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| Im just curious as to what the rules or understanding is in your home. Do you do all of the cooking/cleaning? How much is your spouse responsible for, or your children? Are others in the home expected to clean up after themselves? If they make a mess are they expected to clean it up? Does anyone else load the dish washer other than yourself? Give me the run down.. | |
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| Well, I might as well live alone for all my husband does. He'll help with laundry, vaccuuming, and drying dishes if I get after him.
I don't have kids and the dogs aren't much help. lol
I do the chores as I see fit. The dishes and laundry might collect for a couple days. If he complains I tell him to do it. I know there will some on here that will landblast me for letting him get away with it, but it's easier to do it myself than yell and scream and argue about it. He helps more when he knows I have meetings or other things to do, but barrel races don't count. lol | |
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Location: South Georgia | My husband and I are both OCD. We have no children, just dogs. We clean up after ourselves and/or clean something up as we see a need for it to be done. He usually washes and folds/hangs all of our laundry. I do it when I am home and can help. We split the dishwasher duty. We both hate unloading it. He takes the trash out usually. He always puts the bin by the road on trash day, but I get home before him, so I walk them back up to the house. I usually clean the floors and vacuum, although we have a Botvac Neato that vacuums all floors three times a week on its own. We just kind of do things when we notice them and take care of it. He has a thing for the bed needing to be made before he leaves for work, so he does that. I have a thing for countertops needing to be spotless and item-free. I even stand on an angle so I can see the shine on the granite so I can tell if it needs wiped with cleaner. We are crazy people, but our house is always spotless. We can be ready for guests at any moment. I like that.
We do have a housekeeper that comes in once every other MONTH to do deep cleaning: baseboards, wipe all the mouldings, clean fan blades, dust blinds, mop wood floors, scrub tub, windex windows, all that jazz...
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Location: on the fine line between insanity and geniusness | This year I have been the one to do everything since I quit my job to stay home with Brody. I do ask that dishes make it to the sink and laundry to the hamper- but everything else is on me! Ricky does take care of everything outside, heck that’s the job I want!!! With a one year old in the house, it seems all that I do is clean! My biggest rule that I make EVERYONE follow is not wearing shoes inside the house. I work and sweep constantly to keep the floors clean because ANYTHING Brody picks up goes in his mouth, so I’m pretty anal about dirty boots staying at the door! My husband is pretty good to help when he’s home, but with him penning cows for a living- the fall is our busiest time of year. It will be interesting to see how the dynamics change once I start school in January, my house may just be a wreck for a year! | |
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| I don’t work so I do all the housework. On holidays etc. my husband helps clean up. When first married I used to work evenings and weekends when he could keep the kids (too broke for any money to be going to a babysitter). On the weekends he would do laundry, clean and have dinner on the table. I have always considered if both spouses work both help, if one is at home, then most household chores fall to that one. | |
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Location: southeast Texas | My 2 cents, if both work, house hold chores not getting done to one or the others satisfaction, pay someone to come in and get it done.
On someone's death bed what are you going to remember, a clean house or the memories y'all made....... | |
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| Interesting topic! :)
Married 7 years - no kids, just dogs and horses.
I do 95% of all the house work - he will help (load the dishwasher, throw in a load of clothes once in awhile) and I WILL HEAR about it - like It was the biggest accomplishment ever. LOL. however we do have a monthly cleaning lady because it is afforadable and just keeps things from getting too far gone if we are busy.
I do 98% of the laundry and he wears enough clothes for 3 ppl I swear.
He takes care of mowing, snow removal, mouse traps, gutters, putting bales out for my horses, etc.
Can't complain too much! I've never mowed the lawn at our home. haha. | |
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| I do it all... inside and outside chores. Im.a stay at home mom, my husband will help out a little on the weekends. I will recruit my daughter when I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed though and she's pretty good about doing it right. I prefer to do everything because I'm very particular on how I like things done.. it's kind of a curse lol! | |
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Location: on the fine line between insanity and geniusness | star1218 - 2017-12-14 9:47 AM
Interesting topic! :)
Married 7 years - no kids, just dogs and horses.
I do 95% of all the house work - he will help (load the dishwasher, throw in a load of clothes once in awhile) and I WILL HEAR about it - like It was the biggest accomplishment ever. LOL. however we do have a monthly cleaning lady because it is afforadable and just keeps things from getting too far gone if we are busy.
I do 98% of the laundry and he wears enough clothes for 3 ppl I swear.
He takes care of mowing, snow removal, mouse traps, gutters, putting bales out for my horses, etc.
Can't complain too much! I've never mowed the lawn at our home. haha.
This made me laugh at its accuracy! My husband is the same way!! Lawd he wants a sticker on his chart for swapping the laundry from the washer to the dryer, but when it’s all said and done 90% of the clothes are his!! I don’t understand how he goes through that many sets of clothes in a day?!? | |
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Location: MN | Ive been pretty blessed with a man that loves to cook so I do most of the cleaning of the kitchen, but I would still say its about half and half. I go into OCD spells every once in a while where I like the sinks to be empty all of the time but that maybe lasts a few days and then I need a break from dishes ha! So then he takes over. I do most of the laundry. The task we both HATE. But he does wash all of his own workout clothes (thank goodness). We have a cleaner come every 3 weeks or so to do some deep cleaning and dusting to save us some time. Plus, it is super nice to come home to a clean, fresh smelling home. I take care of the horses, he takes care of the dogs. Its pretty split around our house I feel like. Were both young, no kids, 2 dogs, 2 horses and I think we make a pretty great team!  | |
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Location: East Texas | First it is not my house or her house, it is our house. Since we have been married (14yrs), I have worked about 70hrs a week for most of the year. So that left her to do most of the household chores. This year I have moved to more normal hours, and I do more, but she still get the majority of it done. Plus my daughter is getting old enough to help out. We do not really have any set rules. If it needs done, then we do it. We see the trash is full...we take it out. We all take laundry to the laundry room or it does not get washed. My daughter has even started to do the laundry when she sees it needs done. Now that could be because grandma spoils her and will stop by and do her laundry for her so she feels guilty and helps with ours. lol As far as outside work, it is mostly the same. We all split up what ever needs to be done. My wife likes doing outdoor chores more than inside chores.
