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Location: Kansas | My fiance and I are planning to get married sometime around Memorial Day weekend and we've just about given up on a traditional wedding near our hometowns so are looking at doing a destination wedding/honeymoon combination trip instead.
As I look for places to stay online, I'm trying to be financially responsible and find the best deal. Therefore I have a few questions.
1. He's been hearing about "all-inclusive" resorts but I honestly don't know what all is included at one of those. Any information is appreciated. Matt thought that some of them included meals, and I just want to know what we will have to budget for.
2. Any suggestions on possible places to go for this shindig would be great. Requirements: Beach, inexpensive elopment package (probably $600 or less), not super busy so something off the beaten path would be great. We've looked into Puerto Rico, some places in Mexico (but decided a domestic trip would be less hassle), and I've started researching places in North Carolina. We really want to find a state that doesn't have a 3 day waiting period for a marriage license, so Texas doesn't seem to be a good option. I haven't had a lot of luck finding anything reasonably priced in Florida and haven't had a chance to look much in California. We're not set on a popular place.....really a quiet, low-key location would be great.
3. How in the world do you travel by air with a wedding dress and a cowboy hat? LOL | |
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Location: Not Where I Want to Be | rodeowithjoker - 2018-03-05 10:06 AM My fiance and I are planning to get married sometime around Memorial Day weekend and we've just about given up on a traditional wedding near our hometowns so are looking at doing a destination wedding/honeymoon combination trip instead.
As I look for places to stay online, I'm trying to be financially responsible and find the best deal. Therefore I have a few questions.
1. He's been hearing about "all-inclusive" resorts but I honestly don't know what all is included at one of those. Any information is appreciated. Matt thought that some of them included meals, and I just want to know what we will have to budget for.
2. Any suggestions on possible places to go for this shindig would be great. Requirements: Beach, inexpensive elopment package (probably $600 or less), not super busy so something off the beaten path would be great. We've looked into Puerto Rico, some places in Mexico (but decided a domestic trip would be less hassle), and I've started researching places in North Carolina. We really want to find a state that doesn't have a 3 day waiting period for a marriage license, so Texas doesn't seem to be a good option. I haven't had a lot of luck finding anything reasonably priced in Florida and haven't had a chance to look much in California. We're not set on a popular place.....really a quiet, low-key location would be great.
3. How in the world do you travel by air with a wedding dress and a cowboy hat? LOL All Inclusive is just that,,,,,,,,,all,,,,,,,,inclusive.
You pay one price and room, food, drinks are covered.
Pay extra for concierge services, massage, excursions, prostitutes, etc.
One rule of thumb with all inclusives.
on some level, they all suck
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Will you have be having friends and family coming to your wedding? If so you need to talk to a few and maybe they can help you decide where to go and since they will be paying for their own way you need to consider what it will cost for them too to travel also.
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| I would highly recommend looking into all-inclusives in Mexico. I really think you get more for your money. Everything really is included. All meals, drinks, any room service you order, anything in your mini bar as well as lots of free entertainment... The only things they may charge extra for are spa services, up-scaled food and drinks like lobster or fancy wine... or excursions off the resort, which you can also choose to pay for when you book the trip, so no surprises. And many of them will throw these things in for free with a wedding or honeymoon package :)
No resorts in the US are all-inclusive, so while you may be able to travel there very affordably, I feel like once you include all of your meals, drinks, and entertainment, you will easily spend more than at an all-inclusive resort. We have been to the resorts in Mexico (Riviera Maya, south of Cancun) several times and they are all VERY laid back, quiet, and so relaxing. Usual crowd is 30+ and most people kind of keep to themselves.
My suggestion to clear up your issue with the hassle of getting married out of state/country, would to just go to the courthouse and get all legally married here before you go. You can then have a "Ceremony" wherever you choose, take all the pictures, etc, but not have to deal with all the legality of it. Just what I would do :) I have seen a few brides carry-on their wedding dresses on the plane haha. | |
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Location: Kansas | 1DSoon - 2018-03-05 9:34 AM rodeowithjoker - 2018-03-05 10:06 AM My fiance and I are planning to get married sometime around Memorial Day weekend and we've just about given up on a traditional wedding near our hometowns so are looking at doing a destination wedding/honeymoon combination trip instead.
As I look for places to stay online, I'm trying to be financially responsible and find the best deal. Therefore I have a few questions.
1. He's been hearing about "all-inclusive" resorts but I honestly don't know what all is included at one of those. Any information is appreciated. Matt thought that some of them included meals, and I just want to know what we will have to budget for.
2. Any suggestions on possible places to go for this shindig would be great. Requirements: Beach, inexpensive elopment package (probably $600 or less), not super busy so something off the beaten path would be great. We've looked into Puerto Rico, some places in Mexico (but decided a domestic trip would be less hassle), and I've started researching places in North Carolina. We really want to find a state that doesn't have a 3 day waiting period for a marriage license, so Texas doesn't seem to be a good option. I haven't had a lot of luck finding anything reasonably priced in Florida and haven't had a chance to look much in California. We're not set on a popular place.....really a quiet, low-key location would be great.
