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seriously been single most of my life raised my son figured i would meet someone broke my neck when i was 50 so that is not going to happen even though a lot do i will not
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Location: Kansas | I prefer to "Be alone rather than wanting to be" ... think about it. I'm not willing to settle and I also enjoy my own company. |
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| runnin hard - 2016-11-21 4:22 PM I prefer to "Be alone rather than wanting to be" ... think about it. I'm not willing to settle and I also enjoy my own company.
I really like that..
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I see so many failed, failing or miserable relationships because they settled. Not that the person was lesser of a person but they just weren't the right match. I would prefer to wait for the right one. |
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Location: Florida | Lifelong single and still loving it at 61. No one to answer to or ask permission of or tell me what to do. Gets better every day.
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Location: Sweet Home Alabama | I'm 22. First and last relationship was in 10th grade and ended badly so I just decided to focus on my horsey dreams. All my friends try to set me up but I'm like nah. Lol I've gotten so comfortable with being by myself. Me and my sister are polar opposites. She's the life of the party, never been alone type of girl. She's 4 years older and I've seen her get hurt a lot, so I think growing up and watching her kinda shaped me into being a "loner". |
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Location: Texas | Divorced twice, too old to start over. I really enjoy doing my own things, I don't have to visit people I don't like, or go places I'd rather not go.
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Location: Sweet Home Alabama | stayceem - 2016-11-21 4:54 PM
I am. I don't want a man to be the reason I have x,y and z. I have worked hard for the things I have and am proud of them. I don't want to every feel dependent or reliant on someone because IMO it causes more stress and strain. I want to find the right one and not settling for something less or not right for me because I feel I have to. Maybe I will find him, maybe I wont but it doesn't stop me in my tracks.
I see so many failed, failing or miserable relationships because they settled. Not that the person was lesser of a person but they just weren't the right match. I would prefer to wait for the right one.
Amen to this. Watching so many unhappy couples also makes me not want to rush it. Like, you wouldn't believe the amount of girls my age who have been divorced. I don't think they were truly in love with the guy; I think they were in love with the idea of it all. That's not me. I'm a realist. I want to focus on my career and dreams and hopefully in a few years I'll find a guy who did the same thing. |
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Location: Kansas | I've been married over 40 years but am loving reading this thread and the people writing the comments.
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| Twenty-five years of age and never been in a relationship.
With that said, my no relationship boils down to how I witness my mother being treated by my father. I've dated, and can't seem to let anyone in my circle.
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| Im 65 and single for the last 30 years - in looking back I know I didnt really know myself or love myself and so i settled just to be with someone. Id still like to be married but he will have to love raising barrel babies, have a desire to go to NFR, like to dance, enjoy TVG and want to see the K Derby and All American, be a good hand and able to start colts for me, like to dance, not be a smoker, enjoy wine with dinner, not be too old or too young, grown independent kids, own his ranch, - and most importantly Love the Lord! So ok it will take a miracle but why marry someone who isnt going to add to your life or want to do the things you like to do? Better to stay single. |
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Location: Montana | I'm happy single. Sometimes I'd like to find a relationship, but I don't want the wrong relationship, so I'm waiting to find the right guy. I've had a couple of relationships, but nothing that ever got really serious. Life is pretty simple and happy this way, and I get to devote most of my free time to my horses and my interests, and I like that. I keep myself really busy, so I sometimes wonder when I would have time for a relationship! LOL. I also have some horse goals I want to accomplish and I want to stay on track with those, and I won't let anyone come between me and my horses or me and my family But this way I can do and have pretty much what I want without anyone's co-approval, and I'm good with that! 
Mostly what I don't like is people (mostly older) who ask if I have a boyfriend/husband, and when I say that I don't, they wonder why and ask questions...and I'm tired of thinking up answers.  I'd like to think up a really good answer for those select few who think its their business whether or not I have an SO and why I don't.
