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| Just wondering if this sentence makes anyone else's blood boil like mine!? This phrase seems to get thrown around in every aspect of life, and is taken (at least how I take it) to be very demeaning. I have a very small and athletic type of build. But my build is not "easy, natural, or lucky". I eat a very strict diet, I workout 3-4 times a week, run about 25 miles a week, run half marathons...etc. I work very hard to watch what I eat and take care of my body. I guess I am just venting, because when someone says, "You don't even need to eat healthy" or, "you are so lucky"...it takes everything inside of me to just smile and say thank you instead of telling them how hard I actually work for it. This goes for other things as well, not just eating and exercise! For instance, someone finding out that you have horses..."you're so lucky". Ugh! Not lucky, we work very hard to have these things. I'm sure there are others who have heard these things also! I guess I just wanted to vent and see if I was overreacting, or if others feel this way at times also!? Thanks for listening =] <3 |
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      Location: Slipping down the slope of old age. Boo hoo. | Yes, feel the same sometimes. I am retired -- retired a little earlier than most and we are able to do whatever we want to do. People say "You are so lucky to be able to retire!" NO, I am not lucky -- husband and I worked VERY hard in jobs we sometimes did not like and worked hard to educate ourselves about money/finances/investments and sought out terrific financially literate people to guide us. We drove cars/trucks for YEARS in order to not have a payment.... we lived in a very old house FOR YEARS... we prioritized paying off everything and not carrying debt... we did not take big expensive vacations every year... we limited ourselves to a set budget for hobbies. We are not lucky. We prepared ourselves and when met with opportunity we took advantage. Our life is one we planned for and worked to make happen. |
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| I get what you are saying but...I think that luck is a bigger part of life than we understand. My life is pretty darn good and I know that there are things that have happened, opportunities that came up, and extra chances that I didn't deserve. I am very "lucky" and I'm thankful for that "luck". On the otherside, I had a brother who died at age 36 because of rare form of cancer. He left 4 kids ages 2-14 and a wife, to fend for themselves. Now that is just back luck and I don't want any of that. |
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     Location: Texas | IDK I mean there are some people who work out a **** ton more than I do, eat way better than I do, and will never have the body they want. So on one hand, maybe they have good intentions but don't realize what they say. Some people get the results they want with whatever it is in life, others never seem to.. meh. I'd just brush it off and move on. |
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          Location: 31 lengths farms | Its why I love the quote "Luck is when Hard Work meets Opportunity". |
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       Location: Peg-Leg Julia Grimm | You could say luck has nothing to do with it. But sometimes I think some people ARE lucky. When I hit a barrel it tips over. When someone else hits a barrel it might set back up. Luck is a real thing.  Also the saying I'll rather be lucky than good. |
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              Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | A lot of hard work at getting that LUCK  |
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| luck is an opportunity not wasted to me boy have i wasted abunch |
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"Heck's Coming With Me"
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        Location: Kansas | Way back when we left a tiny rental house to buy five acres with a mobile home with plans to someday build a house. The neighbors put a gun club next to our home and the noise was intolerable. We could do nothing to stop it so we moved. Built a new house and now I'm sitting in a basement that was once beautiful destroyed by water. I do not feel lucky. |
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     Location: Not Where I Want to Be | congrats on your humble brag?
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       Location: Missouri | Here's my two cents, for what it's worth. People have no idea from the outside looking into a very small snippet of another person's life what that person did or did not do to to get in shape, purchase that new vehicle, have that nice horse and ride it well, take that vacation, have that barn/farm/land whatever material thing that makes their life look fabulous from the outside. I don't think in most cases people mean anything negative by such comments. We have a lot people at church who see us with our little parcel of land and barn and house that's been rehabbed top to bottom and they have no clue if we worked our tails off for it (this) or if it was all handed to us, they just think it's neat that our kids get to grow up there and we don't have neighbors breathing down our throats. So I take most of these comments as people just conversing. YES, sometimes people are being snots about it and in those cases...I roll my eyes and move on. Not gonna get my panties in a wad over people like that.  |
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| "you're lucky" "must be nice", either of those phrases can sometimes feel discrediting. |
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    Location: East Texas | Just say thank you and be on your merry way. |
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 My Heart Be Happy
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      Location: Arkansas | scwebster - 2019-06-14 10:17 AM "you're lucky" "must be nice", either of those phrases can sometimes feel discrediting. And condescending But like others have said, just smile and say thanks. You know how you got where you are. . .
Edited by Chandler's Mom 2019-06-14 9:04 PM
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| 1DSoon - 2019-06-13 9:28 PM
congrats on your humble brag?
Can we have a vote to get an eye roll emoji installed on the "like" button?  |
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          Location: 31 lengths farms | WiscoRacer - 2019-06-15 8:24 PM
1DSoon - 2019-06-13 9:28 PM
congrats on your humble brag?
Can we have a vote to get an eye roll emoji installed on the "like" button? 
I was thinking more of the middle finger emoji... |
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        Location: Gainesville, TX | Having had a recent mix of bad luck with some good luck sprinkled in, I would love it if I were lucky like that lol. |
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       Location: Opelousas, LA | Delta Cowgirl - 2019-06-13 3:52 PM
Yes, feel the same sometimes. I am retired -- retired a little earlier than most and we are able to do whatever we want to do. People say "You are so lucky to be able to retire!" NO, I am not lucky -- husband and I worked VERY hard in jobs we sometimes did not like and worked hard to educate ourselves about money/finances/investments and sought out terrific financially literate people to guide us. We drove cars/trucks for YEARS in order to not have a payment.... we lived in a very old house FOR YEARS... we prioritized paying off everything and not carrying debt... we did not take big expensive vacations every year... we limited ourselves to a set budget for hobbies. We are not lucky. We prepared ourselves and when met with opportunity we took advantage. Our life is one we planned for and worked to make happen.
While I understand you did work very hard and made lots of sacrifices to be where you are now, please understand you are still very lucky! My Mom and Dad did the very same thing, looking forward to a nice, comfortable retirement on the beach. Then when they were oh-so-close to their dream they worked so hard for, my Mom was diagnosed with cancer. Glioblastoma is not something that can be cured, and although she fought the good fight, 22 horrible, gut wrenching months later she was gone and my Dad will never be the same. Same thing happened to my aunt and uncle except it was pancreatic cancer, about a year after my mom passed. By the time it was diagnosed, it was in her liver, spine and lungs. She was a hospice nurse for decades, she knew all too well how that would end and went home from that first meeting with her oncologist with orders to set up hospice care. She was gone five months later. My mother never saw 60 and my aunt never saw 65, they both grew up very poor and worked very hard from thier early teens up until the very end. Working hard and being lucky have nothing to do with each other. I have seen very lazy people that are also very lucky and seen people with the best work ethic in the world be so unlucky it's almost unbelievable. Of course the best is to work hard and be lucky, if you fall in that category, don't be offended when people tell you how lucky you are, you never know what they may have been thru. |
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