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Location: Willows, CA | Woodys Mama - 2017-06-22 12:41 PM
I totally agree with Hannahbug on this. I do have one child and he is MY WHOLE WORLD!!
I occasionally let him slide with stuff....but I dont let it get past the magic number 3. Kids and horses are so much alike. They will push you just as far as you will let them go...then once they find out there isnt a repercussion for going across that line- you have just opened up a new level of disobeying.
Lay the law down, be the B$%^# and make it work! shes 16 now, so guess what happens in a few more years? shes 18 and thinks she knows it all!!!!
Nip this in the bud, and later in life she will thank you.
A friend of mine told his daughter some years ago when she was 17 that it was very important that she remember everything that she knew right then, because she would never be that smart and know everything again in her entire life. |
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Location: The best kept secret in TX | Problem is Parents nowadays are okay with letting their kids break the law simply because it's more convienent for the parent if the child drives....
You know what my parents did when I broke the rules? Truck was sold. Trailer was sold. I walked to the end of my driveway (about 2 miles) and waited for my friends mom to pick me up for school. Or I got up a 5am and went with my dad to school. He dropped me off at the front of the school and I sat with the principal until school started or they opened the cafeteria.
My sweet Nokia color screen cell phone was taken away and thrown in the garbage. I was banned from riding my horse until my Mother released me from the kitchen after dinner was made and the kitchen was clean. By this time it was too dark to ride. My saddle's fenders were pulled and I wasn't allowed to ride with them for 6 months because I left my saddle in the floor instead of on the rack it was next too.
My dad had me all day on Saturdays outside working cows (on foot because a horse was for children who obeyed.), painting, repairing fence, mowing the yard, doing general maintenence outside. When the sun went down my mother got me and I worked inside the house. Helping fold laundry, helping clean the house and helping to make dinner. If I didn't complain I got to talk on the home phone for 20min to any friend I called. Sundays I woke up early and helped my mom make breakfast, helped clean and helped her iron our clothes for Sunday Meeting. We went to church, came home and made lunch, cleaned up from lunch and rested. I wasn't allowed outside on Sundays. I went to church for the nightly meeting and came home and got ready for dinner and bed.
My parents didn't give me a timeline for when my punishment was up. But after I started enjoying working beside my parents and after I found joy in helping them they slowly added privileges back. they never gave me another cell phone or truck or trailer. Those were things I earned back on my own.
Here's the kicker: My parents never worked me like a slave. They were right beside me as I helped them. They were strict and always were quick to make a punishment harsh so they wouldn't have to repeate it. However, they never once stayed laid up in a chair in front of the TV while I worked. They never sat around and pointed fingers. They worked right beside me. I respect them so much more for what they did FOR me. They taught me more in that one punishment than most children learn their whole lives.
Be active in your child's life. Lead and discipline them by example. Pointing fingers, tracking them, that does no good. Be active. |
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Location: Displaced Iowegian | IRunOnFaith - 2017-06-23 10:46 AM Problem is Parents nowadays are okay with letting their kids break the law simply because it's more convienent for the parent if the child drives....
You know what my parents did when I broke the rules? Truck was sold. Trailer was sold. I walked to the end of my driveway (about 2 miles) and waited for my friends mom to pick me up for school. Or I got up a 5am and went with my dad to school. He dropped me off at the front of the school and I sat with the principal until school started or they opened the cafeteria.
My sweet Nokia color screen cell phone was taken away and thrown in the garbage. I was banned from riding my horse until my Mother released me from the kitchen after dinner was made and the kitchen was clean. By this time it was too dark to ride. My saddle's fenders were pulled and I wasn't allowed to ride with them for 6 months because I left my saddle in the floor instead of on the rack it was next too.
My dad had me all day on Saturdays outside working cows (on foot because a horse was for children who obeyed.), painting, repairing fence, mowing the yard, doing general maintenence outside. When the sun went down my mother got me and I worked inside the house. Helping fold laundry, helping clean the house and helping to make dinner. If I didn't complain I got to talk on the home phone for 20min to any friend I called. Sundays I woke up early and helped my mom make breakfast, helped clean and helped her iron our clothes for Sunday Meeting. We went to church, came home and made lunch, cleaned up from lunch and rested. I wasn't allowed outside on Sundays. I went to church for the nightly meeting and came home and got ready for dinner and bed.
My parents didn't give me a timeline for when my punishment was up. But after I started enjoying working beside my parents and after I found joy in helping them they slowly added privileges back. they never gave me another cell phone or truck or trailer. Those were things I earned back on my own.
