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 I don't pay very good attention!
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Location: The line between sanity & insanity in Oklahoma | You asked for help and advice.
You were given advice.
It might not have been what you were expecting
and so you were disappointed.
Next time don't ask for advice if you don't really want it.. | |
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 How freakish is that?
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Location: Oregon | Itsme - 2015-10-10 11:08 AM
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  The Original Cyber Bartender
Location: Washington | Your so a winner in having BHW to even come to. Back in the day many of us shared and many of us won and helped others win. Take a step back and think about how long the masses have been here, and the fact that that many gave you the time of day is a testement to how great BHW is. If you choose to come here, you may also choose to leave...don't address how your questions are answered, be thankful they were addressed.
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Location: Southeast Louisiana | Reading this post makes me realize that the barrel horse industry has come such a long way....
Used to be, some people would watch your run, criticize your mistakes, then the people that didn't like you (or whose circle you weren't in) would run with it, criticize you some more, watch your runs so they could see you mess up, then talk about you some more, then a friend would tell you how so-and-so said "this" about you, then you'd cry for like a week, then work on what was wrong, beat your head against the wall because nothing was working, then FINALLY receive some helpful advice because some of the nicer people had been noticing your problems and glad you finally saw it, then you fixed the problem, ran a better time and the process started all over again because someone was mad that YOU beat them (or their kid)...
The process took months. It was exhausting.
Now you can just post on the Internet and the whole thing is much faster.
Lucky girls, count your blessings.
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 Love Me Some Robert Redford
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Location: WV | I didn't feel any of the advice given wash harsh. Seemed like there was a lot of good advice being given out to me. | |
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The Resident Destroyer of Liberal Logic
Location: PNW | Nita - 2015-10-10 8:14 PM
Reading this post makes me realize that the barrel horse industry has come such a long way....
Used to be, some people would watch your run, criticize your mistakes, then the people that didn't like you (or whose circle you weren't in) would run with it, criticize you some more, watch your runs so they could see you mess up, then talk about you some more, then a friend would tell you how so-and-so said "this" about you, then you'd cry for like a week, then work on what was wrong, beat your head against the wall because nothing was working, then FINALLY receive some helpful advice because some of the nicer people had been noticing your problems and glad you finally saw it, then you fixed the problem, ran a better time and the process started all over again because someone was mad that YOU beat them (or their kid)...
The process took months. It was exhausting.
Now you can just post on the Internet and the whole thing is much faster.
Lucky girls, count your blessings.
This. I've probably paid a small fortune in lessons in my life (jumping, not barrel racing) - and I've learned THE MOST from the trainers that are the hardest and meanest (I swear I learned more from two George Morris clinics than from any other experiences in my life).
Be grateful that you can post on a FREE website and get DOZENS of responses from knowledgable horsemen/women for FREE. While the majority of us aren't spectacularly decorated competitors (for a variety of reasons) we are still a large group with a vast range of knowledge. Take what you want from it, leave some other stuff. You'd be surprised at some of the resumes of the people on this site. Just because somebody doesn't preface their reply with a list of their accomplishments doesn't mean they don't know what they're talking about. Just a few months ago MOLLI MONTGOMERY gave somebody advice on here. Andrea Cline is here, Joy Cameron, Jackie Jatzlau has been on a few times - it is incredible how much knowledge is offered on this site.
If you want a pat on the back, ask your non-horsey friends. They usually think it's impressive that we manage to stay on, much less actually complete a pattern. You will always be Charmayne James to them.
If you want to learn and grow and improve as a rider - ask on here. | |
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Location: Minnesota | Some of the best advice I have ever received has been from the ladies and gentlemen on here. Sometimes its tough to hear the truth but in the end it only helps you and your horse improve. When I first came on here almost 4 years ago( I was 21) I was somewhat like you, I would "ask for advice" and when I would receive it I wouldn't always like what I heard but I tell you what everything they said was accurate and the truth. I set my ego aside and I am a better ride because of the help I have gotten on here. This board is full of great riders and trainers and it would be a shame to miss out on it because you feel they are being "harsh" or "rude". I even video my rides and send them to a BB on here for her to help me. Soak up all the advice you may receive on here, it's well worth it. | |
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