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| I'm 26, been in a couple relationships, one was almost serious and I was young so I let him derail me from my horse goals for a little while. I believe everything happens for a reason but it bugs me that I did that. Now I refuse to let a guy distract me from my horsey dreams so I think that has a lot to do with why I'm single. That and I've been single so long at this point that I just love it, not answering to anyone and being able to spend all my money on my horses and pup :)
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Location: Kansas | mtcanchazer - 2016-11-21 8:23 PM I'm happy single. Sometimes I'd like to find a relationship, but I don't want the wrong relationship, so I'm waiting to find the right guy. I've had a couple of relationships, but nothing that ever got really serious. Life is pretty simple and happy this way, and I get to devote most of my free time to my horses and my interests, and I like that. I keep myself really busy, so I sometimes wonder when I would have time for a relationship! LOL. I also have some horse goals I want to accomplish and I want to stay on track with those, and I won't let anyone come between me and my horses or me and my family But this way I can do and have pretty much what I want without anyone's co-approval, and I'm good with that!
Mostly what I don't like is people (mostly older) who ask if I have a boyfriend/husband, and when I say that I don't, they wonder why and ask questions...and I'm tired of thinking up answers. I'd like to think up a really good answer for those select few who think its their business whether or not I have an SO and why I don't.
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| Its really nice to see so many of you happy in your own skin. Not all of us have to be moms or wives. I always feel bad for girls whose families bug them about marrying or having babies. I am married and a mom - it was the right thing for me, but my daughter isn't sure she wants babies and I am fine with that. I am so proud of her because she is a strong independent woman who works hard for what she wants. |
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| mtcanchazer - 2016-11-21 8:23 PM
I'm happy single. Sometimes I'd like to find a relationship, but I don't want the wrong relationship, so I'm waiting to find the right guy. I've had a couple of relationships, but nothing that ever got really serious. Life is pretty simple and happy this way, and I get to devote most of my free time to my horses and my interests, and I like that. I keep myself really busy, so I sometimes wonder when I would have time for a relationship! LOL. I also have some horse goals I want to accomplish and I want to stay on track with those, and I won't let anyone come between me and my horses or me and my family But this way I can do and have pretty much what I want without anyone's co-approval, and I'm good with that!
Mostly what I don't like is people (mostly older) who ask if I have a boyfriend/husband, and when I say that I don't, they wonder why and ask questions...and I'm tired of thinking up answers. I'd like to think up a really good answer for those select few who think its their business whether or not I have an SO and why I don't.
Just tell the old farts that you have a man friend but you don't let him out of the cage every often LOL Just live your life on your own terms and this is from an old fart LOL
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Location: NC | Im single, and when asked why I usually reply i have high priorities. Ive been in a relationship before but dont mind being single. One day I'd like to find the right one but until then I persue my dreams and take care of my priorities. |
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| I seem to attract the freeloaders and the ones looking for a home so until I find one that is self supporting, I will be happy by myself.
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | mtcanchazer - 2016-11-21 8:23 PM I'm happy single. Sometimes I'd like to find a relationship, but I don't want the wrong relationship, so I'm waiting to find the right guy. I've had a couple of relationships, but nothing that ever got really serious. Life is pretty simple and happy this way, and I get to devote most of my free time to my horses and my interests, and I like that. I keep myself really busy, so I sometimes wonder when I would have time for a relationship! LOL. I also have some horse goals I want to accomplish and I want to stay on track with those, and I won't let anyone come between me and my horses or me and my family But this way I can do and have pretty much what I want without anyone's co-approval, and I'm good with that!
Mostly what I don't like is people (mostly older) who ask if I have a boyfriend/husband, and when I say that I don't, they wonder why and ask questions...and I'm tired of thinking up answers. I'd like to think up a really good answer for those select few who think its their business whether or not I have an SO and why I don't.