3. How in the world do you travel by air with a wedding dress and a cowboy hat? LOL All Inclusive is just that,,,,,,,,,all,,,,,,,,inclusive.
You pay one price and room, food, drinks are covered.
Pay extra for concierge services, massage, excursions, prostitutes, etc.
One rule of thumb with all inclusives.
on some level, they all suck
OK, explain "they all suck." I don't know if we would do a lot of the stuff to make the all-inclusive worth it but I need more information if I'm going to start this debate with Matt. LOL. | |
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Location: South Georgia | It really depends on what you want. My husband and I got married in Key West, FL and had about 40 guests travel to the event. We bought a wedding package from a hotel for approximately $8,000 that included pretty much everything for the event; photography, venue, floral, decor, officiant, DJ, food, liquor package, etc etc. With other expenses (invites, wedding dress, his clothes, etc), it was a total of $10k and an additional $3000 for the rehearsal dinner that his mother covered. Most of our friends and family stayed at least the weekend (it was also Memorial Day weekend for our wedding), but some stayed longer and made it a vacation. The room rates for our guests were $308/night due to the holiday and prime season. We live 9 hours from Key West, but we chose to fly to our wedding. I carried my dress on the flight. The flight attendants have a closet they can place it in for you if there is room.
We ATTENDED a wedding at an all-inclusive resort in Riviera Maya Mexico also. They definitely did not plan or execute the wedding part as seamlessly as ours had been, but there is something to be said about having all food and drinks and whatnot included for your guests at all times. The all-inclusive rate was about $500/person per night.
So, it just depends on what you want and where your guests are willing to travel. Some people you assume will come, will not, so keep that in mind. Destination weddings offend some people.
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Location: Kansas | SpaceCowboy - 2018-03-05 10:07 AM I would highly recommend looking into all-inclusives in Mexico. I really think you get more for your money. Everything really is included. All meals, drinks, any room service you order, anything in your mini bar as well as lots of free entertainment... The only things they may charge extra for are spa services, up-scaled food and drinks like lobster or fancy wine... or excursions off the resort, which you can also choose to pay for when you book the trip, so no surprises. And many of them will throw these things in for free with a wedding or honeymoon package :) No resorts in the US are all-inclusive, so while you may be able to travel there very affordably, I feel like once you include all of your meals, drinks, and entertainment, you will easily spend more than at an all-inclusive resort. We have been to the resorts in Mexico (Riviera Maya, south of Cancun) several times and they are all VERY laid back, quiet, and so relaxing. Usual crowd is 30+ and most people kind of keep to themselves. My suggestion to clear up your issue with the hassle of getting married out of state/country, would to just go to the courthouse and get all legally married here before you go. You can then have a "Ceremony" wherever you choose, take all the pictures, etc, but not have to deal with all the legality of it. Just what I would do :) I have seen a few brides carry-on their wedding dresses on the plane haha.
What bothers me about a courthouse wedding here is that our whole families (including one set of divorced parents with a mom who hates dad's girlfriend) will want to show up and then it will just turn into a big circus, which is what I want to avoid. It's stressing me out trying to find a venue around here that's affordable and not booked already for Saturday of Memorial Day, so it would be much simpler to just decide we're eloping.
Neither of us have passports and we are highly unlikely to use them again so I would prefer not to go somewhere that requires them unless it's going to be enough cheaper to offset the cost of 2 passports. | |
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| rodeowithjoker - 2018-03-05 10:26 AM
SpaceCowboy - 2018-03-05 10:07 AM I would highly recommend looking into all-inclusives in Mexico. I really think you get more for your money. Everything really is included. All meals, drinks, any room service you order, anything in your mini bar as well as lots of free entertainment... The only things they may charge extra for are spa services, up-scaled food and drinks like lobster or fancy wine... or excursions off the resort, which you can also choose to pay for when you book the trip, so no surprises. And many of them will throw these things in for free with a wedding or honeymoon package :) No resorts in the US are all-inclusive, so while you may be able to travel there very affordably, I feel like once you include all of your meals, drinks, and entertainment, you will easily spend more than at an all-inclusive resort. We have been to the resorts in Mexico (Riviera Maya, south of Cancun) several times and they are all VERY laid back, quiet, and so relaxing. Usual crowd is 30+ and most people kind of keep to themselves. My suggestion to clear up your issue with the hassle of getting married out of state/country, would to just go to the courthouse and get all legally married here before you go. You can then have a "Ceremony" wherever you choose, take all the pictures, etc, but not have to deal with all the legality of it. Just what I would do :) I have seen a few brides carry-on their wedding dresses on the plane haha.
