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Location: Kansas | What is the biggest difference in age of someone you dated and yourself, and how did it work out? |
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| 8 years seems to be my max. I want to have personal connection of childhood memories, in the same generation frame. To me, things just get awkward after a certain point.
And IMO if it even bothers you a little bit. Generally it will bother you worse later, and that goes for everything. It's okay to get to know someone, and make a decision. But I've found for myself that if it's something I'm "iffy" about before we start seriously dating, it'll be something that seriously bothers me later. |
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Location: Buffalo, Wyoming | My SO and I are 11 years apart. We have been together for 6 years and have never had any issues with our age. I act more mature for my age and of course most men are a little immature.... |
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Location: PNW | Almost an 8 year difference, we've been married for 4 years and have two babies - still going strong. Age is not an issue as long you are in the same place in life. |
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Location: Kansas | I'm assuming in your situations, the man is older? |
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Location: Buffalo, Wyoming | HarlanLivesOn - 2015-03-31 2:46 PM I'm assuming in your situations, the man is older?
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| In mine yes, but then, I've never been able to tolerate younger men in a dating mind-set |
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| I've dated both older and younger men.
I think it depends on where the age difference is in life vs the numbers, and of course the individuals.
There is a much bigger difference in 10 years between 20 and 30 vs 30 and 40, in my opinion in most cases. And the same with 20 and 25 vs 30 and 35. Heck, there's a few subsets where just a couple years can make a big difference.
In my experience the age difference alone didn't kill the relationship with the older man - the fact that he was an over bearing boarderline abusive jack wagon did. However I have struggled a bit with seeing men who are older than me since then.
Immaturity most certainly killed the relationship with the younger guy. I am going on 28 and he just turned 24.
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Location: Kansas | That's what I figured. I'm 26 and it seems like the only available (nice) guys out there are younger than me, or are mid 30s coming out of a divorce. |
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I will say don't count the younger guys out. I'm talking to another one now who is 25, just graduated school, been living on his own for a few years, looking for a career type job. Totally different person than the last one with a totally different set of experiences. I feel like I can respect him instead of feeling like I have to mother him. |
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| OhMax - 2015-03-31 4:11 PM Welcome to my life. I will say don't count the younger guys out. I'm talking to another one now who is 25, just graduated school, been living on his own for a few years, looking for a career type job. Totally different person than the last one with a totally different set of experiences. I feel like I can respect him instead of feeling like I have to mother him.
Totally agree with this sentiment. The guy I'm dating now is 21 and I am 23. We both have the same values and want the same things out of life and are willing to actually work for them. Don't always discredit the younger ones. I have always dated 5+ years older than me and all I have run into is baggage with that so far honestly. |
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| Just hang in there. I'm not ever going to lie to you and blow smoke and say you'll meet "the one". Maybe you won't. But I'm betting that eventually you're going to bump into one that you don't have to chase down, that opens doors, that is nice to you, that you really like, that doesn't let you down, and that makes you commit despite yourself. The ones that show up with all their baggage shining for the world to see, that admit to being a human and making ridiculous mistakes. Go with the guy that admits to, and owns his mess.
I promise you probably will be spooked, because it's real. If you're not terrified the whole time, you're a) probably not mature enough for a relationship anyway, or b) not really in it with the real deal. The real deal is somebody that really really is firing on all 12 for you, and you just can't seem to figure out how to send him packing, because he won't go, and he's doing everything right.
I think women get caught in this trap of figuring out how to make them stay. Why don't you figure out how to get rid of them? You hold that door open wide enough into "get lost loser" space, the good ones are going to be holding on for dear life and be the last ones standing.
I really don't care how old my guy is, I would have kept a younger guy if he'd gone out of his way to be a man like my husband does at 10 years older than me.
Boys are a blast, and they can be a boy their whole life. Learn to decipher what a man is, and date those. A guy can be a man when he's 20, it all just depends on who he really is.