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Location: Montana | Everyone (jbhoot, runnin hard, Southtxponygirl) you all have had good answers for nosey folks. I'm not bemoaning the question I just sometimes run out of answers! LOL. |
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Location: Where you need a paddle... Oregon! | I'm 46. Was married for 16 years. Married for all the wrong reasons. I wasn't in love with him, but everyone told me that I was too picky and that I would eventually grow to love him. I had a 9 year old daughter and he didn't spook at that. He was ready to settle down within months and I went with it. We have a 14 year old son. I've been single about 2 years now. I often wonder why nobody tries to set me up with someone they know. lol.... I'm still young, I have a good (albeit doesn't pay well) job for the school district, I am smart, funny, strong, fit, and very capable. I live in a small town and I guess there's not much for a dating pool around here, either. For the most part I am okay with being single. I love that I have tons of freedom and can make choices on my own. Sometimes I'd like to dress up and go somewhere, though. Dinner, a movie, a concert, a walk.... I pictured myself at this age with a house full of family at the Holidays and traveling. Instead I live paycheck to paycheck and have still never been on a vacation or in an airplane. The divorce was totally on me. I couldn't live another day with someone that I didn't even like. He became engaged shortly after we split up, she broke up with him, then he was engaged and married to someone else within 4 or 5 months. All that goes to show that he never did love me for who I was, for my heart, my strength, my work ethic, or my smile - he just wanted someone to be with. And I need more than that. So now I work around my house in every spare moment. I'm handy and I'm project oriented. I love to have something to do and I will figure out how to get the job done. I had to give up all the luxuries that came with the marriage - the large house with a barn and acreage, living quarters trailer, dually pickup, extra money in the account. I can barely pay my living expenses now, but I sure as hell never have to crawl into bed at night with a man who makes my skin crawl and that's worth more to me than any money in the bank. |
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I'm independent with a good job, a nice little apartment currently, and soon (I hope!) I'll have my first house.
I couldn't imagine sharing my space with anyone. lol. I enjoy the solitude for the most part. Sometimes I do get a little sad, but a quick visit with friends or family and watching their dynamics makes me feel ok again. Or I just go shopping and people watch. LOL
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Location: Kansas | When asked why you're not married or in a relationship, tell them you're waiting for your significant other to get out of prison, that it shouldn't be long......five to ten, maybe sooner if good behavior factors in (which isn't likely).
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Location: Kansas | 1DSoon - 2016-11-22 7:23 AM this thread is depressing
Why?
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Location: Dearing, GA | I like being single. I don't have anyone to answer to but my horse and myself. I date casually, but ideally I want someone who is okay with not seeing me everyday. I was with a man for 4 years, and I really thought I was going to marry him, but he had a problem with the horses and my commitment to them. I chose the horses! I'll echo what everyone else has said- I'd rather be alone than wishing I was.
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Location: Not Where I Want to Be | Frodo - 2016-11-22 9:43 AM 1DSoon - 2016-11-22 7:23 AM this thread is depressing Why?
not in a bad way.
It's just that I think that as humans we were genetically predispostioined to cohabitate.
So, for those that haven't found that partner, it sort of seems like it's sad to me.
Just an observation.
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Location: Oklahoma City OK | SilverCanChaser - 2016-11-21 7:57 PM Im 65 and single for the last 30 years - in looking back I know I didnt really know myself or love myself and so i settled just to be with someone. Id still like to be married but he will have to love raising barrel babies, have a desire to go to NFR, like to dance, enjoy TVG and want to see the K Derby and All American, be a good hand and able to start colts for me, like to dance, not be a smoker, enjoy wine with dinner, not be too old or too young, grown independent kids, own his ranch, - and most importantly Love the Lord! So ok it will take a miracle but why marry someone who isnt going to add to your life or want to do the things you like to do? Better to stay single.
This is it! I'm 62, never been married...more because I never wanted to divorce than anything. I love my independence and ability to be able to do whatever I want, whenever I want and not have to coincide my schedule with anyone else's. I have the best of both worlds...I have a "boyfriend" - in another town...we talk every night and see each other on weekends. We used to live together...that didn't work out, I moved out, now life is great for both of us. "Coupling" is VERY hard and I'm pretty lazy. I don't want to work that hard! ;-) With that being said, if you find a couple of the guys you just described, send one my way! |
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| 1DSoon - 2016-11-22 10:20 AM
Frodo - 2016-11-22 9:43 AM 1DSoon - 2016-11-22 7:23 AM this thread is depressing Why?
It's just that I think that as humans we were genetically predispostioined to cohabitate.
So, for those that haven't found that partner, it sort of seems like it's sad to me.
Just an observation.
It depends on perspective, I think. People find happiness in different things.
