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Location: OKLAHOMA | Kinda of a scary topic. But I have been putting some thought to what would happen to my horses if something was to happen to me??
I have a non horse husband who could care less wouldn't have a clue to even know where to buy my feed from, let alone how much to feed. My step kids would care less.
Has anybody set up some sort off account to help with expenses and left a specific person (whom they trust) resposible??
Thank for any input!!
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Location: Kansas | If you have a special friend or family who you're 100% sure would take good care of them, establish an agreement where if something happens to you the horses belong to them. Hopefully if they're good people they won't necessarily need money unless you have a "lot" of horses. My husband and I put that in a will at one point, then the folks who we left our animals to got a divorce. That changed everything. |
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Location: OKLAHOMA | This was kinda my thoughts. I have what I call my extra kids that are horse peeps and i would trust. Right now I only have 3 but they are older and I just want to be sure they are taken care of until it is time for them to go. Thank you .... |
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Location: Not Where I Want to Be | having a marriage that I wasn't 100% sure that my other half would take care of things when I'm gone is foriegn to me. |
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Location: Missouri | My husband would....he's not really a horse person, but he knows the right people to ask, knows what to feed them, when to call a vet, etc. He'd likely keep them for our kids and would be willing to ask questions and learn enough so they (the kids) could keep them. |
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Location: Slipping down the slope of old age. Boo hoo. | We set up a trust years ago. The trust directs the executor to contact a dear horse-person friend (and there is also a back-up horse person) who will take ownership/control of all horses and horse-related items immediately with instructions to transfer ownership ASAP to this person as well as a monetary amount for their care. These two people agreed to take responsibility and the executor has their contact information (which I keep updated as necessary). Edited to add: our executor of trust/will is not a family member, but the trust department VP of our long-time local bank who has a very reputable trust department. Our trust attorney also has the memorandum regarding our horse care instructions -- and our non-horse sons are aware of this direction within our trust and totally support it. We were very careful to set up everything legally so there would be no issues passing the horses' ownership ASAP to the horse-care person.
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Location: OKLAHOMA | Well believe me it stinks. Sure hasn't turned out like I had hoped it would. All I can say is if you have a significant other that has an interest in what you are passionate about you are BLESSED!!! I have zero help unless i throw a fit then its like they are put out with the world. So over the years i have made almost everything GIRL friendly. I can fix most of my stuff by myself. Huge fan of electric tape fence and solar chargers, put lots of thought into setting up stuff to be accessible with trucks and tractors. You learn to set thing ups so you don't have to carry feed or hay far. Sorry for the overload. |
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Location: Jersey Girl | I have been thinking about this too. I have often thought I need to put something in writing. My husband is very much and animal lover but I don't know that he would want the burden long term of caring for my horses. I do self care so they are off property.
I would probably stipulate that my retired gelding go to my good friend and if for some reason she was not in the position to take another horse and my husband was not able to care for him (financially or otherwise)I would want him put down. As for my mare, I would also ask (in writing) that a good horse friend help find her a good home. If none could help and it too much for my husband to do the care I would probably have her put down too. |
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Location: OKLAHOMA | Thanks for sharing with me. I am planning on having the talk with my extra's and see if they think they will be on board with my thinking. I would never want to burden them with my horses when they have plenty of them. But I will be very picky about who i chat with about this. I have also considered having it set up to have my old mare who is 29 this year put down if somebody will not want to take her on. My other 2 could go on to help others ... |
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Location: LuluLand~along I64 Indiana | i plan to be out of the horse business before im gone. |
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Location: Kansas | luluwhit - 2019-01-22 12:42 PM i plan to be out of the horse business before im gone. That's my plan too. We're down to two. The old Thoroughbred could outlive me. He looks wonderful for 26. I never thought when I took him off the track as a six-year-old and refused to sell him that he would live this long.