Here's the kicker: My parents never worked me like a slave. They were right beside me as I helped them. They were strict and always were quick to make a punishment harsh so they wouldn't have to repeate it. However, they never once stayed laid up in a chair in front of the TV while I worked. They never sat around and pointed fingers. They worked right beside me. I respect them so much more for what they did FOR me. They taught me more in that one punishment than most children learn their whole lives.
Be active in your child's life. Lead and discipline them by example. Pointing fingers, tracking them, that does no good. Be active.
And I thought that I was hard on MY boys.....but kudos to your parents ......  |
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| IRunOnFaith - 2017-06-23 10:46 AM
Problem is Parents nowadays are okay with letting their kids break the law simply because it's more convienent for the parent if the child drives....
You know what my parents did when I broke the rules? Truck was sold. Trailer was sold. I walked to the end of my driveway (about 2 miles) and waited for my friends mom to pick me up for school. Or I got up a 5am and went with my dad to school. He dropped me off at the front of the school and I sat with the principal until school started or they opened the cafeteria.
My sweet Nokia color screen cell phone was taken away and thrown in the garbage. I was banned from riding my horse until my Mother released me from the kitchen after dinner was made and the kitchen was clean. By this time it was too dark to ride. My saddle's fenders were pulled and I wasn't allowed to ride with them for 6 months because I left my saddle in the floor instead of on the rack it was next too.
My dad had me all day on Saturdays outside working cows (on foot because a horse was for children who obeyed.), painting, repairing fence, mowing the yard, doing general maintenence outside. When the sun went down my mother got me and I worked inside the house. Helping fold laundry, helping clean the house and helping to make dinner. If I didn't complain I got to talk on the home phone for 20min to any friend I called. Sundays I woke up early and helped my mom make breakfast, helped clean and helped her iron our clothes for Sunday Meeting. We went to church, came home and made lunch, cleaned up from lunch and rested. I wasn't allowed outside on Sundays. I went to church for the nightly meeting and came home and got ready for dinner and bed.
My parents didn't give me a timeline for when my punishment was up. But after I started enjoying working beside my parents and after I found joy in helping them they slowly added privileges back. they never gave me another cell phone or truck or trailer. Those were things I earned back on my own.
Here's the kicker: My parents never worked me like a slave. They were right beside me as I helped them. They were strict and always were quick to make a punishment harsh so they wouldn't have to repeate it. However, they never once stayed laid up in a chair in front of the TV while I worked. They never sat around and pointed fingers. They worked right beside me. I respect them so much more for what they did FOR me. They taught me more in that one punishment than most children learn their whole lives.
Be active in your child's life. Lead and discipline them by example. Pointing fingers, tracking them, that does no good. Be active.
Your parents sound AWESOME! |
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Location: Pacific Northwest | A car full of teenagers from my hometown were killed over Memorial Day weekend in a car accident. The driver broke the 6 month rule. Accidents happen regardless but there's a reason the law is in place. Driving is scary enough as it is, it's different when you've only been driving 6 months.
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Location: The best kept secret in TX | NJJ - 2017-06-23 10:58 AM IRunOnFaith - 2017-06-23 10:46 AM Problem is Parents nowadays are okay with letting their kids break the law simply because it's more convienent for the parent if the child drives....
You know what my parents did when I broke the rules? Truck was sold. Trailer was sold. I walked to the end of my driveway (about 2 miles) and waited for my friends mom to pick me up for school. Or I got up a 5am and went with my dad to school. He dropped me off at the front of the school and I sat with the principal until school started or they opened the cafeteria.
My sweet Nokia color screen cell phone was taken away and thrown in the garbage. I was banned from riding my horse until my Mother released me from the kitchen after dinner was made and the kitchen was clean. By this time it was too dark to ride. My saddle's fenders were pulled and I wasn't allowed to ride with them for 6 months because I left my saddle in the floor instead of on the rack it was next too.
My dad had me all day on Saturdays outside working cows (on foot because a horse was for children who obeyed.), painting, repairing fence, mowing the yard, doing general maintenence outside. When the sun went down my mother got me and I worked inside the house. Helping fold laundry, helping clean the house and helping to make dinner. If I didn't complain I got to talk on the home phone for 20min to any friend I called. Sundays I woke up early and helped my mom make breakfast, helped clean and helped her iron our clothes for Sunday Meeting. We went to church, came home and made lunch, cleaned up from lunch and rested. I wasn't allowed outside on Sundays. I went to church for the nightly meeting and came home and got ready for dinner and bed.
