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Location: Riding Crackhead. | MS2011 - 2014-03-13 9:10 AM I grew up in a small town, but I just can't wrap my head around a grown adult caring that much what anyone else thinks/says. Sounds like your sister is is doing a lot of the right things, work, school, not knocked up with some loser as the baby daddy. Most families have a black sheep or two, if it's just appearances, who cares? Life is way too short to be so **** shallow. Just let her be herself. Sorry, but your Mom needs a kick in the butt. She's the one acting like a spoiled brat.
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Location: 100 miles from Nowhere, AR | MS2011 - 2014-03-13 9:10 AM I grew up in a small town, but I just can't wrap my head around a grown adult caring that much what anyone else thinks/says. Sounds like your sister is is doing a lot of the right things, work, school, not knocked up with some loser as the baby daddy. Most families have a black sheep or two, if it's just appearances, who cares? Life is way too short to be so **** shallow. Just let her be herself. Sorry, but your Mom needs a kick in the butt. She's the one acting like a spoiled brat.
My sister's MIL is like that. Everything she says or does revolves around what other people will think. The woman is psycho. | |
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Location: MD | Kind of in the same situation here except my mother is driving me out of the family and ridiculing me to her "friends" because of other superficial (and ridiculous) reasons.
The only thing you can do is quietly and politely as you can let your mom know that just because she doesn't agree with her youngest daughters choices, it doesn't make them bad. And let your little sister know that you still love her regardless because, it really sucks knowing that your mom who loved you for years can't get past superficial crap and would rather obsess over that than accept the individual she's becoming.
It's a tough spot for you to be in but don't get sucked into the drama and love them both.
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Location: Riding Crackhead. | Three 4 Luck - 2014-03-13 9:21 AM MS2011 - 2014-03-13 9:10 AM I grew up in a small town, but I just can't wrap my head around a grown adult caring that much what anyone else thinks/says. Sounds like your sister is is doing a lot of the right things, work, school, not knocked up with some loser as the baby daddy. Most families have a black sheep or two, if it's just appearances, who cares? Life is way too short to be so **** shallow. Just let her be herself. Sorry, but your Mom needs a kick in the butt. She's the one acting like a spoiled brat. My sister's MIL is like that. Everything she says or does revolves around what other people will think. The woman is psycho.
My FIL is also like this. He's a rich farmer that he and his wife each have a new Mercedes, new pickups, the fanciest houses. I know I'm an embarrasement to them. They've laughed at me, made comments about me in coveralls and full of manure. Personally I don't care. I'll be dipped if I'm going to bend over backwards to make someone like me just for what I drive or how I look. Something I learned from my dad. Be who you are, don't change for anyone, rock what you got. | |
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Location: Buffalo, TX | I think you should probably stay out of it....your mother is obviously old school and very traditional and equates tattoos and piercings with thugs...she's acting this way out of fear that everyone else thinks like she does and that she raised a thug for a daughter.....of course, the obvious anser is that your sister is smart, educated, and headed in the right direction with her life.....
Your mother needs to let your sister make her own choices and be proud of her accomplishments, but she is driven more by appearances than reality.... | |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | CYA Ranch - 2014-03-13 8:13 AM I have a hard time with this stuff. I've gotten to the point when I see stupid crap like this in my family I call them on it and let them know they're being stupid and they need to grow up.
You know what? Life is short. I can't imagine being embarrased by a loved one. Here's a little story. My dad was born 100 yrs too late. He loved his life with cattle and horses. All of a sudden he stopped cutting his hair and grew a beard. He looked like a mountain man or Santa Claus with his gray hair and beard. When it came time for my wedding my mom and older brother were having a coronary about how dad looked. Dad asked me in private if I wanted him to cut it and shave. I told him I thought he looked fine just like he was. I wasn't taking sides and trying to cause family fights but all I saw was my hero, my dad. He ended up cutting his hair and trimmed his beard up. Made no difference to me. Move ahead a year and I was pregnant, he had grown it all back out. My 12 yr old little brother had a basketball game which my older brother, mom and I all met up and attended. Older brother and mom didn't sit by dad. I got there and plopped my big hippo belly next to dad and we watched the game. During half time mom came up to me and said - aren't you embarrased how he looks and your sitting by him? I was floored that this thought was even going through her head. I told her, no mom, I just see my dad. A matter of weeks later my dad died of a massive heart attack while working in the hay field. I think quite often of this but never mentioned any of this to my brother and mom after he passed. To this day my family knows if someone is being stupid, a little blond hurricane is going to come blowing into town and let them know. Life is short, you get one shot, love your family, be nice.
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Location: Riding Crackhead. | Southtxponygirl - 2014-03-13 11:02 AM CYA Ranch - 2014-03-13 8:13 AM I have a hard time with this stuff. I've gotten to the point when I see stupid crap like this in my family I call them on it and let them know they're being stupid and they need to grow up.
