Hi guys I am at my whits end here and I thought I would throw a post out to see if anyone can give me some insight. Any tips or let me know what you think. 

This isn't entirely directed towards one of my horses in particular. I have had others with the same traits especially with training futurity horses I know it's a given! But im going to direct this post towards my current 3 yr old mare for easy comparison. 

This horse is very broke, she's just now ready to start hauling and entering her. I just have such a hard time with tying / hauling / separating from buddies. I even currently have her by herself at an indoor for winter riding and she's made a buddy beside her that she now is in complete distress once she leaves her to go be worked. Tying her is a nightmare with pawing, pacing, calling for her friend, head flailing in the air. I have tried just leaving her tied to get over it and she eventually does but the next day back to square one. Put her in the trailer alone and she comes unglued and same thing. Have her alone in the arena and still very anxious but will work and do her job nicely. But calls and often won't stand still. It's been months now so I'm just asking for any tips on what I could do.  

Please note I have had this horse scoped for ulcers and she has none, she's been looked over for any lameness. I have her up to date on everything. Good teeth and feet. 

I know she's not exposed and hasn't been hauled around much so this plays a big factor but she's acting this way where she has been settled in for months so I am not sure what I can do. Or just put up with it? Do they eventually grow out of this ? 

Thanks everyone in advance I look forward to your comments 

I have a gelding that can be challenging, so I certainly sympathize with you, it is a tough thing to deal with. I went to a Phil Haugen clinic, and he showed my how to do groundwork with my gelding, which is very helpful in developing a good relationship/connection. He talks alot about the thinking side of their brain and the reacting side, and how it switches from one to the other, quickly. So I'd suggest contacting Phil or listening to his weekly podcast "Be Your Best Horsemanship" it's on his website, and Apple etc. 

Im curious, since you said this isn't really directed at one, but you had others.  Any of the same bloodlines?  

Also, how long are you leaving them tied before and after saddling?

In my limited "Betty Barrel Racer" experience, it's a baby thing. I've had some ring-tailed tooters as 3 or 4 year olds, where some days I'd have shot 'em for a quarter and given you a nickel change. They eventually outgrew MOST of it. It seems some are just more social than others. If you haven't tried feeding Redmond Daily Stress or liquid Gardion, each product is cheap and worth a shot. Also, hollering is a learned behavior and once they learn it, it takes a long time to unlearn it.

True buddy sour horses are the biggest pain to live with. I do believe that every one of them starts with an internal anxiousness that increases when their buddy or leader isn't present. The ones I have dealt with have all been lower in the pecking order too. I really wish there was a simple "tie them alone until they get over it" solution but each case and many times each day is so different. I really hope you can find a solution that works.