What bothers me about a courthouse wedding here is that our whole families (including one set of divorced parents with a mom who hates dad's girlfriend) will want to show up and then it will just turn into a big circus, which is what I want to avoid. It's stressing me out trying to find a venue around here that's affordable and not booked already for Saturday of Memorial Day, so it would be much simpler to just decide we're eloping.
Neither of us have passports and we are highly unlikely to use them again so I would prefer not to go somewhere that requires them unless it's going to be enough cheaper to offset the cost of 2 passports.
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Location: Kansas | Griz - 2018-03-05 11:19 AM rodeowithjoker - 2018-03-05 10:26 AM SpaceCowboy - 2018-03-05 10:07 AM I would highly recommend looking into all-inclusives in Mexico. I really think you get more for your money. Everything really is included. All meals, drinks, any room service you order, anything in your mini bar as well as lots of free entertainment... The only things they may charge extra for are spa services, up-scaled food and drinks like lobster or fancy wine... or excursions off the resort, which you can also choose to pay for when you book the trip, so no surprises. And many of them will throw these things in for free with a wedding or honeymoon package :) No resorts in the US are all-inclusive, so while you may be able to travel there very affordably, I feel like once you include all of your meals, drinks, and entertainment, you will easily spend more than at an all-inclusive resort. We have been to the resorts in Mexico (Riviera Maya, south of Cancun) several times and they are all VERY laid back, quiet, and so relaxing. Usual crowd is 30+ and most people kind of keep to themselves. My suggestion to clear up your issue with the hassle of getting married out of state/country, would to just go to the courthouse and get all legally married here before you go. You can then have a "Ceremony" wherever you choose, take all the pictures, etc, but not have to deal with all the legality of it. Just what I would do :) I have seen a few brides carry-on their wedding dresses on the plane haha. What bothers me about a courthouse wedding here is that our whole families (including one set of divorced parents with a mom who hates dad's girlfriend) will want to show up and then it will just turn into a big circus, which is what I want to avoid. It's stressing me out trying to find a venue around here that's affordable and not booked already for Saturday of Memorial Day, so it would be much simpler to just decide we're eloping.
Neither of us have passports and we are highly unlikely to use them again so I would prefer not to go somewhere that requires them unless it's going to be enough cheaper to offset the cost of 2 passports. Don't tell them you're doing it! LOL
Nobody's going to be that upset if we do elope, but I'm not expecting anyone to follow us to whatever place we choose. Both our mothers may be relieved if we just take off and come back married. My mom wants to work a rodeo Memorial Day weekend, and his mom was pushing the chapel in Miami, OK, where she married his dad (who she now hates and badmouths all the time....LOL). We are both so tired of searching for a venue that is available, affordable, and isn't a church so neither of our mothers get upset that it's the wrong church in their opinion, and if I didn't think it was weird to wear the wedding dress I LOVE to the courthouse, we'd just do that. I guess I still want kind of a wedding but really only for the pictures. Neither of us want a big crowd but I also don't want to just drive 3 hours to Miami, OK, and hit the wedding chapel there. We do enough one day 5-6 hour drives already and I can't talk myself into taking horses to the wedding and stopping at Carthage for the Barrel Bash on our way back. LOL. Vegas weddings were looking OK with me but he wants to go somewhere with a beach and the ocean. Does this explain my ongoing nightmare? LOL | |
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Location: East Texas | I have seen people get married on Carnival Cruise not sure if there is an extra costs but we love cruising. | |
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| I just watched a segment on the news where 2 reporters went to a resort, one was all inclusive and the other paid as he went. They ate, drank, and did identical activities. And they didn’t skimp. The guy who paid as he went saved about $400.
They said unless you plan to consume a LOT of alcohol (think crazy spring breakers) or spend all your time running around doing every possible activity...you’d be better off paying as you go. | |
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rodeowithjoker - 2018-03-05 10:06 AM My fiance and I are planning to get married sometime around Memorial Day weekend and we've just about given up on a traditional wedding near our hometowns so are looking at doing a destination wedding/honeymoon combination trip instead.
As I look for places to stay online, I'm trying to be financially responsible and find the best deal. Therefore I have a few questions.
1. He's been hearing about "all-inclusive" resorts but I honestly don't know what all is included at one of those. Any information is appreciated. Matt thought that some of them included meals, and I just want to know what we will have to budget for.
2. Any suggestions on possible places to go for this shindig would be great. Requirements: Beach, inexpensive elopment package (probably $600 or less), not super busy so something off the beaten path would be great. We've looked into Puerto Rico, some places in Mexico (but decided a domestic trip would be less hassle), and I've started researching places in North Carolina. We really want to find a state that doesn't have a 3 day waiting period for a marriage license, so Texas doesn't seem to be a good option. I haven't had a lot of luck finding anything reasonably priced in Florida and haven't had a chance to look much in California. We're not set on a popular place.....really a quiet, low-key location would be great.