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Location: Sunny So Cal | Mine was 10 years older and it didn't work out. Mostly on his part not mine. He was more bugged by the age than I was. He wanted more of good time rather than a relationship. Not how I am. |
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Location: Buffalo, Wyoming | classicpotatochip - 2015-03-31 3:40 PM Just hang in there. I'm not ever going to lie to you and blow smoke and say you'll meet "the one". Maybe you won't. But I'm betting that eventually you're going to bump into one that you don't have to chase down, that opens doors, that is nice to you, that you really like, that doesn't let you down, and that makes you commit despite yourself. The ones that show up with all their baggage shining for the world to see, that admit to being a human and making ridiculous mistakes. Go with the guy that admits to, and owns his mess. I promise you probably will be spooked, because it's real. If you're not terrified the whole time, you're a) probably not mature enough for a relationship anyway, or b) not really in it with the real deal. The real deal is somebody that really really is firing on all 12 for you, and you just can't seem to figure out how to send him packing, because he won't go, and he's doing everything right. I think women get caught in this trap of figuring out how to make them stay. Why don't you figure out how to get rid of them? You hold that door open wide enough into "get lost loser" space, the good ones are going to be holding on for dear life and be the last ones standing. I really don't care how old my guy is, I would have kept a younger guy if he'd gone out of his way to be a man like my husband does at 10 years older than me. Boys are a blast, and they can be a boy their whole life. Learn to decipher what a man is, and date those. A guy can be a man when he's 20, it all just depends on who he really is.
You are so awesome with advice! Wish I could have gotten to know you more before you moved out of the great state of Wyoming! |
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Location: Sunny So Cal | UTAHCANCHASER - 2015-03-31 2:58 PM classicpotatochip - 2015-03-31 3:40 PM Just hang in there. I'm not ever going to lie to you and blow smoke and say you'll meet "the one". Maybe you won't. But I'm betting that eventually you're going to bump into one that you don't have to chase down, that opens doors, that is nice to you, that you really like, that doesn't let you down, and that makes you commit despite yourself. The ones that show up with all their baggage shining for the world to see, that admit to being a human and making ridiculous mistakes. Go with the guy that admits to, and owns his mess. I promise you probably will be spooked, because it's real. If you're not terrified the whole time, you're a) probably not mature enough for a relationship anyway, or b) not really in it with the real deal. The real deal is somebody that really really is firing on all 12 for you, and you just can't seem to figure out how to send him packing, because he won't go, and he's doing everything right. I think women get caught in this trap of figuring out how to make them stay. Why don't you figure out how to get rid of them? You hold that door open wide enough into "get lost loser" space, the good ones are going to be holding on for dear life and be the last ones standing. I really don't care how old my guy is, I would have kept a younger guy if he'd gone out of his way to be a man like my husband does at 10 years older than me. Boys are a blast, and they can be a boy their whole life. Learn to decipher what a man is, and date those. A guy can be a man when he's 20, it all just depends on who he really is. You are so awesome with advice! Wish I could have gotten to know you more before you moved out of the great state of Wyoming!
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Location: Texas | Wow that is the truth!!!
I finally go to experience the.. string you along, just want you for a good time, no intentions of committing.. its a vicious cycle. man its rewarding when you get their attention then its a mess when they blow you off again, just to get rewarded with a little attention from them later. I finally had enough of it. I'm 26 and he was 27.. soooooo... I don't think he'll ever grow up.
I've talked to people 5-6 years older than me. One we were totally not on the same page.. but I don't think age was the factor.. I think we just didnt click. This other guy I don't even notice the difference. |
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Location: Texas | classicpotatochip - 2015-03-31 4:40 PM
Just hang in there. I'm not ever going to lie to you and blow smoke and say you'll meet "the one". Maybe you won't. But I'm betting that eventually you're going to bump into one that you don't have to chase down, that opens doors, that is nice to you, that you really like, that doesn't let you down, and that makes you commit despite yourself. The ones that show up with all their baggage shining for the world to see, that admit to being a human and making ridiculous mistakes. Go with the guy that admits to, and owns his mess.
I promise you probably will be spooked, because it's real. If you're not terrified the whole time, you're a) probably not mature enough for a relationship anyway, or b) not really in it with the real deal. The real deal is somebody that really really is firing on all 12 for you, and you just can't seem to figure out how to send him packing, because he won't go, and he's doing everything right.
I think women get caught in this trap of figuring out how to make them stay. Why don't you figure out how to get rid of them? You hold that door open wide enough into "get lost loser" space, the good ones are going to be holding on for dear life and be the last ones standing.
I really don't care how old my guy is, I would have kept a younger guy if he'd gone out of his way to be a man like my husband does at 10 years older than me.
Boys are a blast, and they can be a boy their whole life. Learn to decipher what a man is, and date those. A guy can be a man when he's 20, it all just depends on who he really is.
