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Location: Arkansas | Bibliafarm - 2016-12-14 8:13 PM
we have the ones that are hating christmas because of family or in laws and trips and we have the very sad ones missing the family members that arent here.. I bet the sad ones would love to trade places with you all......one day you that are complaining may be the ones that are sad.............cherish the day and love one another and dont let it get to you .. .. prayers to the ones missing their loved ones..
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Location: Never in one place long | If you're not enjoying Christmas... change what you do on it.. | |
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Location: 31 lengths farms | Chandler's Mom - 2016-12-13 9:05 PM
run n rate - 2016-12-12 11:48 AM
Christmas used to be my favorite time of year, my mom's too. For our family Stockings were the big deal. Mom always made a big deal about them even though it was usually snacks and neccessary stuff in your stockings , underwear, socks. etc. The mantle over the fire place was her big decoration deal and the stockings were part of that. Even the adult "children" still got stockings at mom's house. I tried to continue that tradition when mom started having some advance dementia issues but the Christmas night of 2013 mom had a stroke. It was a weird silent type of one, she had been sitting in her chair talking with all of us, I would get her up and get her dressed for bed and tuck her in as I headed off to bed. As I went to help get her dressed I noticed her left hand and asked her if she could move it, she said "yes I can move it!" and took her right hand to lift it off her lap. No slur of speach, no sag of her mouth, nothing but her left side was totally involved. Ambulance ride to the hospital and 4 days in the hospital then permanent residence in a facility. Mom passed away July of 2015, her birthday was December 4th and lets just say the whole of December is pretty well wasted on me . This year has been even harder than last year I think.
Bless you RNR, this year is a tough one for us too. Chris' birthday was Nov 15, then Thanksgiving, now staring Christmas straight on. . . . A week and a half ago, Chandler got all 4 of his wisdom teeth cut out. He got in the shower, and when he got out he was almost gasping he was crying so hard. I thought he was hurting and I just kept asking what, where are your hurting, what's wrong. I was so afraid he was going to start bleeding and I wouldn't be able to stop it. Finally he just said "my father." I lost it totally. He told me some things that he worries and thinks about that just break my heart. And I know the holidays are playing a big role. So I understand how you feel. Many prayers for the season to get better for all those that are hurting and have missing family members.
Bless you and Chandler. I will put up a tree this year, mom and I used to occasionally put up 3 very small trees and do all white lights and just plain glass stars on the tops. Originally I came up with the idea as the "3 wise men", my dad threw a fit until he saw the trees set up and he decided they represented "the 3 sisters" my mom, and her two sisters, so I think I'll do that this year.
DLV, sometimes it isn't about what you are doing, sometimes it just about who you are missing. The missing you can't always replace.
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| run n rate - 2016-12-15 11:41 AM Chandler's Mom - 2016-12-13 9:05 PM run n rate - 2016-12-12 11:48 AM Christmas used to be my favorite time of year, my mom's too. For our family Stockings were the big deal. Mom always made a big deal about them even though it was usually snacks and neccessary stuff in your stockings , underwear, socks. etc. The mantle over the fire place was her big decoration deal and the stockings were part of that. Even the adult "children" still got stockings at mom's house. I tried to continue that tradition when mom started having some advance dementia issues but the Christmas night of 2013 mom had a stroke. It was a weird silent type of one, she had been sitting in her chair talking with all of us, I would get her up and get her dressed for bed and tuck her in as I headed off to bed. As I went to help get her dressed I noticed her left hand and asked her if she could move it, she said "yes I can move it!" and took her right hand to lift it off her lap. No slur of speach, no sag of her mouth, nothing but her left side was totally involved. Ambulance ride to the hospital and 4 days in the hospital then permanent residence in a facility. Mom passed away July of 2015, her birthday was December 4th and lets just say the whole of December is pretty well wasted on me . This year has been even harder than last year I think. Bless you RNR, this year is a tough one for us too. Chris' birthday was Nov 15, then Thanksgiving, now staring Christmas straight on. . . . A week and a half ago, Chandler got all 4 of his wisdom teeth cut out. He got in the shower, and when he got out he was almost gasping he was crying so hard. I thought he was hurting and I just kept asking what, where are your hurting, what's wrong. I was so afraid he was going to start bleeding and I wouldn't be able to stop it. Finally he just said "my father." I lost it totally. He told me some things that he worries and thinks about that just break my heart. And I know the holidays are playing a big role. So I understand how you feel. Many prayers for the season to get better for all those that are hurting and have missing family members. Bless you and Chandler. I will put up a tree this year, mom and I used to occasionally put up 3 very small trees and do all white lights and just plain glass stars on the tops. Originally I came up with the idea as the "3 wise men", my dad threw a fit until he saw the trees set up and he decided they represented "the 3 sisters" my mom, and her two sisters, so I think I'll do that this year. DLV, sometimes it isn't about what you are doing, sometimes it just about who you are missing. The missing you can't always replace.
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Location: the end of the rainbow | Christmas day itself isn't so bad but I hate the season. The shopping and commercials annoy me, I think black Friday is horrible. Plus I hate winter so that doesn't help my mood any. | |
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| My husband and I were having a conversation about Christmas and Christmas music. I was saying I didn't like Christmas music because it made me sad with the exception of a few songs. I said, it makes me sad because the world can be a lonely place and even with all the people around, it seems magnified during the holidays. | |
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Location: OH. IO | I love Christmas.It gives me time to reflect on all the loved ones we have lost.It also brings my family closer each and every year.I miss my momma my father in law ,mother in law ,my two brothers our aunt we just lost and several others.I know in my heart they don't want me to dwell so we talk about the fun times.We focus on each other and how blessed we all are. I'm sorry for all that are suffering through the season.I also should add,ahuge THANK YOU to all of the BHW members that helped me during the death of my 14 month old grandaughter who was murdered.Out of that terrible tragidy came many friends that gave me strength.I will NEVER forget those people.
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Location: Arkansas | jake16 - 2016-12-18 10:40 AM
I love Christmas.It gives me time to reflect on all the loved ones we have lost.It also brings my family closer each and every year.I miss my momma my father in law ,mother in law ,my two brothers our aunt we just lost and several others.I know in my heart they don't want me to dwell so we talk about the fun times.We focus on each other and how blessed we all are. I'm sorry for all that are suffering through the season.I also should add,ahuge THANK YOU to all of the BHW members that helped me during the death of my 14 month old grandaughter who was murdered.Out of that terrible tragidy came many friends that gave me strength.I will NEVER forget those people.
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| Christmas is to celebrate the birth of Christ. Don't consentrate on all the stuff. Please don't hate Christmas. It's not about running around buying gifts for everyone, worrying about family & party's, it's about Jesus being born. If you can look at Christmas for what it is, how could you hate it ? | |
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Location: Florida.. | okhorselover - 2016-12-18 9:27 PM Christmas is to celebrate the birth of Christ. Don't consentrate on all the stuff. Please don't hate Christmas. It's not about running around buying gifts for everyone, worrying about family & party's, it's about Jesus being born. If you can look at Christmas for what it is, how could you hate it ?
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