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 My Heart Be Happy
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Location: Arkansas | I lost Dan about an hour ago; he's my first horse to have to let go. Y'all have been beside me for questions about feed and supplements and just for me to say how much my old guy means to me. Chandler is out of town, which makes it even worse. When I called him he at first said "no," but when I told him how he looked and was acting, he knew it was time. Chandler was a year and half old when I got Dan; it would have been 19 years in September. Sean was with him at the end--i was a coward and couldn't do it, but I wanted someone he knew and loved with him. My heart hurts so bad; please pray for me to get peace and know that I did the right thing. . .. |
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| I'm so sorry for you loss. 
If it's any consolation, I was away from home when my beloved childhood buddy, JP, had to be laid to rest. My mom called me afterward and was pretty terrified to tell me, but I knew he was surrounded by my family and vet of 20+ years who all loved him dearly. I regret not being there, but they all loved him just as much as I did and certainly made the right decision.
Rest in peace to your beloved Dan.  |
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Location: Southeast Louisiana | Sorry for your loss.
Saying a prayer for you. |
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Location: Bastrop, Texas | So sorry to hear this. I know it hurts like hell. |
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Go Get Em!
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Location: OH. IO | Im so sorry my friend:(((YOU DID THE RIGHT THING,I know your heart is broken,but DANG HE HAD A GOOD LIFE!!!!!!!AND A LONG LIFE!! HUGS TO YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. |
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Location: Aubrey, Texas | Hugs to you- it’s never easy! I’m sorry for your loss- |
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | SO sorry for your loss ...... Each of our animals take a piece of our hearts with them when they pass but we still have the good memories ....... |
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Location: Claremore, OK | So sorry for your loss. RIP Dan. |
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My Heart Be Happy
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Location: Arkansas | Thank y'all so much. He took a big piece of me with him, but I'm gonna concentrate on the good memories like was said and not on him being gone. Sean just buried him by the barn in his favorite dusty rolling spot. He said our other three were laying down by him when he got there with the backhoe. Guess we humans don't have a monopoly on grief and loss. . . . |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Chandler's Mom - 2018-07-21 9:04 AM Thank y'all so much. He took a big piece of me with him, but I'm gonna concentrate on the good memories like was said and not on him being gone. Sean just buried him by the barn in his favorite dusty rolling spot. He said our other three were laying down by him when he got there with the backhoe. Guess we humans don't have a monopoly on grief and loss. . . .
Hugs debra, never a easy thing to do, and I think as I get older its get harder on me when something like this is needed to be done, I know your heart is hurting since Dan was so special to you, but like I said Dan had a really long and good life having you as his human that loved and took such good care of him. We take care of our 4 legged babys better then we take care of ourselfs and I know he had the best care that anybody else could have giving him, hugs |
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Location: North Dakota | Thinking of you all during this difficult time |
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Location: Kansas | Don't be like me when you lose an animal. Somehow no matter what I feel guilt-ridden. Getting old is just not fair whether you have four legs or two. So sorry. We've all felt your pain.
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Location: CTX | So sorry for your loss, they do take a chunk of our heart with them. I think most of us here have been in your shoes. It does get a bit easier, but I still miss my old girl after 2 years.
Hugs! You know you did the right thing even though it doesn’t feel like it right now. |
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My Heart Be Happy
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Location: Arkansas | I do feel some guilt, but deep in my heart I know I did the right thing. Sean had been trying to prepare me for several months now that this very well might be Dan's last year; I just figured it would be this winter. I think what's making it harder is that Chandler isn't here, and Doodlebug was very much his as much as mine. It would have been harder on C had he been here tho, so maybe that's why the good Lord let things unfold like they did. (If C had been here, I would not have been watching fish, and no one would have known Dan was in distress until this morning. So I truly believe God worked this out the best way possible for Dan.) Chandler sent me the sweetest text after I called and told him what was happening; my son helped me handle this awful thing even tho he was 9 hours away. He said he was praying for God to give him and me peace, and to give Dan deep green pastures with lots of fillies!! |
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Location: South Dakota | My heart goes out to you.... |
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Location: OH | So sorry, it is never easy. |
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Go Get Em!