I am going to copy this and keep it forever! |
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| I've dated younger and older. Married older and divorced him. They're all the same. Sure there's a few good ones out there but I just don't care anymore. I have a great life and am very happy being single. I'm very busy, hve an awesome rodeo career/horse training business and decided I'm living life for ME and I don't care if I hve a man to share it with. |
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| casualdust07 - 2015-03-31 6:12 PM
classicpotatochip - 2015-03-31 4:40 PM
Just hang in there. I'm not ever going to lie to you and blow smoke and say you'll meet "the one". Maybe you won't. But I'm betting that eventually you're going to bump into one that you don't have to chase down, that opens doors, that is nice to you, that you really like, that doesn't let you down, and that makes you commit despite yourself. The ones that show up with all their baggage shining for the world to see, that admit to being a human and making ridiculous mistakes. Go with the guy that admits to, and owns his mess.
I promise you probably will be spooked, because it's real. If you're not terrified the whole time, you're a) probably not mature enough for a relationship anyway, or b) not really in it with the real deal. The real deal is somebody that really really is firing on all 12 for you, and you just can't seem to figure out how to send him packing, because he won't go, and he's doing everything right.
I think women get caught in this trap of figuring out how to make them stay. Why don't you figure out how to get rid of them? You hold that door open wide enough into "get lost loser" space, the good ones are going to be holding on for dear life and be the last ones standing.
I really don't care how old my guy is, I would have kept a younger guy if he'd gone out of his way to be a man like my husband does at 10 years older than me.
Boys are a blast, and they can be a boy their whole life. Learn to decipher what a man is, and date those. A guy can be a man when he's 20, it all just depends on who he really is.
I am going to copy this and keep it forever!
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Location: Phoenix | 3 years. I was a freshman in college and he had just graduated. He wanted a family and to move to CA...I wanted to party and finish school close to home. Long distance didn't work out.
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Location: Gainesville, TX | My sister's husband is six years older than her. My dad is six years older than my mom. My grandmother is a couple years older than my grandpa. I'm the same age as my husband. I have a cousin who is married to a man around 12 years older than her. All of us are happy. It depends on the person. I dated a few guys older than me for a while and generally preferred it but I married one my same age. I'm just a couple months older. But he was considerably more mature for the most part than a lot of other guys, younger and older, that I had dated. |
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Location: Slipping down the slope of old age. Boo hoo. | My husband is 8 years older than I. We have been married 37 years. While in college I dated younger and older -- the oldest was about 25 years older. Did not take me long to figure out it was just creepy. Moved on. As someone else said, it is best to date a *real man" and they can be of any age. The guy that was 25 years older than me had NOT grown up.... A good man is a good man. That's the key. Oh - and if they are weirdly tied to the their mothers - RUN. Momma's spoiled boys are awful. |
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| Guys age ÷ 2 + 7=minimum age he can date...
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| Itsme - 2015-03-31 8:17 PM
Guys age ÷ 2 + 7=minimum age he can date...
Its science.
Not going to lie I started madly punching numbers on my calculator and I don't know that I disagree with that statement...seems to be reasonably legit |
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Location: Oklahoma & Texas | My husband is 9 years older than me ...we've been married 10.5 years and been together almost 12...we met when I was 24 and he was 33... and I would say that age calculation posted earlier is dead on lol |
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| HarlanLivesOn - 2015-03-31 3:59 PM That's what I figured. I'm 26 and it seems like the only available (nice) guys out there are younger than me, or are mid 30s coming out of a divorce. Snag the good young one before someone else does and has a baby with him... then he is gone...........now as long as it is all legal. LOL
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| Itsme - 2015-03-31 8:17 PM Guys age ÷ 2 + 7=minimum age he can date... Its science.
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| sodapop - 2015-03-31 9:15 PM Itsme - 2015-03-31 8:17 PM Guys age ÷ 2 + 7=minimum age he can date... Its science. What is the equation for women?
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Location: Florida.. | Itsme - 2015-03-31 10:24 PM sodapop - 2015-03-31 9:15 PM Itsme - 2015-03-31 8:17 PM Guys age ÷ 2 + 7=minimum age he can date... Its science. What is the equation for women? Its a little more complex....
