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 Don't Wanna Make This Awkward
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Location: Texas | So this goes along with my other post about my "bestfriend"
My mom wants to tell her mother about everything that's gone on, since this girl that has moved in with them has been promoting the drinking and they do it at the parents house after they've gone to sleep. I know her mother would want to know because I'm afraid they are gonna get the 14yo brother into all this stuff too.
I just don't want someone I care about so much to get hurt or do something stupid(not that she hasn't already, but life threatening stupid..) |
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Location: Somewhere between S@%&# stirrer and Saint | If you have a parent that you feel comfortable to talk to go ahead and tell her. Then let her decide if she is going to tell the other mom. |
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Location: In the land of peanuts and cotton | I haven't read your other post but if someone is drinking in their parents home after they've gone to sleep. Since it's in their home I wouldn't think they are completely oblivious to the fact that this is going on. I wouldn't say anything unless it's a life or death situation. If she's drinking then proceeded to drive then yes I would say something but other wise no. |
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| When I was in high school, the guy I was dating started drinking and dumped me for a new girl. I was incredibly hurt and thought that telling his parents he was drinking might set him back in the "right direction" (which of course meant back to me). The truth is, other than possibly getting him in trouble, it wouldn't have done anything else. He wouldn't have left the new girl for me, and he wouldn't have quit partying.
After reading your other threads, I feel like you are probably in a similar situation, where you feel like you've been "dumped" for a new friend. I know you are frustrated and hurt by your friend's behavior, but I think you probably just need to admit that the friendship may be over and move on. If they are drinking in the parent's home, the parents will find out sooner or later. Telling them will only turn you into the bad guy to her. |
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Rad Dork
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Location: Oklahoma | Do they have someone over 21 providing the alcohol? If not then the parents will probably start to notice that their stuff is going missing.
In all honesty it might just be best that they keep their drinking in a house where they might not be inclined to drive. IME you're not gonna be able to stop someone who's young and has just started drinking... I have yet to personally know anyone that just stops and smartens up until they have a real responsibilty they have to tend to (i.e. first real job out of college, newborn). Most college kids aren't going to stop just because they're parents told them to and did what they could to put a stop to it.
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Nut Case Expert
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Location: Tulsa, Ok | JMHO but I would guess that the parents CHOOSE not to acknowledge what is going on in their home, under their noses. In this case nothing you can say is going to make one iota of difference other then to **** off the entire family. Best left alone!! |
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Location: The best kept secret in TX | I would tell the parents. If something bad happened it would then become the parents fault for not acting instead of yours for not telling. Given, the parents could be over looking it, but at least your hands are clean!  |
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