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Location: Somewhere between raising hell and Amazing Grace | Didn't read all the replies, but you can have a very small wedding and still have the dress. If you are really close to your parents I would consider their feelings as well, though in the end it is about you and your SO.
We had a very small wedding. I only invited two people. Hubby invited I believe five or six. That was it. Short and sweet and very simple. |
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Location: Florida | We JUST did! I don't regret it one bit :) we're having a big outdoor reception, (open invite) with live music and cooking! I love being married already... (Says the married one week lady lol). |
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 The Famous Hot Wing Chicken Girl
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| Thanks for all of the replies. I'm still confused on what to do. I think if his family wasn't so hard to deal with, it would be easier. I would love to take our close family and have a small wedding on the beach..but he wants his mother there for the wedding and she doesn't have enough money to pay for her way. I don't feel comfortable paying her way after all the issues that have been caused.
Really, the only reason I want a "wedding" is the pretty dress. |
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| I didn't read all of the replies but...
We eloped... I wasn't sure but my hubby convinced me too... It was fantastic!! since then i have helped two of my friends plan their weddings and I hated every bit of it! and i'm in the process of helping with a third! I dont know why more people dont run off...
We originally wanted to go to Mexico to get married but that was when the Swine Flu broke out down there. So instead we went to a small ranch/resort in Missouri and got married. Came back home and had a reception (bascially a big party but i did get to wear a short white wedding dress!) about a month later. It was perfect!! I wouldn't change anything! and I am constantly teling my husband how right he was cuz i hate helping with these other weddings!! We also had just bout a 100 year old home when we got married so we saved the money to spruce it up a bit. |
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| missroselee - 2014-02-06 5:48 PM Didn't read all the replies, but you can have a very small wedding and still have the dress. If you are really close to your parents I would consider their feelings as well, though in the end it is about you and your SO. We had a very small wedding. I only invited two people. Hubby invited I believe five or six. That was it. Short and sweet and very simple.
Yep. If the relationship with your father is good, don't cheat him of the memory of walking his little girl down the aisle if that's important to him. |
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| Yes I regret it every day I really wish I had a wedding. I wish I had shared with my family that time in my life. I have been married 30 years now and still will not tell people that I eloped as I am so embarrassed about it. In my openion it is a cop out because you don't want to cowboy up and speak you peace. That is how I was at 23 years old to chicken to say what I wanted.
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Location: Missouri | 24 years ago we went to the courthouse to get a wedding license and then we decided to walk down the hall and had the judge marry us! do not regret it one bit
my oldest daughter and her husband had a small very inexpensive wedding! She got married in her grandmas front yard so they only invited close family and very close friends so it was small. then they had the party for who ever wanted to come!
Now my youngest is getting married, she is the one who likes to be the center of attention so I was really worried it was going to be a big production... well it started out going to be that way, now after seeing how much it was going to cost her, they are going to get married in a spot in the pasture with only a few family members and then going to a rest/bar for a reception and taking advantage of the band that will be playing that night! so no extra cost there! Like I told her you can take 100's of pics and dress and spend a bunch of money but after that day what exactly will you remember and how many pics will you display of you in your wedding dress!
If family wants the big wedding, let them pay for it! it you want to spend your money on your house then that is your choice.
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Location: Oklahoma | cowgirlchic - 2014-02-06 9:14 AM
Do you regret it?
We are thinking about eloping. SO has been for it since day 1, but I've been a little more hesitant. I would love to have the gorgeous dress and have a wedding.. but at the same time, I can't fathom spending all that money on 1 day. We are in the process of buying a house that needs needs all new floors, countertops and paint in every room. I have 7k left to pay on my truck and 17k in student loans left. For our venue, photographer and rings, we were up to almost 3k spent. That's not dress, food, decorations, etc. We are doing this 95% on our own. My parents are helping where they can and his parents don't care. (Another reason why I want to elope..his family is nuts!)
I'm really torn and my family and friends aren't helping. We can't really have a small wedding because our families are large. I was thinking of eloping in April.. Spending the money to fix our house, then having a "Hey we are hitched/house warming" party in the summer.. However I've been told that's out of line.
I eloped and have been married 24 years and have NEVER regretted it. I had been engaged 3 times before I married my husband and had actually completely planned a wedding and called it off 6 weeks before it happened. No way did I want to go through the stress of planning another one and then change my mind at the last minute...and I think my husband thought I'd run again if he gave me time to think about it! lol I am so glad I saved all that money for a down payment on a house and went the fast and easy way. My parents were mad, but I was 37 years old, so I figured I could make my own decisions. lol |
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 Own It and Move On
Location: The edge of no where | I don't know if it was technically eloping......but we gave our parents and my brother 2 days notice. We were married in a church by a pastor, but only had our parents, my brother and one other family there. We all went to dinner right afterward at an awesome place.
We had only been together 3 months and engaged 2 wks so my parents were questioning my sanity. BEST DECISION I EVER MADE.
My parents threw us a very nice reception at their ranch 6 months later. Since the wedding was over there was no stress and we had so much fun. A big wedding just wasn't my thing. Could've cared less about any of it, just wanted to be married to my best friend. It seemed like a tremendous amount of wasted time and money. |
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I Really Love Jeans
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Location: North Dakota | It was the best decision for me and hubby. Just us and two friends! LOL my cousin did the same thing within a few months. All my relatives that had big expensive weddings are divorced LOL!! Save your money for something useful! Or just have a cowboy wedding with jeans and boots and serve cake and punch only! |
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Location: Wyoming | We eloped 12 years ago and don't regret it. I would rather spend money on a horse than a wedding. My sister got married in Vegas during NFR. It was just immediate family at the Little White Chapel. It was great. Maybe if I had to do it again might do that instead of just running to the local courthouse but only during the NFR. We never even had a reception which is fine too I spend that money on a horse also. :)
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| Did not elope but did most everything ourselves. My husband did not want lots of people at the actual wedding so we had about 30 family and super close friends, and then had a big party. We had friends take pictures so all we had to pay for was developing. Found a nice dress for "reasonable" and the guys wore black Wrangler jeans so they only had to rent the tux jackets and shirts. We paid $100 for flowers from the local grocery store and my mom did the arrangements. I had pizza and beer at the reception and we had a DJ. Everything all total when it was all said and done was right around $2k. If I had it to do again, I'd just have the big party. Honestly - the wedding DAY itself isn't near as big of a deal as the days, weeks, months, and years that follow. Good luck with whatever you decide but you can do it cheaply if want more than just the "official" part. And if you want a dress, get one, even if it's just the two of you. :) |
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Location: Haslet, Texas | We didn't elope per say...but we did plan a day and go to the court house and get married. In laws thew us a party that night and the next morning we drove to Colorado for the honeymoon. I have never regretted it. Been married 30 years. My daughter just had a really nice outdoor fall wedding in October and she said it was very anticlimactic.
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