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Location: Kansas | I've dated older, even close to 20 years older and now am coming up on two years with a guy who is 4 years younger than me but he's light years ahead of most older guys in terms of maturity. It is a good thing I don't want to go bar hopping, clubbing or anything after 10 p.m. because that is the time he does night chores with horses, puts on pajama pants and is in for the night. We act like we're 50 and 46 instead of 31 and 27. LOL. I don't think age is the main determining factor.....you just have to find the right person, the one you want to wring their neck but don't because you'd miss them later. LOL. |
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| Itsme - 2015-03-31 9:24 PM
sodapop - 2015-03-31 9:15 PM Itsme - 2015-03-31 8:17 PM Guys age ÷ 2 + 7=minimum age he can date... Its science. What is the equation for women?
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Location: Some where I haven't left yet | Married my Hubby who was 20 years my senior... Amazing man, miss him....... due to undiagnosed health issues he passed away. Always healthy(I thought) and active, he was my best friend. I can't stand most "men" my age due to the large percentage who don't have mothers willing to make their "little" boys GROW UP! |
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Location: TN | My boyfriend is 10 years older than me. We have been together for nearly 9 years - yes I know it's time to get married! lol
The age gap has not been an issue for us at all. Boys/men mature later than women in most cases so if anything it has helped save a lot of drama to date a man who is a few years older. |
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| Itsme - 2015-03-31 9:24 PM
sodapop - 2015-03-31 9:15 PM Itsme - 2015-03-31 8:17 PM Guys age ÷ 2 + 7=minimum age he can date... Its science. What is the equation for women?
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Location: Where you need a paddle... Oregon! | I'm 44, he's 29. It wasn't a problem at first, but now he's thinking he will want marriage, kids and picket fences. There's a lot of love and attraction between us but not enough to ask him to not want those things for himself. It's frustrating, confusing and heartbreaking. I don't recommend it unless both of you know very strongly what your needs are for your happiness. |
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Location: North Dakota | I think the closer you get to 20+ years apart, the more unlikely it is it will work out. Especially long term. Other than that though, I don't think age matters. Everyone's an individual. Some people are mature and ready to settle down when they're 22, some never are. What matters is finding the person that loves you, respects you, and shares the same goals and beliefs as you. |
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Location: Where it is too cold, SD | My husband is 13 years older - and doesn't bother me at all................I guess I really think it depends on the chemistry between two people on whether the relationship is gonna work, not your ages. Soooo many variable between two people. |
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| My husband and I are 25 years apart. We've been together 6 years. Married 2 this month. He has 3 kids from previous marriages. I don't want kids. SO... We had it worked out before we ever got married. He is amazing and my best friend. We are perfect for each other. No things are not always rainbows and flowers. We argue. And some days we would love to shoot each other but 100% of the time I wouldn't trade him for anything in the world. Ive dated guys my age and within 7 years of my age. Obviously they didn't work out. I never imagined I would be with someone this much older than me, but we compliment each other. He acts younger than his age and I feel a whole lot older than I am.
I get the "oh he's your dad?" ALOT. I usually come back with Yea I call him Big Daddy. Or my personal favorite... No. He pays me by the hour. :)
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Location: MD | Murphy - 2015-04-01 9:04 AM
I think if you have to ask.... it's too big of a difference.
Murphy got it. Nobody else is in that relationship but you and him. |
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Location: Kansas | sodapop - 2015-03-31 8:13 PM
HarlanLivesOn - 2015-03-31 3:59 PM That's what I figured. I'm 26 and it seems like the only available (nice) guys out there are younger than me, or are mid 30s coming out of a divorce. Snag the good young one before someone else does and has a baby with him... then he is gone...........now as long as it is all legal. LOL
I'm thinking maybe I should just snag one young when they're still easily trainable!!! ;) lol I'm not sure if I could handle a 20 year olds maturity level though! |
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Location: Missouri | I am 13yrs older than my husband and we'll be married 6yrs. I'm really immature so it works, lol. |
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| My husband and I are 15 years apart (I am 39 and he turns 55 in a few days). We dated two years and just got married in December. Now.. This is his fourth marriage and my third. My first two husbands were just two and four years older than me and I never had an interest in anyone younger than me.
I absolutely adore my husband. He has given me more love and respect in the last tow years than I have ever had with anyone EVER. I don't think age matters if you truly are in love with one another. |
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Location: The best kept secret in TX | I dated a guy who was 34 when I was 19/20. We got along really great. Hardly fought. We eventually called it quits because he traveled so much. We still keep in touch and his current girlfriend and I are really good friends. She is also my age.
