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| How do you all deal with it? I’m the very definition of a Worry Wart. For whatever reason my horses seem to bring out an anxiousness that even my kids don’t! I stress about leaving them when I go on vacation, I stress about them when they’re hurt, and then there’s the constant wondering if I’m feeding them right, are the supplements the right ones or even necessary to begin with. And don’t even get me started on the financial aspect! How much is a reasonable amount to spend, and at what point am I just getting caught up in marketing schemes and wasting money? My husband sat down the other night and put together a rough estimate on about how much we’ve spent on my horses so far this year, and I about had heart palpitations! Granted we’ve had a number of unexpected vet bills, but it still was an unhappy surprise.
Buying or selling one really shoots my anxiety up. I don’t do it often, but I have one for sale right now. Am I being annoying in how honest I am? What if I forget to tell a buyer something and they are unhappy and think I chose not to disclose it? Will i regret selling him 5 months from now? How long do I wait before lowering my asking price? I could go on and on! I realize I sound like a nut job, but I’d appreciate some advice from other fellow nut jobs that might be out there!! Sometimes I wonder if it’d be better for my mental state to get out of it completely, but it’s my favorite hobby and brings me a lot of joy. TIA for letting me vent!! | |
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Location: South Georgia | Nice to meet you, fellow nut job! LOL I worry about EVERYTHING, career-wise, horse-wise, etc. It's just my nature. I will say after I started hormone replacement therapy (I'm 33), my stress and anxiety decreased drastically. But, I'm still always going to be a nut job. | |
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Location: MN | horsegirl - 2018-04-09 12:28 PM Nice to meet you, fellow nut job! LOL I worry about EVERYTHING, career-wise, horse-wise, etc. It's just my nature. I will say after I started hormone replacement therapy (I'm 33), my stress and anxiety decreased drastically. But, I'm still always going to be a nut job.
Horsegirl- How did you go about hormone replacement therapy? Several people have told me I should look into that (I'm 25) because I have several issues I think are hormone related. Did you just go see your primary DR and they checked your levels or do you go to an OB? Im so lost in what to do but I want answers so badly! | |
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Location: Texas | I'm very much a worrier too. My husband gets so aggravated at me for it. I just care so much about my horses or animals in general it's hard for me not to worry. I'm not a good seller either, I couldn't do it for a living. I am super honest and want the person to be happy with the horse so I totally understand where you are coming from there. I got lucky and my last horse I sold, ended up selling very close to me so I get to see him and he's doing great with his new rider, but believe me I stressed a TON about selling him. I say don't get out of it. You'll regret it. I saw a post online the other day a lady posted that said something about not getting to enter as much as she used to, and how life happens, and people say then why do you have horses, and she described how they are such an intregal part of her being that should wouldn't be okay without them. I think that's it for me, yes I live a very busy life and sometimes don't "need" a horse on top of my work, but the truth is I would go crazy without my horses. They're my break in the storm of life at times, they can turn a bad day into a good one, and yes I fret like crazy over them, but they are my "babies". | |
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Location: South Georgia | Kay-DRacing. - 2018-04-09 1:35 PM horsegirl - 2018-04-09 12:28 PM Nice to meet you, fellow nut job! LOL I worry about EVERYTHING, career-wise, horse-wise, etc. It's just my nature. I will say after I started hormone replacement therapy (I'm 33), my stress and anxiety decreased drastically. But, I'm still always going to be a nut job. Horsegirl- How did you go about hormone replacement therapy? Several people have told me I should look into that (I'm 25) because I have several issues I think are hormone related. Did you just go see your primary DR and they checked your levels or do you go to an OB? Im so lost in what to do but I want answers so badly!
There is a doctor in our town that only does HRT and I heard about her after venting to some female friends. My neighbor is much like me with worry and stress and anxiety and all that and she went to her, so I gave it a shot. She ran every blood test known to man the first time (8 vials in AM and 6 in PM on one day) and reviewed the results with me and put me on all kinds of vitamins and supplements and hormones. She rechecks my blood every 3 months and tweaks the supplements/hormones. I feel like a new person. | |
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| I was a worrier as a young person. Then my life went to sh*t in a big way, injured horribly, homeless, lost everything. From that, and all the other 'issues' I went through and survived as a young person I came out the other side realizing how little control we individual humans have over much in life, including ourselves. You can make all the best decisions, do all the right things, and still poop will happen. Sometimes big, bad poop.
Reducing risk is a great thing. Planning - awesome! But making yourself sick over what you will never have 'control' over is not good. You can control your reactions to people or situations for the most part, but even then there are times your control will not be good.
Understand where you can plan and reduce risks. If you are a horse person you are already giving up tons of control and taking lots of risks. Horses are the #1 most dangerous pasttime in the world. If you don't know it and accept it then you are fooling yourself and going to end up bad hurt someday soon. Thinking you can control a horse in any way is a dangerous thought process. Know that they are what they are - 1000++ pounds of reactionary muscle with just enough brain to get you and them in lots of trouble!
I hated watching my mother die unhappy. Unhappy because she couldn't 'control' her decline. Unhappy because she couldn't 'control' anything much at all in her life anymore. She stressed herself to death as much as the cancer and her gut got her. She was a control freak OCD and I really wonder if she ever enjoyed ANYTHING in her life due to all that. She could never just sit back and smile. Always had to be worrying about something.
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