Like someone said earlier. Pay someone if it causes and argument. We have someone come by once a week and they help tremendously. My wife also works and is now putting in as many hours as I do so it has been a life saver, well, at least an argument saver. None of us mind helping, but it seems like there are not enough hrs to get every thing done. | |
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Location: Louisiana | No "rules", we just get done what needs to get done LOL.
Outside, I handle feeding the horses while he feeds dogs, pigs, and cows. I do help him put hay out bc it's sooo much easier with 2 people to get through gates and such.
Inside, he does all of his laundry, I do the rest. Dishes, ah dishes...I HATE dishes, but I do most of them reluctantly. We both cook, but I make more of a mess at it...he says I try to use every single utensil while making a recipe LOL. I do the vacuuming, sweeping, mopping. I do all that stuff, but he is actually a much neater person than I am, so most of the time I'm cleaning MY mess haha.
Only real "rules" are no shoes on the carpet, which means they come off at the door, and the dog stays in her kennel if we're not inside. I think it's split pretty even...I do more inside and he does more outside, and we both do some of each. | |
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| We pretty well split the load but I try to do the majority of the laundry and the cleaning because he takes care of more of the bills because he makes more than I do. We don't have any kids so I don't know anything about that, but my other half and I split the household chores pretty even. | |
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Location: California | I started to respond to this and it made me realize a little more than I wanted to... I do 100% of the cleaning. He will do a load of laundry once in awhile of his own clothes if I am gone for a day or two. I make the bed, do 100% of the cooking, grocery shopping, and clean up after. He leaves his dishes and beer cans out and clothes in piles around the house. He will put big bales out when we feed those or feed if I am gone but if I am home I feed the horses typically. The catch is I work more than he does. He doesn't have a day job. Trades cattle and works rodeos during the seasons but winter and week days he is off. I work personal and outside horses every day that I am home, work for a trainer a couple days a week and work the sale barn once a week. This was a depressing post LOL. But it'll make some ladies appreciate their men  | |
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| Ashley Lynn - 2017-12-14 10:06 AM
star1218 - 2017-12-14 9:47 AM
Interesting topic! :)
Married 7 years - no kids, just dogs and horses.
I do 95% of all the house work - he will help (load the dishwasher, throw in a load of clothes once in awhile) and I WILL HEAR about it - like It was the biggest accomplishment ever. LOL. however we do have a monthly cleaning lady because it is afforadable and just keeps things from getting too far gone if we are busy.
I do 98% of the laundry and he wears enough clothes for 3 ppl I swear.
He takes care of mowing, snow removal, mouse traps, gutters, putting bales out for my horses, etc.
Can't complain too much! I've never mowed the lawn at our home. haha.
This made me laugh at its accuracy! My husband is the same way!! Lawd he wants a sticker on his chart for swapping the laundry from the washer to the dryer, but when it’s all said and done 90% of the clothes are his!! I don’t understand how he goes through that many sets of clothes in a day?!?
LOL!!!
Do you live where it's cold? Lord Mercy - the other day he peeled off IN ONE SOLID UNIT no less than under armour, a t shirt, a long sleeve t shirt and a sweat shirt.
I was like NEWP. I wont wash that until it's been pulled apart dude.
In all seriousness, it's pretty balanced around our place. <3 | |
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| My hubby takes care of the horses and yard. Most of the inside work is left to me. He leaves stuff out and I come behind him all the time picking up after him. He does like to cook thank gosh cause I am not an avid cook. I clean up after he cooks. If I cook, I still clean up. He doesnt realize that we have a dish washer. He just parks his dishes next to the sink most times with the left over food still on it. He piles his clothes up next to the laundry bin in the bathroom. I gripped about it the first couple of years but I kind of gave up on it. He will do a load of his laundry if he is running short, but if there are clean clothes in the dryer they get thrown in a basket for me to find. I have all but banished him from the landry room. We grocery shop together mostly. He takes out/hauls off the trash. I work full time and have a side gig. We both pay bills but he pays for more than I do. Hes a dang good man, I just dont have him fully house broke yet.
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Location: Not Where I Want to Be | scwebster - 2017-12-14 12:43 PM My hubby takes care of the horses and yard. Most of the inside work is left to me. He leaves stuff out and I come behind him all the time picking up after him. He does like to cook thank gosh cause I am not an avid cook. I clean up after he cooks. If I cook, I still clean up. He doesnt realize that we have a dish washer. He just parks his dishes next to the sink most times with the left over food still on it. He piles his clothes up next to the laundry bin in the bathroom. I gripped about it the first couple of years but I kind of gave up on it. He will do a load of his laundry of he is running short, but if there are clean clothes in the dryer they get thrown in a basket for me to find. I have all but banished him from the landry room. We grocery shop together mostly. I work full time and have a side gig. We both pay bills but he pays for more than I do. In a perfect world he would pick up after himself without me having to. Hes a dang good man, I just dont have him fully house broke yet.