My current SO and I are 4 years apart. I hardly think about it. It's not that big of a deal honestly. The only time I think about it is when one of us has a birthday. He calls me a baby and I call him a cradle robber.
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Location: Kansas | Tbred - 2015-04-01 9:02 AM
I am 13yrs older than my husband and we'll be married 6yrs. I'm really immature so it works, lol.
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Location: Missouri | HarlanLivesOn - 2015-04-02 7:52 AM Tbred - 2015-04-01 9:02 AM I am 13yrs older than my husband and we'll be married 6yrs. I'm really immature so it works, lol. How old were you both when you started dating?
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Location: Texas | My husband and I are 7 yrs apart and I am the cougar. Lol. He can be a real handful sometimes as he can e immature about things..... But he is not and never has been a party animal and like to drink or go to bars etc. I am 45 and he is 38 and we act like old married people and are in bed by 9 most nights. He truley is the hardest working man I know and I don't want for anything. The only downside is that he would have like to tried to have kids but have both agreed at my age it's not an option for us. We have our fur babies and that is enough. We have been together about 6 yrs and married for 2. I really think it is about the individual and not neccessarily age in most cases. We do get a good giggle at some generational things like music etc. but it works for us. |
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Location: MD | I have dated much older and much younger. Currently, there is an 11 years age difference. While I am older, he is probably the more mature. I tend to be very "in the moment" and don't always think, or plan for what is to come. While still very youthful and exuberant about many things, he is definitely the "planner". It also helps that he tends to be a very kind, thoughtful person, who was raised right and has not a selfish bone in his body. Anyone who knows me knows what a mess I can be and it's such a rare thing that I find someone who "centers" me that I can't be picky about how old they are! |
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| I had an ex that was 8 years older than me and was WAY immature, combined with that "eternal bachelor" attitude. My fiance and I are 5 years apart and he is amazing, supportive and the most caring man I know. IMO, it's less about age and more about having common goals, ideas, and maturity levels.
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Location: SE Louisiana | It depends on your age.... Let's say a 13 year old young man wants to drop down 8 years and date a 5 year old girl... As long as both are "of age" I don't see the problem...
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| My husband and I are 32 years difference. We have been together 12 years, married for 6 of them. We now have a lilttle boy together that just turned 1 year old on March 26th. I was married to a guy that was 6 years older than me. He was immature, an a**hole, and a compulsive sneaky Lier. I know thats a big difference but I don't notice at all because my husband can out work 5 men half his age. He loves me & I love him & we love our little boy more than anything in the entire universe. I have always been alot more mature than my age. My husband says I am an old soul in a young womans body. I tell him he's a young soul in an older mans body, lol!! I have never been more happier than when I am with him. We just work. So if you like the person, who cares what anybody else thinks, cause at the end of the day it's your happiness that matters most. And if your Happy & that person makes you feel good about yourself & builds you up.... Go for it. Follow your Heart!!
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | sjoyner - 2015-04-02 11:03 PM My husband and I are 32 years difference. We have been together 12 years, married for 6 of them. We now have a lilttle boy together that just turned 1 year old on March 26th. I was married to a guy that was 6 years older than me. He was immature, an a**hole, and a compulsive sneaky Lier. I know thats a big difference but I don't notice at all because me husband can out work 5 men half his age. He loves me & I love him & we love our little boy more than anything in the entire universe. I have always been alot more mature than my age. My husband says I am an old soul in a young womans body. I tell him he's a young soul in an older mans body, lol!! I have never been more happier than when I am with him. We just work.
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| Itsme - 2015-03-31 8:17 PM
Guys age ÷ 2 + 7=minimum age he can date...
Its science.
Ummmmm, the math works now but not when we were dating. I was 19 when I met him and he was 33. By this math I should have been 23 or 24. But then again I was born old! As much as he "talked" old, I was the elder one. From then til now I have been attracted to men in their 30's but these days it's plain creepy as I am old enough to be their...errrr, never mind!
To whomever said that they wanted common ground in terms of life experience and 7 or 8 years was too much, didn't apply in our case. Our parents were the same age and we were raise similarly, with similar values. I have sisters his age, older and younger, so I was vicariously experiencing his youth through them I guess. I always had more in common with him than folks my own age.
I think values, goals and wanting the same thing from life are much more important than age.
And like someone said, there is a difference in between a boy and a man and it is not necessarily age related.......but then again, they are ALL boys sometimes.....sigh.