3. How in the world do you travel by air with a wedding dress and a cowboy hat? LOL All Inclusive is just that,,,,,,,,,all,,,,,,,,inclusive.
You pay one price and room, food, drinks are covered.
Pay extra for concierge services, massage, excursions, prostitutes, etc.
One rule of thumb with all inclusives.
on some level, they all suck
One would think. But not necessarily so. We stayed at an 'all-inclusive' resort in Puerto Vallarta for a wedding, but some of their restaurants were not included in the all inclusive package. So double & triple check that what you will want is not excluded from their list of 'all inclusive features'. | |
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Location: Slipping down the slope of old age. Boo hoo. | Most of the beach hotels in the USA offer some type of wedding package. Pick a few hotels in the places you are interested in going, call and ask to speak to the person who arranges onsite beach weddings. You should find various options available -- different price levels, service, etc. Good luck on finding your perfect location -- and remember - the wedding ceremony is about you two -- do what is best for you as a couple. | |
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| You could do what my son and daughter in law did, they got married but put off the honeymoon a few months until she was out of college and they had more time. That way you could maybe get a cheaper rate for a not so busy time. As far as his mother is concerned if she can't put her hate aside for a special occasion for the two of you then she isn't much of a mother. My folks are divorced and that handled themselves very well at our wedding. I even got a picture of just our family with no other current spouses in it. They did it for me, that is what parents do. | |
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| We honeymooned in Jamaica at the Sunset at the Palms after my boss highly recommended it. It was all inclusive and absolutely fantastic. Our all inclusive included the plane tickets, bars, all restaurants on site, some shuttles and activities, private beach, and of course the room. The rooms are not like hotels. Think a duplex on stilts in the trees. The food was absolutely amazing no matter if you were eating at their beach cafe, buffet, or 5 star restaurant. My husband has chef experience and even he was impressed that all the dining options were so good and high quality food. We had a great experience and would absolutely go back if we ever have the time. I would say after looking at quite a few options is to book as early as possible as there are a lot of package deals offered before the busy season really starts. | |
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Location: North of Tulsa, Oklahoma | I'm in the midst of planning my wedding. It's not a first marriage for either of us, so we are doing a "weddingmoon" at one of the Sandals resorts in St. Lucia in late July. We will be there 7 days. With a stay of 3 days, the simple ceremony is free with exception of legal fees. Each day over 3 includes upgrades to our ceremony if we wish. We are not taking any guests, just taking a great vacation with bonus wedding all for around $4000 airfare included and all inclusive. | |
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Griz - 2018-03-05 11:19 AM rodeowithjoker - 2018-03-05 10:26 AM SpaceCowboy - 2018-03-05 10:07 AM I would highly recommend looking into all-inclusives in Mexico. I really think you get more for your money. Everything really is included. All meals, drinks, any room service you order, anything in your mini bar as well as lots of free entertainment... The only things they may charge extra for are spa services, up-scaled food and drinks like lobster or fancy wine... or excursions off the resort, which you can also choose to pay for when you book the trip, so no surprises. And many of them will throw these things in for free with a wedding or honeymoon package :) No resorts in the US are all-inclusive, so while you may be able to travel there very affordably, I feel like once you include all of your meals, drinks, and entertainment, you will easily spend more than at an all-inclusive resort. We have been to the resorts in Mexico (Riviera Maya, south of Cancun) several times and they are all VERY laid back, quiet, and so relaxing. Usual crowd is 30+ and most people kind of keep to themselves. My suggestion to clear up your issue with the hassle of getting married out of state/country, would to just go to the courthouse and get all legally married here before you go. You can then have a "Ceremony" wherever you choose, take all the pictures, etc, but not have to deal with all the legality of it. Just what I would do :) I have seen a few brides carry-on their wedding dresses on the plane haha. What bothers me about a courthouse wedding here is that our whole families (including one set of divorced parents with a mom who hates dad's girlfriend) will want to show up and then it will just turn into a big circus, which is what I want to avoid. It's stressing me out trying to find a venue around here that's affordable and not booked already for Saturday of Memorial Day, so it would be much simpler to just decide we're eloping.
Neither of us have passports and we are highly unlikely to use them again so I would prefer not to go somewhere that requires them unless it's going to be enough cheaper to offset the cost of 2 passports. Don't tell them you're doing it! LOL
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ELOPE ...
and NOT ON A HOLIDAY WEEKEND !!
EVERYTHING IS ALREADY RESERVED AND OVER CROWDED !!
Get married by a JP at the court house and let the bail bondsman
be your witness and go get in your truck and head for ..
The reservations you have made at a Hotel somewhere in Florida
or a mountain // lake cabin on one of the many lakes in Oklahoma,
Missouri or Arkansas.