He doesn't respect you.
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Location: OH. IO | I do it all lol.my husband is spoiled and I envy him as well.He lives everyday like there won't be another.if he's not hunting he's fishing.Yes he workseveryday but has ALOT of time for his hobbies.I mow because I love it.i take care of of pony and donkey because I wanted them.I do housework cause im OCD and he can't do it good enough lol.However,we are remodeling right now and he is doing the work.When my momma was alive she absolutely loved him.While I was cleaning he was helping the kids with homework or taking them fishing or hunting.Mom always said,they are only at home for so long,get all the time you can now,the laundry will still be there lol.I HONESTLY WISH I WAS MORE LIKE HIM,no one will ever be able to say he didn't live his life to the fullest because he lives everyday like it's his last:) | |
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Location: MN | star1218 - 2017-12-14 11:14 AM Ashley Lynn - 2017-12-14 10:06 AM star1218 - 2017-12-14 9:47 AM Interesting topic! :)
Married 7 years - no kids, just dogs and horses.
I do 95% of all the house work - he will help (load the dishwasher, throw in a load of clothes once in awhile) and I WILL HEAR about it - like It was the biggest accomplishment ever. LOL. however we do have a monthly cleaning lady because it is afforadable and just keeps things from getting too far gone if we are busy.
I do 98% of the laundry and he wears enough clothes for 3 ppl I swear.
He takes care of mowing, snow removal, mouse traps, gutters, putting bales out for my horses, etc.
Can't complain too much! I've never mowed the lawn at our home. haha. This made me laugh at its accuracy! My husband is the same way!! Lawd he wants a sticker on his chart for swapping the laundry from the washer to the dryer, but when it’s all said and done 90% of the clothes are his!! I don’t understand how he goes through that many sets of clothes in a day?!? LOL!!! Do you live where it's cold? Lord Mercy - the other day he peeled off IN ONE SOLID UNIT no less than under armour, a t shirt, a long sleeve t shirt and a sweat shirt. I was like NEWP. I wont wash that until it's been pulled apart dude. In all seriousness, it's pretty balanced around our place. <3
SAME HERE!! I ask him everytime I do the laudry, where the HECK does it all come from?! Because he claims he wears his pants 2 times before he throws them in the hamper.....but the pants to days ratio doesnt add up. Ever lol. They appear out of mid-air. I always have half as many clothes as he does. | |
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Location: Jersey Girl | My husband and I both work. Ideally it should be both of us doing it. But he pays for someone to come do basic cleaning every 2 weeks. That started when I was sick and just couldn't do it. Hubby also did all the laundry and most of the dishes. Now that I am better I am doing the majority of it. Seems that hubby just needs a break or he decided since it was pretty much all on him for a year and an half that it was my turn now.
I expect everyone to clean up after themselves, including my grown son that still lives at home. Does that happen? Not always.
as for cooking I am the only one that cooks and I hardly ever do anymore. If I get somehting ready ahead of time my hubby will put it in the over but he will not take it upon himself to make something for dinner. | |
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Location: North Central Iowa Land of white frozen grass | My wife will not let me in the kitchen and it's a good thing. If I new how to cook I would weigh 400 lbs. I do everything outside except the flowers around the house. She will not let me touch anything in the laundry room of her clothes as she is afraid i might ruin something. I do all my own clothes except the good stuff she has gotten for me. The only way I can clean the house is if she is gone because I never put stuff back where she wants it put. It's worked great for 36 years this way. If I would have never got married my house would be spotless but with a wife and 2 daughters it is best for my health to just keep my mouth shut a lot of times and go outside. But it's been a lot of fun being a father to 2 barrel daughters. | |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | No rules in our house, both my boys are grown and have their own homes so its just me and hubby and after 37 years of living under the same roof we pretty much do our own thing we know when to pick up and help out one another and get things done when needed.  | |
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| 1DSoon - 2017-12-14 11:49 AM scwebster - 2017-12-14 12:43 PM My hubby takes care of the horses and yard. Most of the inside work is left to me. He leaves stuff out and I come behind him all the time picking up after him. He does like to cook thank gosh cause I am not an avid cook. I clean up after he cooks. If I cook, I still clean up. He doesnt realize that we have a dish washer. He just parks his dishes next to the sink most times with the left over food still on it. He piles his clothes up next to the laundry bin in the bathroom. I gripped about it the first couple of years but I kind of gave up on it. He will do a load of his laundry if he is running short, but if there are clean clothes in the dryer they get thrown in a basket for me to find. I have all but banished him from the landry room. We grocery shop together mostly. He takes out/hauls off the trash. I work full time and have a side gig. We both pay bills but he pays for more than I do. In a perfect world he would pick up after himself without me having to. Hes a dang good man, I just dont have him fully house broke yet. He doesn't respect you.
You should divorce him
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Location: Deep South | I will admit that I'm a pretty terrible housewife. We both work full time jobs. My horses are at my parents until we finish our barn, so I spend another 2 hours over there after I get off work. Hubs is not a horse person, so those chores are 100% my own. I wouldn't even know how to describe our dinner situation. College kids diet? I know we never eat out and we don't starve. Where the food comes from is your guess as good as mine.