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Location: OH. IO | Thinking of you tonight,praying you know he is pain free and resting easy.It does take a piece or your soul for sure,but I always find peace in knowing they are free of pain,and that is a nice way to rest. |
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My Heart Be Happy
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Location: Arkansas | jake16 - 2018-07-21 8:59 PM
Thinking of you tonight,praying you know he is pain free and resting easy.It does take a piece or your soul for sure,but I always find peace in knowing they are free of pain,and that is a nice way to rest.
That's what Daddy said, never have to worry about him hurting again. And that's what I'm focusing on. Thank y'all again for sharing prayers and your experiences with your 4 legged kids |
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| So sorry. Always a hard decision but it is the best one. |
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Location: NC | So sorry :( |
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| So sorry, it is never easy to say goodbye |
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| Oh no.. I'm so sorry my heart sank when I saw this. Hugs and prayers. I know how bad it hurts |
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My Heart Be Happy
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Location: Arkansas | The barn is way different. . . . I cleaned his feed pail out last night--he didn't eat much the night it happened--but I can't quite bring myself to clean out his stall completely. I told Sean no one else is going to use that stall right now; as much as I love all of mine, I just can't bear to see anyone looking over that door besides Doodlebug. Faci (he had been with Dan for almost 18 years), who isn't the most "please rub on me all over all day" type, came up to me in the barn after I sprayed everyone for flies and just put his head against my chest. . . . Right now the other horses are my biggest comfort as well as my biggest heartbreak, if that makes sense. It's like he knows and he wanted comfort too. |
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Go Get Em!
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Location: OH. IO | I had a really different experience today.I was at the hotel near the hospital my new grandbaby was born at.I walked outside to check the weather.Its a beautiful day with rain.So I did my praying outside in the rain.I thanked the Lord for bringing our baby into the world safely,and for keeping my daughter safe as well as many other things.Then I thanked HIM for the rain,and prayed for rain for our BHW folks that desperately need it.Then I THANKED HIM for all of pets,the ones we have,and the ones that have been in our lives,which brought me to pray for Dan and for peace in your heart.Those empty stalls hurt so bad,but eventually it makes sense to fill it with joy and another loved animal who deserves it too.ALL OF US ON HERE ARE SO BLESSED TO HAVE WHAT WE HAVE. And it's so hard to let them go.Im thankful your Dan didn't go during the winter,in the cold,and im thankful you had to watch the fish that night.Im still praying for you,and sending you hugs my friend.
Edited by jake16 2018-07-22 8:13 PM
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| I am so very sorry! Big hugs and healing memories! |
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Location: Gainesville, TX | I am so sorry to hear this. :( It's so hard to lose the ones we love. Prayers for you and your son during this difficult time. |
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Location: MN | Prayers! |
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Location: In The Snow, AZ | Don’t feel any guilt about not being there when Dan left. I’ve yet to lose a horse, but we had to put our Mastiff down last September, unexpectedly. We were at the emergency vet and I told my husband it’s our duty to be there for her, but I couldn’t do it. I think it was better for us to not see her leave.
Sending prayers for you and your sweet family. |
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Location: The best kept secret in TX | Prayers and hugs to you My Friend... |
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Location: California | I’m so sorry!!!! My prayers are with you! I’m here if you need someone to talk to! |
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Location: Got Lobsta? | OH I am soooo sorry for your loss. To have to make the decision yourself is so hard to do. You were not a coward, your heart is too big to see him go. I did the same thing when I have to put mine down. I couldn't be there, but had someone special holding him. He was so lucky to have you. Hugs! |
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Location: 31 lengths farms | Prayers for you Chandler'sMom...it is always the toughest decision but one that is always best made a little too soon than a little too late. Rest easy knowing you did more than most for him and that love showed. |
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Location: Montgomery TX | I teared up just seeing the title to this post - I did not even want to open it and read it. I am so sorry for your loss - I pray our Father gives you the peace you are seeking! |
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Location: ND | I'm so sorry to read this. It's the hardest choice we ever have to make for babies. But know you did the right thing in taking his pain away. |
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| Oh goodness Debra, my heart fills with sadness for you and your family. You gave Dan a better life than most horses ever experience, and I know he took the best care of you too. Animals (and people too) come into our lives for a reason, and he was there for you throughout the ups and downs. Take comfort in knowing you were there in his greatest time of need, and he is running through green pastures with all the tall grass and mares he could ever want! |
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My Heart Be Happy
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Location: Arkansas | I cannot begin to make each and every one of you know how much your words of encouragement and love mean to me; I simply don't have the words. . . . God bless each of y'all.  |
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RIP my Dan