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  Playing the Waiting Game
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| On this day in 1977 I gave birth to a baby girl that I then put up for adoption. I did bring her home from the hospital but I knew that I was not emotionally or finacially prepared to raise a child on my own. I watched my mother raise 8 kids on her own and I felt my child deserved better than me. I don't know where she ended up but I do keep all my information updated at the agency in hopes that she may try to find me at some time.
I was living in Minnesota at the time and used the Luthern social services of Minneapolis. Just throwing that out there in case she got my horsey genes. |
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 Miss Laundry Misshap
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| There was just an article the other day about a guy who was adopted and found all 5 of his siblings who were also adopted out. It was in the Des Moines Register.
My MIL found the son she adopted out and they now have a nice relationship.
You see the posts on Facebook about people looking for adoptive parents or kids. Maybe try that! Good Luck! |
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Playing the Waiting Game
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| Nateracer - 2014-09-23 12:53 PM There was just an article the other day about a guy who was adopted and found all 5 of his siblings who were also adopted out. It was in the Des Moines Register.
My MIL found the son she adopted out and they now have a nice relationship.
You see the posts on Facebook about people looking for adoptive parents or kids. Maybe try that! Good Luck!
I've thought of that... Just not sure... I'm feel kind of like do I really have the right to search her out? What if she doesn't want to know me... I wouldn't want to cause her any pain or drama. Not sure if I'm coming across right but just not sure. |
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 That's White "Man" to You
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| My brother was adopted. He has been trying for years to find his birth mother... in Colombia. South American countries wont release the birth mother information until the adoped child is 30 years old. He still has a few more to wait...hopefully she is still around. It would be neat to see them re-connect. |
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Extreme Veteran
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Location: Somewhere in the middle of nowhere | I went through this with a young teenage girl about 3-4 years ago, I just wanted to say that as difficult as that decision is/was.....that is the most couragest thing I have seen a young girl/mother do. That is great love! |
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 The Famous Hot Wing Chicken Girl
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| If I were you, I would try what I have seen many people successfully do. Post it on FB, a picture of you holding a sign with all the information you know. If I was adopted, I know that I would want to know my birth parents. Give it a shot, you have nothing to lose! |
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Miss Laundry Misshap
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| I know a family who adopted idk how many kids over the years. The last group of 3 siblings were my age. They found their birth mother right around high school. They also found out what was done to them prior to being put into foster care and adopted. They still are in contact with their birth mother and have come to terms that she didn't know how to care for them with her other problems.
I would go for it. Pretty much the worst thing that could happen is you end up with no contact again, which is where you are now. The best is you end up with a friend/daughter. |
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Location: Nebraska | we found my cousins on FB. We just knew their adopted names and found both of them that way. |
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Location: Iowa | Try Search Squad and find your biological family on fb. They are wonderful at taking a small amount of info and searching all angles to find names. FREE also. I found my bio family with very little info. |
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 Reaching for the stars....
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| Of course there are no absolutes, but . . .
I am adopted. Way back in 1962, private. I know I have full siblings, that I was an unplanned mid-life baby. I have tried three different times to search. I would LOVE to find my blood family.
I also gave up my daughter in 1986. Not open, but through an agency that let us keep toes in the door, so to speak. When my daughter turned 18 I sent my letter authorizing contact, if my daughter should so choose. Before her 19th birthday she had also sent her letter, and so began our contact.
I can't imagine any adopted person not wanting to find their birth parents or siblings. Some contacts may not become permanent close relationships, but all will provide answers, closures, and the possibility of openings.
Put your pic and your daughters information out on Facebook. There have been many connections in that manner. I haven't done it yet, but I'm such an introvert and don't have enough friends to share it out widely enough to work, imo. There are other registries available online too. I can't remember them off the top of my head, but google and you will find them.
Big hugs to you. I always measured any loss or painful event in my life against the pain and loss of giving my daughter up. Since coming back into my life I have been able to let go of that pain and sense of loss.
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Playing the Waiting Game
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| lonely va barrelxr - 2014-09-24 8:25 PM Of course there are no absolutes, but . . .
I am adopted. Way back in 1962, private. I know I have full siblings, that I was an unplanned mid-life baby. I have tried three different times to search. I would LOVE to find my blood family.
I also gave up my daughter in 1986. Not open, but through an agency that let us keep toes in the door, so to speak. When my daughter turned 18 I sent my letter authorizing contact, if my daughter should so choose. Before her 19th birthday she had also sent her letter, and so began our contact.
I can't imagine any adopted person not wanting to find their birth parents or siblings. Some contacts may not become permanent close relationships, but all will provide answers, closures, and the possibility of openings.
Put your pic and your daughters information out on Facebook. There have been many connections in that manner. I haven't done it yet, but I'm such an introvert and don't have enough friends to share it out widely enough to work, imo. There are other registries available online too. I can't remember them off the top of my head, but google and you will find them.
Big hugs to you. I always measured any loss or painful event in my life against the pain and loss of giving my daughter up. Since coming back into my life I have been able to let go of that pain and sense of loss.
Thank you for posting your story... It really means a lot. |
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