Not sure I agree completely about cohabitation, but I DO agree that in general human beings need social interaction (this coming from an introvert). I have a good family and a few good friends and don't feel like there's anything missing. Sure, if the right person comes along, great. But honestly, I couldn't imagine another person living with me right now. It makes my skin crawl to think of it. |
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Location: Bastrop, Texas | Just Plain Lucky - 2016-11-22 11:05 AM
1DSoon - 2016-11-22 10:20 AM
Frodo - 2016-11-22 9:43 AM 1DSoon - 2016-11-22 7:23 AM this thread is depressing Why?
It's just that I think that as humans we were genetically predispostioined to cohabitate.
So, for those that haven't found that partner, it sort of seems like it's sad to me.
Just an observation.
It depends on perspective, I think. People find happiness in different things.
Not sure I agree completely about cohabitation, but I DO agree that in general human beings need social interaction (this coming from an introvert ). I have a good family and a few good friends and don't feel like there's anything missing. Sure, if the right person comes along, great. But honestly, I couldn't imagine another person living with me right now. It makes my skin crawl to think of it.
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Location: Montana | Frodo - 2016-11-22 5:08 AM When asked why you're not married or in a relationship, tell them you're waiting for your significant other to get out of prison, that it shouldn't be long......five to ten, maybe sooner if good behavior factors in (which isn't likely).
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Location: Montana | 1DSoon - 2016-11-22 8:20 AM Frodo - 2016-11-22 9:43 AM 1DSoon - 2016-11-22 7:23 AM this thread is depressing Why?
It's just that I think that as humans we were genetically predispostioined to cohabitate.
So, for those that haven't found that partner, it sort of seems like it's sad to me.
Just an observation.
I agree, humans need interaction with each other, but it shouldn't be sad that we haven't found our signifcant other yet. Some of us would rather keep our high priorities and ideals, and be ready when that right man comes along rather than settle and be miserable just to have a relationship.
Plus you have to be happy with yourself first before ever being happy with someone else. Happines comes from within, not without, and while I believe it was fully intended by God from the beginning that each person should have their mate, we shouldn't try to ascribe our happiness from someone else. So, not depressing here...I'm just happy as I am, single, and if someone comes along that shares my ideals and priorities, I can be happy with him too. |
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Location: Not Where I Want to Be | mtcanchazer - 2016-11-22 12:59 PM 1DSoon - 2016-11-22 8:20 AM Frodo - 2016-11-22 9:43 AM 1DSoon - 2016-11-22 7:23 AM this thread is depressing Why?
It's just that I think that as humans we were genetically predispostioined to cohabitate.
So, for those that haven't found that partner, it sort of seems like it's sad to me.
Just an observation.
Plus you have to be happy with yourself first before ever being happy with someone else. Happines comes from within, not without, and while I believe it was fully intended by God from the beginning that each person should have their mate, we shouldn't try to ascribe our happiness from someone else. So, not depressing here...I'm just happy as I am, single, and if someone comes along that shares my ideals and priorities, I can be happy with him too.
I never said to settle.
Never said that
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Location: Montana | 1DSoon - 2016-11-22 11:15 AM mtcanchazer - 2016-11-22 12:59 PM 1DSoon - 2016-11-22 8:20 AM Frodo - 2016-11-22 9:43 AM 1DSoon - 2016-11-22 7:23 AM this thread is depressing Why?
It's just that I think that as humans we were genetically predispostioined to cohabitate.
So, for those that haven't found that partner, it sort of seems like it's sad to me.
Just an observation.
Plus you have to be happy with yourself first before ever being happy with someone else. Happines comes from within, not without, and while I believe it was fully intended by God from the beginning that each person should have their mate, we shouldn't try to ascribe our happiness from someone else. So, not depressing here...I'm just happy as I am, single, and if someone comes along that shares my ideals and priorities, I can be happy with him too.
Never said that
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Location: Cap'n Joan Rotgut.....alberta | my house was a lot cleaner when i was single and i could have a peaceful nap and not have someone ask me"are you sleeping" "why are you sleeping"...im pretty sure hes 1 step away from prying my eyelids open...