In Florida you may want to do a rental car since there are so many
state parks that contain so many natural wonders and the beaches
are free.
The lakes are more inexpensive and are very scenic and relaxing!!
You will have to make your reservations immediately
on what is available ...
WHEN YOU RETURN HOME ...
PLAN YOUR WEDDING RECEPTION IN A
PARK OR NICE BACKYARD ...
OR HAVE EVERYONE ON HORSE BACK AND DO IT IN AN ARENA
(lots of horses spook with the bride wearing her dress .. lol)
wear your wedding dress and hire a photographer
and a $200 Cowboy Church preacher and have your happy wedding ceremony.
Have a cowboy wedding and just buy colored matching shirts for bride entourage
and white shirts for the guys and let them wear their own jeans and boots .. lol
Fire up the big smoker and do ribs and BBQ items ...
with a volunteer to tend the smoker ... ..
Five gallon buckets of potato salad and cole slaw ... no fancy dishes needed ..
paper plates and plastic hardware is the order of the day ...
Be careful on the cake .. summer heat will melt the icing so homemade is
your best bet!!
Send out your announcements and who ever shows up should have nothing
to say about their preferences since it is your day as a BRIDE and the start
of your new life together with the man you love !!
BEST OF LUCK AND JUST KEEP IT SIMPLE ..
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HONEYMOONING ON A BEACH ...
LOTS OF SUNSCREEN ...
SALT WATER AND THE SUN REFLECTION OFF THE SAND WILL MAKE
YOU TURN INTO A RED LOBSTER ... if you see pink.. you are already fried!!
I would laugh out loud if I heard a couple of honeymooners in the next
room say to each other ...
DON'T YOU DARE TO EVEN THINK ABOUT TOUCHING ME !!
laughing ..
I almost forgot on the beach honeymoon ... be sure and buy several loaves
of bread to have some fun with ...
I can't recall if this was my 3rd or 4th wife .. but she was a lot of fun
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Location: South Georgia | RoanyGoodPoni - 2018-03-05 9:30 PM I'm in the midst of planning my wedding. It's not a first marriage for either of us, so we are doing a "weddingmoon" at one of the Sandals resorts in St. Lucia in late July. We will be there 7 days. With a stay of 3 days, the simple ceremony is free with exception of legal fees. Each day over 3 includes upgrades to our ceremony if we wish. We are not taking any guests, just taking a great vacation with bonus wedding all for around $4000 airfare included and all inclusive.
For my first marriage, we did this same thing at Sandal's Grande St. Lucian. Loved the facility and had so much fun. Called off the wedding before the ceremony! LOL The place is great though, but ours was more expensive. My parents are the only ones who could afford to attend, so that sucked. Maybe it was another red flag. | |
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| How long are you planning on staying at your destination wedding site? If it's longer than 5 days, I wouldn't rule out places that require a 3 day waiting period for a wedding license. When we got married, Montana required a waiting period, so we just planned to get our marriage license the morning after we got to my parent's place, and then got married three or four days later. If there's certain places you are overlooking because of this wait time, I say don't count them out.
Others have mentioned going to the courthouse, getting married first and then taking a honeymoon. If no one will be going with you on this trip, then you might as well just pick a date, go to the courthouse and get married (just the two of you, no one else needs to know except a witness or two), then go enjoy yourselves with less stress, and no fancy dress to worry about. You can still bring a casual sun dress and he can bring his hat (they're both pretty easy to travel with, as long as they're carried on- I would never check them!).
There are a lot of beautiful places with beaches that aren't exactly tropical; Lake Tahoe is gorgeous (and you could always make a pit stop in Vegas and elope there on an extended layover, then finish the flight to Reno). | |
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Location: North Dakota | I think I agree with Barrelhorseusa 
If you are stressing out so much now and the cost is going to be close to $10k, why not find an ordained minister in your area-and a park. I've been married for 20 years-had a real cut down version for a wedding-church, family, danced the night away and it was still stressful-you cannot make everyone happy-so do what you want to do-you don't sound like you're the beach type??? Why not go to vegas-if people show up-they show up-make the memories for you and your husband-not your families........ | |
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Location: Kansas | OK yesterday was a great productive day and I think we are close to having the whole thing planned!
We've basically decided to elope to Ocean Isle Beach, North Carolina, and stay in a resort there with a honeymoon package, do an inexpensive beach wedding ceremony from a company out of Myrtle Beach, and it looks like only my best friend and her husband will be attending. She went to college in South Carolina so is combining Matt and I's wedding with a vacation for her family. Plus I went to their destination wedding in California, so that's cool.
