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Location: East Texas | What apps work best for keeping tabs on location, msgs, apps, etc on a child's phone? |
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Location: SW North Dakota | I use 2 free apps. Life 360 for GPS, Our Pact for app management (I can kill their apps at certain times, but it's all or nothing- I use it to shut them down at bedtime).
I tend to babble, so if you have questions, let me know
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Location: SW North Dakota | I also use Family Base through verizon to manage data and get alerts for "after hours" phone calls and texts, as Our Pact doesn't shut down iPhone embedded apps such as these- which is good in case they need to make an emergency call after the apps are zapped at night. |
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Location: East Texas | Thanks, getting my daughter a phone for christmas and trying to figure out the best way to help keep an eye out for her. |
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| I don't have any Control Apps, but I make sure I have every password for Instagram, Twitter, FB and Snapchat and anything else that that they can private message on.
I randomly check them when she's not expecting it. I can't tell you how much I have discovered. Good Luck. |
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Location: SW North Dakota | barrelmom68 - 2016-12-19 2:36 PM I don't have any Control Apps, but I make sure I have every password for Instagram, Twitter, FB and Snapchat and anything else that that they can private message on. I randomly check them when she's not expecting it. I can't tell you how much I have discovered. Good Luck.
There's no substitue for close monitoring. My kids are good about handing over their phones for random checks. If the passwords don't match what I have, I zap the apps for a week. I also beat them over the head with examples of other kids' irresponsibility on social media. Seems to be working, because other than the occasional swear word, they SEEM to be behaving. They also say they understand WHY I monitor them so closely (because I love them and want them to turn out to be decent human beings). Let me just say that as a mom, I HATE SNAPCHAT!!! |
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| I'm sure you all already know this...but what you see and what you know is about a tenth of what is really happening. I'm terrified for my boys to get older. |
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| I 2nd that....I HATE Snapchat. |
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Location: SW North Dakota | Whiteboy - 2016-12-19 3:24 PM I'm sure you all already know this...but what you see and what you know is about a tenth of what is really happening. I'm terrified for my boys to get older.
I'm sure you're exactly right... As a parent, we can show them the path of least resistance and if they fail to take it, they need to learn there are consequences. Every good lesson costs something- money, pain, loss of reputation, loss of trust, etc. Eventually, they will become adults and need to learn responsibility AND accountibility. |
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Location: west of East Texas | My 14yo lost her smartphone privileges six months ago. This is my 2nd daughter to go through this with. After about three months, I gave her an ancient flip phone so I could call or text her. It has been such a relaxed six months for ME!!!!! I was starting to feel almost ready to get her a cheap smartphone, used off of ebay or something, no iphone. Well, this past weekend, her best friend stayed over. The BFF lost her phone privilege two weeks ago because of grades so SHE blew up my daughter's phone until 2am texting her boyfriend! (Thank you Verizon alerts) ????? I was livid and ended up taking my daughter's phone completely away. My reasoning was that she had the responsibility for that phone and she KNOWS that was not allowable. I don't care if it wasn't HER boyfriend, it was her phone, my rules. Yep, I'm not real popular right now.
?I had a similar situation to what you have right now. I made DD1 go every where with me and include me in anywhere she wanted to go. I'd even walk out to the horse trailer with her at barrel races, etc. Once she got her phone back, she could only use it in the living room. She could hide out in her room for only one hour a day. The rest of the time, she had to be in my presence. I'm not saying this worked, because she's 19 now and still hates me about 50% of the time, ha ha. But... at least I know I did SOMETHING to try to keep her honest. I will say she skipped the drunk & drugged part of high school and USUALLY texted me to tell me where she was while out with friends. |
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Location: TEXAS | They should make an "Adult Control App" also - I would send them out as Christmas Gifts  |
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| Oh boy, I'm there now. I'm thinking of getting the cheap flip phone...right now she lost her phone and all electronics and I deleted her Snapchap account. She still doesn't think she did anything wrong and it's no big deal....I'm almost speechless at how her mind works. |
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| I will NEVER understand the reason behind giving a kid, teenager, a smart phone. My 16 year old has had a dumb phone since he was 14 works fine. No Wifi or receiving pictures. Why give them a walking 24/7 pornography shop. Why????... Be the adult, Be the parent. Why worry about something that you have the control over? I just don't understand........................
Just Say NO.
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Location: Arkansas | Whiteboy - 2016-12-19 4:24 PM
I'm sure you all already know this...but what you see and what you know is about a tenth of what is really happening. I'm terrified for my boys to get older.
One of my best friends had told her daughter that there was no contact from a certain boy because he was older and not exactly the type she wanted her daughter talking to. She was monitoring the boy's account (now I'm not up on FB or Snapchat or whatever, so I'm not sure which of these she was checking out!) when low and behold the daughter sent him a message, etc. My friend calmly got on his account and said "Susie has just lost ALL phone privileges---bring me the phone now." She said Susie came running out of the bedroom crying and carrying on about how she had done nothing wrong, she wasn't perfect, etc, etc. After all that, she ended up finding at least 2 more accounts under fake names. . . . . I need to tell her about all these apps y'all are talking about. Maybe it would be a start to keeping tabs on her.
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Location: "...way down south in the Everglades..." | ND3canAddict - 2016-12-19 2:53 PM I also use Family Base through verizon to manage data and get alerts for "after hours" phone calls and texts, as Our Pact doesn't shut down iPhone embedded apps such as these- which is good in case they need to make an emergency call after the apps are zapped at night.
I also use the Family Base with Verizon and love it. I completely monitor him at home, but when he's with his father I still can monitor him and make sure he's not playing games late at night. |
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