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Location: Alabama | I just recently got married (06/28/2014) and I finished up my thank you notes yesterday and mailed them this morning. I agree that people took time to send us a gift or bring it to the wedding so they deserve a thank you note and I tried to personalize all of them. However, I do not trust the postal service so I am nervous not all of them will get delivered and people may think I didn't send a thank you note.
I also sent a wedding gift to a good friend of mine back in May. I have yet to receive a thank you note. As I said, I do not trust the postal service so I sent a text asking if they received my card (had a gift card in it). The response was we have received so many I am not sure if we have gotten it or not. I told him I mailed it back in May and he responds, oh I am sure we received it. Well how about a thank you or why don't you check and make sure you received it. I am pretty upset about that situation. |
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| trobertson - 2014-07-15 10:47 AM
I am a firm believer that if you receive a graduation gift or wedding gift you should send a "Thank you" note. This was the way my parents were raised, and the way they raised me. I gave a wedding gift a few months ago and still havn't gotten a "Thank you". I think that is just tacky on the receivers end. JMO
I so agree with all of you that thank yous should be sent. A trend I have been seeing here at weddings is.. "in lew of thank you notes we will be making a donation to some cancer fund.." Hey, nice to make a donation, but why not do the donation in the place of something else in the wedding?? Sometimes when you don't receive a thank you, you wonder if they even got the gift!! Not talking just from weddings, but to those of you who perhaps mailed monetary gifts to graduates that didn't get thank yous, does it make you wonder if they even got the card?? I will say the one grad party we attended and gave a gift too, we did get a prompt thank you a week later, so courtesy it not totally lost by everyone! |
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Location: Oz, Kansas | When my daughter & I prepared & mailed out her graduation invites I printed out 2 copies of the address labels so she could get a thank you note out in the mail after receiving a card. I know she told everyone that attended thank you but I still felt they deserved a proper card. Now my niece on the other hand, created an event on facebook & invited people that way & no thank you cards were mailed & I don't even think she told me thanks when I handed her my card. |
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Location: The edge of no where | barrelracr131 - 2014-07-16 7:09 AM barlracr429 - 2014-07-15 9:48 PM I don't even notice if I don't receive a thank you. Same here.... I honestly read them and throw it away if I do get one.
When I give a gift to someone, I don't expect anything in return. Giving them the gift is enough reward for me :)
Life is too short for me to become upset over not recieving a little card in the mail.
I don't care if I receive one or not.. When I send a gift, I don't expect anything back.. It's called a gift.
90% of thank you notes are jolted out in under 2 min and generic and then they go in the trash 5-10 min after receiving....Who really has time to care about it?
Perhaps it's a generational thing, but what is the big deal about a handwritten card vs an email or fb msg? I dislike clutter and would actually just prefer something electronic.
fb notes, emails, calls and texts are all great. |
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Location: Oregon | I appreciate thank you notes if I've mailed or shipped something to someone. It's not that I expect something in return or a pat on the back or whatever, I realize it's a GIFT. I would just like to know that the person that I sent the gift to actually received it and that someone else didn't intercept it. In my opinion it's a basic common courtesy to say THANK YOU.
Please, thank you and just being POLITE are becoming less common it seems. |
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Location: right where I wanna be | I sent thank you notes out after my graduation, bridal shower, wedding, and baby shower. I also sent thank yous to the people who came and brought gifts to my sons first birthday party. People like getting thank yous and in my opinion it is what you are supposed to do. A handwritten thank you says alot about a person. |
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| I think that the times have change and not always for the better. With the electronic age alot of things are very impersonal, we text and do social media with people we don't even know. But I still was raised to take the time to acknowledge the gift with a thank you. I sent out money, gift cards and gifts to our family members and do not get a thank you the next time I see them, so its very disappointing. |
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Location: Land Of Oz | I feel a little insulted if I don't receive a thank-you for a gift I spent money on and took the time to either go get or mail. It's not a self-gratification for me, it's simply the curteous thing to do IMO. I send thank yous out if I am the receiver. It lets me express my appreciation to that person. |
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| I have thought about this a little bit more. . If someone opens a door for you or does something for you, you would say, "Thank you" so it would just be common courtesy to acknowlege it and the same goes for thank you note cards for gifts . |
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Location: Dearing, GA | I haven't read the whole thread, but I recently advertised my truck for sale on Facebook. A friend told her friend, who in turn bought my truck. I mailed a thank you card to my friend who referred the buyer to me. I think it was the appropriate thing to do, however I would not expect one from someone my age (I'm 21). |
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| I have thought about this a little bit more. . If someone opens a door for you or does something for you, you would say, "Thank you" so it would just be common courtesy to acknowlege it and the same goes for thank you note cards for gifts . |
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