If the ceremony package we want is available on the day we want, we'll have the airfare, lodging, rental car, ceremony, photos, and marriage license all figured out for what I think is a super reasonable price, and we won't have to sell any horses to pay for it! LOL. | |
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Location: LA Lower Alabama | OhMax - 2018-03-05 3:15 PM I just watched a segment on the news where 2 reporters went to a resort, one was all inclusive and the other paid as he went. They ate, drank, and did identical activities. And they didn’t skimp. The guy who paid as he went saved about $400. They said unless you plan to consume a LOT of alcohol (think crazy spring breakers) or spend all your time running around doing every possible activity...you’d be better off paying as you go.
Yes that is how they make money. They up charge to make a profit. If the room is $50 a night the charge you $60 in the package so that they get a little cut. | |
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Location: Kansas | cowgalsissy - 2018-03-06 11:05 AM OhMax - 2018-03-05 3:15 PM I just watched a segment on the news where 2 reporters went to a resort, one was all inclusive and the other paid as he went. They ate, drank, and did identical activities. And they didn’t skimp. The guy who paid as he went saved about $400. They said unless you plan to consume a LOT of alcohol (think crazy spring breakers) or spend all your time running around doing every possible activity...you’d be better off paying as you go. Yes that is how they make money. They up charge to make a profit. If the room is $50 a night the charge you $60 in the package so that they get a little cut.
That doesn't surprise me at all. We are probably going to do a couple of tourist things and mostly just hang out and relax so I think the resort we have in mind with its 3 pools and hot tub will be about right. I'm finding some neat activities to do around the resort so Groupon is probably about to be my new best friend LOL. | |
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Location: North Central Iowa Land of white frozen grass | When my wife and I got married 37 years ago we didn't have a lot of money to spend. We had a small church wedding and then we had a hog roast in our farm shop. We invited everyone in our farm community. Had the local pork producers cook it and served it. Had a blast. Problably had 400 to 500 guest at the shed party. | |
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Location: Bastrop, Texas | You folks live in Kansas, right?
I’m guessing because you are young, you both haven’t done much vacationing in the Caribbean. I’ll work on that assumption, plus I assume you will love snorkeling, white sand beaches that aren’t too crowded, and water that is so turquoise that you can’t believe it’s real. I’m also guessing you want to be sensible, in terms of your budget. I’ll give this my best shot, and throw in some random opinions.
I think all-inclusives can be OK, but I’m not crazy about them.
For one thing, after about 2 days, the food all tends to taste the same.
I just think you can do better and have a very unique, special experience.
What’s your budget (air fare and lodging)?
Would you be open to deferring your honeymoon until next winter?
By that I mean just tie the knot in May and wait till it’s colder than a well diggers ass in the Klondike. | |
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| rodeowithjoker - 2018-03-06 9:28 AM
OK yesterday was a great productive day and I think we are close to having the whole thing planned!
We've basically decided to elope to Ocean Isle Beach, North Carolina, and stay in a resort there with a honeymoon package, do an inexpensive beach wedding ceremony from a company out of Myrtle Beach, and it looks like only my best friend and her husband will be attending. She went to college in South Carolina so is combining Matt and I's wedding with a vacation for her family. Plus I went to their destination wedding in California, so that's cool.
If the ceremony package we want is available on the day we want, we'll have the airfare, lodging, rental car, ceremony, photos, and marriage license all figured out for what I think is a super reasonable price, and we won't have to sell any horses to pay for it! LOL.
This is awesome and sounds like a ton of fun! You will HAVE to post pictures for us all!!  | |
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Location: Kansas | Griz - 2018-03-07 5:39 AM rodeowithjoker - 2018-03-06 9:28 AM OK yesterday was a great productive day and I think we are close to having the whole thing planned!
We've basically decided to elope to Ocean Isle Beach, North Carolina, and stay in a resort there with a honeymoon package, do an inexpensive beach wedding ceremony from a company out of Myrtle Beach, and it looks like only my best friend and her husband will be attending. She went to college in South Carolina so is combining Matt and I's wedding with a vacation for her family. Plus I went to their destination wedding in California, so that's cool.
If the ceremony package we want is available on the day we want, we'll have the airfare, lodging, rental car, ceremony, photos, and marriage license all figured out for what I think is a super reasonable price, and we won't have to sell any horses to pay for it! LOL. This is awesome and sounds like a ton of fun! You will HAVE to post pictures for us all!!
It's booked! I'm so excited!!!
We never go anywhere without horses so this will be a fun change of pace and the pictures ought to be beautiful.  | |
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Location: Arkansas | rodeowithjoker - 2018-03-08 12:19 PM
Griz - 2018-03-07 5:39 AM rodeowithjoker - 2018-03-06 9:28 AM OK yesterday was a great productive day and I think we are close to having the whole thing planned!
We've basically decided to elope to Ocean Isle Beach, North Carolina, and stay in a resort there with a honeymoon package, do an inexpensive beach wedding ceremony from a company out of Myrtle Beach, and it looks like only my best friend and her husband will be attending. She went to college in South Carolina so is combining Matt and I's wedding with a vacation for her family. Plus I went to their destination wedding in California, so that's cool.