We split laundry 50/50. I have enough clothes to last at least a month without doing any laundry, but for some reason he runs out about every 4 days? So he starts a load, puts them in the dryer and if I don't fold them and put them away they just sit in the dryer until he's worn them all again.
I typically do the dishes(my LEAST favorite household chore ever), but he pitches in every now and then. Usually when he hears a big sigh while I'm washing them.
He usually takes out trash.
He cleans my hair out of the drain.
I clean the rest of the bathroom.
We take turns sweeping/mopping.
I do all the general day-to-day picking up, just putting stuff where it belongs.
We pretty much do the outside chores together.
He's super handy, so he also does all of our repairs. Plumbing, electrical, hot water heater, etc. It's not totally uncommon for me to wake him up and beg him to fix something.
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| I'm not working right now, and hubby has his own construction/excavation/paving business. He works 60+ hrs a week. In the winter, he plows 80 houses and businesses. He takes care of the plowing in the winter, all house bills, anything that breaks at home, fixes all of our vehicles if one needs something, shovels roof in winter, he is the repair man, plumber, electrician, etc. I LOVE to cook and bake, so I do that. We have a dishwasher. I do the laundry, because if not, all my clothes will have oil stains on them. I take care of our two dogs and 6 ducks. Mind you, he built the taj-mahal for the ducks! And, we just got done building our house ourselves which we take a lot of pride in. Hubby did everything, installed radiant heat for floors, we sawed all the lumber for our house with our portable sawmill, did all the electrical and plumbing, put the roof on, etc. He's really a keeper! I'm very lucky! | |
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Location: The edge of no where | classicpotatochip - 2017-12-14 9:17 AM I divorced the reason to have rules.
You and me both............LOL!
Mine never did anything to help out around the house..... or around the place in general or contribute financially. I really hope I never run across anyone that absolutely worthless again.. He had a great job when I married him and mysteriously was fired 2 wks later and proceeded to be a dead beat the rest of the time we were together.
I've racked my brain, about all he did was smoke pot, sleep and screw around with 20 year olds.....and rope - he did rope a lot. | |
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| Kay-DRacing. - 2017-12-14 11:54 AM star1218 - 2017-12-14 11:14 AM Ashley Lynn - 2017-12-14 10:06 AM star1218 - 2017-12-14 9:47 AM Interesting topic! :)
Married 7 years - no kids, just dogs and horses.
I do 95% of all the house work - he will help (load the dishwasher, throw in a load of clothes once in awhile) and I WILL HEAR about it - like It was the biggest accomplishment ever. LOL. however we do have a monthly cleaning lady because it is afforadable and just keeps things from getting too far gone if we are busy.
I do 98% of the laundry and he wears enough clothes for 3 ppl I swear.
He takes care of mowing, snow removal, mouse traps, gutters, putting bales out for my horses, etc.
Can't complain too much! I've never mowed the lawn at our home. haha. This made me laugh at its accuracy! My husband is the same way!! Lawd he wants a sticker on his chart for swapping the laundry from the washer to the dryer, but when it’s all said and done 90% of the clothes are his!! I don’t understand how he goes through that many sets of clothes in a day?!? LOL!!! Do you live where it's cold? Lord Mercy - the other day he peeled off IN ONE SOLID UNIT no less than under armour, a t shirt, a long sleeve t shirt and a sweat shirt. I was like NEWP. I wont wash that until it's been pulled apart dude. In all seriousness, it's pretty balanced around our place. <3
This thread just has me cracking up.
And WHY are man pants so freakin huge?? Like working man-pants.. I can wash 25 pairs of skinny jeans to one pair of insulated work jeans of my husbands.
LOL. ugh.. laundry for days.
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Location: Northwest | I do all the cleaning, cooking, dishes, laundry, folding of said laundry, and picking up after everyone. We both work full time jobs. I also do the horse chores (minus one or two times a year when I'm out of town). My husband doesn't know how to cook, doesn't know how to start a washer or dryer, and doesn't know how to wash a dish (seriously). On the flip side, he mows the grass and sprays the weeds. He has it pretty easy at home BUT he does attend EVERY SINGLE barrel race, which I kinda like! I don't see many other husbands doing that :) Anyways, when we got married I quickly learned that you have to pick your battles. He is a very supportive husband and takes good care of me, so I'm willing to pick up the slack at home. | |
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| scwebster - 2017-12-14 11:43 AM My hubby takes care of the horses and yard. Most of the inside work is left to me. He leaves stuff out and I come behind him all the time picking up after him. He does like to cook thank gosh cause I am not an avid cook. I clean up after he cooks. If I cook, I still clean up. He doesnt realize that we have a dish washer. He just parks his dishes next to the sink most times with the left over food still on it. He piles his clothes up next to the laundry bin in the bathroom. I gripped about it the first couple of years but I kind of gave up on it. He will do a load of his laundry if he is running short, but if there are clean clothes in the dryer they get thrown in a basket for me to find. I have all but banished him from the landry room. We grocery shop together mostly. He takes out/hauls off the trash. I work full time and have a side gig. We both pay bills but he pays for more than I do. Hes a dang good man, I just dont have him fully house broke yet.
I was shopping and noticed an ederly man quietly sitting in a chair by the entrance. I commented his wife had him well trained, we both laughed. So happens I was behind his wife in line to pay and he told her my comment. She turned to me and said I was too young to have mine trained, that it takes years and years lol.
