion buckle ever, sure it was a small local association, But I won't discredit it because everyone's has to start somewhere.
Should I be angry? Maybe, but I'm not.
Just saddened to see those I have rooted for for so long not even acknowledge it. And I know they have seen my Facebook pictures. sounds a lil childish I know, but it's still hard to swallow sometimes.
Guess our live have taken different paths. They are now rasing children, or have lives away from horses. I now have a Few other friends that I show with. I'm still greatful for those times with my old friends and continue to cheer on my new ones even if Sounding like I need dear Abby! Just confused about it & Learning the lessons as I go
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Life's giving me oranges when I want lemonade... Lol
Can you post a pic---bet folks on here would love to see your buckle. Congrats |
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| Been in your shoes and it's definitely not a happy place to be. With that said, if anything positive can come out of the jealousy and pettiness of some people it's this: at least now you see certain people for what and who they really are...and "real" friends it's not. Now you are operating with a much clearer idea of some of those around you and know how you want to carry on from here on out.
Congrats on your big win...and it is a big win. A win is a win regardless...good job! |
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Location: Lost in the swamps | 1DSoon - 2016-01-25 4:36 PM
imturnin3 - 2016-01-25 5:02 PM komet. - 2016-01-25 4:00 PM I don't really care about that buckle... but while your sitting there on your soapbox..... can you spare 1/2 a cup? Sure! But I Hope you don't drink decaf! Lol
he was asking for soap.
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Location: Lost in the swamps | cheryl makofka - 2016-01-25 6:31 PM
They may not be jealous, they may be too busy to say something, they may consider you posting on Facebook is bragging, they may not feel the need to validate your success just because they are a friend.
My true friends I know are always cheering me on, I may not hear them cheer me on, they may not post on Facebook a congrats, but when I see them in person in regular conversation they make a point to ask about me, my successes, and we celebrate even the little victories with a yay, in person not on Facebook.
I am one who tries not to validate victories on Facebook, as I may miss one person, this doesn't mean their victory was any less important, but they may see it that way. I do try and congratulate them in person, even if it is months later.
For yourself, I do believe you need to do some soul searching, why do you need validation? How can you change it?
Oh gosh no, I don't think they are jealious either. It's not fb validation,I could care less if they congratulate me via fb. Not really one for public gloating esp fb. (I even contemplated deleting this post as I was writing it) . I hate beig in a spot light and having the pressure of competition. I'm more excited that I pushed thru my anxiety winning it. Always tell people( and myself) it's just you and the clock. Trust me my nerves were shot at that last show!!!.
guess what I'm really trying to say is that victory would have been a lil sweeter with them by my side.
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Now, on the OTHER hand, the people who win every race they go to and have won 2561516 buckles, I get tired of patting their backs EVERY.SINGLE.DAY on FB - some of that is enough.
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