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Location: OH. IO | Read your own siggy, THERE IT IS!!!!! |
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Location: Do I hear Banjos? | Does he have any other children from a previous relationship? How old is he?
It sure sounds like he is very emotionally immature regardless of his chronological age. As others have said...he has shown you who he really is as a person. Could he grow up and change? Maybe...if he wants to change. But you have more important things to worry about now. Move on with your life and do all you can to build a stable loving home for your kiddo. Don't even consider moving for him. Put down roots and build your life with her and your horses. As she grows hopefully the two of you can enjoy horses together.
Bottom line...don't make changes for him. And get him top "pony up" on the child support.
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Location: High heels in the air... | You look like a beautiful girl in your avatar!!! Goodness, you can have any man you want!!! Take back your power and stand up for your needs and those of your child...get a support system from family and other single mommas and go ride your butt off!!! He needs to grow up and be a man...if not, move on and follow your dreams and your heart!!! |
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I Really Love Jeans
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Location: North Dakota | Any man who will leave his child like that and simply not care is not worth taking back. Take him to court for child support but do not take him back. Even if it works it will not be long before he will be cheating. Now that your child is young is the best time for you to build YOUR life again. Imagine if he had been around for a few years and then leaves your daughter wondering where her daddy is! My dad being around but dropping back in and out again depending on which girlfriend he was living with did more damage to me then if he had simply never been around at all. |
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Location: PA | Many many hugs and prayers for you and your little girl. I don't have any new advise that asn't already been given. Just know and believe you and your daughter deserve so much better.
But...are you still in PA? I am also in PA...so if you ever need someone to talk to, vent to...or heck, not sure where in PA you are, but meet up for coffee, a riding partner, or anything, just know I'm here. |
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  Shipwrecked and Flat Out Zapped
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | I would walk away and not look back. Do what you have to do for your daughter and yourself and that's it. Good luck and stay strong. |
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Hungarian Midget Woman
Location: Midwest | If he keeps coming and going like this, your daughter will have serious issues in her future relationships.
Kids see a lot more than we realize growing up. She will think this type of a situation is "normal", at least subconsciously. Set a good example for her.
Honestly, since he isn't around, it should not be much of a relationship to walk away from at this point. Good luck, I know it must be heartbreaking!
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Location: Deep South | barrelracr131 - 2014-01-27 9:14 AM
If he keeps coming and going like this, your daughter will have serious issues in her future relationships.
Kids see a lot more than we realize growing up. She will think this type of a situation is "normal", at least subconsciously. Set a good example for her.
Honestly, since he isn't around, it should not be much of a relationship to walk away from at this point. Good luck, I know it must be heartbreaking!
THIS.
Never have a relationship with a man, that you would not be proud of your daughter also having when she is old enough. It is mind blowing to me how much alike my friends relationships are to their parents relationships, mine included. Even the ones who said they would never end up like their parents.
*Disclaimer* I'm not saying EVERYone has a relationship exactly like their parents, just saying it is very common, but I do realize there are exceptions. |
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Location: Kentucky | There's no way I would take back a man after he leaves, especially multiple times. I don't understand why women don't take more pride in themselves and demand more from their relationships. You have a lot of good advice here... take it, and DON'T take him back. |
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Shipwrecked and Flat Out Zapped
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Location: DUMPING CATS AND PIGS IN TEXAS :) | Murphy - 2014-01-27 9:46 AM There's no way I would take back a man after he leaves, especially multiple times. I don't understand why women don't take more pride in themselves and demand more from their relationships. You have a lot of good advice here... take it, and DON'T take him back.
Amen, sista! |
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Location: Under The Big Sky Of Texas | Dont let this peice of junk come back, hes a yo-yo and will be doing this to you always, Get child support from this person and get on with your life, you have a baby that depends on you to take care of her. He has already shown his true colors to you a few times. Hugs |
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Location: Texas | I can't add much more than what the others have said. His actions have shown you he is not committed to you or his daughter. As an adult, you can handle that and deal with it as needed. Your daughter will not be able to understand the wishy-washy behavior.
You don't get to pick and choose when you want to be a parent. He is only around when it benefits him. And if he is still texting and doing whatever with his ex, I can promise that it is not innocent behavior.
Quit being his doormat. Shut the door in his face and start respecting yourself. Take the control back. Go after him for child support but don't expect him to want to be a father.
Like others have said, DNA doesn't make a man a good father figure. Mine was a better sperm donor than father. But I had the greatest stepdad to fill in that role.
Go after what you deserve. Pick up the good parts of the relationship (your daughter) and put the trash (him) out on the curb. |
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