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Location: Missouri | Hubby mows, takes out the trash and fixes anything I can't. He will occasionally empty the dishwasher. I do most everything else. He does cook sometimes but it's always spagetti, deer tenderloin or fish fry. I'm Italian and he makes spagetti so much I'm almost sick of it, lol.
This season I went to alot of 3 day races and was gone from Friday to Sunday and due to me pitching a fit in years past about coming home to a dirty house, he will on those weekends, vaccum, dust and tidy up, do laundry and scoop the litter boxes, lol.
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Location: on the fine line between insanity and geniusness | star1218 - 2017-12-14 2:46 PM
Kay-DRacing. - 2017-12-14 11:54 AM star1218 - 2017-12-14 11:14 AM Ashley Lynn - 2017-12-14 10:06 AM star1218 - 2017-12-14 9:47 AM Interesting topic! :)
Married 7 years - no kids, just dogs and horses.
I do 95% of all the house work - he will help (load the dishwasher, throw in a load of clothes once in awhile) and I WILL HEAR about it - like It was the biggest accomplishment ever. LOL. however we do have a monthly cleaning lady because it is afforadable and just keeps things from getting too far gone if we are busy.
I do 98% of the laundry and he wears enough clothes for 3 ppl I swear.
He takes care of mowing, snow removal, mouse traps, gutters, putting bales out for my horses, etc.
Can't complain too much! I've never mowed the lawn at our home. haha. This made me laugh at its accuracy! My husband is the same way!! Lawd he wants a sticker on his chart for swapping the laundry from the washer to the dryer, but when it’s all said and done 90% of the clothes are his!! I don’t understand how he goes through that many sets of clothes in a day?!? LOL!!! Do you live where it's cold? Lord Mercy - the other day he peeled off IN ONE SOLID UNIT no less than under armour, a t shirt, a long sleeve t shirt and a sweat shirt. I was like NEWP. I wont wash that until it's been pulled apart dude. In all seriousness, it's pretty balanced around our place. <3
And WHY are man pants so freakin huge?? Like working man-pants.. I can wash 25 pairs of skinny jeans to one pair of insulated work jeans of my husbands.
LOL. ugh.. laundry for days.
Mine is a cowboy for a living.... it’s scary the things he drags in on his clothes! There have seriously been days that I took his clothes outside and hosed them off before I let them near my washer!!! I agree with comments above- pick your battles. My husband would live like a 16 year old if it wasn’t for me, BUT he goes to every barrel race, rides my horses to work during the week to keep them fine tuned and sacrifices everything for me and Brody. He’s an amazing, talented man that’s a great husband and an unbelievable father, who cares that he can’t turn his socks right side out to be washed?! | |
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| rodeomom3 - 2017-12-14 2:52 PM scwebster - 2017-12-14 11:43 AM My hubby takes care of the horses and yard. Most of the inside work is left to me. He leaves stuff out and I come behind him all the time picking up after him. He does like to cook thank gosh cause I am not an avid cook. I clean up after he cooks. If I cook, I still clean up. He doesnt realize that we have a dish washer. He just parks his dishes next to the sink most times with the left over food still on it. He piles his clothes up next to the laundry bin in the bathroom. I gripped about it the first couple of years but I kind of gave up on it. He will do a load of his laundry if he is running short, but if there are clean clothes in the dryer they get thrown in a basket for me to find. I have all but banished him from the landry room. We grocery shop together mostly. He takes out/hauls off the trash. I work full time and have a side gig. We both pay bills but he pays for more than I do. Hes a dang good man, I just dont have him fully house broke yet. I was shopping and noticed an ederly man quietly sitting in a chair by the entrance. I commented his wife had him well trained, we both laughed. So happens I was behind his wife in line to pay and he told her my comment. She turned to me and said I was too young to have mine trained, that it takes years and years lol.
I am 57 and I notice every time I go to the grocery store how many dads are there by themselves wth kids. When mine were little you never saw a dad alone with his kids or even with his wife, grocery shopping.
Aww! Older couples are adorable.
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| My mothers word's of wisdom when I got married was, "never start doing something for him you don't plan on doing the rest of your life". Oh boy was she right!
For the most part I do more but anytime I ask he'll help with no argument. There's always going to be something that the other half can't stand, we learn to look past, deal with it, and move on because in the grand scheme of things, they don't really matter! | |
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Location: Somewhere around here | My husband and I have two little girls, 2 ½ and our youngest is almost 1, and I do everything in the house, everything. Laundry, cooking, dishes, vacuum, mopping, dusting, organizing, and probably other stuff I can't think of right now. My oldest daughter knows to pick up her messes when I ask, put her dirty clothes in her hamper, feed the dog, and to clean up any spills she makes, which is nice. My husband works outside our home on our property, doing farm and ranching work. He's our sole money maker in the house so I don't really mind doing all the work because I just get to stay home with my girls and go outside when it's nice, and ride when it's nice out. We make it work. | |
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Location: Wonderful Wyoming | I'm pretty OCD and actually REALLY like to clean house. Occasionally I get my 9yr old to vacuum. I need to get him to help do more, I don't want his future wife to have a dead beat, but it's hard to let him when I am so picky. My husband does cook some-grill mostly. Little guy cleans his room. Both kids help with dog chores and chickens, but again I am so picky that I usually go with to make sure it is done my way. Poor kiddos lol
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| Ashley Lynn - 2017-12-14 1:37 PM
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Kay-DRacing. - 2017-12-14 11:54 AM star1218 - 2017-12-14 11:14 AM Ashley Lynn - 2017-12-14 10:06 AM star1218 - 2017-12-14 9:47 AM Interesting topic! :)
Married 7 years - no kids, just dogs and horses.