My parents didn't give me a timeline for when my punishment was up. But after I started enjoying working beside my parents and after I found joy in helping them they slowly added privileges back. they never gave me another cell phone or truck or trailer. Those were things I earned back on my own.
Here's the kicker: My parents never worked me like a slave. They were right beside me as I helped them. They were strict and always were quick to make a punishment harsh so they wouldn't have to repeate it. However, they never once stayed laid up in a chair in front of the TV while I worked. They never sat around and pointed fingers. They worked right beside me. I respect them so much more for what they did FOR me. They taught me more in that one punishment than most children learn their whole lives.
Be active in your child's life. Lead and discipline them by example. Pointing fingers, tracking them, that does no good. Be active. And I thought that I was hard on MY boys.....but kudos to your parents ......
LOL My parents were extremel;y strict.
I remember when I finally got my fenders back My dad said I still had a little while left to earn my stirrups back. Learned how to use my core when riding tho so that was a plus.  |
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Location: The best kept secret in TX | Griz - 2017-06-23 11:11 AM IRunOnFaith - 2017-06-23 10:46 AM Problem is Parents nowadays are okay with letting their kids break the law simply because it's more convienent for the parent if the child drives....
You know what my parents did when I broke the rules? Truck was sold. Trailer was sold. I walked to the end of my driveway (about 2 miles) and waited for my friends mom to pick me up for school. Or I got up a 5am and went with my dad to school. He dropped me off at the front of the school and I sat with the principal until school started or they opened the cafeteria.
My sweet Nokia color screen cell phone was taken away and thrown in the garbage. I was banned from riding my horse until my Mother released me from the kitchen after dinner was made and the kitchen was clean. By this time it was too dark to ride. My saddle's fenders were pulled and I wasn't allowed to ride with them for 6 months because I left my saddle in the floor instead of on the rack it was next too.
My dad had me all day on Saturdays outside working cows (on foot because a horse was for children who obeyed.), painting, repairing fence, mowing the yard, doing general maintenence outside. When the sun went down my mother got me and I worked inside the house. Helping fold laundry, helping clean the house and helping to make dinner. If I didn't complain I got to talk on the home phone for 20min to any friend I called. Sundays I woke up early and helped my mom make breakfast, helped clean and helped her iron our clothes for Sunday Meeting. We went to church, came home and made lunch, cleaned up from lunch and rested. I wasn't allowed outside on Sundays. I went to church for the nightly meeting and came home and got ready for dinner and bed.
My parents didn't give me a timeline for when my punishment was up. But after I started enjoying working beside my parents and after I found joy in helping them they slowly added privileges back. they never gave me another cell phone or truck or trailer. Those were things I earned back on my own.
Here's the kicker: My parents never worked me like a slave. They were right beside me as I helped them. They were strict and always were quick to make a punishment harsh so they wouldn't have to repeate it. However, they never once stayed laid up in a chair in front of the TV while I worked. They never sat around and pointed fingers. They worked right beside me. I respect them so much more for what they did FOR me. They taught me more in that one punishment than most children learn their whole lives.
Be active in your child's life. Lead and discipline them by example. Pointing fingers, tracking them, that does no good. Be active. Your parents sound AWESOME!
I didn't think they were that awesome when I was 16 but I learned to like them I guess lol. Wouldn't trade them for the world.  |
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| My neighbors son shows them no respect. In my opinion, in life in general and with the driving law. He just got a DUI. NOW they took away his cell and tried to lay down some laws. A little too late in my book! |
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Location: Texas | Back during the school year, their girl's soccer team made the play offs and was playing in the afternoon in a near by town. He called to see if I would come to check him out of school so that he could go. He had a ride with a friend and it was ok with his mother. Most of the school was checking out when I got to the school (girls soccer is really big in his school). I told him to call me if driver was unsafe or there were too many kids in the car. Later when I asked how the game went, he didn't go...when the friend came to pick him up there were too many kids in car. Proud of him for using his head while knowing how badly he wanted to go. |
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Location: Texas | In Texas it is not a 6 month rule, there is a "G" restriction on the provisonal license till there 18th birthday when it is renewed to a Regular license the G is removed
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Location: Phoenix | We had that when I started driving and I respected it. Mostly because I am terrified of ever going to jail and having a bad note on my record lol! Shoot--let her do what she wants. Just tell her to not come crying to you when she loses her frickin' license!! |
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