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| The friendship thread has me thinking. Pick the answer that best fits you. I'm curious what type of people are usual's for an online forum. |
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Location: Not Where I Want to Be | most people will pick introvert because it's easier to label themselves than it is to admit a charectar flaw.
so you poll will be statistically biased.
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Location: Phoenix | 1DSoon - 2017-03-28 1:06 PM
most people will pick introvert because it's easier to label themselves than it is to admit a charectar flaw.
so you poll will be statistically biased.
Okayyyyyyyyyyy |
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| 1DSoon - 2017-03-28 2:06 PM
most people will pick introvert because it's easier to label themselves than it is to admit a charectar flaw.
so you poll will be statistically biased.
How is being an introvert a character flaw? |
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| I voted "somewhere in the middle" because I am not shy or have social anxiety but I can enjoy alone time. I dont really like to be the center of attention but I can be outgoing at times. Depending on my mood lol. |
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| scwebster - 2017-03-28 3:16 PM
I voted "somewhere in the middle" because I am not shy or have social anxiety but I can enjoy alone time. I dont really like to be the center of attention but I can be outgoing at times. Depending on my mood lol.
Being shy or having social anxiety is not the same thing as being an introvert. |
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| SloRide - 2017-03-28 3:22 PM scwebster - 2017-03-28 3:16 PM I voted "somewhere in the middle" because I am not shy or have social anxiety but I can enjoy alone time. I dont really like to be the center of attention but I can be outgoing at times. Depending on my mood lol. Being shy or having social anxiety is not the same thing as being an introvert.
After I read up on it I realize that. I actually have a lot of introvert traits. |
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Location: WI | I had to take a quiz. I'm an extrovert with some ambivert qualities. |
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That's White "Man" to You
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| 1DSoon - 2017-03-28 3:06 PM most people will pick introvert because it's easier to label themselves than it is to admit a charectar flaw.
so you poll will be statistically biased.
So you are saying I shouldn't publish this in any scientific journal? Ah Shucks. |
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Location: Deep South | SloRide - 2017-03-28 3:22 PM
scwebster - 2017-03-28 3:16 PM
I voted "somewhere in the middle" because I am not shy or have social anxiety but I can enjoy alone time. I dont really like to be the center of attention but I can be outgoing at times. Depending on my mood lol.
Being shy or having social anxiety is not the same thing as being an introvert.
Exactly.
Introverts recharge by spending time alone. They lose energy from being around people for long periods of time, particularly large crowds. Extroverts, on the other hand, gain energy from other people.
This is the most simplified difference between the two. Has nothing to do with your "personality" like if you're shy or outgoing. I can walk up to nearly any stranger and strike up polite conversation. But socializing, even with a small group of close friends, is mentally exhausting to me. I need time to watch tv by myself, ride my horses alone, just sit down and scroll through Facebook for 30 minutes to be my best self. My husband on the other hand is the exact opposite. He craves and needs face time, interaction. Being alone makes him restless, anxious, agitated. |
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Location: The best kept secret in TX | BamaCanChaser - 2017-03-28 3:55 PM SloRide - 2017-03-28 3:22 PM scwebster - 2017-03-28 3:16 PM I voted "somewhere in the middle" because I am not shy or have social anxiety but I can enjoy alone time. I dont really like to be the center of attention but I can be outgoing at times. Depending on my mood lol. Being shy or having social anxiety is not the same thing as being an introvert. Exactly. Introverts recharge by spending time alone. They lose energy from being around people for long periods of time, particularly large crowds. Extroverts, on the other hand, gain energy from other people. This is the most simplified difference between the two. Has nothing to do with your "personality" like if you're shy or outgoing. I can walk up to nearly any stranger and strike up polite conversation. But socializing, even with a small group of close friends, is mentally exhausting to me. I need time to watch tv by myself, ride my horses alone, just sit down and scroll through Facebook for 30 minutes to be my best self. My husband on the other hand is the exact opposite. He craves and needs face time, interaction. Being alone makes him restless, anxious, agitated.