I do 95% of all the house work - he will help (load the dishwasher, throw in a load of clothes once in awhile) and I WILL HEAR about it - like It was the biggest accomplishment ever. LOL. however we do have a monthly cleaning lady because it is afforadable and just keeps things from getting too far gone if we are busy.
I do 98% of the laundry and he wears enough clothes for 3 ppl I swear.
He takes care of mowing, snow removal, mouse traps, gutters, putting bales out for my horses, etc.
Can't complain too much! I've never mowed the lawn at our home. haha. This made me laugh at its accuracy! My husband is the same way!! Lawd he wants a sticker on his chart for swapping the laundry from the washer to the dryer, but when it’s all said and done 90% of the clothes are his!! I don’t understand how he goes through that many sets of clothes in a day?!? LOL!!! Do you live where it's cold? Lord Mercy - the other day he peeled off IN ONE SOLID UNIT no less than under armour, a t shirt, a long sleeve t shirt and a sweat shirt. I was like NEWP. I wont wash that until it's been pulled apart dude. In all seriousness, it's pretty balanced around our place. <3
And WHY are man pants so freakin huge?? Like working man-pants.. I can wash 25 pairs of skinny jeans to one pair of insulated work jeans of my husbands.
LOL. ugh.. laundry for days.
Mine is a cowboy for a living.... it’s scary the things he drags in on his clothes! There have seriously been days that I took his clothes outside and hosed them off before I let them near my washer!!! I agree with comments above- pick your battles. My husband would live like a 16 year old if it wasn’t for me, BUT he goes to every barrel race, rides my horses to work during the week to keep them fine tuned and sacrifices everything for me and Brody. He’s an amazing, talented man that’s a great husband and an unbelievable father, who cares that he can’t turn his socks right side out to be washed?!
My husband is an equine vet for a living; talk about scary things on his clothes and boots! We have a rule that he is supposed to tale his boots off before he comes in the house, but that doesn’t always happen. And so much laundry!! One of his wedding vows was to turn his nasty socks right side out, but I don’t get too picky- yes, pick your battles!
There was a time where he was making more money than me, so he covered more of the bills where I did most of the housework and grocery shopping. He just started his own practice, so his income went to basically zilch, whereas I am making quite a bit more, so I picked up the bill load. We both love to cook, and he just dotes on our horses (I am SO thankful he loves seeing our gals after a long day of work), and he never complains about treating them if they’re injured- even if he jokingly gives me a hard time. We both do housework now, and are pretty equally yoked. I also like to think we are a power couple- better together than we would be apart 
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Location: north dakota | Our chores are all split. I work 3 nights a week so the hubby cooks on those nights. My 3 oldest kids living in my house each take a week of kitchen duty and will have to split some other house hold chores. The 3 oldest and my hubby and I do are own laundry. Both my husband and I help out with the 3 youngest kids laundry. My 5 year old and 2 year old will help with picking up their toys and help me when I wash the floors.
I feed the horses in the am and my oldest daughter feeds them at night. All the kids from 5 up can make their own sandwiches. The 13 and 14 year old will mow the lawn and they all have to help pick up stuff outside.
My husband and oldest son (19) take care of the cows and farm.
The only one that doesn’t help out is the 9 month old. My 19 year old lives in his own place on our farm and I think his girlfriend helps him with his house.
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Location: In the land of peanuts and cotton | If his clothes are in the dirty clothes basket they don’t get washed. If he doesn’t take his breakfast/supper dishes at to the kitchen then they’ll be right there the next day until he decides to do it(within reason). If he makes a mess I expect him to clean it up. Not just leave it for me to do later. But I have come to realizes in the past 5 months it’s a lot easier for me to do the majority of the cleaning because i want it spotless and I’m so picky about how it’s done that it’s just easier to do it my self. His mama had him spoiled. They had a cleaning lady that came in twice a week and cleaned and washed clothes. Still to this day if we eat over there he’ll get up from the table and leave his mess. Um no! I can’t stand that.
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Location: My own little world! | I work less hours a week then my husband, (20 to 40 hours a week) so I do cook on nights I don't work and on most weekends. This is a new skill as when i worked full time, I didn't cook and if I did, I was bad at it.
He takes out the garbage, unloads the dish washer and does his own laundry. And mows the lawn. Unless he is working longer hours in the summer or just gone working in the summer, then I do that. Oh and he gets all the wood and is in charge of he wood stove in the winter.
I feed, and do the flower garden and the veggie garden. I wash the pick ups. I do the all rest of the house work now that I work less. When I worked as much as him, I would ask him to help with house work, to sweep or mop sometimes. But we both hate house work so we decided to get a house keeper 2 times a month which is the bomb.
If he cooks, I clean up and if I cook, I clean up.
He is a hard, hard worker and I'm pretty much a princess so, there's that. | |
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| MS2011 - 2017-12-14 2:39 PM
classicpotatochip - 2017-12-14 9:17 AM I divorced the reason to have rules.
You and me both............LOL! Mine never did anything to help out around the house..... or around the place in general or contribute financially. I really hope I never run across anyone that absolutely worthless again.. He had a great job when I married him and mysteriously was fired 2 wks later and proceeded to be a dead beat the rest of the time we were together. I've racked my brain, about all he did was smoke pot, sleep and screw around with 20 year olds.....and rope - he did rope a lot.