If the ceremony package we want is available on the day we want, we'll have the airfare, lodging, rental car, ceremony, photos, and marriage license all figured out for what I think is a super reasonable price, and we won't have to sell any horses to pay for it! LOL. This is awesome and sounds like a ton of fun! You will HAVE to post pictures for us all!!
We never go anywhere without horses so this will be a fun change of pace and the pictures ought to be beautiful.
Hence, we will want to see said pictures!! | |
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Location: Idaho | rodeowithjoker - 2018-03-06 7:06 AM
My fiance and I are planning to get married sometime around Memorial Day weekend and we've just about given up on a traditional wedding near our hometowns so are looking at doing a destination wedding/honeymoon combination trip instead.
As I look for places to stay online, I'm trying to be financially responsible and find the best deal. Therefore I have a few questions.
1. He's been hearing about "all-inclusive" resorts but I honestly don't know what all is included at one of those. Any information is appreciated. Matt thought that some of them included meals, and I just want to know what we will have to budget for.
2. Any suggestions on possible places to go for this shindig would be great. Requirements: Beach, inexpensive elopment package (probably $600 or less), not super busy so something off the beaten path would be great. We've looked into Puerto Rico, some places in Mexico (but decided a domestic trip would be less hassle), and I've started researching places in North Carolina. We really want to find a state that doesn't have a 3 day waiting period for a marriage license, so Texas doesn't seem to be a good option. I haven't had a lot of luck finding anything reasonably priced in Florida and haven't had a chance to look much in California. We're not set on a popular place.....really a quiet, low-key location would be great.
3. How in the world do you travel by air with a wedding dress and a cowboy hat? LOL
Well, to be honest I don't think you will get an all inclusive package for $600 or less. I would say save up a little bit more money if you want something small but nice.
My husband and I did a destination wedding. We live in Idaho and our wedding was at a Disneyworld resort in Florida. All in all it cost us about $8K, with the hotel, the wedding ceremony, the reception, food, DJ, photographer, wedding planner etc. We did a small honeymoon there at Disneyworld but our actual big honeymoon will be happening at our one year anniversary. It was pretty lovely, we had a very small intimate wedding with mainly our family and close friends. We did not want anything huge and extravagant and it was perfect. Also be a reminder, I know that dates are important but if it is on a holiday weekend.. most likely prices will be bumped up because it is a holiday weekend.
We also looked into a "beach" wedding, all inclusive package like at these all inclusive resorts (a friend of our did Sandals..) They had an amazing experience BUT..it's extremely expensive and also, if you look at the reviews on Sandals it is definitely not something I would put my money into. Make sure you do your research. You also want to keep in mind hurricane seasons and try to avoid that, because it can totally mess up your vacation!
Lastly, to travel with your dress is a pain in the hiney. When we traveled to Florida I carried my dress with me and they do have Captain's closet's where you can put your dress in there. Some are smaller than other, we took two flights and I nearly had a heart attack on the second flight because the closet was small, we were boarding, had a ton of people behind me and I had to shove my dress in there to take a seat (Talk about an anxiety attack!). Luckily, my amazing husband came to my rescue, once everyone was seated he got up and rearranged the dress so it wouldn't get messed up. BUT.. on the way back, because we brought all the decorations for the wedding.. the wedding was done.. we had an extra super big suitcase and we just neatly folded the dress in half (skirt on the bottom, top portion on the top) and it fit in there, so we were able to check it in with the baggage so we didn't have to deal with the hassle. Same with cowboy hat, get a hat holder and bring it as a carry on, you should be fine.
And also, I would suggest getting married on paper BEFORE your ceremony. All you need is two witnesses and the person to legally "marry" you. We did a civil ceremony, and make it as least like your "wedding ceremony" as possible. When we did it, we were dress in jeans, t shirt, and did it in our living room with two friends. We did not have to exchange rings, she just asked us a single question of whether or not we were joined in holy matrimony, signed a paper, and we were done. Don't change your name until after the ceremony. We did not want to take away from the actual ceremony of our special day, so we minimized it as much as possible and our wedding anniversary is the day we got married in front of friends and family.
Sorry for the novel, hope this helps!
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Location: Kansas | DashNDustem - 2018-03-13 1:30 PM rodeowithjoker - 2018-03-06 7:06 AM My fiance and I are planning to get married sometime around Memorial Day weekend and we've just about given up on a traditional wedding near our hometowns so are looking at doing a destination wedding/honeymoon combination trip instead.
As I look for places to stay online, I'm trying to be financially responsible and find the best deal. Therefore I have a few questions.
1. He's been hearing about "all-inclusive" resorts but I honestly don't know what all is included at one of those. Any information is appreciated. Matt thought that some of them included meals, and I just want to know what we will have to budget for.