My SO is the same. I am an Introvert. I do like spending time with friends and family but I agree, It is mentally exhausting. I usually snap at my SO if he smothers me too bad. |
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Location: Florida | Why would being an extrovert be a flaw? Try re-wording that to a very out going person and it is not a flaw. I love talking to strangers on the train, bus, or even an elevator. One of the best parts of going on cruise is meeting new people especially from other countries. Try it, you'll like it. |
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Location: Wonderful Wyoming | I picked in the middle because I can get along with about anyone, can strike up a conversation with pretty much anybody at a horse show or barrel race (because you just aren't cool if you can't talk horses!), BUT I have very few close close friends. I don't like drama. |
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Location: Pacific Northwest | I'm an introvert. I don't have social anxiety at all. But like others have said, I find being around people exhausting. If I go out and party on Friday, I need Saturday to recharge alone and not talk to people. This was especially true when I worked retail and had to talk to people ALL day.
And like others have said, my SO is extrovert. Her idea of relaxing is going out. We make it work though. |
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Location: CTX | BamaCanChaser - 2017-03-28 3:55 PM SloRide - 2017-03-28 3:22 PM scwebster - 2017-03-28 3:16 PM I voted "somewhere in the middle" because I am not shy or have social anxiety but I can enjoy alone time. I dont really like to be the center of attention but I can be outgoing at times. Depending on my mood lol. Being shy or having social anxiety is not the same thing as being an introvert. Exactly. Introverts recharge by spending time alone. They lose energy from being around people for long periods of time, particularly large crowds. Extroverts, on the other hand, gain energy from other people. This is the most simplified difference between the two. Has nothing to do with your "personality" like if you're shy or outgoing. I can walk up to nearly any stranger and strike up polite conversation. But socializing, even with a small group of close friends, is mentally exhausting to me. I need time to watch tv by myself, ride my horses alone, just sit down and scroll through Facebook for 30 minutes to be my best self. My husband on the other hand is the exact opposite. He craves and needs face time, interaction. Being alone makes him restless, anxious, agitated.
So funny, I am also the introvert, and my husband is an extrovert.
It took him a long time to accept that I need my "me-time". He thought he had done something wrong when I told him to leave me alone the first couple of times, but after sitting him down and explaining that I am wired totally different from him he started to understand a bit.
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| I like my solitude. I have no problems being alone. I rarely initiate conversation with people, where as my husband will know every cashier, nieghbor and thier cat by name. Having said that, I'm not shy about putting myself out there--if I have to. |
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| BamaCanChaser - 2017-03-28 3:55 PM
SloRide - 2017-03-28 3:22 PM
scwebster - 2017-03-28 3:16 PM
I voted "somewhere in the middle" because I am not shy or have social anxiety but I can enjoy alone time. I dont really like to be the center of attention but I can be outgoing at times. Depending on my mood lol.
Being shy or having social anxiety is not the same thing as being an introvert.
Exactly.
Introverts recharge by spending time alone. They lose energy from being around people for long periods of time, particularly large crowds. Extroverts, on the other hand, gain energy from other people.
This is the most simplified difference between the two. Has nothing to do with your "personality" like if you're shy or outgoing. I can walk up to nearly any stranger and strike up polite conversation. But socializing, even with a small group of close friends, is mentally exhausting to me. I need time to watch tv by myself, ride my horses alone, just sit down and scroll through Facebook for 30 minutes to be my best self. My husband on the other hand is the exact opposite. He craves and needs face time, interaction. Being alone makes him restless, anxious, agitated.
This is a good explanation of an introvert. I get wiped out from social situations and absolutely need to recharge alone.
I would also like to extend my earlier comment and say that having anxiety and being shy is not a flaw in any way. Lots of good people have anxiety. |
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That's White "Man" to You
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| Very interesting that over 88% of those responding consider themselves having introverted qualities. Do you think Introverts tend to spend more time online rather than having relationships in person? Do you think the connection between two people is comparable in online vs personal relationships? Or is it just horse people? lol
Edited by Whiteboy 2017-03-29 9:03 AM
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Location: SW North Dakota | Whiteboy - 2017-03-29 8:02 AM Very interesting that over 88% of those responding consider themselves having introverted qualities. Do you think Introverts tend to spend more time online rather than having relationships in person? Do you think the connection between two people is comparable in online vs personal relationships? Or is it just horse people? lol
I picked introvert, even though I was voted "class clown" and "most popular" in high school. I like being around people and crowds. Public speaking is my favorite thing, too! BUTTTT, I love my own company. Being by myself, on a horse, with my dog in the boonies with no internet, phone, TV, etc. is incredibly appealing and I very much enjoy my life in the middle of nowhere.