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| Bear - 2016-11-22 12:16 PM
Just Plain Lucky - 2016-11-22 11:05 AM
1DSoon - 2016-11-22 10:20 AM
Frodo - 2016-11-22 9:43 AM 1DSoon - 2016-11-22 7:23 AM this thread is depressing Why?
It's just that I think that as humans we were genetically predispostioined to cohabitate.
So, for those that haven't found that partner, it sort of seems like it's sad to me.
Just an observation.
It depends on perspective, I think. People find happiness in different things.
Not sure I agree completely about cohabitation, but I DO agree that in general human beings need social interaction (this coming from an introvert ). I have a good family and a few good friends and don't feel like there's anything missing. Sure, if the right person comes along, great. But honestly, I couldn't imagine another person living with me right now. It makes my skin crawl to think of it.
You sound like a lot of fun.
I AM a ton of fun.....at parties. At home by myself I'm delightfully boring....I..I mean enjoying my own company. Yeah, that's what I meant!
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| mtcanchazer - 2016-11-22 12:17 PM
1DSoon - 2016-11-22 11:15 AM mtcanchazer - 2016-11-22 12:59 PM 1DSoon - 2016-11-22 8:20 AM Frodo - 2016-11-22 9:43 AM 1DSoon - 2016-11-22 7:23 AM this thread is depressing Why?
It's just that I think that as humans we were genetically predispostioined to cohabitate.
So, for those that haven't found that partner, it sort of seems like it's sad to me.
Just an observation.
Plus you have to be happy with yourself first before ever being happy with someone else. Happines comes from within, not without, and while I believe it was fully intended by God from the beginning that each person should have their mate, we shouldn't try to ascribe our happiness from someone else. So, not depressing here...I'm just happy as I am, single, and if someone comes along that shares my ideals and priorities, I can be happy with him too.
Never said that
My brother in law believes similar to you 1D. He said to be once, whats the point in living if you don't have a family... kids a spouse? That bothered me for sometime and he didn't mean it in a mean way.
But I am very social, I have 7 nieces and nephews, wonderful siblings and parents and tons of great friends. Most of them are married with kids or engaged so sometimes I have a hard time finding someone to hangout with LOL.
Co-dependency is a very frustrating thing to me, mainly because I see people so unhappy and it frustrates me that they believe they cant do it without him/her. I want to have things because I earned them and I want to be a partner in a relationship. But with that said, I also expect the same from the man I end up with. I don't care if you make a lot of money but you better have goals and enjoy what you're doing or working on changing it.
I work 2 jobs and just purchased my own little hobby farm. I am terrified but I have my own trailer, car and many other nice things but I work hard!!! and I am PROUD of everything I have. One day, if he's out there... we wont "need" eachother for monetary value, we will need each other because we make a good team and its "right."
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Location: Montana | mruggles - 2016-11-22 12:06 PM my house was a lot cleaner when i was single and i could have a peaceful nap and not have someone ask me"are you sleeping" "why are you sleeping"...im pretty sure hes 1 step away from prying my eyelids open...
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I find that so funny! My parents fall asleep on their love seat every night watching TV. Dad is always asking mom "Are you asleep?" just about the time she nods off. The funny thing is my dad sleeps in his chair WAAAY more than my mom, LOL. |
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| 1DSoon - 2016-11-22 9:20 AM
Frodo - 2016-11-22 9:43 AM 1DSoon - 2016-11-22 7:23 AM this thread is depressing Why?
It's just that I think that as humans we were genetically predispostioined to cohabitate.
So, for those that haven't found that partner, it sort of seems like it's sad to me.
Just an observation.
I kind of feel the same way as 1D.