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Location: OKLAHOMA | Oh believe me I hope I am out of the horse business before something happens to me. But this world is so crazy that could be any time. So I would rather my ponies have a good place to land than to think any of my bunch would take care of them. My horses are an inconvenience to my so called family. I have way to much tied up in them to think they would get traded/sold or given to somebody not of my choice. Mine are 29, 21 and 17 so hopefully I will be around for whatever happens to them. But, I want to think ahead...
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Location: Northern Ontario | I have talked about it with my SO but I need to put it in a will.(even if I am only 30) my sister gets my horse, trailer, and everything horse related to do with as she wishes. |
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Location: Kansas | Remember the movie "Who Will Love My Children" about a woman dying of cancer worrying about who would raise her kids. This post made me think of that. |
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Location: OH. IO | Frodo - 2019-01-22 7:55 PM
Remember the movie "Who Will Love My Children" about a woman dying of cancer worrying about who would raise her kids. This post made me think of that.
My best friend died of cancer at 555 am yesterday morning.She has three girls ages 21,16,and 12. She also has a beautiful bay dressage horse named Tango.She told me last Wednesday that she needed to get him back to his previous person.His previous person said she would like him back if he ever needs a home.Contacted her today,she doesn't want him back :((( My friend thought she knew for sure where he would be going.Now he is up for sale,and who knows where he will end up.:*((( |
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Location: Arkansas | I was talking to Sean about a will yesterday, and I definitely need to make sure this subject is included. I've told Chandler to make sure they are taken care of, but my wish is that my phenomenal horse friend would take them. I just need to set the money situation up; I have 5, so I understand there has to be money there. Mine are 24, 19, 15 (two), and 12. Bless everyone for caring enough to plan ahead for their 4 legged kids. |
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Location: Arkansas | jake16 - 2019-01-22 7:13 PM
Frodo - 2019-01-22 7:55 PM
Remember the movie "Who Will Love My Children" about a woman dying of cancer worrying about who would raise her kids. This post made me think of that.
My best friend died of cancer at 555 am yesterday morning.She has three girls ages 21,16,and 12. She also has a beautiful bay dressage horse named Tango.She told me last Wednesday that she needed to get him back to his previous person.His previous person said she would like him back if he ever needs a home.Contacted her today,she doesn't want him back : ( ( ( My friend thought she knew for sure where he would be going.Now he is up for sale,and who knows where he will end up.:* ( ( (
Oh Miss Mary, this just hurts my heart for you. On top of her death, I know now you'll worry about Tango  |
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Location: Kansas | In many instances too it's not just horses, it's dogs and cats. Sometimes it's even worse for them because they basically have no value. I've seen many sad incidents involving pets whose owners died or divorced. |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | jake16 - 2019-01-22 7:13 PM Frodo - 2019-01-22 7:55 PM Remember the movie "Who Will Love My Children" about a woman dying of cancer worrying about who would raise her kids. This post made me think of that. My best friend died of cancer at 555 am yesterday morning.She has three girls ages 21,16,and 12. She also has a beautiful bay dressage horse named Tango.She told me last Wednesday that she needed to get him back to his previous person.His previous person said she would like him back if he ever needs a home.Contacted her today,she doesn't want him back : ( ( ( My friend thought she knew for sure where he would be going.Now he is up for sale,and who knows where he will end up.:* ( ( (
Oh no thats so sad.. So sorry about your friend Mary, friends that your close too are so special and when they are gone you just feel empty with out them, but gosh thats just a sad deal about the horse, thinking hes going back and then nope..Hope that he finds a forever home soon..  |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | This is really a sad thread  |
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| Gosh this has been on my mind a lot here lately also. We've have had 3 deaths in our family since October this past year. I really need to sit down and figure it out. I told my husband, ( which he isn't horsey but he knows enough and helps with them) my old mares 29 & 28 I would want them put down because I just don't want them wasting away in some field, if he isn't able to or want to take care of them. Although the 28 yr old pony I am trying to find a home for right now, just the people that have shown interest in her I don't think would do right by her...that's a whole nother story. But my daughter's horse I would hope that my husband and sister n law, and niece would help her with her horse. and mine I would want them to sell unless a family member would want her. I haven't even thought about my dogs... but it has really been on my mind a lot. Wished I was rich and could just have them set up somewhere for the rest of their lives... |
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Location: Not Where I Want to Be | jake16 - 2019-01-22 8:13 PM
Frodo - 2019-01-22 7:55 PM
Remember the movie "Who Will Love My Children" about a woman dying of cancer worrying about who would raise her kids. This post made me think of that.