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| TessBelle - 2017-12-14 11:01 PM
If his clothes are in the dirty clothes basket they don’t get washed. If he doesn’t take his breakfast/supper dishes at to the kitchen then they’ll be right there the next day until he decides to do it(within reason). If he makes a mess I expect him to clean it up. Not just leave it for me to do later. But I have come to realizes in the past 5 months it’s a lot easier for me to do the majority of the cleaning because i want it spotless and I’m so picky about how it’s done that it’s just easier to do it my self. His mama had him spoiled. They had a cleaning lady that came in twice a week and cleaned and washed clothes. Still to this day if we eat over there he’ll get up from the table and leave his mess. Um no! I can’t stand that.
That is some of mines problem. He was raised up with a grandmother, mother and sister who all doted over him and spoiled him completely rotten. | |
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Location: Monticello, AR | The husband that I finAlly kicked out did little to nothing. If he wanted to cook deer meat, he would cook. But no clean up in the kitchen. It got so bad....I quit doing his laundry.....after he bought new underwear a couple of times, he asked if I could hire a housekeeper. So I did and worthless paid for her. I did all my laundry.....I even hid the laundry detergent so he couldn't use what I had bought. He was lucky to have me and he was a bum...took me a while to finally get enough of his crap but I was so glad when I did!! | |
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| I've been married 20 years but have lived with my hubs for 27. We have a 17 yr old son and a 23 yr old daughter, who just moved out start her first teaching job 4 hrs away. We have 7 horses, 4 dogs, 1 house cat and barn cats all on 18 acres. I 100% take care of the horses, he doesnt ride at all, although he will feed if I ask him to if I am working. My kids do their own laundry and have for years, they clean their rooms and bathroom and no I don't pay them. We all pitch in to do whatever needs to be done. There is no your chore, my chore whatever EXCEPT for the cooking, my hubs doesn't cook but my kids do sometimes and that's nice. If i dont feel like it he'll get pizza or something(this happens RARELY) I have a sweet part time job 1/2 mile from my house with a pretty flexible schedule but I work EVERYDAY, weekends and holidays bc horses have to be fed however my hubs will even feed them if I want to go to barrel race or something. I don't take advantage of that though. When my daughter lived at home She helped take care of horses bc 2 are hers, definitely a lot harder by myself but I don't complain bc I feel so blessed and grateful to have this life. I pay for cell phones and horses, the hubs pays for everything else although we only have a small house payment. We all share inside/outside chores, whatever needs to be done we just do it. | |
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Location: KS | Ashley Lynn - 2017-12-14 9:15 AM
This year I have been the one to do everything since I quit my job to stay home with Brody. I do ask that dishes make it to the sink and laundry to the hamper- but everything else is on me! Ricky does take care of everything outside, heck that’s the job I want!!! With a one year old in the house, it seems all that I do is clean! My biggest rule that I make EVERYONE follow is not wearing shoes inside the house. I work and sweep constantly to keep the floors clean because ANYTHING Brody picks up goes in his mouth, so I’m pretty anal about dirty boots staying at the door! My husband is pretty good to help when he’s home, but with him penning cows for a living- the fall is our busiest time of year. It will be interesting to see how the dynamics change once I start school in January, my house may just be a wreck for a year!
In your shoes, I have 2 babies at home now, one 15 months and one 2 months. I quit my job this year to stay home and raise my babies as well, have alittle side business going but for the most part I'm mom and LOVE IT. I do most of the chores in regards to the house but do have something to say about it every now and then. I'm still asked to help run a tractor up and down the road, haul water, etc., so I feel he can help out some too. He does take care of our animals now as I don't get out as much as id like, and thankful he feeds our horses with out much complaint at all. He did ask me to go swath the other day and I gave him a look, and said you take these two and go swath for a day, then ask me. I would love to help out a little more, but my kids are more important at this point....someday. I don't think they realize what we give up as moms, I'm not complaining I absolutely love being a mom and wouldn't change it for a thing, I know someday ill be able to get back on a horse or go out and give them the TLC they deserve, until then I watch from the big picture window. | |
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Location: Where you need a paddle... Oregon! | i could feel my blood pressure rising as I read some of these. I was married 16 years. Quit my good paying job to be a housewife and mother. I was the main parent, did all the yard word, carried in wood, fixed anything that could be fixed without his help. I did almost all the grocery shopping and cooking, laundry, housework. As far as husbands go, he wasn't a bad one. He'd help bring in groceries, put them away, he'd help cook, clean the kitchen, etc. Sometimes I'd tell him and my son that I'd like us all to buckle down and spend the next hour cleaning the house and he'd clean toilets, and vacuum (my 2 least favorite tasks).
As the years went on he did less and less and I did more and more. I wasn't one to nitpick so that wasn't it. Now that we are divorced his place is falling apart. The barn is a mess, there's garbage, broken bbq's, and random crap in a pile behind the barn, the yard is always tall, the fences are broken down. He remarried right away, so it's not like he's all alone to handle things.
I absolutely loved being a stay at home mom. I made our meals from scratch, I baked, the house was always clean, laundry done, yard looked good. The hardest part has been starting over financially after being home for so many years.
I wouldn't be married for 2 seconds to some of the men I've seen described here. I'd rather be alone than pick up after a grown man.