But then I realized I am married to the love of my life. I can't imagine my life without him. But I sure wouldn't like being with some one that doesn't love and value me as much as he does. I know I will never find anyone like him again. So I got to thinking if I hadn't been blessed to have him in my life, I would rather be single, too. |
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Shoot Yeah
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Location: Where you need a paddle... Oregon! | I'd love to have someone who lived close'ish, but not too close, that I could do fun things with, but not have to share my home with. Ha. The only issue I've found with that is most men are okay with that arrangement, but want to "date" other women, too. I can't do that. Also, I get random facebook messages from much younger guys (like, the age of my daughter, 20-something's) who "like older women". I shut those down real fast. I'm not sure where all the cute, nice, normal guys are.... Not in Lebanon, Oregon that's for sure. |
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 My Heart Be Happy
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Location: Arkansas | Lady - 2016-11-22 4:07 PM
I'd love to have someone who lived close'ish, but not too close, that I could do fun things with, but not have to share my home with. Ha. The only issue I've found with that is most men are okay with that arrangement, but want to "date" other women, too. I can't do that. Also, I get random facebook messages from much younger guys (like, the age of my daughter, 20-something's) who "like older women". I shut those down real fast. I'm not sure where all the cute, nice, normal guys are.... Not in Lebanon, Oregon that's for sure.
I'm going to apologize before I say it cause of how corny it is-----FARMERSONLY.COM  |
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Shoot Yeah
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Location: Where you need a paddle... Oregon! | Chandler's Mom - 2016-11-22 11:12 PM
Lady - 2016-11-22 4:07 PM
I'd love to have someone who lived close'ish, but not too close, that I could do fun things with, but not have to share my home with. Ha. The only issue I've found with that is most men are okay with that arrangement, but want to "date" other women, too. I can't do that. Also, I get random facebook messages from much younger guys (like, the age of my daughter, 20-something's) who "like older women". I shut those down real fast. I'm not sure where all the cute, nice, normal guys are.... Not in Lebanon, Oregon that's for sure.
I'm going to apologize before I say it cause of how corny it is-----FARMERSONLY.COM
Ugh! I am SO stubborn that I refuse to use online dating. AND my ex-husband was on every one of those sites within months of our separation and found his first girlfriend and the woman he's married to now on there. My pride won't allow me to go that route. Haha! |
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Take a Picture
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| I will just stick with Harley, my paint horse. He doesn't have very high expectations of a relationship and he expects me to pay for everything like most of the men I have met lately. |
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A Barrel Of Monkeys
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Location: Texas | Fun2Run - 2016-11-21 6:12 PM Divorced twice, too old to start over. I really enjoy doing my own things, I don't have to visit people I don't like, or go places I'd rather not go.
Edited to add: If I were to remarry again, he'd have to move next door.  |
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| I was married for 13 years. I thought we had it all...we were a well respected couple in our home town, we had a great boarding and training business, a construction company, a young daughter. Little did I know until 4 years ago he was gay. I had come across the knowledge of a 6 year affair he had with another man at a BBQ one day. I got in touch with said gentleman and he told me all about it. I confronted my husband and he acknowledged the affair. Obviously nothing I "have" will ever make him happy so I had to walk away. Ive been single since. I find it hard to trust many people. I feel as if he stole so much from me. I honestly enjoyed being married and having a family. Ive become very independent in the past 4 years and have my standards set high for the next man I have come into my life...so high Ive been told by many that I might as well be looking for that unicorn sitting on a pot of gold. It is what it is... Yes I enjoy being single as Ive now become my own person. I don't have to answer to anyone or have anyone question my way of thinking or where I am going...but I miss that too. |
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| mtcanchazer - 2016-11-22 11:59 AM
1DSoon - 2016-11-22 8:20 AM Frodo - 2016-11-22 9:43 AM 1DSoon - 2016-11-22 7:23 AM this thread is depressing Why?
It's just that I think that as humans we were genetically predispostioined to cohabitate.
So, for those that haven't found that partner, it sort of seems like it's sad to me.
Just an observation.
Plus you have to be happy with yourself first before ever being happy with someone else. Happines comes from within, not without, and while I believe it was fully intended by God from the beginning that each person should have their mate, we shouldn't try to ascribe our happiness from someone else. So, not depressing here...I'm just happy as I am, single, and if someone comes along that shares my ideals and priorities, I can be happy with him too.
Beautifully said! You can't rush fate. And everybody's fate/destiny is different. Just be happy :) You never know if there will be a tomorrow. . . |
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Location: Illinois | I'm single and LOVE IT!!!!!!!!!!