My best friend died of cancer at 555 am yesterday morning.She has three girls ages 21,16,and 12. She also has a beautiful bay dressage horse named Tango.She told me last Wednesday that she needed to get him back to his previous person.His previous person said she would like him back if he ever needs a home.Contacted her today,she doesn't want him back : ( ( ( My friend thought she knew for sure where he would be going.Now he is up for sale,and who knows where he will end up.:* ( ( (
it's easy to make promises.
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | 1DSoon - 2019-01-22 8:28 PM jake16 - 2019-01-22 8:13 PM Frodo - 2019-01-22 7:55 PM Remember the movie "Who Will Love My Children" about a woman dying of cancer worrying about who would raise her kids. This post made me think of that. My best friend died of cancer at 555 am yesterday morning.She has three girls ages 21,16,and 12. She also has a beautiful bay dressage horse named Tango.She told me last Wednesday that she needed to get him back to his previous person.His previous person said she would like him back if he ever needs a home.Contacted her today,she doesn't want him back : ( ( ( My friend thought she knew for sure where he would be going.Now he is up for sale,and who knows where he will end up.:* ( ( ( it's easy to make promises. Hard to keep them
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | I'm so lucky my husband and boys are animal lovers  |
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Location: Arkansas | Southtxponygirl - 2019-01-22 8:39 PM
I'm so lucky my husband and boys are animal lovers
I feel blessed too that C would make arrangements--he knows how much my animals mean to me. (Momma would take on my dogs, but she is scared of horses and really doesn't know for sure which end a bridle goes on if that tells you how bad it is!!) |
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Location: OKLAHOMA | I did not mean for this to be SAD... I just want us to be ready and for our animals to be taken care of by people who are willing and able to do so. I am sorry for making anybody sad.. |
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Location: WYOMING | I'm gonna have some super excited friends when I die. They are getting my horses and my tack. They just don't know it (so they don't kill me for their inheritance). |
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Location: MN | It sure makes you think! I had never thought of if something happened to me, if my non horsey SO would keep my boys or not. I'm only 26 so I asked my SO to give my horses to one of my best friends if something were to ever happen to me. He said that he would learn to take care of them though which made me smile but if he needed help or could no longer care for them properly, he needed to give them to her. He's one of those that went to work today to google "how often do you worm a horse" and "how often should horses hooves be trimmed" LOL. |
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Location: CTX | Eventhough it is a sad and hard topic, it sure is something to think about. It's a necessary evil. So Rostymom, don't feel bad about broaching it!
I hope to stick around another 20-25 years so hopefully we won't have to think about this for a very long time, but as we all know, anything can happen....
The hubster loves them eventhough he is not a real horsey person. But he helps when needed with feeding, watering and such, so I know he would try to keep them and take care of them.
We don't have kids together, so if something would happen to both of us I want them to go to friends of us. They can either keep them, or if they wouldn't be in a position to keep them find good homes for them. We are not rich, but some money will be set aside to take care of them for a while so they could find a solution and not hurt financially because of it.
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| My niece and I are very close and she knows how to feed. We also have a family that I grew up with that would help my niece and my sister/her family. As morbid as it sounds they would likely move into my place in the event something happened to me. I have a portion of my life insurance dedicated to my one gelding to care for him the rest of his life. The other horse has been "assigned" to a friend, I call her the God Mother. We have a verbal agreement that she would take her until my niece was ready for her or if they couldn't afford her. |
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Location: LouLouVille, OK | I have mine in my will... and you can take some of your health insurance money to help with expenses.... |
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Location: LouLouVille, OK | geronabean - 2019-01-23 9:48 AM I'm gonna have some super excited friends when I die. They are getting my horses and my tack. They just don't know it (so they don't kill me for their inheritance).
and there we have it lol... me too...