I do think the internet (facebook, etc) is a new way that socially awkward people can express themselves. I have a few aquaintences that honestly struggle with face-to-face human interaction that seem to be WAY more active on social media than the "people people" that I know. Coincidence? I don't think so. I think its a way they can express themselves without having to process the response of their audience in person. |
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| scwebster - 2017-03-28 3:16 PM I voted "somewhere in the middle" because I am not shy or have social anxiety but I can enjoy alone time. I dont really like to be the center of attention but I can be outgoing at times. Depending on my mood lol.
This^^ I am very content with my phone not ringing, being home is my favorite place to be but I also enjoy good company. |
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Location: Mississippi | I am a textbook introvert. I used to consider this a big flaw (especially in my teens and 20's when you are expected to be 'social') but now I am perfectly happy with it. I would do fine not to leave the house for days and because I work from home, that is actually the case alot of the time. But give me a barrel race to go to and it's a different story! |
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Location: Kentucky | I work with the public every day, so I need my time to decompress. I'm exhausted after a full day of interacting with people. I don't mind talking to people, although small talk is painful for me. I'm not shy, I can walk up to anyone and talk to them. I consider myself an introvert. I think the world needs introverts. We are the thinkers, the creative ones. The extroverts will execute our ideas for us. You need both to be productive.
Someone mentioned talking to new people on vacation, dinners, etc... that sounds like my hell lol. I just don't really care enough about most people to want to get to know them. Harsh or not, it's the truth. |
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Location: 100 miles from Nowhere, AR | What do you call it when you can talk to anyone face to face, but just thinking about talking on the phone gives you hives? |
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Location: 31 lengths farms | I also voted somewhere in the middle...I have a lot of social anxiety but still function. I've literally gotten horses loaded and turned around and headed home or over to a local arena that rarely if ever has anyone else at it just because the whole idea of talking and dealing with other people makes me anxious. However M-F I work in a retail setting with for animal health supplies, before this I worked for 18 years in the school system with special needs kids and for 27 years coaching gymnastics at every level. |
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Location: Texas | Introvert. I love the company of my family and good friends but the idea of having to sit somewhere while someone talks my ear off, I find exhausting. |
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| Introvert. I suffer from BAD anxiety when it comes to meeting new people. But put me at a race or anywhere around horses and I'll talk to anyone. HOWEVER being around people exhausts me. I suck at small talk and do not really care to chit chat with people I have nothing in common with. My husband is older than me and was not into horses before we met. So when we meet friends of his, I suck at making small talk. They probably think Im stuck up when in reality I am shy and have no desire to talk about things I know very little to nothing about. He on the other hand is a social butterfly and can and will talk to anyone. He loves being in groups of people and entertaining. Me on the other hand stay on the verge of a panic attack. I had to explain to him when I worked at a job I was required to talk constantly for almost 9 hours a day that I wasnt mad at him. I was mentally exhausted and wanted to be quiet for a bit. I now work in an office setting as a bookkeeper. If I want to stay in my office and not talk to anyone, I can. If I feel like being social, I can walk out in the showroom and do that too. The other 3 ladies in the office and I have NOTHING in common other than our place of business, and you know, I LOVE IT!!! My previous job was hell at times do to working with a fellow barrel racer/horse person that is so narcisistic you wouldnt believe the crap this person said to me!!!!!
I was actually told I am an iconoclast. I looked it up and yes thats me. I do not go along with social norms. shoot I married a man 25 years older than me! Always been one to challenge "the status quo" and will continue to be. Once I grasped what an iconoclast is, I am finally able to feel more comfortable with myself. |
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| wyoming barrel racer - 2017-03-28 3:15 PM
I picked in the middle because I can get along with about anyone, can strike up a conversation with pretty much anybody at a horse show or barrel race (because you just aren't cool if you can't talk horses!), BUT I have very few close close friends. I don't like drama.
This is me, too. Which is probably why me and you are friends.
I will say *exactly* what I think or feel about a situation or person, but have no need to be the most popular person or the one that everyone is talking to (or about.) |
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