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Location: Down the Gravel Road near the Missouri River, SD | OhMax - 2015-04-01 7:24 PM Itsme - 2015-03-31 8:17 PM Guys age ÷ 2 + 7=minimum age he can date... Its science. Not going to lie I started madly punching numbers on my calculator and I don't know that I disagree with that statement...seems to be reasonably legit
LOL! I did this and thats exactly what my husbands age and my age was when we dated. My son is now 28 and he's still single- I should show him this..hehe |
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Location: Opelousas, LA | classicpotatochip - 2015-03-31 4:40 PM Just hang in there. I'm not ever going to lie to you and blow smoke and say you'll meet "the one". Maybe you won't. But I'm betting that eventually you're going to bump into one that you don't have to chase down, that opens doors, that is nice to you, that you really like, that doesn't let you down, and that makes you commit despite yourself. The ones that show up with all their baggage shining for the world to see, that admit to being a human and making ridiculous mistakes. Go with the guy that admits to, and owns his mess. I promise you probably will be spooked, because it's real. If you're not terrified the whole time, you're a) probably not mature enough for a relationship anyway, or b) not really in it with the real deal. The real deal is somebody that really really is firing on all 12 for you, and you just can't seem to figure out how to send him packing, because he won't go, and he's doing everything right. I think women get caught in this trap of figuring out how to make them stay. Why don't you figure out how to get rid of them? You hold that door open wide enough into "get lost loser" space, the good ones are going to be holding on for dear life and be the last ones standing. I really don't care how old my guy is, I would have kept a younger guy if he'd gone out of his way to be a man like my husband does at 10 years older than me. Boys are a blast, and they can be a boy their whole life. Learn to decipher what a man is, and date those. A guy can be a man when he's 20, it all just depends on who he really is.
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Location: /ARKANSAS | My relationship worked well, I married my highschool sweetheart, stayed Married had a baby, I graduated from college and he had several affairs, divorce after 6 years. Had a short fling with a doctor I idolized, one of those relationships that you are friends forever. he died from a pulmonary embolus. Then a divorced man, older than me by twenty years and 6 days, I never meant for it to turn into a thing. But I really liked him, he gave me stability that I needed, like a rock, I adored him. 18 years with him, he was killed in an accident in 2002. I know apart of me died with him. It is sad, I wish I could find another relationship, but being single is so much easier.. I have not dated in 3 years. Some guys were threatened by the age, told jokes, and loud whispers (looks like he robbed the cradle) we just ignored them, he flew an airplane and I rode horses, I lived in the country and he had a condo. Sure we planned on marriage 3 times but were so frightened of the implied chains that came with it, I still get nauseous thinking about it. We played tennis, skied together, and I did neither one of those before my relationship. Go for it but make sure he is a good person, you can get caught in the older man maturity trap lol |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | My goodness this thread is almost 8 years old, crazy how these old threads are getting bumped up..  |
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Location: Downsouth | Jazz's Girl - 2015-04-01 7:45 AM My husband and I are 25 years apart. We've been together 6 years. Married 2 this month. He has 3 kids from previous marriages. I don't want kids. SO... We had it worked out before we ever got married. He is amazing and my best friend. We are perfect for each other. No things are not always rainbows and flowers. We argue. And some days we would love to shoot each other but 100% of the time I wouldn't trade him for anything in the world. Ive dated guys my age and within 7 years of my age. Obviously they didn't work out. I never imagined I would be with someone this much older than me, but we compliment each other. He acts younger than his age and I feel a whole lot older than I am. I get the "oh he's your dad?" ALOT. I usually come back with Yea I call him Big Daddy. Or my personal favorite... No. He pays me by the hour. :) The only thing I would change.... I wish I was older so we could be together longer.
I dated an older man years ago. I was 36, he was 61. We dated a year. I'm still not sure how we packed so much fun in to 12 months. His daughter was one of my childhood friends. I used to exercise his racehorses when I was a teen. My mother remembered when I was a preteen I told her he was so sexy. When she asked if I knew what that meant, My reply... handsome. We had so much in common. He had traded his thorouhgbreds in for quarter horses, yay me, and we were present for every race. He treated me like a queen. Unlike some of the guys I had dated, he had a routine, for everything. Im extreme OCD, so it worked for me. He was more mature than guys my age, but I'm not sure he was more mature than me. He wanted to get married, and I wasnt ready. I had only been divorced a few years. His age had nothing to do with my decision. |
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Age Difference in Dating