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Location: Southeast Louisiana | Believe me, it can happen to anyone at any time.
I can’t begin to tell you the number of people i’ve had to deliver that horrible news to, often expecting their family member when they heard the car door because they were expected home any minute. It’s devastating for the survivors and i’m sure that, in the hectic days following a death, they would very much appreciate having your wishes in writing. If for no other reason, just so they don’t have another thing to worry about.
I’m glad I saw this thread. It is a great reminder that I need to put something in writing. We have talked about it, but my husband is worse at this than he is at taking care of my animals. I know he would just give them to whoever could get there first to pick them up and I wouldn’t want my horses out there without papers and a suitable home! |
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Location: 31 lengths farms | Actually , my fiance and I have had this conversation. He knows I would come back to haunt him if he were to give any of them to a small list of people. The gelding is a lifer with us, so he would keep him and just watch him eat grass and soak up sunshine. The mares we have a plan for, just hope the two friends that are on that short list accept the "package", LOL!!!  |
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Location: Arkansas | Kay-DRacing. - 2019-01-23 10:03 AM
It sure makes you think! I had never thought of if something happened to me, if my non horsey SO would keep my boys or not. I'm only 26 so I asked my SO to give my horses to one of my best friends if something were to ever happen to me. He said that he would learn to take care of them though which made me smile but if he needed help or could no longer care for them properly, he needed to give them to her. He's one of those that went to work today to google "how often do you worm a horse" and "how often should horses hooves be trimmed" LOL.
My dear, hang on to that man, he's a good one!! |
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Location: North Dakota | rostymom - 2019-01-22 8:39 AM Kinda of a scary topic. But I have been putting some thought to what would happen to my horses if something was to happen to me??
I have a non horse husband who could care less wouldn't have a clue to even know where to buy my feed from, let alone how much to feed. My step kids would care less.
Has anybody set up some sort off account to help with expenses and left a specific person (whom they trust) resposible??
Thank for any input!!
Have a Blessed Day !!!
If you don't already have a will, this is why you should. For special things like this, spell out what is to be done with the horses.
It's highly worth to meet with an attorney or lawyer and have these sort of things figured out.
On that note, you should have a living will too. (So healthcare providers know what your wishes are, for example, if you are in a vegatiative state.)
Also not a bad idea to have life insurance, to help the spouse you leave behind and/or any kids (as well as who gets what).
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Location: MN | Chandler's Mom - 2019-01-23 7:06 PM Kay-DRacing. - 2019-01-23 10:03 AM It sure makes you think! I had never thought of if something happened to me, if my non horsey SO would keep my boys or not. I'm only 26 so I asked my SO to give my horses to one of my best friends if something were to ever happen to me. He said that he would learn to take care of them though which made me smile but if he needed help or could no longer care for them properly, he needed to give them to her. He's one of those that went to work today to google "how often do you worm a horse" and "how often should horses hooves be trimmed" LOL. My dear, hang on to that man, he's a good one!!
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Location: Dubach, LA | geronabean - 2019-01-23 9:48 AM I'm gonna have some super excited friends when I die. They are getting my horses and my tack. They just don't know it (so they don't kill me for their inheritance).
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| Mine are all taken care of. Transfers signed, everything. Person knows the status. Beneficiary is nonhorse so it is easier for a horse person to handle that part and also knows. I don’t want someone selling mine for $1000 because they have no clue. |
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Location: OH. IO | jake16 - 2019-01-22 8:13 PM
Frodo - 2019-01-22 7:55 PM
Remember the movie "Who Will Love My Children" about a woman dying of cancer worrying about who would raise her kids. This post made me think of that.