I grew up in a very broken home. To this day I don't know how I handled it if I didn't start riding at age 11. Wouldn't be the person I am today. I think of my childhood past as a positive, never let anyone let alone a man treat me how my mother was treated. It took me a very long time to realize my self worth. I am financially secure, independent, and very happy with my life. To be honest I feel like a man would just complicate things! If one comes into my life someday that will be fine. Wouldn't mind having someone to share some fun times with but I'm in NOOOOO hurry!
I bartend on the side... And let me tell you the more I'm around men the more horses I want |
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My Heart Be Happy
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Location: Arkansas | Lady - 2016-11-22 11:32 PM
Chandler's Mom - 2016-11-22 11:12 PM
Lady - 2016-11-22 4:07 PM
I'd love to have someone who lived close'ish, but not too close, that I could do fun things with, but not have to share my home with. Ha. The only issue I've found with that is most men are okay with that arrangement, but want to "date" other women, too. I can't do that. Also, I get random facebook messages from much younger guys (like, the age of my daughter, 20-something's) who "like older women". I shut those down real fast. I'm not sure where all the cute, nice, normal guys are.... Not in Lebanon, Oregon that's for sure.
I'm going to apologize before I say it cause of how corny it is-----FARMERSONLY.COM
Ugh! I am SO stubborn that I refuse to use online dating. AND my ex-husband was on every one of those sites within months of our separation and found his first girlfriend and the woman he's married to now on there. My pride won't allow me to go that route. Haha!
I promise I said that tongue in cheek because that's just not my thing either!! For grins and giggles when my bf and I broke up about 3 year ago I thought I'd look and see what it was about----never been on a website like that in my life. When it pulled up men it did it by area----the first guy was way older and a brother to a man in our riding club and the second one was someone that we had travelled/trail rode with, gone to church with, and he and his wife and my bf and I were quite close at one time. I said, Lord help me if that's not a sign then I don't know what is!!! I got off and never looked back. (Within one month Sean and I were back together, and he's never let me live it down that A) I went on the site, and B) that both of the first choices they gave me were people I knew. I didn't see nearly as much mirth in it as he did!) |
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Shoot Yeah
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Location: Where you need a paddle... Oregon! | Chandler's Mom - 2016-11-23 9:06 PM
Lady - 2016-11-22 11:32 PM
Chandler's Mom - 2016-11-22 11:12 PM
Lady - 2016-11-22 4:07 PM
I'd love to have someone who lived close'ish, but not too close, that I could do fun things with, but not have to share my home with. Ha. The only issue I've found with that is most men are okay with that arrangement, but want to "date" other women, too. I can't do that. Also, I get random facebook messages from much younger guys (like, the age of my daughter, 20-something's) who "like older women". I shut those down real fast. I'm not sure where all the cute, nice, normal guys are.... Not in Lebanon, Oregon that's for sure.
I'm going to apologize before I say it cause of how corny it is-----FARMERSONLY.COM
Ugh! I am SO stubborn that I refuse to use online dating. AND my ex-husband was on every one of those sites within months of our separation and found his first girlfriend and the woman he's married to now on there. My pride won't allow me to go that route. Haha!
I promise I said that tongue in cheek because that's just not my thing either!! For grins and giggles when my bf and I broke up about 3 year ago I thought I'd look and see what it was about----never been on a website like that in my life. When it pulled up men it did it by area----the first guy was way older and a brother to a man in our riding club and the second one was someone that we had travelled/trail rode with, gone to church with, and he and his wife and my bf and I were quite close at one time. I said, Lord help me if that's not a sign then I don't know what is!!! I got off and never looked back. (Within one month Sean and I were back together, and he's never let me live it down that A ) I went on the site, and B ) that both of the first choices they gave me were people I knew. I didn't see nearly as much mirth in it as he did! )
I was getting heat from a friend at work. She kept pressuring me to look into online stuff. I had the same experience you did.... I don't recall which one it was, but it brought up a guy my daughter works with and another guy that I don't recall right now. I got off there and never went back! I really am surprised that of all the people that I know - through work, my high school aged son, my grown daughter, horses, etc. that there has not been a single person who I have met. And to make it worse, nobody even asks me if I'm single or why I'm single. I think I'm a real catch! Haha. |
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My Heart Be Happy
Posts: 9159
Location: Arkansas | Lady - 2016-11-23 10:32 PM
Chandler's Mom - 2016-11-23 9:06 PM
Lady - 2016-11-22 11:32 PM
Chandler's Mom - 2016-11-22 11:12 PM
Lady - 2016-11-22 4:07 PM
I'd love to have someone who lived close'ish, but not too close, that I could do fun things with, but not have to share my home with. Ha. The only issue I've found with that is most men are okay with that arrangement, but want to "date" other women, too. I can't do that. Also, I get random facebook messages from much younger guys (like, the age of my daughter, 20-something's) who "like older women". I shut those down real fast. I'm not sure where all the cute, nice, normal guys are.... Not in Lebanon, Oregon that's for sure.