2. Any suggestions on possible places to go for this shindig would be great. Requirements: Beach, inexpensive elopment package (probably $600 or less), not super busy so something off the beaten path would be great. We've looked into Puerto Rico, some places in Mexico (but decided a domestic trip would be less hassle), and I've started researching places in North Carolina. We really want to find a state that doesn't have a 3 day waiting period for a marriage license, so Texas doesn't seem to be a good option. I haven't had a lot of luck finding anything reasonably priced in Florida and haven't had a chance to look much in California. We're not set on a popular place.....really a quiet, low-key location would be great.
3. How in the world do you travel by air with a wedding dress and a cowboy hat? LOL Well, to be honest I don't think you will get an all inclusive package for $600 or less. I would say save up a little bit more money if you want something small but nice. My husband and I did a destination wedding. We live in Idaho and our wedding was at a Disneyworld resort in Florida. All in all it cost us about $8K, with the hotel, the wedding ceremony, the reception, food, DJ, photographer, wedding planner etc. We did a small honeymoon there at Disneyworld but our actual big honeymoon will be happening at our one year anniversary. It was pretty lovely, we had a very small intimate wedding with mainly our family and close friends. We did not want anything huge and extravagant and it was perfect. Also be a reminder, I know that dates are important but if it is on a holiday weekend.. most likely prices will be bumped up because it is a holiday weekend. We also looked into a "beach" wedding, all inclusive package like at these all inclusive resorts (a friend of our did Sandals.. ) They had an amazing experience BUT..it's extremely expensive and also, if you look at the reviews on Sandals it is definitely not something I would put my money into. Make sure you do your research. You also want to keep in mind hurricane seasons and try to avoid that, because it can totally mess up your vacation! Lastly, to travel with your dress is a pain in the hiney. When we traveled to Florida I carried my dress with me and they do have Captain's closet's where you can put your dress in there. Some are smaller than other, we took two flights and I nearly had a heart attack on the second flight because the closet was small, we were boarding, had a ton of people behind me and I had to shove my dress in there to take a seat (Talk about an anxiety attack! ). Luckily, my amazing husband came to my rescue, once everyone was seated he got up and rearranged the dress so it wouldn't get messed up. BUT.. on the way back, because we brought all the decorations for the wedding.. the wedding was done.. we had an extra super big suitcase and we just neatly folded the dress in half (skirt on the bottom, top portion on the top ) and it fit in there, so we were able to check it in with the baggage so we didn't have to deal with the hassle. Same with cowboy hat, get a hat holder and bring it as a carry on, you should be fine. And also, I would suggest getting married on paper BEFORE your ceremony. All you need is two witnesses and the person to legally "marry" you. We did a civil ceremony, and make it as least like your "wedding ceremony" as possible. When we did it, we were dress in jeans, t shirt, and did it in our living room with two friends. We did not have to exchange rings, she just asked us a single question of whether or not we were joined in holy matrimony, signed a paper, and we were done. Don't change your name until after the ceremony. We did not want to take away from the actual ceremony of our special day, so we minimized it as much as possible and our wedding anniversary is the day we got married in front of friends and family. Sorry for the novel, hope this helps!
On the price, I meant for the wedding ceremony, not the whole honeymoon. We found a wedding company with great reviews within the budget I wanted, my parents offered to pay about half, and I think I actually have everything figured out. Such a relief!!! | |
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| We did what you are wanting. We could not afford the "Traditional" type wedding. My husband was raised catholic, I was not raised in a church, so as we started to plan, the whole process started to become pretty tense. I did not want to marry in a church, his family wanted him too and he didn't really care. We also could not afford a big wedding, reception and a honeymoon. So we did the weddymoon combo. We went on a Caribbean cruise and got married when we stopped at St. Thomas and got married on the beach. The cruise was around $1200 for both of us. I got the wedding info contact person on St. Thomas from Carnival Cruise Lines. That was around $750 and included the license, guy who married us, cake and champagne. The cruise line has a photographer and I think our pictures were around $150. You can buy more if you want for an additional $$$. We spent the day on St. Thomas, got back on the boat and headed to the next island. We had a small reception for friends and family when we got back. It's not perfect for everyone, but it was perfect for us. I was more interested in going on a nice trip then making everyone else happy with a big fancy wedding at home, that didn't matter to me. We've been married for almost 20 years and I would do the exact thing all over again. My mom did fly to the island and we had some friends who had gotten married the month before and that was their honeymoon. So we had a couple friends on the boat with us. It was all good.
The drawback with what we did: I did carry my dress on the plane, that sucked. It was Hotter then Haiti....I probably would not take another cruise unless it was for a similar situation. I didn't care for the cruise itself, but I did enjoy visiting the different islands, it gave us a good idea of what islands we would want to visit again.
The only thing that matters, IMO, is what you and your guy wants, don't worry about your friends and family, they should support you regardless of your choice. It's about YOU, not them. Spend your money on what's important to you.
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