My best friend died of cancer at 555 am yesterday morning.She has three girls ages 21,16,and 12. She also has a beautiful bay dressage horse named Tango.She told me last Wednesday that she needed to get him back to his previous person.His previous person said she would like him back if he ever needs a home.Contacted her today,she doesn't want him back : ( ( ( My friend thought she knew for sure where he would be going.Now he is up for sale,and who knows where he will end up.:* ( ( (
I bought Tango today,I couldn't even think of him ending up in a bad home.He is a big 16.2 hand beautiful bay.I don't do dressage,but he does also like to trail ride and swim.I think my daughter will really love having him.Im blessed to have him. |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | jake16 - 2019-02-10 11:01 AM jake16 - 2019-01-22 8:13 PM Frodo - 2019-01-22 7:55 PM Remember the movie "Who Will Love My Children" about a woman dying of cancer worrying about who would raise her kids. This post made me think of that. My best friend died of cancer at 555 am yesterday morning.She has three girls ages 21,16,and 12. She also has a beautiful bay dressage horse named Tango.She told me last Wednesday that she needed to get him back to his previous person.His previous person said she would like him back if he ever needs a home.Contacted her today,she doesn't want him back : ( ( ( My friend thought she knew for sure where he would be going.Now he is up for sale,and who knows where he will end up.:* ( ( ( I bought Tango today,I couldn't even think of him ending up in a bad home.He is a big 16.2 hand beautiful bay.I don't do dressage,but he does also like to trail ride and swim.I think my daughter will really love having him.Im blessed to have him.
Awwww thats great Mary, I would have done the same thing, in fact I have over my years. I have bought the horses because I knew them and the owners and when the owners could not keep them for some reason I bought the horse, one I rehomed to a awesome home and the other I kept because of age..
Its just not knowing where they will end up that makes us heart heavy, so glad that you bought the horse now you wont have to worry and you can sleep better, many hugs  |
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Location: Arkansas | jake16 - 2019-02-10 11:01 AM
jake16 - 2019-01-22 8:13 PM
Frodo - 2019-01-22 7:55 PM
Remember the movie "Who Will Love My Children" about a woman dying of cancer worrying about who would raise her kids. This post made me think of that.
My best friend died of cancer at 555 am yesterday morning.She has three girls ages 21,16,and 12. She also has a beautiful bay dressage horse named Tango.She told me last Wednesday that she needed to get him back to his previous person.His previous person said she would like him back if he ever needs a home.Contacted her today,she doesn't want him back : ( ( ( My friend thought she knew for sure where he would be going.Now he is up for sale,and who knows where he will end up.:* ( ( ( I bought Tango today,I couldn't even think of him ending up in a bad home.He is a big 16.2 hand beautiful bay.I don't do dressage,but he does also like to trail ride and swim.I think my daughter will really love having him.Im blessed to have him.
In my heart of hearts, Miss Mary, I knew this was gonna happen
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Location: Oklahoma | Chandler's Mom - 2019-02-10 12:46 PM
jake16 - 2019-02-10 11:01 AM
jake16 - 2019-01-22 8:13 PM
Frodo - 2019-01-22 7:55 PM
Remember the movie "Who Will Love My Children" about a woman dying of cancer worrying about who would raise her kids. This post made me think of that.
My best friend died of cancer at 555 am yesterday morning.She has three girls ages 21,16,and 12. She also has a beautiful bay dressage horse named Tango.She told me last Wednesday that she needed to get him back to his previous person.His previous person said she would like him back if he ever needs a home.Contacted her today,she doesn't want him back : ( ( ( My friend thought she knew for sure where he would be going.Now he is up for sale,and who knows where he will end up.:* ( ( ( I bought Tango today,I couldn't even think of him ending up in a bad home.He is a big 16.2 hand beautiful bay.I don't do dressage,but he does also like to trail ride and swim.I think my daughter will really love having him.Im blessed to have him.
In my heart of hearts, Miss Mary, I knew this was gonna happen
I'm so happy for him, you, and your friend. . . . She's watching and smiling
Mary you have a heart of Gold!!! You are definitely a person to look up to!  |
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