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Location: Wherever the Army sends my husband | I was a sahm for almost 2 years and just recently started working part time. I do most of the cooking and cleaning. But he does all his own laundry, cleans his bathroom and the spare room. I do mine and our toddler son's laundry and clean the rest of the house. We both load the dishwasher but I am one of those people that can't stand when its loaded "wrong" and rearrange it. He usually cooks once a week. We grocery shop together as misery loves company and neither of us like doing it. He does the "man's" stuff like oil changes, brakes, fix crap etc. I take care of all the critters but he pays for the feed. He will feed for me if I ask him to, like if I don't feel good. He wakes up on the weekends when our son gets up (usually stupid early) so I can sleep in except during rifle season. | |
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Location: the end of the rainbow | Goodness I am spoiled. He does all if the grocery shopping, most of the cooking and all his own laundry. Plus he does all the maintenance on my every day truck & my hauling truck. He built me a very nice mare motel with beautiful pens & is currently working on my wash rack and tack/feed room. He stacks most of my hay even though I don't expect him to because he doesn't ride & he feeds my horses when I'm not home. In return I try to keep the dishes from piling up in the sink, attempt to run the vacuum and mop before the dog hair & dirt take over the house & try to give him at least one meal a week he doesn't have to cook himself. Oh & since he usually brings me coffee in bed on the weekends I always put fresh sheets on the bed if I spill.
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Location: on the fine line between insanity and geniusness | willrodeo4food - 2017-12-17 9:30 PM
Goodness I am spoiled. He does all if the grocery shopping, most of the cooking and all his own laundry. Plus he does all the maintenance on my every day truck & my hauling truck. He built me a very nice mare motel with beautiful pens & is currently working on my wash rack and tack/feed room. He stacks most of my hay even though I don't expect him to because he doesn't ride & he feeds my horses when I'm not home. In return I try to keep the dishes from piling up in the sink, attempt to run the vacuum and mop before the dog hair & dirt take over the house & try to give him at least one meal a week he doesn't have to cook himself. Oh & since he usually brings me coffee in bed on the weekends I always put fresh sheets on the bed if I spill.
Do you take outside husbands for training?! LOL. Mine is much better than he used to be. He was the baby of the family and his mom and sister spoiled him rotten when he lived at home! I can’t complain too much because he works day light until dark most days. I’m glad he afforded us the opportunity for me to stay home with our son for his first year, but lawd let me tell ya I’m ready to get back to work!!! All stay at home moms have my utmost respect! IT IS HARD WORK!! I love my husband and my son with my very deepest bone in my body, but I have got to go back to work! | |
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| I do almost all of it. Not that my husband won't help it's just easier for me to get it done during the day then do family stuff after he gets home from work. I work from home and clean as I go. He does help me get hay and takes out trash Monday morning and clean gutters a few times a year.
I have had to leave for a couple of days before. He doesn't know how I keep up with it all and is sure I am some sort of super human. | |
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Location: Texas | I do most of the house work. My 13 year old son vacuums daily (his dog is one shedding beast), and he does his own laundry. Mainly because if he decided he didn't want to wear something or it didn't fit... he just threw it in the dirty clothes hamper. I got tired of washing clean clothes, so he can wash his own laundry. He has a lot less laundry to wash now days for some reason lol.
My 3 year old is suprisingly a huge help. That little girl LOVES her some house work. Every time she hears the dryer stop, she unloads the dryer and piles the clothes on the couch or on my bed and she folds her pants or dish towels depending on the load, and she matches socks... everything else looks like it was rolled in a ball. lol
My husband works a lot. So he isn't around for much of the cleaning. He takes out the trash and him and my son take care of the yard. If I am not feeling well and I am falling behind on the house work my husband will clean up the main areas. He never complains if I fall behind, he either sits quietly in the mess or he does it himself. lol
I really hate cleaning... but if people are putting their dishes in the sink, their trash in the trash, cleaning up spills etc. I don't mind. If they are flat out being lazy and expecting me to be their maid then things get a little crazy around here and everyone goes back to normal shortly after. | |
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Location: Kansas | My fiance and I are currently living with his mother, who has spoiled him rotten his whole life, but we're working on housebreaking him a little bit. lol. He does know to scrape food off his plate into the trash and put the dishes in the sink, and he'll help dry dishes if I wash some. He is a bit OCD like his mom, so if I cook, he'll clean the kitchen because he knows how clean she wants it. Laundry and cooking are beyond him, but I did get him to mix some Taco Lasagna ingredients together last year, and he will fold his own clothes. For whatever reason, he rarely grasps the concept of putting drinks in the fridge to chill, but he's always willing to pack a cooler for rodeo or barrel race trips so that's nice.
He's quite handy at the barn but for some reason I end up doing all of my horse chores then helping with his. Apparently I am more efficient LOL. He does change the oil in my vehicles, fix minor things that go wrong and he'll do any job that involves the tractor, which is nice since I stink at driving his tractor.
We're planning on buying a house when we figure out where his job is going to be - he interviewed for a promotion that would require us to move and we're waiting to hear - and I'm sure we'll share chores there. Lord knows I am not a cleaner and so I think he'll take on a lot of those duties if I will cook and do laundry. Easy trade.....I hate cleaning!! | |
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Location: At the race track with Ah Dee Ohs | I do most in our household, but hubby does, cook, clean, laundry. Only thing when he does laundry he does not fold!!! LOL He helps as much as he can/wants to! In my daughters house...she has 4 kiddos. All kids are responsible for their own laundry. They each have a specific day of the week. If they don't do it, well that's on them. They also have other household chores they have to do. Trash, dishes, feeding/watering dogs. | |
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