You know what? Life is short. I can't imagine being embarrased by a loved one. Here's a little story. My dad was born 100 yrs too late. He loved his life with cattle and horses. All of a sudden he stopped cutting his hair and grew a beard. He looked like a mountain man or Santa Claus with his gray hair and beard. When it came time for my wedding my mom and older brother were having a coronary about how dad looked. Dad asked me in private if I wanted him to cut it and shave. I told him I thought he looked fine just like he was. I wasn't taking sides and trying to cause family fights but all I saw was my hero, my dad. He ended up cutting his hair and trimmed his beard up. Made no difference to me. Move ahead a year and I was pregnant, he had grown it all back out. My 12 yr old little brother had a basketball game which my older brother, mom and I all met up and attended. Older brother and mom didn't sit by dad. I got there and plopped my big hippo belly next to dad and we watched the game. During half time mom came up to me and said - aren't you embarrased how he looks and your sitting by him? I was floored that this thought was even going through her head. I told her, no mom, I just see my dad. A matter of weeks later my dad died of a massive heart attack while working in the hay field. I think quite often of this but never mentioned any of this to my brother and mom after he passed. To this day my family knows if someone is being stupid, a little blond hurricane is going to come blowing into town and let them know. Life is short, you get one shot, love your family, be nice. What a beautiful way of saying how much a little girl loved her daddy
Thanks Roxie. He was a Super Hero to me.   | |
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Location: In a happy place | Southtxponygirl - 2014-03-13 11:02 AM CYA Ranch - 2014-03-13 8:13 AM I have a hard time with this stuff. I've gotten to the point when I see stupid crap like this in my family I call them on it and let them know they're being stupid and they need to grow up.
You know what? Life is short. I can't imagine being embarrased by a loved one. Here's a little story. My dad was born 100 yrs too late. He loved his life with cattle and horses. All of a sudden he stopped cutting his hair and grew a beard. He looked like a mountain man or Santa Claus with his gray hair and beard. When it came time for my wedding my mom and older brother were having a coronary about how dad looked. Dad asked me in private if I wanted him to cut it and shave. I told him I thought he looked fine just like he was. I wasn't taking sides and trying to cause family fights but all I saw was my hero, my dad. He ended up cutting his hair and trimmed his beard up. Made no difference to me. Move ahead a year and I was pregnant, he had grown it all back out. My 12 yr old little brother had a basketball game which my older brother, mom and I all met up and attended. Older brother and mom didn't sit by dad. I got there and plopped my big hippo belly next to dad and we watched the game. During half time mom came up to me and said - aren't you embarrased how he looks and your sitting by him? I was floored that this thought was even going through her head. I told her, no mom, I just see my dad. A matter of weeks later my dad died of a massive heart attack while working in the hay field. I think quite often of this but never mentioned any of this to my brother and mom after he passed. To this day my family knows if someone is being stupid, a little blond hurricane is going to come blowing into town and let them know. Life is short, you get one shot, love your family, be nice. What a beautiful way of saying how much a little girl loved her daddy
Amen. That is a beautiful story and gift to your father's memory. | |
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A Somebody to Everybody
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | sorrel horse ranch - 2014-03-14 4:01 PM Southtxponygirl - 2014-03-13 11:02 AM CYA Ranch - 2014-03-13 8:13 AM I have a hard time with this stuff. I've gotten to the point when I see stupid crap like this in my family I call them on it and let them know they're being stupid and they need to grow up.
You know what? Life is short. I can't imagine being embarrased by a loved one. Here's a little story. My dad was born 100 yrs too late. He loved his life with cattle and horses. All of a sudden he stopped cutting his hair and grew a beard. He looked like a mountain man or Santa Claus with his gray hair and beard. When it came time for my wedding my mom and older brother were having a coronary about how dad looked. Dad asked me in private if I wanted him to cut it and shave. I told him I thought he looked fine just like he was. I wasn't taking sides and trying to cause family fights but all I saw was my hero, my dad. He ended up cutting his hair and trimmed his beard up. Made no difference to me. Move ahead a year and I was pregnant, he had grown it all back out. My 12 yr old little brother had a basketball game which my older brother, mom and I all met up and attended. Older brother and mom didn't sit by dad. I got there and plopped my big hippo belly next to dad and we watched the game. During half time mom came up to me and said - aren't you embarrased how he looks and your sitting by him? I was floored that this thought was even going through her head. I told her, no mom, I just see my dad. A matter of weeks later my dad died of a massive heart attack while working in the hay field. I think quite often of this but never mentioned any of this to my brother and mom after he passed. To this day my family knows if someone is being stupid, a little blond hurricane is going to come blowing into town and let them know. Life is short, you get one shot, love your family, be nice. What a beautiful way of saying how much a little girl loved her daddy
This story just moves me. I can see this all playing out in my mind. You were very muched loved by your daddy too as you loved him. | |
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