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HorseMommyFiveO
Reg. Jan 2012
Posted 2014-01-27 9:58 PM
Subject: RE: husband wants a divorce


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First you have to make sure YOU are ok. He obviously hasn't been taking care of you for a very long time, so I suspect you are already started on independence. I've been in a bad marriage that ended in divorce, and here is my advice, in specific order, no matter whether you want to stay or go:

Get an attorney. A good one. After 29 years I am sure you have assets you would like to keep.

Get your finances in order. Know what you owe, what's yours/his, inventory your accounts (retirements included) and belongings.

Go to counseling both for YOUR own good and with him. If things work out, great! If they don't, you won't be a victim. And maybe your strength will shed some light on his own selfishness and make him realize what is best.

Do something to make yourself feel beautiful. You need confidence and poise to get through this.

Hugs to you, I know how hard it is. But we are all as strong as we decide to be.
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teebluesage
Reg. Dec 2011
Posted 2014-01-28 3:03 PM
Subject: RE: husband wants a divorce


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I'd let him go, then try to do things you enjoy, have some fun! He needs to be the one to move out though, since that's how he feels. But make sure everything is worked out financially and asset wise, after all those years you deserve that. Hopefully, you both can settle on things without fighting, that makes it so much worse (and just makes the lawyers richer). Good Luck.
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farmer's tan
Reg. Dec 2012
Posted 2014-01-28 3:16 PM
Subject: RE: husband wants a divorce




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When he says "I can't believe you want to live like this" then tell him no you don't want to live like this however 29 years is something that shouldn't be thrown away. He is seeing a counselor so he knows he has problems and he's working on them. IF, through the counseling, he has realized he just doesn't want to be married anymore or has fallen out of love I wish I could say things would change. I have a psychologist friend who says when guys say "I'm done" there's usually a little wiggle room. I agree counseling for you would be an excellent idea, whether the marriage gets repaired or not.
If it does proceed to a divorce, be sure you get a good attorney-there are some that will work for both the husband and wife if it is uncontested and they agree on everything although there's a lot to be said for having your own--it can just get so expensive (as many have pointed out)
Good luck.
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