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Location: Texas | How do you help a kid that is in a bad, abusive situation?
My sister is a sophomore in high school and has become friends with this girl this past year that has told my sister and my mom some crazy stories. Her mom is an alcoholic and dating a guy that lives with them that is extremely abusive, both are on probation and the girl gets threatened that they will hurt/kill her if she calls 911 when something happens because the mother doesn't want the boyfriend to go back to jail. This girl also has 2 half siblings that she claims she takes care of.
Last night my sister got a call at 2 am from this girl, she was crying hysterically and eventually got through that she was staying woth her aunt and her mom caled her and told her the boyfriend was going to kill her brother and the mom need her to come home and help get the boyfriend away because she couldn't call 911. I guess the girl got the courage to all 911 from where she was and the boyfriend did go to jail and the mom thinks her uncle called so she won't take it out on the girl.
This is the best information I have on this situation. My mom really wants to help get the girl out of there but we have no clue how. The girl says she calls child support all the time and no one will do anything, It is hard hearing all of this and not knowing how to help.. We kind of thought maybe she was exagerating but after what happened last night I don't think she would call and wake someone up at 2 am if things weren't really as bad as she claims.. |
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Location: Kansas | outrundaizy - 2015-02-19 1:34 PM How do you help a kid that is in a bad, abusive situation?
My sister is a sophomore in high school and has become friends with this girl this past year that has told my sister and my mom some crazy stories. Her mom is an alcoholic and dating a guy that lives with them that is extremely abusive, both are on probation and the girl gets threatened that they will hurt/kill her if she calls 911 when something happens because the mother doesn't want the boyfriend to go back to jail. This girl also has 2 half siblings that she claims she takes care of.
Last night my sister got a call at 2 am from this girl, she was crying hysterically and eventually got through that she was staying woth her aunt and her mom caled her and told her the boyfriend was going to kill her brother and the mom need her to come home and help get the boyfriend away because she couldn't call 911. I guess the girl got the courage to all 911 from where she was and the boyfriend did go to jail and the mom thinks her uncle called so she won't take it out on the girl.
This is the best information I have on this situation. My mom really wants to help get the girl out of there but we have no clue how. The girl says she calls child support all the time and no one will do anything, It is hard hearing all of this and not knowing how to help.. We kind of thought maybe she was exagerating but after what happened last night I don't think she would call and wake someone up at 2 am if things weren't really as bad as she claims..
CPS would help yes, if she is under the age of 18 she can emancipate herself......I did that when I was 16, and went and lived with my grandmother. |
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| Texas tends to be really difficult in the child welfare department. (I assume this is in TX). I believe there is an online reporting method that is confidential-they might could try that. Even if DSS would just do welfare checks periodically. I think just giving her support, letting her know she has "someone" (usually ANYONE) caring makes a huge difference to these kids). You do have to be careful, if the mom and boyfriend are volatile, you shouldn't have to risk the safety of your own family.
She could check on emancipation but it can be a long and arduous process--and I'm not sure how much $$ it would cost. |
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Location: Deep in the heart of Texas. | farmer's tan - 2015-02-19 11:52 PM
Texas tends to be really difficult in the child welfare department. (I assume this is in TX). I believe there is an online reporting method that is confidential-they might could try that. Even if DSS would just do welfare checks periodically. I think just giving her support, letting her know she has "someone" (usually ANYONE) caring makes a huge difference to these kids). You do have to be careful, if the mom and boyfriend are volatile, you shouldn't have to risk the safety of your own family.
She could check on emancipation but it can be a long and arduous process--and I'm not sure how much $$ it would cost.
I have called the 1800 cps line in Texas beings i do live here . and they claim you have to report the abuse the day it happens or they can't help you. If you are in Tx this is the number you can try to call and give information on 800-252-5400. Hope this helps you some. and you can stay unknown.
Edited by txkrystal 2015-02-20 12:02 AM
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Location: So. California | Report the abuse to the school. They are obligated to report it to the authorities and hopefully a counsler will get involved. |
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| Anniemae - 2015-02-20 12:23 AM
Report the abuse to the school. They are obligated to report it to the authorities and hopefully a counsler will get involved.
She needs to talk to a counselor at school or even a teacher she feels comfortable talking to. I teach in TX and we are required by law to report abuse. I have reported it more than once. I will say that dealing with CPS on the teachers end is not always easy. The girl needs to tell CPS that her life is in danger and they will place her with a relative in a a safe environment. |
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Location: The best kept secret in TX | It is better to let Authorities handle it rather than get involved. When the authorities step in, it becomes law against citizen. When it is just you stepping in, it becomes a he said she said and it is all civial court heresay. None of which will hold up in court unless you stay out of it and get the authorities involved.
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