I'm going to apologize before I say it cause of how corny it is-----FARMERSONLY.COM
Ugh! I am SO stubborn that I refuse to use online dating. AND my ex-husband was on every one of those sites within months of our separation and found his first girlfriend and the woman he's married to now on there. My pride won't allow me to go that route. Haha!
I promise I said that tongue in cheek because that's just not my thing either!! For grins and giggles when my bf and I broke up about 3 year ago I thought I'd look and see what it was about----never been on a website like that in my life. When it pulled up men it did it by area----the first guy was way older and a brother to a man in our riding club and the second one was someone that we had travelled/trail rode with, gone to church with, and he and his wife and my bf and I were quite close at one time. I said, Lord help me if that's not a sign then I don't know what is!!! I got off and never looked back. (Within one month Sean and I were back together, and he's never let me live it down that A ) I went on the site, and B ) that both of the first choices they gave me were people I knew. I didn't see nearly as much mirth in it as he did! )
I was getting heat from a friend at work. She kept pressuring me to look into online stuff. I had the same experience you did.... I don't recall which one it was, but it brought up a guy my daughter works with and another guy that I don't recall right now. I got off there and never went back! I really am surprised that of all the people that I know - through work, my high school aged son, my grown daughter, horses, etc. that there has not been a single person who I have met. And to make it worse, nobody even asks me if I'm single or why I'm single. I think I'm a real catch! Haha.
I see some very attractive ladies in our area with plenty to offer that have a time of it even getting asked on one date. And I wonder why. But then again, with some of the guys in our area----it might be a good thing!!! (I live in a very small town where a lot of the folks grew up together, so maybe that's part of it also; might be like dating your sibling or something!) |
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| hoofs_in_motion - 2016-11-21 1:11 PM I have multiple personalities......
but are they all single and happy about it? |
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 On the Countdown
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Location: Texas | I'm 31 and single. Some days I wish I wasn't but most days I'm very content with it. I don't have to answer to anyone get to go and do whatever I want. If something needs done, I usually call dad. I can't say I've ever had a real boyfriend. I get to go on vacations to great places. What scares me the most about being single, being by myself when my parents are gone. I'm the only child, so it worries me some days. |
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Undercover Amish Mafia Member
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Location: Kansas | sodapop - 2016-11-25 2:27 PM hoofs_in_motion - 2016-11-21 1:11 PM I have multiple personalities...... but are they all single and happy about it?
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 Strong Willed Woman
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Location: Prosser, WA | I like reading this. I've always wondered why people settle for someone that treats them like crap. I've always thought it would be much more pleasant to be alone than to be with someone that doesn't treat you well. Good for you ladies! |
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Location: Georgia | I'm a happily single mother of 2 boys, 3 horses and 4 dogs. I haven't been divorced very long, it'll be one year in January, but I was blessed to have a very pleasant divorce. My ex and I get along better now than we did the last 3 years of our marriage. I enjoy raising my kids through the week on the weekends their father gets them, I go to barrel races. I know whole heartedly my kids are happy and safe with their father and it also gives me a break to enjoy what I love doing.
The factor of trusting a man with my feelings and emotions is gone and I'm content doing "me". I changed my life for my marriage and my kids and it made me terrible person. I'm now finding myself again and I can say I'm much more patient with my kids, I'm more focused with my horses, and I've found a great friend in my ex.
Needless to say, being single is pretty great in my opinion. It's what people take out of certain situations that make them the person they choose to be. |
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